TTC for 10+ months, part 3

[joycep]

The other thread was just about to fill up and so here we are again with a slightly different name now as many of us have been trying for well over 12 cycles now. We had a few great successes on Part 2, with a couple of people getting bfp's on their 17th and 19th month of trying. So let's hope for more successes on Part 3. (Moaning, crying, sadness, anxiety & bitterness is certainly allowed on here!)

Oh skelly, I am sorry to hear that AF got you. How frustrating for you and your husband.

Hang in there skelly. Mother Nature has a habit of playing cruel tricks on us now and again - and she must be awfully brave to have dared to do it with the mn army glowering at her! xx

Oh Skelly - feeling for you and DH today xx

Big sorry skelly it's rubbish. I had same last cycle and know exactly what you mean about now having to wait even longer. Remember that these feelings ease up and you will feel better very soon. Do all the things you need to make you feel ok, I find I need to have a good cry/films/pyjamas/bath or long walk. Thinking of you, were here if you need us x

skeleton so sorry about this. How crappy. How are you feeling today? It's amazing how you feel like you know your body so well and then it just pulls another trick out of the bag like that. Hope you are ok.

I hope everyone is having relaxing weekends. I have been to a yoga class, meditated, made healthy meals and generally chilled out so feeling very on board with the woo this weekend! Does anyone else having acu find that it makes them incredibly sleepy?

Also done a bit of SWI as its cd13 here and I had ewcm and a +ve opk yesterday (I think-it was an amazon cheapy and they are not exactly reliable). trying to take advantage of the fact that it is the weekend, so nice relaxed SWI rather than the tired grumpy version is possible!

Hi to everyone x

Morning all,

Feel like I've been up for hours. We're rugby fans in this house and got up just before 6am so that we could see Ireland play Russia. Brought my pillows and duvet down to the lounge so having a cozy and relaxing start to the day :)

Bought a new car yesterday (well, new for us) so quite excited about that. Can pick it up next weekend. Now have the family house and the family car - with the iso-fix child seat fittings that I insisted on - so just need to sort out the family....

Also bought some new underwear to encourage some relaxed swi and seemed to do the trick. Just need to follow your lead now popcorn and replace the comfort food with healthy meals and it's all go.

I hope everyone else is out having a lovely Sunday and that you're feeling a bit more positive today than yesterday skelly.

Morning, oops, afternoon all.

Really sorry to hear about the ups & downs of the last week Skeleton. Sometimes this business is so hard. Hope you're feeling ok.

Having a lazy day so far today, it's cd 11 for me. DP's away with work tomorrow & won't be back until cd 15, so I fear we may miss the boat this month. In a way, it'd probably be good not to get my hopes up though. My appointment with the consultant (or one of his gang) will be at the beginning of my next cycle though, so things are sort of moving in the right direction .

Anyway, lazing about & a nice Sunday lunch calls! Happy Sundays all

Oh skeleton , I can't believe that has happened, everything sounded so hopeful. I am so sorry for you. This last week has been weird for a number of us with late AF and positive signs. Like I said with wine , I bet you have also Had a cp. How utterly crap all of this is. Thinking of you.

Afternoon! The chilled Sundays are sounding nice. I'm on a train home from a visit to my folks. I know I was a bit glum there, poor mum, she doesn't know what to do to help. Got a period pain feeling earlier and went to the loo and horrid clotty thing escaped even though I haven't been bleeding yest or fri felt a bit panicked by it. Sorry to share something so gross! I feel malfunctioning today. Need to give myself a right royal talking too.

Me, my dad and bro all have v delicate indigestion ibs prone tummies so have decided to go on the paleo diet (kind of wheat free plus a bit more hocus) have not yet broken this to dh, not asking him to join tho. Not doing it as a fertility thing especially but will keep you posted as I'm sure there's a couple of us with dodgy tummies on here. I am pretty healthy in an annoying gillian mckeith way anyway but I do eat wheat.

popcorn acu makes me very sleepy so I used to go in the eve. I always slept well after. Am currently spending acu money on make up and clothes but will return if I have to have interventions.

Hope you're ok skelly and good luck with all the swi to those in the fertile zone! I keep thinking of us down the line talking to each other about weaning/piles/breastfeeding and our little babies on another thread. It will happen.

Did anyone see in the papers that jade goody's mother recently miscarried? She is 55 and a lesbian. I know this is an awful thing to say but I nearly laughed out loud remembering our "I'm 65 and my partners just had a vasectomy but I think I just got a faint bfp" conversation of a few weeks back. I mean seriously-55?!?!

