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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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mousebacon · 21/08/2011 20:43

Roll up, roll up...

This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

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edwardcullensotherwerewolf · 21/10/2011 14:28

Tomboy , I know what you mean. Could have been a bug making you a bit nauseous, and could also be messing with your cycle if you haven't been well? Who knows what affects it!

Twittwooo (almost shortened to twit , then realised what I'd typed ) if you really don't want to tell family yet, maybe you could answer what you know about family history, and anything you don't know you could take away and ask when you're comfortable telling your parents? I can't imagine anything being so pressing that it can't wait a few weeks to be put in your records (and I would have thought your family would tell you of anything serious that may have been in the family?)

ceropegia · 21/10/2011 18:24

twittwooo I agree with edward - It's unlikely they'll ask you anything you don't already know, and if they do, then it probably won't hurt to wait a little while for the answers. I can't remember what those 12 week questions were...so long ago (!) but I think it's important to wait until you are ready to tell them, and not just do it because you think you have to.
Good luck at that appointment - so exciting.

I went to the GP today (for DD's chesty cough) and asked him what we might be doing wrong. He said being stressed about getting pregnant was 'not conducive to getting pregnant'. Hmmmm... wise words, but easier said than done.

ceropegia · 21/10/2011 18:28

oh no, tomboy just read about your bfn - So sorry about that....Better luck next time for both of us
x

edwardcullensotherwerewolf · 21/10/2011 19:18

cero I was given that advice last month, having gone to the GP because I was getting symptoms of pg but AF had come and gone (albeit a bit intermittent and shorter than usual) and I'd had 10 a few BFNs. Gosh reading that back if I'd been the GP I'd have laughed me out of the surgery!!

Anyway, this month I didn't even do an OPK, just went with rough dates and my feelings (I always know when I ovulate) and tried my best to ignore the fact that I wanted to be pg. As you say, it's easier said than done, but I've made a conscious effort not to talk about conceiving/being pg, DH has made an effort not to ask if I feel pregnant etc. That really helps tbh. I feel much more relaxed about it this month :) (In fact, if anything, I've been convincing myself I'm not pg, and anything that suggests itself as a pg symptom has quickly been found another excuse )I know I've rabbited on a bit, but I hope you can take something from it and have an easier (and hopefully BFP) next month

edwardcullensotherwerewolf · 21/10/2011 23:58

Gosh it's quiet in here tonight! And I wanted to share some news

KnitterNotTwitter · 22/10/2011 00:13

I'm here....!

digitalgirl · 22/10/2011 00:20

News?! Do tell...

KnitterNotTwitter · 22/10/2011 00:22

Aggg edward don't do this to us....

digitalgirl · 22/10/2011 00:23

She's gone to bed hasn't she

Velvetcu · 22/10/2011 00:32

I'm here too!

CollieandPup · 22/10/2011 00:40

Ohh exciting, I'm here too!!

edwardcullensotherwerewolf · 22/10/2011 00:48

Yay you're still up! BFP

I caved and did a test this morning! In fact, I didn't pee when I got up, just so I could POAS after the school run!

CollieandPup · 22/10/2011 00:55

Whoop edward!!!!! that's fantastic!!!!

Tina nice high yesterday, wouldn't worry too much about today's dip either, mine were up and down. Fx it rises again tomorrow!

Aghhh I wish I could sleep!

TinaOnHerBroomstick · 22/10/2011 07:32

for edwards!

Temp lower this morning collie, not below the coverline yet though.

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mousebacon · 22/10/2011 07:42

Yay edward

Morning all

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Twittwooo · 22/10/2011 08:07

Morning everyone.
Brilliant news edward!

digitalgirl · 22/10/2011 08:33

Congratulations edward!!!

ceropegia · 22/10/2011 09:36

Whoop! edward that's brilliant news!
So strange, but when I'm on here, other people's positives make me feel positive. It's going to be a beautiful day.... Thanks everyone x

edwardcullensotherwerewolf · 22/10/2011 10:07

Thanks everyone sorry to post and run last night, laptop battery died but DH was going to bed anyway, so I just left it off and decided to come back this morning.

tina fx for you

cero I'm glad you feel more positive today I feel a bit guilty about getting excited on here, as we're all going through different things, but like you, when I see everyone else's good news it makes me happy. God, I've gone all soppy now

Anyway, I've only told DH, and won't be taking it further than this thread on MN, just in case. (I thought since I'll be here for support regardless, I might as well tell you lot ) I've decided to wait 2 weeks, and if nothing's happened (fx) I'll ring EPU for a scan/bloods (they said I could go back for reassurance since it was so up and down with the mc.

