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Here we go yet again...

Popcorn, Little - I thought the CBFM was more like fancy OPKs? Whereby it tells you which days to wee on a highly priced stick and then detects the LH and something else surge, giving you low, high or peak readings?

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BEAN xxxx

Oh dear - yes the LIST is never off my mind, particularly at CD26 when I am utterly convinced that I am of course totally preg. And Beedle - you are so right, DP has no ideas that the list exists. With middle names included.

We had a list prior to getting pg this time. Although a lot of it was left overs from the list for DS. But we had discussed what our favourite names were for quite a long time, and how our preferences have changed over the time ttc.

Morning all, very interesting about what your acupuncture lady said bean has made me rethink my attitude. P.S. I love prosecco it is my favourite drink!!

popcorn and imps I share your pain and so glad that your DH has turned a corner imps great tactics. Sadly last night went badly, thought I had managed to keep it cool and then he rejected my advances. I was just so cross and resentful about it. He says he is knackered during the week and just not up for it and hates the pressure of it all. I tried to be sympathetic and we dropped it but I am afraid I have woken up feeling so resentful and cross about it all. I barely looked at him this morning I just want him to man up a bit. He keeps sending me emails and I am ignoring him. Mature I know.

Got my smiley face and peak on the CBFM this morning so timing would have perfect. We are out now tonight and Thurs so another month gone and it makes me want to scream at him which is NOT productive.
musical its good that you got there in the end!!

Anyway, I sound like a stuck record so I shut about it and just hope that next month is better as we will be on holiday.

Welcome back cupcake, good to see you, how was your fanjo cam?
My appointment is tomorrow, very curious to hear what the consultant says and lay a plan of action.

little I have found the smiley faces just as if not more accurate than the CBFM its just that the monitor gives you a few days warning that you are going to get the OPK!

beedle and have very exciting news from you both, keeping all crossed!!

In fact, I reckon DH comes up with more suggestions for it than I do! This is probably because I'm not an ideas person so, left to me, DS probably wouldn't have a name yet and he's 3!

Oh for those that are interested, the CBFM detects the rise in oestrogen which in turns triggers the LH which then triggers ovulation. So you get a smiley face on teh sticks when LH is detected. The 'highs' on your CBFM detect rising oestrogen so I normally get between 1 and 5 days warning and it ties in with the EWCM normally as well!

:o @ bean, beedle & ninja

Totally not sharing (surely that would cause something of a reverse ironic bfp and I'd find myself barren for life?? :o ) but said list ranges from the mundane to the howwouldyouspellthat? :o

DH is going to be a tough cookie if-and-when it comes to discussing baby names. He thrives on run-of-the-mill, whereas I find the thought of picking something that a dozen other classmates will be named teethclenchingly awful (but that's likely because my name is oh-so common and at my one particular job I was the third popcorn in a company of 12).

Aww Farfalla :( you poor thing :(

I do really feel for you - we had the same thing often often often with DH too tired from working long hours etc but it being the time I needed him to man up and take one for the team.

Maybe you could spend some time in your 2ww having SFF to rekindle things. That would perhaps take the pressure off both of you? I know that IO never wanted to bother after ov as i'd had enough by then but we had been ttc a LONG time, so maybe a few 'look, I'm not even ov'ing and I still fancy you rotten DH' bonks would be good?

bean I forgot to say Happy Birthday

Ah biscuits that is not the problem sadly as we do have sex in the 2ww and its great. The problem is only at the weekends, we never have sex in the week, or lat least very rarely unless I tell him its fertile time.
He seems unable to man up and the more I pressurise him I imagine the worse it will be but at this rate I won;t conceive until 2015!!

far it's clearly really stressing you out - understandably so - I'm really sorry :(

Is there any scope for DH arranging a few days off work for next month's shagathon if it's midweek? Or would that add to the pressure for him, do you think? You could make time to do fun stuff, too, of course (not that SWI isn't fun) - go out for the day or something?

far do you reckon CBFM are worth the cost over a thermometer and opks?

