Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

thanks mouse - why are cpd days just a load of wasted time shite??? We got 1 hour of private planning time, the rest was sat in the hall listening to the usual SLT drivel and child protection stuff that is the same year on year!!

My NCT classes start on Sunday so looks like tomorrow will be planning day, yay I love teaching

helloooo everyone, have a good weekend :)
anyone heard from yrmotb?

Oh my, CPD must be the same in every school across the country! That's exactly what I'll be doing on Monday. SNORE!

Pleased you survived the day - yay for NCT classes

xx

Gosh, the thread has moved on since I was last here! How is everyone?

Hope the scan went well yrmotb , and good news on bloods being done mouse

I bought some OPKs today, I've decided I want to be as in control as possible now; pg in February was a bit of a surprise, so I felt a bit misplaced about it, then had the mc, whereas I was doing OPKs when i got pg with DS, and knew from the start because I'd known when the right time was, IYKWIM

Anyway, I thought I had ov pains yesterday, but nothing showing on OPK today, so going to keep testing over the weekend and see what happens. The pains could have been my muscles protesting in shock from being used (it's been a while, IYKWIM )

Thanks Digi - my industry is like most - extremely small and it would be career suicide to ever complain about what is practically endemic (I am considered abnormal for thinking there is anything sexist in the comments I get!)! My thyroid thing seems to be just a cyst (hopefully benign) as thyroid function comes up normal in tests - so hopefully there is no NK cell connection. I went with a friend to Lister fertility clinic and ended up finding out the name of a good specialist at Kingston Hospital - so I am going to try and change doctors and see if they can do something for the next time. Good luck with your scan on Wednesday!

Mouse hope you horrid boss has had a personality change over the holidays. The new doctor sounds great - it scares me how reliant we are on getting the right doctor at the right time.

Good luck with the opking Edward I have never gone down that route as my ov heralds itself with a big brass band but I do wish sometimes that I did the temperature thing so I would have some clue as to what is happening during the 2ww.

Oh, if anyone is trying to avoid taking antibiotics during pregnancy - supposedly turmeric is a natural antiboitic. You can eat it fresh or fry some up with butter and add to warm milk!

How are you doing LadyM and Dachs?

Velvet hopefully work won't be too bad over the weekend.

Waiting for 'happy' husband to get home safely before I can sleep - thankfully even if he misses our stop he will only be a short walk away!

Waves to all

Hey folks! Just a quickie on the way to meet collie blackkat and Minnie! Exciting! Scan went well, all good an well behaved baby this time, which is good.

Mouse and velvet it must be horrible going back after the summer holidays! I don't envy you both that part of teaching. Although the holidays themselves must be quite nice.

Hope hAppy husband got back ok, aandr.

Waves to everyone else, on the train, so best post before message gets lost in the intermittent signal! Have a good weekend everyone.

yrmotb Enjoy the meet up! :)

aandr Completely mentalling this weekend as have first scan on Monday and am completely knackered, but fine apart from that! Although I nearly murdered DH earlier because we need a new hoover and we ordered one for him to pick up from a store and he said 'this can be an early Christmas present'. I then slapped him a few times until he retracted it and apologised, but still GRRRRRRR........ Glad you have found the name of a good specialist and FX it works out for you soon. :)

edward Good luck with the OPK! And happy shagging

velvet I hope the NCT classes go well tomorrow and that you meet some nice people! :)

Hello

Good luck for Monday dachs, l really hope that you see a little bean (or two!) waving to you! How many weeks will you be?

yrmotb enjoy the meetup, I'm sure you are having a fabulous time! Next time come a little closer to South Wales please! Im glad you had more good scan news

Yay for great knee doctor mouse, how fabulous that you are getting what you need, albeit in a round about way!

Good luck with the opks Edwards, which ones did you go for in the end?

AandR - weird coincidence - that cafe you mentioned that I've never heard of before had a mention in Olive magazine this month - so I looked them up, it looks lovely! Shame it's a 3 or 4 hour drive for me to try it out! Glad you found out about another specialist.

