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Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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mousebacon · 21/08/2011 20:43

Roll up, roll up...

This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

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CollieandPup · 07/10/2011 23:05

I think it helps to have one person know at work. I took me a long time to tell anyone but when I did it was a huge relief having someone know. It's good she understands too. Glad the mentalling is tame! Do you have a secret stash off sticks you've peed on??? Smile

I'm ok thanks. Soooo tired. And uncomfortable! I feel like my belly might actually explode!!! Seriously, I don't know how this baby can get any bigger.... there is just no room!!!

mousebacon · 08/10/2011 08:38

I've got my 2 'would-be-negative-to-a-lay-person' internet cheapies, a FR and my over-estimating cb digi which is now blank. Not bad really! I reasoned with myself that continuing to poas would just lead to worry if they didn't behave the way I wanted them to!

I remember that full feeling with DS. I think I got it at about 35 weeks and then I swelled up to EPIC proportions and went to 41 weeks Grin I didn't get any stretch marks though so clearly miracles do happen!

I have a weekend of 4th/5th birthday parties ahead of me this weekend. I hope my resolve not to tell lasts with my mummy friends. Unfortunately 'are you pg yet?' is usually their first question!

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend xx

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Velvetcu · 08/10/2011 09:00

I've got 4 tests too mouse and was actually looking at them just yesterday - is it weird to keep them?? I wish the digis kept some sort of display though. How is school at the moment? I'm still getting emailed about the behaviour of my classes even though I've been off for 4 weeks now!

Hope everyone is good

TinaOnHerBroomstick · 08/10/2011 09:44

velvet and mouse I've still got the tests I took when pregnant with dd Blush

Youremindmeofthebabe · 08/10/2011 15:28

izz is it only 7.5 weeks? God, that seems to have come round quick.

tina loving the new name! I will change mine too soon, they are all variations on the same theme, bat, bunny, babe... Good luck for Ov time- this must be your month, a non drinking christmas must surely beckon.

aandr hope you're ok there.

digi How's it going? And lady. Hope you are both as relaxed and chilled as you can get.

mouse has evil boss been any better this term, or still cowbag?

velvet are you all done and dusted now? I'm so jealous, my work is becoming a lickle crazy.

Waves to all, Off to get wet going home now.

Twittwooo · 08/10/2011 18:00

Hi everyone, I don't think it's unusual to keep tests. I have done two this pregnancy and still have them, but don't have any from previous attempts.

Today I am 6 weeks and have been feeling nauseous with a headache all day. I'm so happy, because I didn't feel like this at all with the last two so I'm hoping it's a good sign. No sickness yet, but definite nausea. If it gets worse, I'm not sure how I'll cover up at work but I'm sure I'll find a way. It sounds like there are at least a couple of teachers on this thread from some of the things I've read?

Hope you're all having a relaxing weekend. I'm having a plain lazy one so far! x

mousebacon · 08/10/2011 19:24

Hi all,

Hope you got home without getting too wet YRMOTB Smile

I still have the one, solitary test I did for DS (oh, such a simple time when one was all I needed!)

Scary psycho boss has actually been quite normal since the start of term. I was observed by a literacy consultant the other day and that went really well too. The only thing is, I'm too scared to tell her about this pregnancy incase she turns psycho again - I'm already aware of her victimising and bullying another member of staff this year and we've only been back 5 weeks.... What would you do in my position? Tell and get the risk assess in place or hold off and enjoy the peace until you've had a scan?

Twittwooo My symptoms tend to get worse around the 7-8 week mark but I'm also feeling more positive about this pg as the last 2, I had no symptoms until about 8 weeks but with this one and my DS the symptoms (nausea, weeing, bloating etc) started before the test.

Velvet it's time to start ignoring the emails! Hope you get some peace soon.

xxx

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Velvetcu · 08/10/2011 20:41

I kept quiet mouse - couldn't be bothered to deal with the hassle if it was all going to go wrong anyway!

Yup yrmotb I'm all done with work, only 2 weeks til due date so I can barely waddle round my house let alone a classroom full of teenagers! I had never considered the fact that a full term baby bump is actually heavy and pretty much unsupported so makes you ache a lot! When are you going on mat leave?

Freezingmyarseoff · 08/10/2011 20:42

Hey
Wow you're very chatty at the moment!

Tina love the name! and yay for the ewcm. I didn't put my name for being contacted on the MC questionnaire. Well done for doing that.

Mouse I would keep quiet until the scan tbh. You really don't need extra stress. Can you do your own risk assessment mentally? Is there anything you need to avoid now. If so perhaps I would get tell her but if it's a case of just being sensible yourself then I would keep quiet. I'm thinking, say a chemistry teacher, might need to avoid certain chemicals.

waves to Bigmac

How are you lily?