GreenOlives · 22/10/2011 10:44

Hello ladies, I wonder if I could join you? I have to admit to being a serial lurker on the conception threads but never have the courage to post - until now that is! As fabulous as my family and friends are they haven't been through what I have and I really feel like I need to talk to other people who are going through or have gone through the same thing.

So, here is my story so far: I'm 35 (36 a week today!) and my DH is 31. We have a cheeky lovely DS who is 3.4 (took 6 months to conceive, normal pregnancy) We started trying for number 2 in May 2009, fell pregnant after 5 cycles but unfortunately miscarried at 7 weeks. Started trying again straight away but this time it took a massive 13 cycles before next BFP which again ended in miscarriage at 7 weeks on Boxing Day last year. My lovely GP referred me to a gynae at this point who was happy that the miscarriages were bad luck but did do some basic fertility tests on me and DH which were all normal. I had an HSG last month, tubes clear but did show small septate in uterus but not enough to cause problem.

I had what I though was a normal period 2 weeks ago but suddenly on Wedsnesday this week I developed left sided pain and bleeding on what I thought was day 11 of my cycle (had initially put the pain down to ovulation!) In fact it turned out I was pregnant and had a ruptured ectopic. I had surgery on Thursday and my left tube had to be removed. I'm back home now feeling very sore and completely in shock!! Don't think it has really sunk in yet. Yet again I am being told that everything looked really healthy when they were doing the op and that it is just really shit luck - seriously, I do wonder if I am being punished for a past life or something!!

Anyhow, despite all of this I still really want another child so as soon as I am back to full fitness we shall be trying again! I already had an appt with my gynae consultant in a couple of weeks which I will obviously be keeping - do you think they should be testing me for recurrent miscarriage now or does an ectopic not count in the magic 3? Any advice gratefully received ladies!
Sorry for the marathon me me me post! Massive congratulations to all of you that have a recent BFP or a lovely healthy developing pregnancy and lots and lots of luck to those of you that are trying - I will be keeping you company very soon I hope!

getawiggleon · 22/10/2011 10:44

Yey edwards! Congratulations! It's always the month that you really don't think you're pg/ have given up that you get the BFP! Lovely news to wake up to. [hsmile]

Velvetcu · 22/10/2011 11:04

Yay edward lovely news congrats

getawiggleon · 22/10/2011 11:04

Greenolives Welcome to the thread. I'm so sorry for your losses, you've had a really tough time of things and such a run of bad luck. Apparently the HSG can give you a bit of a fertility boost which, in your case, looks like it worked but then to suffer an ectopic after all you've been through just seems so cruel. I'm not sure whether this would count with regards to rcm, it is still very much a loss but I suspect that it's viewed differently in a medical sense. Your GP sounds quite reasonable anyway so it may be worth a chat? If it's any consolation, my MIL had an ectopic and then went on to have two more children very shortly afterwards and from what I've read it doesn't impair future chances in any way.

I hope you're being well looked after at home and are managing to get some rest, you have been through a lot both physically and emotionally. There's plenty of advice and support on this thread so make yourself at home (but not for too long hopefully, I think you must be due a change in fortune). xx

ceropegia · 22/10/2011 11:05

Hi greenolives and welcome. It sounds like you've had a properly rotten time you poor thing. What a hideous experience, and after all that waiting and longing too. Very glad you've found this thread, and I'm wishing you a speedy recovery and another bfp very soon!

getawiggleon · 22/10/2011 11:05

Sorry meant to type rmc (recurrent miscarriage) and not rcm ^^

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