I think it would add to the pressure sadly. He is defintiely of the 'lets just see what happens' view and I am not and I fine myself beginning to panic about it all.

I don't want TTC to put too much pressure on our marriage but got its tough, I feel eaten up by anger at him today, good job I am out tonight so I have a chance to calm down!

I think I need to talk to him about it when we are not in the heat of the moment so to speak! Thank you for the squishy hugs :)

Ah I see (note to self - don't judge everyone by my own lame now non-existant sex life!)

Did you say you're on hols for the next crucial time? That should be good?

Hmm, thinking of ways....

What time does your DH get home? I know others have said that they've tried doing their SWI when DH gets home rather than at bedtime (i know my DH is terrible by bedtime and normally fast asleep on the couch)?

popcorn I like the CBFM because I get the warning (NOT THAT IT MEANS ANYTHING IF DH REFUSES TO DO ME!)

I don't temp though as my understanding in that it does not tell you when you are about to OV but just that you have, is that right?

Once you have made the investment the sticks are cheaper than the smiley face ones (only if you buy them on amazon thoguh!!)

Thanks biscuits I do think the subtle seduction is more of a plan.

I think I might have to just drop it for now though and let him come to me IFSWIM!!

Yes, holiday should fall on critical dates, I am pinning my hopes on that!!!!

far yes, you only know once you have ov'd, but I think (so far) I'm a pretty regular CD18, so all it does is confirm I have ov'd and then fuel my neuroticism for the remainder of the cycle :o

Ooo holiday sex, nom nom :D

Ooo totally, far, I wonder if crossing your legs prior to ov time would have him begging at your feet?

farfalla - really feeling this one is a toughie - resentment not at all surprising. Some guys aren't made for a lot of rolling and some girls are made the other way and it's hard if there's a difference. Does it help if you catch him in the morning when he's all sleepy and snuggly and hasn't got time to think about the pressure? In the bad old days, when I wasn't thinking about TTC we probably did manage more romance but actually I feel like we've got closer since because we are trying to support each other. Do you think this is more about him being knackered or more about being a bit scared at the prospect of a pg? Either way - it's really a shame for you. Hope your day gets better. x

Oh that is good, the CBFM is great if that day varies. Mine is usually 13 or 15 with a weird 17 in there this month so quite helpful for me to know.
It does fuel the obsession/mentalness though.

far ((hugs)) - we find that first thing in the morning works quite well but I suppose if he's feeling the pressure its probably going to be the same whenever you try to pin him down seduce him

BTW dear Brookers - acupuncture lady sensed stress in DP's pulse (which surprised me as he is a very laid back kinda feller). Apparently this is a big killer for the spermies' travel plans (reduced motility). I know the man works very hard, and also has my baby-gurning to contend with plus our toddler, our terrier and a broken rescued rabbit (long story). Anyway - all the more reason to nurture our boys and try not to overdo the yearning side of things. Which of course is me trying to tell myself to rein it in and keep a good perspective on life whatever CD it happens to be... x

Oh and thanks for the flowers Beedle and biscuits - you shouldn't have. Actually has been very nice being so spoiled.

Far do you think you could get DH to agree to every 2-3 days throughout the cycle so that midweek bonking wasn't just an ov thing? Does he work long hours?

Happy birthday Bean sounds like your having a lovely day.

Farfalla I feel your pain, it's so frustrating when you feel like another month has been wasted. The only advice I can give you is to take some deep breaths before speaking to DH. My DH & I have a lot of trouble with timing. Either it's my shifts interfering or DH feels too much pressure & doesn't want to do it. This month I'm on 5 night shifts just before ovulation should be. Normally I only see DH for about 30 mins to an hour in the evening before I go to work. God knows how I'm supposed to manage that without him feeling pressured!

I have had my baby names sorted for a while since I got engaged 6 years ago and frequently bore DH with them. I may need to update them soon as one has become v popular in the past few tears