Oh come on popcorn is that for real?! She must have had ivf... I believe you can still have ivf after the menopause. Even though still!!

Oh no just read the article- it was unplanned !! Ok I am sorry for her but doesnt it just make you scream, "what's wrong with my bloody body!"

Exactly! And wasn't she a heroin addict or something as well? Not exactly someone with a great lifestyle, unbelievable. Anyway I had to laugh otherwise I definitely would've cried.

Do any of you experience mid cycle spotting? Believe it's common but I've never had it before, but had it last night along with loads of stomach pain all weekend, I'm hoping it means Im highly fertile and not that something is wrong.

Popcorn I sometimes get it. Haven't for a few months and worried! I read it can be caused by the egg rupturing or shifts in hormones as you ovulate. All reading I've done says this is fine

Thanks wine, good to know. The paleo diet sounds interesting by the way, that the caveman diet with loads of berries and nuts etc?

madness excited for you about the new car!

afternoon everyone,
popcorn I am at Jade Goodies mum, likeyou say it is scarily like our proposterous BFP conversation, am sorry for her though. I quite often get the mid cycle bleeding and have had it since a teen, I'm sure its normal, mine is sometims mid cycle but not tied in with ovulation too as I then ovulate later in the month? dunno whats up with that?!

I'm feeling ok after my miserable weekend now, I am thinking that it may have been a chem preg like you say Joycep which gives me hope that at least the sperm and egg might be meeting. dh goes for SA tomorrow, usual clinic story no bloody room and too far away for him to do the sample at home so he'll have to do it in the loo's poor thing.

Just popping on to say hi, and skelly so sorry about your rubbish weekend :(

at the 55 year old pregnancy story. Any pregnancy ending in MC is of course sad, but I guess not entirely surprising at that age. But as was said above, that's 20 years older than me - why on earth can I not pregnant???

CD8 here so the shagging has commenced! Already feeling rumblings in my ovaries, so fingers crossed for this month. OH has been versed that we need to have good amounts of lovin' this week .

At which, I should really tell him it's bed time.

I wrote a long message and then it's disappeared. Grump.

skeleton I'm so sorry about AF, ttc is hard enough without all the cruel twists. I hope you feel better today.

joycep is it the last injection tonight?

Nelly I am just behind you - CD6 here. Still bleeding so no shagging yet! i'M FEELING RUMBLING IN MY OVARIES TOO. THEY USUALLY START AROUND cd9 [oops caps lock] and the have a break for a few days before I actually ov but they started on CD4 this time!

skell what a crappy weekend you must have had. As you say I think you should think that the egg and sperm did meet which is positive. I know it's actuaLly difficult to see anything positive in any of this.

Mrsd - I felt like I was gearing up for ovulation so changed my scan to yesterday. My egg is just ready but she booked IuI in for Thursday. No more gonalF injections but I have to do an ovitrlle injection tomorrow to release the egg. Anyway I have had loads of ewcm and I have got myself into a panic that I am going to ovulate tomorrow and so IuI will be too late. It's really infuriating as I just want to do SWI which of course we can't. Anyway, I have decided to do an opk this afternoon and if that's positive I know she has booked me in too late. It's awful that I don't trust the gynae and I am not sure what I will do if this opk is positive as she has told me to stop them.
Got myself in to such a tizz about it all but this is so much money I need to be sure.

Also I had to sit next to this couple yesterday in the waiting room and hear them be congratulated for ten mintues on their pregnancy. They were talking about scans to the doctor and how excited they were and I just wondered whether that would ever be me. I did feel bad for feeling cross at them because they would only have been there because they had had problems too.

And one of my best friends has just given birth to her first child. We started trying 8 months before them and she had gone on at me for ages telling me to wait until they started trying so we could have kids at the same time. What a joke and thank god I didn't listen to her! I have never been a selfish person but I feel so sad. Just went in to baby shop to buy a present which didn't help.

Urrr sorry for the me me me grisly post, I hope everyone else is more upbeat.

joycep how long does your DH have to abstain for before IUI? Would you be able to SWI tonight? I hate that we have to trust the doctors when it sometimes seem that we know more than they do. But I guess they are the experts and if your gynae saw what the egg looked like and also the state of the uterine lining then she must have thought Thurs would be ok. Do you just get one insemination? I read some accounts of IUI where they did two, one before ovulation and then another one just after.

