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[NinjaChipmunk]

So here is our new home, hope you all like it!

Maybe noooooooooooooooo! I can't believe you might be leaving us! Obviously it's your decision and if that's what's right for you at this time then we support you (sob sob) however it sounds like there's a hint of doubt?

Seriously you can't let one small-minded evil man determine the course of your family and career! If he is being sexist that is ILLEGAL! You, and the pg woman he's been insulting, and any of your other colleagues who've seen his behaviour, can stand up and make a complaint. If it's a tough jobs market in your field at the moment I bet your boss would change his tune pretty swiftly if he knew that there was a potential complaint being made about him! He doesn't want to lose his position either! You should not have to make your choice to start a family based on whether this bitter little man thinks it's "convenient" for him! It's the 21st century!

Of course it's not always as simple as that, and I'm sure you know all your options and you're making the best choice for you - both now and in the long run. I do hope you end up staying though, or at least come back very soon. You will be missed!!

Oh Maybe I'm so sorry that awful man has been able to have such an impact on what you want most. How terrible to make you cry. Some people just never grew out of being bullies at school I'm sure. You just have to think that your future baby will be so proud of you when he/she learns how hard you battled to have the exciting career you wanted. I hope you'll pop in and say hello from time to time.

We're all tied down to circumstances sometimes aren't we? My employer won't let me go part time and keep my current permanent status and NO jobs are coming up in decent schools at all so I'm stuck. It nearly put me off TTC n#2 as I couldn't imagine being full-time with two under five, but like Far says there is never a perfect time? Perhaps see how you feel in a few weeks? Is the situation really so hopeless? You say he snipes at your pregnant colleague (highly childish ) but I'm interested in exactly what power he really has over her is she is funded from another source? Incidently my line manager said 'I would like to have the entire English Department serilised ha ha' after my friend became pregnant last year, but she can suck on a lemon.

I'm feeling somewhat better today after two nights of going to bed at the same time as DS. I've still being having lots of white CM ande like Far I have been consulting Dr Google

wants falling asleep? Do you even need to test? I'm going to test on Thursday but I have a feeling that you will be announcing before :)

Farfalla you are so clearly updiffed you're just toying with those ratties now. You'll have that pee stick dancing to your tune in no time! Can't wait!

Hi Knitty!

Scream and Golden you are such voices of reason. You are right that I shouldn't let one man ruin everything. It is just very hard feeling victimised sometimes. Normally it is like water off a duck's back to me, but this last week it has really gotten to me. Mainly because he is now talking about me behind my back to my colleagues. I honestly thought behaviour like this stopped when you left school

I think I will have another chat to DH (I feel a lot calmer today) and see where we stand. Either way, I am going to be keeping an eye on you lot

Oh maybe you will be missed. I hope that horrible little man get his comeuppance. Maybe you and your colleagues should start keeping a diary of his comments? It could come in useful. And then when he's gone you and your pg colleague could job share his job?
Don't let the bastard grind you down. Do pop in from time to time if you feel able

Maybe, I second all everyone has said. Don't decide in haste, I got pg with DD not long into a new job and was absolutely wetting myself about it being too soon, not enough experience in my post to have a year off and go part time, and telling my manager (not as much as now, I'll go back and have to tell her straight away again...!!!). There is never a 'perfect' time, and I for one am glad I didn't wait too long to have my first. (although, i am still worried about going back part time and how the heck i'm going to find time to do enough shadowing/training to improve). You would definitely be missed.

generic, love the thought of you thinking the grannies envy us, why had I never thought of that?! Much cheered up about my Next flowery top now

That's the spirit Maybe! It can be very hard when you are a nice person (as you cleary are) to comprehend the unfathomably selfish and hurtful actions of others. It's hard not to bring it all back on yourself. You have to decide what is best for you and not for him. Sending you a big hug :)

Maybe, can't you launch some kind of formal complaint about him - especially if it's not just you feeling this way? An informal chat with someone higher up?

Either way.. I think you're fully deserving an ironic BFP soon :)

Golden - You're sounding positively updiffed :)

I said "updiffed" to DH a few nights ago. He told me it wasn't a real word or term! I was not impressed! :o (I know he's completely and utterly wrong..!)

I meant to say most sincerest congratualtions musical - was just too saddened by poor maybe's tale. Well done it's very exciting :)

I'm inclined to agree with everyone else Maybe that you can't let one silly person get in the way of what you and DH want for your family. Obviously it has to be your decision so I'lll have to accept that just because I want you to stay on here, that might not factor in your decision

Whatever you decide you have our very best wishes and support - and feel free to lurk even if you are not actively ttc-ing. Once Ninja has her HSG we will have an opening for a thread mascot if you're at all interested?

