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Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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mousebacon · 21/08/2011 20:43

Roll up, roll up...

This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

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Velvetcu · 17/10/2011 07:36

Congrats zam GrinGrin and welcome back!

SmileyGirl1 · 17/10/2011 08:04

Huge congrats Zam!!!

TinaOnHerBroomstick · 17/10/2011 09:12

GrinGrinGrin for zam! Where will you be living when you're due?

Smile for the return of some familiar faces

CollieandPup · 17/10/2011 09:17

Whooo Congratulations zam fantastic news!!!! Grin

(thanks for the tip off *tina) x

Youremindmeofthebabe · 17/10/2011 09:56

Congratulations zam and smiley- it's a hive of happy BFP activity around here recently- so lovely to hear it all.

velvet how's it going? Enjoying the maternity leave?

All well over here, just busy busy. Handed in my dissertation and after 24 hours realised that I had made a monumental cock up. God only knows how I didn't realise it at the time, but hey-ho. Starting children's literature now. Week 29 is beckoning, and I can no longer reach my toes very well. I seem to have exploded in the last week. Boo.

welcome back falcons. Glad to hear you're in a happier place. I really feel post due date you go a bit easier on yourself.

mouse did you decide to keep schtum with evil boss?

Waves to all. [hsmile]

edwardcullensotherwerewolf · 17/10/2011 10:50

Hi ladies! Sorry I've been away for so long - looks like I've missed loads!
I've tried to catch up, but by the time I get tp the bottom I forget what's happening with everyone Confused

I had an extremely obsessive understatement of the year month last month; was convinced I was pg but then got AF Sad So I've been keeping calm this month (which is why I haven't been here I'm afraid, just trying to keep pg thoughts out of my head!) AF due this week and I'm feeling like it too so will be trying again next month I think!

Anyway, hope all is well with everyone, and congrats to the bumps and BFPs that have come up since I was here last Smile

Does anyone have any nice plans for half term?

KnitterNotTwitter · 17/10/2011 12:10

Zam great news

Falcon and edward and twitt nice to have you back :)

Feeling a big down about the pg at the moment. Bascially had a nasty shock on Friday when I had to pretty much leap into the swimming pool during DS's swimming lesson when he lost hold of the bar at the side of the pool and started properly drowning - was very scary. It's one of those pools which are standing on the floor and all the parents watch standing by the side - so you're kind of at the same height as your child in the water. I had to leap up onto the the side of the pool and lean in to grab DS. Obviously this meant basically having all my weight pivoting on the side of the pool which was pressed into my womb area. Since then I've had no pg feelings at all.

I'm away for work Tues to Fri and then in a board meeting Friday so can't get a scan. I think they're open Saturday but that feels a long time away. DH thinks I'm being a bit melodramatic about it but I guess I'm just preparing for the worst case scenario... again...

Sorry to be so down folks

digitalgirl · 17/10/2011 13:44

Fantastic news zam!

welcome back falcons

knitter oh god, that sounds very scary. I'm pretty sure that bean will have been well protected. Are you bruised at all? If not, then bean is definitely ok. If you did injure yourself then you should probably get yourself checked out as well as the baby. Is there no way you could pop out in the evening to get a private scan somewhere nearby or are you abroad at the mo? Hopefully you'll start to get some reassuring symptoms soon.

KnitterNotTwitter · 17/10/2011 14:04

Thanks digi...

Actually there is a chance I could creep out of work conference on Wed evening - anyone know anywhere in Coventry that would do an evening scan... DH would be cross to not be there but I think I need to know....

digitalgirl · 17/10/2011 14:09

knitter quick google turned this up. But there seems to be a few places.

KnitterNotTwitter · 17/10/2011 15:09

thanks digi

Was investigating times etc when my first meeting tomorrow morning was cancelled - think I'm going to sneak off and get one at St Georges without telling DH... bad I know....

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 17/10/2011 15:12

Congrats zam and congrats smiley - fantastic news!!!! Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

ecow sorry af arrived Sad

Welcome back falcons

knitter wow that must have been really scary. As others have said, bean is well cushioned and I'm sure is fine...but obviously that won't stop the mentalling so if I were you I would try and get that scan asap to put your mind at rest. Skip out of work thing if you can, dh will get over it (sorry mrknitter !) and you won't be able to concentrate anyway if you're worrying about things x

KnitterNotTwitter · 17/10/2011 15:41

Thanks again guys. I guess what is freaking me out mostly is the total absence of pregnancy symptoms since Friday. I spent most of last week with an increasing nausea throughout the day. Since friday nothing... Mind you it was jolly handy for the weekend as DH was away and I was on DS duty by myself!

TheFalconsmistress · 17/10/2011 16:38

congrats zam thats awsome!!

