Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

Oh lily, I'm sorry to hear that . Wishing you a speedy recovery from the d&c xxx

Oh no for dissertation cock up yrmotb! Is there anything you can do about it?

for good scan knitter. How is ds after his scary experience?

Any news tomboy?

Good luck for Thursday lady.

Welcome to ceropegia, and welcome back to wiggle, and congrats on the bfp. It sounds as though you've both been through it so pull up a seat so we can all hand hold together.

Good luck for Saturday digital x

Oh wiggle, it's so lovely to see you back here and I'm so sorry for your loss. I totally understand the need for a break.

I'm currently 6w exactly and feeling properly ill. Was no where near this symptomatic with the mcs so am trying to stay positive. Early scan booked for a week on thurs with the fab consultant who took over my care when it all went wrong.

Still haven't told psycho boss. I truely think her attitude will return to psycho mode when she finds out. Going to hold off until after the scan. How on earth work people haven't noticed as I'm positively green all day long and munching on dry crackers as I teach.

I'm currently on the sofa with my duvet trying (and failing) to think of something I can stomach to eat. Bleurgh sums it up really!

Love to all xx

Thank you for all the lovely messages everyone, it's good to be back [hsmile]

Welcome ceropegia, I'm sorry for your loss. I think late mc are so hard and especially with no given reason. It's a nerve wracking journey afterwards too but there is plenty of support on here. I hope you get your bfp v soon x

knitter Brilliant scan news! Am I right in thinking that it was your nuchal? How did you feel in the ultrasound room? I'm not sure I'll be able to even look at the screen when I go for my 11 week one, if I get that far (annoying myself that I always feel the need to add that bit at the end these days)

Izz 34 weeks?!! Where on earth did that go? I'm so happy for you, not long to go now. Are you sorted with your names now? x

Digi Did they re-test NKs before weaning you off the steroids or is it just standard procedure to only take them for first trimester? I'm sure you'll be ok, they know what they're doing. I opted not to have inmmunes testing this time and although I have an overactive immune system busily destroying my thyroid they haven't put me on prednisolone.

Lily you seem to be having a rough time of it. Could the cysts be causing the high hcg? I hope your body gets back to normal soon. The wait for cycles to return after mc is tough.

Mouse Hurray and boo at the same time for the nausea. It's both reassuring and an absolute drag! If psycho boss starts to carry on like last time could you potentially vomit on her?

Lady Good luck for Thurs.

Big waves to all those I haven't name-checked (I did promise to keep posts shorter, not doing v well so far!)

Has anyone seen AandR around? Hope you're ok if you're lurking lovely lady xx

I'm sorry I haven't been on here for a while - so much seems to have happened!

lily that sounds utterly rubbish - as if a mc wasn't bad enough without you having to go through this. I hope the D+C goes well. I am far too disorganised to use an ovulation kit or monitor so can't advise! Sorry.

mouse It seems you're feeling rough but remember - rough is good! I want to vomit and feel horrendous throughout my next pregnancy (weird, I know) just to know I'm pregnant and that it's working.

Welcome and congrats zam and also congrats smiley. I hope to be joining you in your up-duffed-ness very soon.

knitter that sounds absolutely terrifying and I am so glad everything was ok on the scan. You did right to get checked out for your own sanity if nothing else.

tomboy hope you're not stressing too much about lack of AF. Can I ask a dim question - what does CD mean?

LadyM good luck with waiting for the scan - not long now. fx all will be fine for you and the little bean.

hello wiggle and welcome back. I'm so sorry for your awful loss and experience. It's beyond awful - you must have been through hell. Congratulations on your BFP and hope you can try not to stress out too much (easier said than done, obv).

Welcome cero. Mc at 16 weeks must be horrendous. Both mine were first trimester losses (but mmc so mc a lot later than baby measured) and I can't imagine how it must feel for a later loss when you think everything is going to be fine.

digi good luck for scan on sat. Is this an extra scan? I think it is totally normal to worry. I think I'll be worrying until the baby is in my arms and we're back at home!

My last few weeks of bad luck have now hopefully finished although I had my wisdom tooth removed yesterday and am feeling quite rough still. Ouch. We were supposed to be TTC this week but I have a feeling it's not going to happen with me feeling like this. Maybe it's nature's way of telling us not to try this month. I went to see a counsellor last week about the mcs which was quite useful. She told me that my reactions are completely normal and that I need to be kind to myself and sleep, eat good food and do some meditation. I have completely forgotten to meditate and I haven't been able to eat since having my tooth out. Maybe I'll try again tomorrow. She also said she would advise me not to TTC until I feel in a better state emotionally which is also what my acupuncturist said. But I feel like the only way of resolving the situation is by having a healthy pregnancy and baby....catch 22.

