Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

Mouse I had a scan at 8 weeks with the EPU, as last time they said they would see me early this time. I still had to get a referral from my GP though, and I didn't see her until 7.5 weeks, couldn't face doing anything earlier. I didn't actually book in with a midwife until after the scan.

Twittwoo I'm sorry that you (probably) can't get an early scan, but at least you have a lovely GP, it does make a big difference.

Mouse it's so hard not to think about it but I agree with Twittwoo and trying to think about things in smaller chunks is quite helpful (well in my experience anyway), although I do generally tend to over think things through

confu3ed sorry if this is unhelpful but I know people who have got a BFP in first month of Clomid, so don't rule it out just yet.

AandR thinking of you. Hope you are getting lots of hugs from your family.

Good morning

twitwoo could you ask your gp to lie bend the truth a bit? One of the gps at my surgery told me to come to him if I get pregnant again and he'd say that I'd had some cramps to refer me to epu. Saying that though, I completely understand your reluctance to go back there mouse, it's certainly not somewhere I'd want to go back to either. The thought of that waiting room corridor makes me feel sick just thinking about it!

for knitter

Waves to everyone else. I've got ewcm early this cycle, I think that my body is attempting to correct itself.

Thanks for the lovely words folks.

Re scans: mine is just a walk-in clinic at St Georges so it's a case of booking the husband and we head along. The scans I've had were:

PG1 - just the normal 12 week and 23 week scans -> DS
PG2 - ectopic - no scans until preparation for emergency surgery as didn't know was pregnant
PG3 - scan at 5 weeks to check not ectopic, scan at 7 weeks to see heartbeat, scan at 12 weeks as spotting - missed misscarriage
PG4 - scan at 6 weeks to check not ectopic, scan at 9 weeks to check not MC, normal 12 week scan where high probability Downs - confirmed by CVS
PG5 - scan at 7 weeks to check not ectopic next scan will be the CVS scan at 11 weeks probably 2/11/11

What a depressing list...

Trying hard to catch up, great to see these BFPs!!!! Huge congratulations knitter and mouse Hope you both have trouble free pregnancies.

Good news re the ewcm tina enjoy the next few days I'm CD16 (8 days of high readings on my monitor still waiting for a "peak") off to acupuncturist tonight so hopefully that will shift an egg out!

Waves to all others and promises to catch up properly soon x

Playing catch up, as ever.

Knitter, such lovely news I have everything crossed for you for a smooth ride this time xx

mouse, about scans, I booked at 7 weeks for an 8 week scan privately. My consultant did the scan and explained the risks and likelihood of seeing a HB. He also offered the reassurance already cited about reduced risk having seen HB at 8 weeks. I think it was probably the best 60 quid I've ever spent, and the scan photo I treasure the most. HTH. X

A&R, thinking of you xx

to everyone else

Thanks blackkat as it stands at the mo. If I try and go in half term I'll be 7 weeks but if I go th le following week I'll stand a much better chance of it being conclusive but then I suppose there should be a hb at 7 weeks shouldn't there?

Thinking of you aandr, really hoping there's a positive outcome for you x

Wonderful news Knitter!

Mouse - would you be just 7 weeks or could you go right at the end and squeeze to 7 1/2 weeks? A few days can make a difference but I guess they should see a hb then.

Knitter it is a tough old list, that's for sure. I have everything crossed that this time is the good one for you.

MissTina, great that cycle seems to be making an effort to get on track. Do you do the grapefruit juice/pineapple juice thing? It occurred to me that my two last pgs (including this one) I was drinking the juices. Just saying ...

Right, got to sleep. Bad night last night stressing, so will try my usual trick of listening to In Our Time podcasts - they usually give me a good nights sleep (sorry Melvyn)

loup fx that egg's about to pop!

ladym I don't like grapefruit juice but sainsburys have got a new apple/pineapple/lemongrass blend out that I've been drinking for the last week, not really for cm reasons but just to try, the cm thing did cross my mind when I bought it though!

Waves to everyone x

Congratulations mouse and knitter! Hoping that the next few weeks are as stress-free as possible. As regards scans, I know that next time I am pregnant I will be in two minds about an early scan. The consultant said I would be eligible to have an early scan but I don't know if I will end up having one. The EPU seem reluctant to give scans here...knitter that list looks very tough. The ectopic pregnancy must have been so scary.

Got me thinking about my scan history:

1st preg - scan at 6wks, 12 wks (where was told high risk downs (1 in 148) but then turned out after a few days that the consultant had miscalculated blood test results and was actually 1 in 1150), 20 wks = DD
2nd preg - nearly booked private scan but decided was being neurotic (!), 12wk scan showed MMC at 6 wks
3rd preg - booked private 'reassurance scan' at 7+5 which showed baby small for dates. Second scan at 9+3 showed baby had died.

Mcs take away all the excitement of scans, don't they. I am jealous of people who have all the innocence of not knowing how much can go wrong.

I still had a positive test on Monday morning so went to EPU where they refused to scan me as their test had come up negative. I was quite upset and asked them to do a blood test. The results are 4.7 which apparently is still higher than a non-pregnant woman would be but not high enough for concern.

Our bad luck continues this week as we had to rush to A&E on Monday evening with DD who had a high temperature. Obviously she perked up as soon as we got there and was soon racing round the wards causing havoc. Then I came down with a nasty case of tonsilitis and have been in bed since Tuesday. Not a good start to being back at work.