Good luck for returns to school velvet and mouse. When we get home on Monday the reality of dd starting the week after will hit me, eeek, I am not ready at all for my baby to go to school

Waves to digital tomboy mummya izzy and anyone I've missed

In my news I'm still waiting for af to p**s off, it seems longer every month! Ff was trying to tell me I was fertile this morning...hmmm...I don't think so!

tina I will be 6+0 on Monday, so hopefully would be able to see a heartbeat (last time I had a scan at 5+6 and one bean we could see a heartbeat but the other one we couldn't as it was still a bit small - we saw a heartbeat on that one two days later)

Hi ladies,

Can I join your lovely thread? I post regularly on the IVF/ICSI thread, to cut a long story short- I am Louise age (nearly) 30, DH in his 40's and we went through our first IVF in the summer. It resulted in a BFP but later the little bean stopped developing at 4 weeks ish 8 days ago. I had a really rough week, my emotions have been all over the shop, just really blue, however after careful consideration we decided to jump back on the IVF train and start stimming again approx 24th Oct....can now say, next month!!

Im a primary teacher back at work on Monday so Im looking forward to being kept busy for the next few weeks.

Louise

Hi Louise, welcome. I'm sorry to hear of your loss, we have all been through it so ask anything!

Thanks Tina

I'm very very up and down hormonally at the minute, is that normal? And if so how long should I expect this dreadful black cloud to last?
We have the next round of IVF booked for 7 weeks and they said Im an excellent responder but yet Im still down.

I also did a pg test this morning and it was negative so I know the hormones are beginning to pass

Louise the black cloud might hang over you for a while yet but give yourself time to grieve, and do whatever you need to allow that to happen, whether that's going to work and getting on with things or taking some time out. Physically it's good that you've had a bfn, hopefully your cycle will kick back in soon (if you have regular cycles, do you mind me asking why you need ivf?), mine took 3 months to get back to normal, but everyone is different and my loss was at 11 weeks so it might not be so long for you.

In the meantime come on here whenever you need a cry/rant/laugh!

Hi ladies, hope you're all having a lovely weekend.

digi it's interesting to hear you say your boobs are heavier, mine are too this time around - although I haven't started my progesterone yet. I freaked a little a few days ago when it felt like they weren't as tender/sensitive and then realised that I'd switched to a more padded-type bra which was helping shield the senso-nipples from the cold. .
I hope you do feel some sense of reassurance with a good scan this week. Although I understand that feeling of knowing it can go wrong a day after. At least the very least it will show you how things are going so far and we all have our fingers crossed that they are going normally
Did you make a decision about the shoot? I think I'd be useless trying to stay focused, I can barely go half an hour at the moment without flicking out my phone to obsess over progesterone/hcg/miscarriage treatment protocols.

Tina it sounds like a good idea to take it a bit more chilled this month. Not sure if anyone else has suggested this but I did find stopping charting once I'd ov'd a good way to stop obsessing as well. I went through a period where every little dip or rise was being echoed by my mood, and my Luteal Phase is pretty standard so once I was sure I'd ov'd I just didn't take my temp anymore until a few days before my period was expected. Sorry your AF is taking an age. You spotted for a while beforehand too didn't you? Must make it all feel very drawn out.

hi YRMOTB I've forgotten what course you're doing at uni? Have been contemplating (in a not very focused way) the idea of doing some study while I'm at home. My freelance career has not been a roaring success yet and I feel a bit of a fraud being at home not taking advantage of my 2 days childfree. Glad the scan went well. How was the meet-up? very ...would have been nice to be able to go.

Gah AandR - radiology and work. God how frustrating and galling. The 'girls' indeed! That just wouldn't be accepted in my (former) profession. In fact I can hear the derogatory/disbelieving laughter in my head. Can understand why it makes you question whether it's worth it. And such a pain about the referral. However good to get the name of the consultant.

waves to izzy and velvet how are things going m'dears? I hope it's all smooth sailing for you both?

Mouse sooooooo pleased that you are going to get tested for the sticky blood thing. Hooray for lateral-thinking/flexible doctors. I have everything crossed that the boss from hell has managed to find a heart/brain/conscience somehow before you go back.

DiffedDachs

Hi ladies,

Tina, of course I dont mind you asking. DH has very low motility and other issues and it was taking us a while, we looked into self funded IVF and we were suitable (of course we were, they want our cash!). We chose an amazing clinic abroad, I get the same dr, nurse and coordinator with every appointment and all treatment including ICSI- where they inject the sperm into the egg/ cultivation of embryos to 5 days/ all meds/ hotels/ flights/ three monitoring scans and the offer of helping out with injections on days I was feeling less brave came to £4,000, so a lot less than the uk.
I also did lots of charting when we were trying naturally and spent £100s in ovulation tests, I was definitely addicted!!!