Thank you for the warm welcome back, i have been naughty and never went into college today i am feeling very guilty feel like im 15 again just really wanted to spend the day with my family :)

TomboyWife · 17/10/2011 22:28

Congrats for the new BFPs! So many I'm having trouble keeping up! It's been such a lucky couple of weeks round here.

Knitter having to fish your DS out of that pool sounds properly not fun at all. Sad As others have said, it's pretty hard to hurt the bean in the early weeks. I hope you're able to put your mind at ease soon.

YRMOTB congrats on handing in your dissertation!

No news from me. Still no AF, I'm not even sure what CD I'm up to now (lots anyway), I feel like I've had PMT for a fortnight, but I haven't tested again. Two BFNs this cycle is plenty I think.

LadyMaybe · 17/10/2011 23:42

ZamMummy congratulations!!!, fantastic news. Am I remembering rightly that you got diagnosed with a clotting factor? Best of luck with this and have everything crossed that it all goes very smoothly. And where are you? Did you end up moving?

YRMOTB, well done on the dissertation - I bet the cock up isn't as obvious as you think - do you get a chance to defend it? Children's lit sounds great - is it a historical survey or are they looking at particular themes?

Knitter, if you get a scan I hope it shows that all is well. That must have been quite an adrenaline surge dealing with it. Was DS ok after it all or very upset? I keep meaning to get my DS back into swimming - there's a pool quite close to me, but so far have been too lazy/disorganised to actually do it. But that reminds me to try to find that 'drowning doesn't look like drowning' website that mummyA once linked to. Might dust the cobwebs off my facebook account and link to it there - summer's nearly here in NZ and drowning is a huge issue here.
Symptoms do fluctuate, as I'm sure you know. But the scan is the only thing that will reassure so hope you got it.

This thread had dropped off my threads I'm on, so I guess I must have been lurking - didn't feel like it was so long though Smile I'm going quietly mental waiting for the dating/nuchal scan this Thursday and hoping that nothing has gone wrong in the 2 weeks since my last one. We had a lovely distracting weekend with friends to stay and a big BBQ before watching the semifinal where NZ got through - thank goodness. I think the country would have been in a state of mourning if they hadn't made it. I felt very sorry for Wales though, they deserved to win IMHO.

getawiggleon · 18/10/2011 00:00

Hello again lovely ladies, mind if I pop my head back in here again? It looks like this has turned into another lucky thread, it's so lovely to see all these new BFPs especially those that have suffered the horrors of rmc. Too many new diffders so I don't want to list everyone for fear of missing anyone out but brilliant, brilliant news!! Congratulations to all Grin

I lurked in here for a while after my bfp but didn't join the freak out room as I wasn't really freaking out, yet I was hanging out until 12 weeks before I braved the grads thread. I would have been 27 weeks now but sadly we didn't make it past our 12 week scan back in July. After getting through the first trimester we thought we were out of the woods but when the sonographer turned to another doctor for a second opinion I sensed that something was not right. We were told that the baby had acrania (anencephaly), a lethal neural tube defect which means that the forebrain hadn't developed. The cranium then remains open and the brain exposed. Babies with this condition usually carry to term and, if they do survive childbirth, they only live for a couple of minutes, hours at the most. The condition is described as 'incompatible with life'

We were devastated, obviously (the chances of it occurring are 1 in 1000) and so sadly we terminated at 13 weeks, it was heartbreaking. We have since found out that it was a little girl we lost, we have already have a DD which, in some ways, made it even harder (apparently the condition is twice as common in female foetuses) all the other chromosomes were fine, so in fact was the rest of her - we saw 10 knuckles, 10 toes, the vertebrae etc.

I've been put on industrial strength Folic Acid (5mg per day, which is 10 times the usual dose) to try and prevent it from happening again and the hospital will scan me at 10-11 weeks to try and rule it out in future pregnancies?.

?which brings me to the good news...

I had two periods after the operation and we were very lucky to get a bfp just two weeks ago. I'm now 5+1 and BRICKING it! I just feel numb, like I can't even begin to think I am pregnant until I get past the 10 weeks scan. And I haven't told a soul this time. I just can't bring myself to.

The clinic that monitored the pg last time haven't recommended progesterone or prednisolone this time as they say everything looks ok so far. They want to give me an early scan this weds though to check that everything is in the right place. So, I guess we just take it from here, or there, or however far we get this time! Here we go again?!

Sorry to bring sad news to the thread. I took a self-imposed break from mn after it all happened and also I didn't want to scare anyone until I had some better news to share. So, if you'll allow me back in, I'd love to rejoin you. I do remember saying to mouse that I wasn't leaving this thread until everyone had a bfp (and I'd like to turn the lights off in here by the end of the year please!)

