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TTC for 10+ months, part 3

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joycep · 22/08/2011 12:33

The other thread was just about to fill up and so here we are again with a slightly different name now as many of us have been trying for well over 12 cycles now. We had a few great successes on Part 2, with a couple of people getting bfp's on their 17th and 19th month of trying. So let's hope for more successes on Part 3. (Moaning, crying, sadness, anxiety & bitterness is certainly allowed on here!)

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skeletonbones · 22/09/2011 21:31

evening all,
so I did POAS another one of the internet cheapies, about 30 mins ago which gave me a clear BFP a good few mins into the developing time... it hung around for long enough for DH to come upstairs and confirm, yes it was a line, and for us to stare at it while i asked him 'Is it a line? and for him to say 'yes it definately is a line' for a couple of minutes like we were composing some sort of weird haiku. and then it sort of dwindled and disapeared?! so now I dont know what to think, after reading about all the false positives and negitives with the bloody things on amazon reviews (its the one step early pregnancy ones i am using, a good 50% of people reviewing were reporting false negs/positives.) will be doing a branded test tomorrow afternoon when I can get to the shops, surely the line shouldnt disapear?! thanks so much for all the asking after me and good wishes and sorry for such a 'me me me' post.

Biscuitsandtea · 22/09/2011 21:55

I'm still lurking (hope you all don't mind Smile)

I can't remember who said it earlier today (am on iPhone so can't check back Blush) but I can absolutely relate to not being able to give up ttc - as in if I had tried giving up I would just have been pretending and unable to stop thinking about it really! I would have been on absolute lookout for my ironic 'not trying' BFP!

Maybe it is like giving up smoking and you can only give up ttc if you really want to? Not that I've ever smoked or therefore had to give up.

Anyway, I'm still rooting for you all from the sidelines. Good luck ladies xxx

eurochick · 22/09/2011 22:12

Ooo, skelly, that sounds promising. I'll have everything crossed for you.

Karbea · 22/09/2011 22:17

Oooo skeleton go and do another test!!!!!!

NervousNelly · 22/09/2011 22:56

oh skelly - I'd like to say a line is a line, but what do I know?

Most instructions say not to read after the recommended time. I've always assumed this was to stop you reading an evap line as a positive, but perhaps it works in reverse too?

also remember that wasn't FMU so that might upset the results a bit as well?

Either way, it's certainly sounding hopeful!

biscuits I certainly don't mind you lurking, you are our role model Wink

hillbilliechick · 22/09/2011 23:03

Ah Skeleton, my heart goes out to you! I have fingers and toes crossed. I really hope above all hopes that it's the positive news that you want :),

whereismywine · 23/09/2011 07:41

Good luck skeleton! Smile

mrsden · 23/09/2011 08:26

skeleton I have everything crossed for you. Can you test with FMU? How many dpo are you? It has to be a good sign that AF hasn't turned up. I always thought that a line was a line and they do say not to look at the test after 10 mins so I think it's looking very promising.

biscuits I forgot to congratulate you on the scan. I can't believe how fast it is going. Have you told people yet? What is your due date?

I think stagnate is a good word. My mind has stagnated since ttc. It's all I really think about if I'm being honest. I haven't put things off really, but I'm no longer ambitious at work and my head is full of ttc thoughts all the time. It's probably not healthy but I don't know what I can do to change. Probably spend less time on mn would be a start but this thread is very important to me because this is the only place where I can get things off my chest. If I was able to talk to someone in RL then I think my head would be clearer. I am happy at the moment though, and I don't think I am stressed but I am frustrated by it all and I dwell too much on the unfairness of it all. I don't know what I think about all the relax and it will happen stuff. I think alot of people do get a BFP after relaxing or giving up but I think that is just because it's their time and it would have happened anyway. Wasn't there a study that showed that stress levels had no effect on the success of ivf? Anyway, I don't think it helps to get stressed about being stressed!

joycep did you manage with the injection last night? How long do you have to do it for?

ladygee · 23/09/2011 08:30

Thinking of you today skeleton - have everything crossed for you

popcorn - acu is next on my list to try, when I get round to booking it, your experience is reassuring

I'm with you, nelly wine, it seems impossible to stop thinking about TTC regardless of what else is going on. I've been for interviews and offered a job, we might be moving abroad with DH's job and through it all, all I have thought is - what does that mean for TTC.

Oh, and wine, your anniversary is just the week after ours. Although we didn't officially start TTC until we came back from honeymoon (and all the malaria tablets were out of our systems!)

Hello to everyone else Smile

ladygee · 23/09/2011 08:38

Cross post mrsd - I could have written everything you've just said and, yes, stagnate is the word. Even when I am pretending to be interested in work/anything else, it's just for show - hence not taking the job I was offered. I don't feel the need to do anything apart from have a baby. I've read that about IVF/stress too.

izzybizzybuzzybees · 23/09/2011 09:36

Ooh skeleton that sounds so promising.

I hope you've done a test with FMU to get maximum concentrating of hcg!!!

Looking forward to your post, I really hope its good news :)

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joycep · 23/09/2011 10:08

ooh skele - i would think in these circumstances a line is a line. It's normally the other way round that is a bit iffy where you wait for 3 hours and then see a line. Anyway crossing fingers it is all much clearer today. NOw don't you have a 10/11 day LP?? And how long have you been trying again? I like hearing all this sort of stuff because it gives me hope!