Waves to everyone I missed...sorry for huge post!

SO grateful to have found this space...I have been walking around for months feeling like nobody GETS it (including, and especially my husband!)...and suddenly I find a whole crowd of people who really, really do. It's a huge relief.
itsabear I feel exactly the same. A healthy baby seems my only option. Without that, I don't see a way through the sadness.
getawiggleon Thank you...fingers tightly crossed!
lily06 you poor poor thing that sounds utterly awful
mousebacon Were you offered an early scan or is it something you have to ask for?

Knitter great news on the scan, glad all is ok!

wiggle so sorry for your loss. But great to hear about the BFP (have to say, I love your name - DH says it all the time! You're not from South Wales by any chance??)

ceropegia welcome to the thread - so sorry to hear about your loss, sounds like you had a horrendous time. I know what you mean about no-one gettin it - my mc was much earlier than yours, but I felt like everyone (except DH) just either forgot or ignored it, so it was great to find a group of people who understand what you're going through

mouse I don't know whether to hope you feel better soon or not! I think, in the nicest possible way, I hope you feel sick for a good few weeks yet (YKWIM )

Lily sorry to hear your news, hope it all goes smoothly (IYSWIM) for you.

Tina how are things with you? Fingers crossed for your 2ww!

I ov'd early this month, at CD 10, same as last cycle but that was 31 days long, so my 2ww ends sometime between Weds and Sat this week, I don't think I'll get a BFP but hey, we always hope don't we?? I've so far managed to deter myself from buying a HPT because I know if it's here, I'll use it, BFN, disappointed, "maybe it's just too early", ad infinitum. So I WILL wait until at least sunday Monday! I don't think DH could cope with last month's fiasco again anyway, so he'll be firm if I show any signs of caving

Gosh, long post, sorry! Will try to be more succinct in future

Tina thanks for asking ...DS is still a bit wigged out - I've had to sleep in with him 3 out of the last 4 nights after not co-sleeping for months

wiggle The scan this morning was me wibbling at 8+3... Will have Nuchal and CVS on the 8th of Nov

Gosh, sorry Knitter I was going to ask about your DS but had forgotten by the time I got to write my post! Poor little thing, hope he recovers soon How old is he?

So I'm 4+1 today. Went to gynae on Monday to start injecting (diagnosed Factor V Leiden & probable sticky blood in August) and so far they've not hurt although the bruising is impressive - what's my tummy going to look like after several months?! The syringes are high-tech spring-loaded ones. And they cost TEN QUID EACH . Thank heavens I'm not paying....
We're still in Botswana, looks like another 18m-2yrs more. After much agonizing from both of us, DH eventually turned down the job in Sierra Leone. Still torn about whether we made the right decision, but hey ho. The medical care there is pretty much non-existent, so very thankful for my all-singing-all-dancing super overly cautious German gynae. I am now officially classified as a high risk pregnancy. Not sure what to think about that.
Going on a road/camping trip to Mozambique next week (day & a half's drive!) tho which should be interesting, hope there's no puking by then as I've been salivating over the thought of all those fresh prawns for months
HCG level on Monday was 10, back later today to check increase [wibble emoticon]
so will update again when I know xx

PS anyone heard from lovelies dachs or AandR??

Hey peeps!

Welcome ceropegia. Glad you have found us, but sorry that it had to be this way, for any of us. I'm really sorry about your loss. I like your name, does it mean anything in particular?

knitter That's excellent news on the scan, glad to hear it's all well with knit-bean. I went on a waltzer at 9 weeks with DS, which turned out NOT to be how I remembered, really quite vicious- and worried for days after, but all was well.

lily sorry to hear that- I'm sure that it's something or nothing, but it's just another obstacle to cross isn't it? Hope you are ok.

mouse that sounds like the best decision, I think. It's a shame you can't rely on anyone for support, but it will hopefully make your life easier for longer. Do you think your colleagues have noticed but are being polite? Or just oblivious?!

Hi wiggle So sorry that you have had so much to deal with, you sound like you are being very brave. A massive squeee for the new BFP.

zam sounds like you are being well looked after! Hurrah for cautious German Gynae's.[hsmile]

edwards good luck anyway- you never know! As they say, it only takes one!

Thanks to all those who commented on the dissertation. Unfortunately, I think that's that really. Never mind, I it's only one part of the year, equivalent to half of my third year, so hopefully I can pull it back. Although, my timings for this semester aren't too good...

In other news, today is a momentous day. 29 weeks, and I was offered a seat on the train for the first time this pregnancy. This evidently means that I am looking so pg that I can no longer be mistaken for just being fat.