Oh lord, just realised that this is one epic post Will try and keep posts shorter and more regular in future x

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 18/10/2011 07:13

how lovely to hear from you! I'm so so sorry to hear about your little girl, it's so cruel to be hit with bad news at the end of the first trimester when you're just starting to think about relaxing, and such an awful decision you had to make yet with no real element of choice Sad Sad. Big (((hugs))) coming your way xxx

But what lovely news to hear about your bfp Smile Smile. I can only imagine what a roller coaster you've been on (and are still on at the minute!). I'll be keeping everything crossed for you and miniwiggle and hope you get the easy and uneventful eight months that you deserve xx

ceropegia · 18/10/2011 09:48

I'm new....may I join you?
I saw the 'post mc' bit and pounced! - just what I've been looking for!
I'm 10 dpo after ttc (properly) for a couple of months.
I have one DD 2.5years old - she rocks!
Had hideous mc in Jan at 16 weeks - a baby boy...totally normal as far as they could tell, so no explanation. Finding it v hard to move on.
Trying again has been difficult, and hugely disappointing as it happened so instantly with first two pgs.
As you all know, there's huge fear around having another mc, particularly as this one was so late, when I thought I was out of the woods, and also because they nearly lost me as well as the baby.
Anyway, one step at a time I guess. Hoping madly for BFP this month :)
x

KnitterNotTwitter · 18/10/2011 11:03

Hey

Back from my scan and all fine - saw little bean and hb till squelching away. Such a relief. I cried obv. So glad i went as I'd be a wreck by the end of the week otherwise - wouldn't be good for me or bean.

thanks for all the fingers crossed ... you're all fab

KnitterNotTwitter · 18/10/2011 11:05

And 'hi' wiggle lovely to have you back

And Welcome to ceropegia

  • lovely to have you both with us.
digitalgirl · 18/10/2011 13:47

Oh wiggle what a tragic tragic story. Totally understand why you'd want to avoid mn for a while but it is lovely to have you back. And back with a bfp no less! Amazing news!!! Everything crossed for this one to be ok.

Welcome ceropegia. So sorry for your loss - must have been truly devastating to have that happen at 16 weeks. I'm 14 weeks now and still bricking it.

ladym glad you're finding distractions to get you through. It's tough when they start to space out the scans.

Speaking of which I tried to get a mw appointment this week - feeling a bit nervous after coming off the prednisolone - and have been booked in for a scan on Saturday! Now I am worried. The pred withdrawal side effects have worn off I don't feel particularly pg. Getting occasional weirdy cramps too, which is a bit unnerving. Am pretty sure if someone else was posting this I'd be telling them not to worry all sounds perfectly normal for 14 weeks. But still...

ceropegia · 18/10/2011 14:06

Thanks ladies for the lovely welcome..

Knitter so great to hear that hb isn't it? - so pleased for you

Digitalgirl Normal to be frightened I think...we wouldn't be human would we? I know if I get pg (fingers crossed) I'll be scared all the way through...but I just keep thinking about all those babies born in SUCH terrible situations...in wars etc...and they all stick, don't they. I keep telling myself that if it's meant to stick, it'll stick!

Stupidly emotional atm...with constant, low-level cramping, but won't test till AF due (on 21st) or after.
x

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 18/10/2011 16:11

knitter fantastic news re scan Grin x

digi well done for sorting out mw appts - big step! I think the early second trimester is always hard as a lot of the tired sicky symptoms have worn off but you're not yet feeling movements etc, I'm sure everything's fine Smile

welcome ceropegia - I'm sorry for your loss Sad. I also lost my dc3 at 16 wks after two easy pgs, so can understand what a horrible shock it can be at that stage (although your experience sounds particularly traumatic). I'm now 34 weeks but don't think the mentalling ever really stops when you're so aware of what can go wrong! Hope you get your bfp soon

lily06 · 18/10/2011 17:15

Afternoon ladies,

Knitter really glad everything is still fine

Sorry not to name-check everyone, just a quick post from me to say I had hoped to be joining the TTC group here this week, but I had a scan on Monday because my hcg levels were still showing positive 11 weeks after my tfmr. The consultant did get my hopes up briefly saying it was probably a new pregnancy (brain said no, but heart hoped anyway), but now confirmed not. Scan showed no retained products (lovely term they use, isn't it) but did show abnormal very thick lining full of cysts. Result is I'm booked in for a d&c and biopsy in three weeks time. Consultant was lovely, but didn't know what to say other than 'you do seem to have had a run of bad luck'. Oh yes.

Will continue to lurk for a while and look forward to seeing lots of good scan news and bfps.