I have been feeling ok this month, not as emotional or upset as in others. But I did have a bit of a wobble on Sunday when we bumped into a pregnant friend and her DH while out for a coffee. She looks amazing, a perfect little bump (which she touches all the time) and they are so excited and don't have a care in the world. It did make me feel so jealous because I know it only took them 3 months to conceive and they started trying about 9 months after us. The pregnancy is carefree for her but I fear that even if I ever do get pregnant I will be so terrified of something going wrong that I won't be able to enjoy it. I hate feeling jealous of other people and I find it easier to ignore pregnant people as much as possible. Leaving facebook has helped but then another friend phoned me on Friday to say that she had felt the baby move for the first time and that she wanted to phone me to tell me because she knew I wasn't on FB so would have missed the update .

Mrsd - i didnt realise you had left FB. what can you say when someone calls you up to tell you that? I know people don't do it on purpose and she clearly has no idea of the impact but those kind of knocks are brutal. I think it's probably agiven that all of us on here will be nervous pregnant ladies. The longer one takes, the more pressure we will feel that it has to work. My colleague told me it took her 2 yrs to conceive and she says she can't relax and she has rushed off to Hospital several times because she thought something was wrong. Anyway one step at a time.

DH has to abstain for about 4 days so unfortunately we can't do it tonight. I got the impression that she couldnt do IuI on Wednesday because that's a clinic day. My lining was triple which She said was ready so worried why I am having to wait 4 more days. I will so the opk in an hour and if negative it should be fine. It's just the one insemination, I can imagine 2 would be better.

I am glad you are feeling better about things though. I never know wht kind of mood i am going to be in when I wake up.

Hello,

Well I'm ov'ting. Dh went to bed early last night as he wasn't well, but whilst watching tv I just felt like I was, really weird had no pains or anything, so I went and poas opk. And sure enough. So had to wake poor dh up :(

Acupuncture tonight. I'm on cd 11 which is a little early for ov, I've had no temp rise, but both the opk and the fertility monitor seem to think I have...

Hello lovely ladies,

Sorry to have been offline for a while, it means I won't be able to react to everything, much as I want to!

Skelly so sorry to hear about your hopes, and the dashing by AF. I hope you can take some positives from it, but if you can'I can totaly understand and sympathise. Have some to help you through this part (at least that is what I would do).

And joycep that is really weird of the IUI timing. Sorry the clinic has sent you away for so long and fingers crossed that OPK is negative. Also, our gyn explained that IUI should be done much closer to actualy OV, because the sperm do not have to fight through and no hanging around waiting (for too long) for the egg is better. But maybe I misunderstood.

Great to hear you are having a better month mrsd and wobbling around pregnant people is only to be expected!! Good luck to nelly and euro on the shagathon coming up. We have just finished and pls could all you lovely ladies cross your fingers for an early egg. It is CD17 today and my DH had a fever (oh noo, quality :( ) from CD15. Thankfully, I am a little bit of a shorty cycle type, so I reckon it had been by that stage, but the mucus has been ridiculous this month, so I can't be sure... I recognise the waking up OHs karbea. I had to do that to mine yesterday, just in case

Popcorn and madness weekends sound amazingly relaxing. I feel like it has been ages since the weekend. But then, I worked on Sunday, but have Friday off in lieu so that is okay. My week is more than halfway already :)

Good luck with the diet wine, let us know how you are doing... Curious about how your OH responds to the changes, necessary. Quick wave to the others and on with the last bit of work for the day!!

Hi ladies

It's formerly popcorn here. Ive name changed. Find it really hard to think of a decent nickname and noticed the other day there is another popcorn knocking around so thought I'd better come up with something different to avoid confusion! So this is a tribute to my little black kitty who miaows a lot.

Good luck with all the shagging nelly, karbea and euro, you're doing sterling work, keep it up even if it does involve waking up grumpy DH's in the night! I am in 2WW limbo now

joycep sorry that the IUI is being stressful, I would be exactly the same and the fact that its costing you a fortune only exacerbates the worry. I'd like to tell you to trust them and that they know what they're doing, but the thing is we are so tuned in to our bodies and it is very hard to ignore that and believe what men in white coats tell us. Let us know how you get on and good luck.

mrsd sorry about that with your friend, actually cannot believe she rung you up to tell you that because you're not on FB. I must admit I've been considering deleting my account recently, someone on another thread called it 'reproductive bragging-book' or similar and it's so true.

Hi lemons hopefully your egg will have gone nice and early before your poor DH became ill. If you have had a lot of EWCM that sounds promising.