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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Le BESH est trying to win un petit baybee.

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HaveUrselfAFaithyChristmasBaby · 24/12/2011 09:36

Bring your best Franglais and gin. Newbies always welcome, complete la BESHtionnaire et nous will judge assess vous accordingly.

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PhoenixFromTheFlames · 30/12/2011 23:58

I'm going to leave for a while...I've just had a chat with MSB. I feel like my head is really messed up at the moment and being on social networking isn't helping. I'm swinging between saying stupid things too rashly and being paranoid about everything I say. It's bad enough in RL but on MN and Facebook it's only exacerbating my problems.
I'm sorry for my stupid post. I hope it's deleted soon. I wish you all the best with you ttc journies.

NortheyPole · 31/12/2011 00:06

Evening everyone. My last cycle was 34 days. If I completely ignore the fact that the preceding ones were 20somethibg days and 40somethibg days, so clearly utterly unpredictable, and take 34 as my usual cycle length, then I am now one day late. I have no other symptoms, mind. But I may give myself the Christmas present of a tiny self indulgent menkul anyway.

NortheyPole · 31/12/2011 00:13

phoenix! I'm sorry for the cross post and also really sorry you feel like that. Obviously if there is something wider going on with you and social networking then you have to do what you think is best for you, but for my part I didn't think there was anything bad in your post at all. It's the kid of thing I might have posted myself. And if I realised I had accidentally hurt someone by it I would have done exactly what you did and apologised and asked for it to be deleted. So please don't be upset and think you have done something awful. You're going through so much with the house and everything that it's completely understandable that your reactions to things are a bit emotional at the moment. Why not sleep on it and see how you feel tomorrow?

eurochick · 31/12/2011 09:12

Phoenix please don't go because you are afraid you might offend someone. If you want a break for yourself, then have one but otherwise please don't.

Your post doesn't bother me at all. FWIW, I think it is BS anyway. I'm pretty sure not all assisted or hard won pregnancies are classed as high risk and a straw poll of my friends and family supports the idea that it is nonsense. One of my friends who gets pg first time of trying and has easy pregnancies doesn't progress in labour and has ended up with 2 sections. My mum took a year to get pg with me and then had a completely normal pregnancy and labour with just gas and air for delivery. She went on to have miscarriages later but her first pregnancy was completely normal. I can think of other examples where people who had no problems getting pg had problems through pregnancy and labour and people who struggled sailing through. Try not to let things like that worry you.

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 31/12/2011 09:15

I'm having a break because I'm a mess...I'm too paranoid/sensitive to be posting much at the moment. I'll probably still lurk but just take some time out.
Thanks ladies.

eurochick · 31/12/2011 09:22

I've just read through the linked page. This has confirmed my view that it is nonsense. The next bullet point states: "Similarly, whilst no baby may be regarded as disposable, if a 'precious' baby were to die it would be much harder to have another. Hence, any difficulty in conception must be regarded as a contra-indication to home delivery."

The logic seems to be that if it would be easy to replace a baby by just popping out another, you could try for home birth but not if it wouldn't be so easy to drop another one. WTF?!? I cannot imagine anyone who has ever lost a baby taking the attitude that it was ok because they could just have another. And it ignores the fact that home birth is not riskier for low risk pregnancies. It's illogical, it's nonsense. Put it out of your mind.

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 31/12/2011 09:39

In the cold light of day, I see it too euro. Bit worrying that my GP uses that website! I'll be lurking...

KatAndKit · 31/12/2011 09:44

Hey you don't need to leave because of one post. I did get a bit cross but it's no big deal. I've read plenty of bollocks websites before and one more won't hurt! In any case, it's more about me being panicked about getting this baybee out than having taken any offence.

But if you think having a break from the internet will do you good then I hope that is the case and I also hope we will see you back again when you feel ready.

NortheyPole · 31/12/2011 09:58

Poor phoenix, it sounds like you are in a miserable place :( If just lurking will make you feel calmer, then ok, but equally don't feel that you have to stick to just lurking if you suddenly feel (today, tomorrow, next week, next month) that talking here might be nice again. We will just be pleased to see you whenever.