Waves to everyone else, aandr I hope you are ok xx

Oh god, I've finished work now. That makes it all seem very real. And scary.

yrmotb sorry, I missed your post re the dissertation. Chin up, lovely, it's probably not as much of a disaster as you think. On one of my finals papers I completely forgot to read the instructions and answered the wrong number if questions for each bit . I was marked down obviously but didn't affect my overall grade.

lily sorry you're having a crap time

wiggle I know, time is flying by in scary fashion. No, still no consensus on names but narrowed it down to Harry or Joseph for a boy, Catherine or Penelope for a girl. Cast your votes now.

Harry AND Joseph! Both lovely. Maybe Joseph if I was pushed.. And a massive WOOP for finishing work!

Afternoon ladies, it's a bit nippy out there so I've brought hot chocolate for all to share

knitter I totally understand the early wibbles! Glad you got the reasssurance you needed.

edward I'm not from South Wales but coincidentally DH is! I picked the expression up from my cousin in Newcastle!

zam I had to inject Clexane throughout my last pregnancy. I made an absolute mess of my stomach the first few days until I got the hang of it and it took me most of the first trimester to get rid of them! Did they tell you to inject at an angle? I found it easier if the syringe was almost flat to my tummy.

YRMOTB I made an absolute balls up of an oral exam in my finals and thought I'd ruined the whole thing but I still ended up with a 2.1. You'll be fine! Hurray for a seat on the train too!

Izz Lovely names! I love Harry and Joseph. I've spent the last two years composing a list of names. It gets longer with each pregnancy and I still can't make any decisions. Would you use nicknames for the girls?

Bear CD is short for cycle day

Ok, so I had my early scan today. Not really sure why they wanted to do one at this stage (5+3 today) but I think they were concerned about multiples after I had a v high oestrogen reading. We saw one yolk sac on the screen and another dark small circle but the doctor was pretty certain it wasn't another! Everything is looking healthy so far. They want me to rescan next weds when they will look for a hb. (After that I think I'll put myself in the care of the NHS and the hands of the gods as this private malarky is costing a fortune!)

Yay! for good scan wiggle . Roll on next week so we can celebrate seeing a hb!

Re girls names, I would try to stick to full names but accept dh is unlikely to so I've said I can live with Kate or Katy for Catherine, or Poppy for Penelope.

Oh crap. Second HCG level same as the first. So that's it for me this time.
But I still feel so sick [wail]

Oh zam I'm sorry to hear that . How far apart were they taken? What happens now?

Thinking of you xxxx

Oh Hell zam. Exactly the same as the first? Sorry to hear that. What do they think?

wiggle good to hear scan went well.

sorry to hear that Zam dont give up hope beans can be funny things, big hugs xx

zam any increase at all? Am crossing my fingers that bean's hanging on in there. Hope you're doing ok xx

zam so sorry - is it really as bad as you think [ignorant emoticon] can the numbers catch up again?

wiggle lovely news - good scan. And definitely worth going back to see the hb next week methinks - so reassuring

Izzy DS is called Joseph so you can't use that!! I love the name so perhaps I should see it as the most sincere form of flattery... oh go on then I suppose you can :)

edward DS is 3y3mo... so still young...

I'm away at a work conference at the moment - back home tomorrow evening. Apparently DS had a wobble when I wasn't there this morning and refused to get dressed. DH left him to it with a pile of clothes and went to iron his shirt and feed the chickens. When he came back DS was getting himself dressed (exciting new skill) although his t-shirt was back to front apparently.

I still have had no pg symptoms since Friday - maybe I should be pleased rather than worried!

Thanks for your kind words but levels exactly the same, 48hrs apart, not gone up at all let alone doubled. On the up side no need to worry re puking, shellfish or alcohol for forthcoming Mozambique road trip. But vv sad - had a really good feeling about this one. DH has taken DS's out for pizza while I wail by myself. Back to gynae on Mon if no AF.

Oh zam I'm so sorry I hope you're getting lots of love and cuddles in rl xx

Yay for good scannage wiggle

[pukey face] from me xxx

zam so sorry you are going through this. What did the docs say? It's strange that it's exactly the same as the first one. I hope af stays away and that this is just a slow burner xx

So sorry to hear your news Zam.

Knitter glad to hear your scan went okay.

Welcome (back) to those new to the thread. Sounds like you've had a terrible time of things. I hope your stay brings better luck!

Still no news from me. No AF, a few symptoms but not the ones I had last time I was pg, but after two BNFs this cycle I'm reluctant to test again. Still it's been about a week since the last BFN, so I should really (wo)man up and get out another stick. sigh

Big (((hug))) zam