Sorry this meant to be a longer post but DD just woken (v unusual) up so must dash
Waves to everyone x

mousebacon · 08/10/2011 20:48

No specific things other than working with a load of snotty, grotty children!

Think I'll try and have a scan at half term (I'll be 7 weeks by then) and take it from then.

Hope all was well with DD freezing xx

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TomboyWife · 09/10/2011 12:06

Well, I knew it was too early, but I gave in and wasted a pg test last night. BFN, possible 'cause it's too early. [kippers self]

TomboyWife · 09/10/2011 12:06

Oops, that's "possibly".

digitalgirl · 09/10/2011 14:26

tomboy early testing in the evening? that deserves a wet fish!

mouse scan in half term sounds like a sensible plan. And pleased to hear boss-bitch had toned down. Also glad to hear both you and twittwoo are feeling more positive about your symptoms.

I have a ginormous bump (for 13 weeks today) and am not planning on 'outing' myself at work till the screening tests come back ok - boss knows, but also knows I'm not ready to say anything yet. Just can't face the congratulations from people. Still not told my dad, think he's twigged and is prob upset that I haven't shared.

In other news - I am making beetroot chutney and it smells delicious!

SmileyGirl1 · 09/10/2011 15:53

Mouse huge congratulations!! Sorry only congratulating now, been reading on my phone but wasn't able to update while away in scotland

Knitter huge congratulations to you too!! GOsh I really hope all this good news keeps spreading to us all!

Welcome Bigmac!!

Twitwoo great you feel unwell (if you know what i mean!) - it's hard but def def reassuring isn't it?

We were away for a week and had a supe lovely time but I felt just awful on the way home today, obviously my mind has started to work at 100 miles an hour, could i possibly be pg.. such a tiny tiny chance given we only bd once when i got the pos opk as i was then away on a 2 day pre-arranged break with my family who live far away so like i don't see how we would be lucky enough. Based on MC, i'd be due to get TOM today/tomorrow but given I ovulated so late I had thought that would be Thursday. What with being away I haven't thought about POAS but i'm sooo tempted now even though like i know i'm just probably kidding myself.

Anyhow hope you ladies are all super super well Smile

Freezingmyarseoff · 09/10/2011 19:56

good plan on the scan at half term Mouse. DD was fine, don't know what that was. Something about being overtired I think.

Digital mmm, chutney sounds good. You domestic goddess you. I always thought is a bit weird to make chutney but this year I find myself seriously considering, so I think I have finally seen the light. You're definitely not weird btw

Thwack for you Tomboy testing early and in the evening Hmm

hoping AandR is okay, but understand if she can't face posting. sometimes a break is a good thing.

Not much to report from here other than I am completely shattered. Doc put me on some antibiotics as I have a bit of chest infection and don't want to avoid ending in hospital like last time so I'm off to bed I think.

Waves to you all
x

Twittwooo · 10/10/2011 08:16

Smiley and Tomboy - it's so hard to wait to POAS, isn't it? Fingers crossed for a BFP when the time is right!

Mouse - I would wait before telling your boss, although from what you say I suspect she's not the nicest person so perhaps there's more to it. I plan to wait as long as I can, but I think I'll have to give in just before the Christmas night out so people don't guess when I'm not drinking! I'm on a temporary contract, so I don't want to put myself in a vulnerable position, but from what I can tell the law is pretty clear on these things.

It is reassuring to have morning sickness, isn't it? I've been nauseous for three days now so hopefully it's a good sign.

Freezing - hope you feel better soon.

Waves to everyone else. xx

SmileyGirl1 · 10/10/2011 09:18

Twitwoo hope the symptoms continue nicely for you!

Tomboy I did the same (ashamed!) tested yesterday evening on only day 10 dpo.. silly silly i know i know but i just couldn't help it. No surprise it was a big fat BFN.

I'm smothered in a cold, sore throat now too which will no doubt delay AF if that's what due to come this week and inadvertently raise my hopes. I do feel a bit nauseous but i think it's just the general cold etc. I hate getting DH's hopes up too i keep saying i'm def not pg when secretly hoping i am, so so much.

Freezing hope you are feeling better

LadyMaybe · 10/10/2011 10:27

Hi everyone, just checking in - I'm reading but just struggling a bit at the moment with ongoing nausea, worry, tiredness etc feeling very blah. Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you all even when I've disappeared a bit. Just trying to get though these next 2 weeks really.

itsabear · 10/10/2011 14:39

Can I ask a bit of panicky questions? Having been told that my test results were clear, I've now got to go in and give more blood as the results are abnormal. Specifically this relates to Lupus Anticoagulant. Now, I think having read Regan's book that they didn't perform the tests correctly. I only had one lot of bloods done and these were at my surgery. Clearly they were not going to get these processed and tested within an hour....also it was only one set of tests. I was still mcing too. Don't know if that affects it.