Thanks also Ladym for the welcome, lovely news on your HCG levels! Your GP should prescribe progesterone shouldnt they? How quick do you get your blood tests back from the drs?

Back to school tomorrow, better do some work :-(

Louise

louise Welcome to the thread! I'm currently 6 weeks pg again with ICSI (having lost ICSI twins at 20 weeks in May), so everything crossed for you that it works for you again next time.

ladym DH thinks and hopes there is just one in there. I'm thinking, based on the fact that CB Digi went to 3+ two days earlier than it should have done, that there are two in there again. I guess we'll find out tomorrow. If there are two I'll be thrilled but desperately desperately worried after last time (also because my obstetrician who i really like will be cross with me if there are two). Twins would be great but obviously far far riskier so one would be safer. I just hope we see at least one heartbeat tomorrow. Your HCG levels look really really good! :)

Great news on the hcg lady! Yes, my periods last for ages, 2 days of spotting, then 5 days of bleeding, then another 2 days spotting, so 1/3 of the month really!

Waves to dachs and Louise

How did it go yesterday yrmotb? I bet you all had a lovely time x

Good luck for the scan tomorrow dachs

Hi Louise sorry you're here but everyone is wonderful and amazingly supportive

mouse we missed you yesterday wishing you best of luck for school tomorrow and hoping your bitch boss lets up a bit this term. So pleased to hear that you're getting the bloods checked.

Lady great news on the HCG levels.

Tina hope AF does bugger off sometime soon and that you can have the chilled out month you're looking for ((hugs))

louise so sorry to hear of your loss, the ladies here will be a huge support for you as they have been for so many of us X

to everyone else. batch baked so leaves some blueberry muffins

Thanks Dachs Velvetcu and blackkat

I am going to read through the whole thread later so that I can catch up on everything but thanks for welcoming me to the thread.

I had a really rough day yesterday. miserable, then today I felt brighter (probably the £200 quid I spent in newlook on work tops!) And counting the days to our next IVF round :-)

Back to school tomorrow, I always feel down in the dumps at the end of the hols but by tomorrow teatime Ill be pleased Ive got some purpose back in my life (other than mumsnetting of course :-)

Hope everyone is well

Louise

Welcome Louise so sorry to hear your story. I hope the next cycle is The One.

Made it through the big weddings weekend without anything untoward happening. Even had a dance last night as the band was so good. Utterly exhausted now, and really not wanting to start the week tomorrow. Nothing fun to look forward to in between now and this scan on Weds.

Good luck at your scan tomorrow dachs will be thinking of you!

Welcome Louise, so sorry to hear about your loss. Hopefully as *Digi& said, next cycle will be the one for you.

Lady excellent news on the hcg results hope you can get yours prescriptions sorted soon.

All the best to everyone back in work/school tomorrow! And to dachs of course for your scan, thinking of you, and make sure you come back to update us!

tina thanks for the luck - I just bought Wilko cheap opks (Freedom, I think was the brand). 1st was neg on friday, 2nd yesterday was pos, but had a really crap-feeling day yesterday. Really moody and emotional and generally feeling like crap. So no sex last night, but last time was weds so within a good timeframe I think. I've spent all day going between feeling "different" and not, so I've all tied up in knots tonight DH isn't sure he wants to risk sex in case I have got pregnant, but I can't help wondering if we should just in case (that and I'm really horny this week!! )
So much for my strong feelings about next month!!

Forgot to add - I don't normally feel like that at ov time, so not sure if it's because I was more aware (although I do feel ov most months) or if I really could be pg. My mind went totally out of control earlier and thought maybe I ov'd last week and yesterday and the hormones were higher than usual yesterday, but that's probably me being over-excited

Sorry for such long posts, I'm afraid you ladies are my only sounding board! (DH just keeps asking how I feel!)

Morning all - welcome to Louise I'm sorry for your loss and hope you see that bfp again before long x

dachs good luck for today, lovely, not sure what headcount you're hoping for but keeping everything crossed for good news x

yrmotb hope the meet up went well - feeling quite no one seems to live in the south west!!

mummya good news re driving test, that won't be long then. Are you feeling confident? Btw when is next appt with non
scary dr?

digi and ladymb hope everything's still going well for both, digi I'll be thinking of you Wednesday. lady have you got an early scan lined up?

mouse good luck for going back to work - hope boss is ok!

A very quick post to say good luck today dachs I'll be thinking of you xx

I missed you all on sat blackkat x

Ooh thanks izzy