Popcorn - I do wonder if there is any truth in what your acu lady says because you do hear of many people saying, 'oh it happened when i stopped thinking about it'. Well i would love to know how anyone stops thinking about it! I quite like woo stuff and would love to think it all works. Anyway I hope she does wonders for you. Oh and totally agree with mrsd that my mind has stagnated since ttc as well. It's ALL i think about It's just this massive issue hanging over me all the time. I dwell on things as well. Depending on what day it is I can either find life very unfair or on another day be totally excepting that these things happen. I do find it extraordinary how i know people who had seemingly many barriers to cross with ttc (sperm issues, ovulation problems) yet they have got pregnant relatively quickly and this just leaves me perplexed as to why it's not happening for us.

mrsd - I couldn't do it myself and if i'm being truthful the injection last night really hurt. I think DH put it in the wrong place but even by the time i went to bed i was holding my stomach because it hurt so much. If he didn't put it in the wrong place, i think my stomach must be bruised from the jabbing. I know I've got to toughen up a bit more. Anyway, i think i only do it up until wednesday next week.

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eurochick · 23/09/2011 10:55

Skelly what news?

joycep the injections just sound miserable. The things we put ourselves through, eh?

I'd love to know the secret of how you stop thinking about it too. It's horrible the way it dominates your life.

skeletonbones · 23/09/2011 14:38

hi everyone,
just popped on quicky to tell you i am sat with a bfn in my hand, cheapy test must have been a false positive. still no period. pretty desolate really.now worrying theres somthing really wrong with me as i have definately ovd and am days late for period.

mrsden · 23/09/2011 14:46

skeleton don't despair yet. How many dpo are you? Could it be too early for a strong positive? Did you use FMU? Because I've heard some ladies say that it was only with the first pee of the day that they could get a BFP.

eurochick · 23/09/2011 15:05

Dammit skelly. You really are on a rollercoaster, aren't you?

Karbea · 23/09/2011 15:29

Skelly how many days are you? Sometimes it takes quite a while for a positive line to appear...

whereismywine · 23/09/2011 15:42

skeleton love to you from my end - tis a mean waiting game. I think joycep said it took her til 17dpo? Catch your morning wee and have another look. We're all here for you and crossing everything we have for you x

Biscuitsandtea · 23/09/2011 16:02

Oh Skelly - I really feel for you. If that was a double pack you bought though keep that other one and test with a FMU - either tomorrow or maybe the day after.

I think I read earlier that someone said you had a shortish LP? Apologies if I'm wildly making things up here. But if your LP is only say 10-11 days, then although you could be days late for period you could still be only say 14-15 dpo - and I think it is common enough to still not get a positive test that early. If you had a 'textbook' cycle AF would be due later iyswim. (Apologies - I'm explaining myself terribly here).

What I mean to say is you are obv late for your period which is hopefully a good sign, but a short LP wouldn't make you produce HCG any faster so you might have to wait until longer after AF was due to have enough HCG to show up. (In the unlikely event that anyone else is able to make sense of what I've written, please feel free to translate into English!)

I really hope you get an answer soon and I'm really feeling for you.

And apologies again for such a dreadful explanation - I think I know what I meant in my head Blush

eurochick · 23/09/2011 16:17

I know what you mean, b&t - HCG levels depend on how far you are past conception, not how close you are to when your period would ordinarily have been due.

Biscuitsandtea · 23/09/2011 16:36

Thank you Euro - much more succinctly put! Blush

I'm really a numbers person, not words.... Blush

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joycep · 23/09/2011 16:40

skelly - how awful and what limbo you must be in. I don't know which tests are reliable as they all have mixed reviews and i don't think the expensive ones are necessarily better. Personally i found First Response ones actually rubbish and it was the cheapy ones i first got a very faint positive at 17dpo. Do you temp as it may be worth taking your temp tomorrow morn to see if it is high?? I believe it is very unusual to get a false positive though but very likely to get a false negative. The fact your period is still not here is a good sign and again highly unlikely to be anything wrong with you apart from pregnancy....Do you have any other symptoms?? Hopefully you'll get a clearer answer in the coming days. God re-reading this i write as if i'm some great authority on pregnancy..what a joke! Anyway routing for you!

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NervousNelly · 23/09/2011 16:53

Oh skelly how stressful for you Sad. The main thing is, no period so you are still in the game. Agree with the others, try again with FMU and even then if it's still a BFN then it may just be too early.

Don't panic. Remember there is a big army of us glowering at the evil witch, just DARING her to cross us Wink

Biscuitsandtea · 23/09/2011 17:11
skeletonbones · 24/09/2011 09:41

morning everyone,
well AF got me. as if by magic poas must have woken her up, as i had brown spotting from tea time and blood when i woke up this morning, still POAS though to try with FMU just incase it was a chem pregnancy, BFN. sent yesterday evening on and off crying and poor DH too, we had a whole day of thinking we were ok and could do this and now we are back to the start, am really starting to hate POAS now, but the alternative is waiting and waiting while getting more hopefull when wildly late, i NEVER go more than a day late usually and that has only happened once this year, so to be 5 days late I though I must have caught, and now it sets a new record for months to come, that being 5 days late is not a good sign and i'll have to have a 3ww istead of 2...and then POAS and get a BFN.
Thanks so much for all the advice and good wishes on here, you are all lovely, and we all deserve those BFP's. I am going to give meself a mental kick up the arse this morning and get back into feeling positive. We will all get there in the end, I'm sure of it.

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