MadameBoodolf · 31/12/2011 10:28

Kat It is utter bollocks, don't worry.

Oh Phoenix :(. We do know how it feels. I have had to to snap the laptop shut and strop off many a time on this journey , but I always go and talk to an RL friend to feel better. Take a break, this fred is always here when you feel ready to come back.

I've taken a step back from this place lately - I haven't had time to respond to stuff and I haven't wanted to ignore anything important, as I know people have been going through some heavy stuff.

We are giving the TTC thing a massive massive extra effort from now on in as we are giving up in August when I turn 40. Praying for a 2012 win for all of us. If I don't get a chance to come back on today- Happy New Year to all ESH.

FrostytheSunshine · 31/12/2011 14:37

Phi like Boo says we've all had to take breaks from here at points. Your post didn't upset me at all, I just thought it was incorrect & I was concerned as to how it may affect others. Perhaps I didn't make that clear. This place (as I've said before ) should be about help, support and most importantly adding some good humour to what can sometimes be a very unhumours time in our lives. It's about being supported but also being supportive. If it's not that place for you right now then I wish you all the best until you feel it is again.

We have some friends coming over for a curry, drinks and some laughs on the Wii tonight. Will be great, last night of drinking & eating too much before my Dubai detox begins!

PhoenixFromTheFlames · 31/12/2011 15:10

As I say, I'm just not in a good place right now. I'll take a step back til I feel better and am back on the ttc waggon proper.

FrostytheSunshine · 31/12/2011 15:22

You've got a lot going on right now. I find that doing things that make me live in the moment really help, like baking, cooking & exercise. Things that make you focus on now. Everyone's different though. Good luck with it all.

Casserole · 31/12/2011 16:47

Slightly early Happy New Year to you, Beshelles. May all your dreams come true in 2012. Here, have some gin fizzes to keep you going.

NortheyPole · 31/12/2011 16:55

Aaaaafternoon, casseroll-in-the-hay.

Am lying around watching The Queen, eating midget gems and occasionally groping my breasts (status update: very slightly tingly).

FriendofDorothy · 31/12/2011 16:56

G'day BESHes. I am slightly bemused by the fact that my ovulation monitor gave me a peak reading for yesterday and today - that is only day 9 & 10! Can anyone hazard a guess as to why one might ovulate so early?

In other news, we have spent all day with our friends who have three kids. They are full on and funny!

FrostytheSunshine · 31/12/2011 17:06

Grin at Northey casually groping own breasts. I am watching The Queen too although I should be getting ready for later. Do you usually get tingly boobs or should I be making a note on my spreadsheet?

Dot no idea re. early ov'ing. Does it 'just happen' sometimes?

NortheyPole · 31/12/2011 17:09

Extra relaxed over Christmas, maybe, dorothy? That's based on the fact that stress can make you ovulate late, so maybe relaxation can make you... Oh God, I bet medical science is glad I never burdened it with my intelligence.

FriendofDorothy · 31/12/2011 17:14

No idea. I usually ov around day 14/15 so it is really early. Bet the piss sticks are faulty!

NortheyPole · 31/12/2011 17:14

I'm not sure what's normal for me, frosty. Things have never really settled down since the metformin, the ovarian drilling and the ectopic pregnancy - each cycle has been different. I just know that the first sign I had for that pregnancy was tingly nipples, so am all on the alert for them now. Though if I twiddle them once more they actually fall off.

FrostytheSunshine · 31/12/2011 17:33
NortheyPole · 31/12/2011 17:40

Are you holidaying in Dubai, frosters, or have I somehow missed the fact that you live there or something?

eurochick · 31/12/2011 20:02

Bon Nouvel An a toutes! We are expecting our guests to arrive imminently so I thought I would get that in now!

rockingaroundtheXmasleaf · 31/12/2011 20:38

Just popping in to wish you all a very happy new year. May 2012 bring you all your hearts desires. I'll just leave this tray of damson gin and champagne cocktails here, seeing as you seem to have finished all the ones Stewpot left. And don't forget this slap to the chops with a side of smoked salmon

NortheyPole · 01/01/2012 09:11

Happy New Year, darlings.

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