So having googled Lupus Anticoagulant and had a minor freakout (mc, heart attack, stroke! Eek!) I'm now thinking I didn't have the tests done at all properly....which is much more reassuring. Kind of annoyed with my surgery for saying it was all fine initially though.

I realise I should probably post this in a mc testing thread but I can't cope with more than one thread at a time!

Hi to everyone - will catch up with the thread later. Sorry to just post about me....x

LadyMaybe · 10/10/2011 18:40

Hi itsabear, I think that the lupus anticoag is a type of antiphos

LadyMaybe · 10/10/2011 18:50

Argh! Phone!
Ahem.. Antiphospholipid antibody and that they should repeat it before diagnosing. However I don't think it necessarily means you have lupus. I think having the one positive test done while you probably still had some levels of pg hormones is a pretty strong indicator that blood thinners while pg might be helpful in your case. If you get a negative next time and the gp tries to dismiss it I'd be very strongly pushing for a referral to a rec mc specialist with knowledge of APS or going privately. Well done for getting those initial tests.

mousebacon · 11/10/2011 18:34

Hi ladies. Hope all is well with you Smile

I'm 5 weeks today I feel like I've known for ages and am no further forward! I also plucked up the courage to book a scan in half term so I'm counting down the days to that now. I already know I'll ask her to rescan me a fortnight later too (9weeks+ is my danger zone).

How's everyone else?

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TinaOnHerBroomstick · 11/10/2011 19:26

Yay for bump digital! Smile

Boo for bfn tomboy

AandR any news? How are you?

for mouse, well done for taking that first step, we'll be there with you in spirit x

Sorry itsabear, I have no lupus knowledge to offer you.

Sorry you're feeling icky lady, as hard as it is to see the good side of hugging the toilet it is a positive!

My body tricked me into thinking I'd ov'd on saturday but then my temp fell again. I've been feeling slightly flu-y for a few days so I guess it's that...acupuncture tomorrow...

digitalgirl · 11/10/2011 21:30

itsabear most hospitals have standard tests for anti-phospholipid antibodies and lupus anticoagulant so they will have tested it correctly. The specialist test Lesley Regan is referring to is the Thromboelastogram (TEG) which has to be tested within an hour of the blood being taken. It's a different test that measures a certain kind of clotting. If you are seen at St Mary's they'll offer you this test in a non-pregnant state and then re-test you once you are pregnant. If it shows an abnormality when pregnant they will offer you aspirin as treatment.
I think the lupus anti-coag test doesn't necessarily mean you'll have lupus if it come back abnormal. But as ladyb says it could indicate that when pregnant you have anti-bodies that cause the blood to thicken. So again this may be an aspirin treatment, or Clexane if they think it warrants something stronger.
Ideally you should have the tests repeated 6-8 weeks apart, as it could be the pregnancy hormones skewing the results. I definitely think if you're getting these tests done then you should be reffered to a specialist consultant rather than have your gp try and interpret the results and guess a treatment plan for you. Most GPs are not miscarriage experts.

mouse well done for booking scan. I (possibly powered by steroids) planned loads of social events for my early weeks to keep me distracted. That and the fact that I was still in denial at 7 weeks got me through it.

knitter how are you doing? Keeping busy?

tina how annoying - I know how frustrating it is to get those rogue high temps followed by a bunch of low temps. Hope the needles help.

smiley a cold sounds like a possible pg symptom. Unless you were ill during the time you ovulate it shouldn't delay your period. Once you've ovulated its pretty much certain that your period will turn up in the number of days your luteal phase length it. (It varies from 10-15 days from woman to woman, but if yours is 12 days, then it will almost always be 12 days). Sorry if I sound like a weird menstrual cycle know-it-all, it's my attempt at reassuring you that hopefully AF won't be late because of a cold, but hopefully because of a BFP!

twittwoo glad to hear of more reassuring symptoms!

freezing hope you're feeling a bit better on the ABs.

Had my dating scan and combined screening test today. Scan went well, measuring 13+1 today so I'm back to my original 16th April due date. NT measures 2mm which is within range for 13 weeks. Just waiting on blood results now. But feeling hopeful, it was lovely to see our little baby today.

mousebacon · 12/10/2011 07:25

Am so thrilled for you digi Grin Thank you for the distraction advice too - I'll definitely follow your lead with that. Just need to get through it I suppose!

Morning all xx

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