I was going to try and wait til AF didn't show to test but I keep getting all these possible symptoms and can't think of anything else so am toying with the idea of poas this weekend so at least I will know either way.
btw I also agree that maybe has a v. Horrible boss who should't be dictating his employees life plans!!!!!

Test if it feels right wants but do remember that it could be a false negative as it will still be early :)

Maybe I will hold out if I find lots of other things to do over the weekend and this past working week did go by fast so hopefully next week will do the same! If I feel my resolve weakening I know I can always come on here and listen to the voice of reason.

Hi Farfalla - FX that this will be your happy month!

Maybe - I hate arsey bosses, and circumstances that stop you from making such fundamental life decisions. If it's any consolation both of our DSs arrived at inopportune moments (DS1 a month before my law school finals, and DS2 when we were particularly broke as DH had gone back to uni) but we wouldn't change a thing. We were lucky though, that as we started early, our outgoings weren't enormous which is why we muddled through. I really hope everything works out well for you too.

Musical - Congratulations! If you could send some preggo vibes this way, that would be fab, thanks very much!!

Poas! Poas!

Ooh, I missed a whole other page! Hi Sn0wgoose, I'm glad I'm not the only one in 2ww internet-trawling, MN-page-refreshing madness mode!

MyGoldenNotebook - I'm hoping to wait until thursday to test too, as I think AF's due on Tuesday, and my cycle seems a little shorter since my miscarriage in May, so I thought I'd be better waiting until it's definitely (hopefully!) late.

Hi Scream, Ninja, Dreamfeeder and Wants!

You're all so friendly!

Hi Knitty! Thanks! BFP vibes being sent your way :) This is the friendliest, and most fertile thread on all of MN ;)

Just done the CBD - says 2-3 weeks! Still can't quite believe it!

Wants - When I started the last cycle, I'd planned to test on the 11th - but caved a few days early!

Sorry to hear about your mc knitty, fingers toes and eyes all crossed for this month! I'm addicted to MN

Sorry to hear about your mc knitty thats pants, hope the week flies by till you decide to test.
farfalla fingers crossed for you! You sound so updiffed!

Musical that's brilliant news!! More preggo than you thought!! Unless there's two.....

Thank for your advice Knitty and sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

Wants hope the time passe quickly so you can get your BFP

Thank you everyone for the kind words, you have cheered me up no end I am going to think about things a little more and see how we go. You lot really are the best x

Great news about the CBD musical! You must be over the moon :)

So knitty we shall be doing it together (not literally of course :) ) I'm truly very excited for us both!

I'm glad that we have managed to cheer you up maybe. I hope you have a lovely relaxing weeking and gear yourself up to BROOK NO ARGUMENT!

Oooh Maybe PLEASE think about brooking no argument again! There is never a perfect time to have a baby but things always have a habit of sorting themselves out. I know not one single person who would ever say "Oh god, we really regret having our sprogs when we did, it would have been so much more convenient x months/years later". They've had to make adjustments and changes plans etc but never with an ounce of disappointment.

PLUS, why should arse of a boss have more of an influence on your life than he already does???

Anyway, enough bullying encouraging you to keep on at it - you and OH will do what's right for you.

Hello knitty! Welcome! Here's have some sparkly pom poms and a majorette baton.

Day 9 here for me - BOOOORRRRRRRRRRRRIIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGGG. Wish I could ovulate at a reasonable time of the month like normal people.

What plans do people have today? I'm painting and baking a cake, although not necessarily in that order.

Yay! notebook and knitty we are all on the same cycle. Can I join you both in synchronised poasing on Thurs?

Morning all! Glad to see the CBD confirmed the bleeping obvious, musical!

Well, I had an absolutely lovely migraine yesterday, I just about hung on till DH got home but think DD was super-bored. I can tell because she kept coming over to me where I was lying on the sofa and slapping me very hard in the face. Didn't really help. Went to bed for about 14 hours and am now up, letting CBeebies do my parenting for me .

AF is keeping me waiting. I keep pretending to myself that maybe I really am pg, albeit completely symptom free. But sadly that's not even the remotest possibility this month (DH, bless him, was very ill and we only managed one practice run way before ovulation). Weirdly I'm desperate for her to arrive, as that means I'm on CD1 and I will be smacking that rat this month!

Morning fellow Day-9ers
It's not boring for me Imps, I've started testing with the op sticks because, even though P-Tracker says I'll lay my egg on Wed, this is my first proper post-mc cycle so I need to keep an eye on it, and jump on DH when the time comes
He made me so proud last night, when I said the op stick was negative, he said 'you'll lay an egg and I'll fertilise it, and we'll brook no argument' - it brought tears to my eyes, what a guy!