AandR - I hope you're coping ok. I remember those weeks inbetween scans being like some sort of strange twilight zone. x

Just had MNHQ on the phone. They want me to speak to some journalists about their mc campaign. Eek! Anyone else been phoned? I agreed in principle but only if I didn't have to have my photo taken.

And today brings....AF and a whole lot of pain. Oh, and an abscess in my tooth so off to the dentist for an emergency appointment. Anyone else have the feeling that their body is falling apart post-MC?

Sorry AF got you bear and sorry you're having such a miserable time post mc - hope this month gets better for you, you're definitely due some good luck.

How are you getting on tina? What day are you? Is it coming up to the 2ww ?

I'm day 18 today, got my first peak on the machine but also temp rise this morning so think i've missed it this month - does anyone have any advice on this? I suppose next month I should start DTD on cd16/17 to make sure we're not too late - am thinking about getting a duofertility machine (not that i'm obesessed or anything...)

Waves to all and sends lots of baby dust to those newly updiffed x

Hi, do you like my Halloween name

Sorry about af bear

I don't have any cbfm advice sorry loup, I've never taken the plunge with one! All I know about the duofertility monitor is that ages ago the manufacturer hijacked a thread that I'd started . I'm day 10 today and had a temp drop this morning so think I'll ov early this month.

We're going campervan shopping later, I'm very excited!

Hello everyone - I've spent time in the freakout room and am now a grad and didn't even realise this thread was here! I am a fool but I come bearing gifts of muffins and hot chocolate... can I come and play in here as well please?

bigmac, glad you found us! Muffins are always welcome in here, they'll top off the wotsits that I just scoffed whilst hiding from dd nicely

Afternoon ladies,

Bigmac lovely to see you in here as well, hope everything is going well.

Love the new name, Tina.

Thanks for the lovely welcome :) All is fine in bigmacland thanks. Look forward to catching up on all the news on here

I agree - a cracking name Tina

lovely to see you here!

bear I feel like that about scans, when I was pg with ds and dd I used to really look fwd to them as some kind of treat, this time round I find them really stressful and don't enjoy them at all, don't even look at the screen until someone tells me it's ok. I would love to get that pre-mc naïveté back...

aandr are you there? How are you doing?

Went to help out on my dsis's baby massage instructors course yesterday and felt quite freaked out at the new mums with small babies. I still don't think I've got my head around the fact that I might actually end up with a real baby in 7 and a bit weeks, it doesn't seem real, and actually I found it quite hard to look at those tiny babies. That's ridiculous isn't it? Just hoping it all sinks in soon and I don't have problems bonding etc due to inability to accept reality of pg ending up with baby

Hope you're all doing ok, especially those being visited by af (boo!), maniacally shagging or on the 2ww

itsabear sorry af is so painful...but, it's here. It's a fresh start. It's the end of the WTF cycle and hopefully no more positive tests until you are properly pregnant. The extra cramping is probably your body being extra ruthless at cleaning you out. Paracetemol and ibuprofen (and wine and chocolate...) should help. Hope this new cycle brings better luck with it.

bigmac hello, I remember you from the freakout thread during my last short-lived pg. Lovely to hear you're doing well.

loup is your temp well into your pre-ov range or in the grey area in between where it could potentially come back down? I think it's too early to call and if you got a peak today then give it a go until you get three high temps in a row. But if this is something that happens often then I'm afraid you may have to start swi earlier in your cycle (maybe alternate days till you get your first peak?)

tinabroomstick love the Halloween name! And how exciting that MNHQ contacted you. I think you're doing a wonderful thing - people just don't talk enough about miscarriage and we really need to break this taboo. I would have put my name down too, is it too late?

I'm feeling a little more tired now (had a 2 hr kip this afternoon) which I think is due to lowering the steroid dose. Was worried this would happen but I guess I'm just feeling genuine pregnancy symptoms as opposed to masking them - which I shouldn't complain about. Dating scan on Tuesday. Just need to get through this weekend.

Lurking for aandr. Hope you're ok lovey x

Evening ladies!

Tina love the new name. What manner of campervan are you looking for? We've just shelled out another £400 on ours, to clean up a bunch of rotting bits of the steering and suspension. We got ours for a song, but we're paying the difference bit by bit in repair bills. (Ours had been sitting for at least a couple of years before it came to us, so this is no real surprise.)

itsabear sorry for painful AF and frustrating lingering of positive tests. As others have said, at least your WTF cycle is out of the way now. Hopefully your bits are on their way back to normality now.

AandR thinking of you, hoping you're okay out there.

I'm on CD23 or so, I'm still feeling sick and over-emotional by spells, but I don't have any of the real giveaway pg symptoms (boobs not sore at all, for example), so I don't know what to think. I almost POASed tonight just for a lark, but Sensible Me won out and I didn't waste the test.

tomboy well done for being sensible! We want a transporter, we've got about £8000 to spend once we sell my car and it needs to fit on the drive so it won't be anything fancy! I'd love an old vw but I'd worry about reliability and nice ones cost more than we can afford. The place we went to this afternoon had sold most of their stock in the last few weeks, and what they did have was too expensive.

Good luck with your scan digital

Knitter it's so lovely to hear your lovely news congratulations!!! I joined the ttc after mc jpnot longer before you last bfp, and new you'd had a hard run before, npbut didn't know the detail. You've clearly been through so much, you really deserve this to work out!

bear so sorry about AF

mouse how ipare you doing containing the metalling? And how is the boss from hell?

lily, my lovely, hecare you? are you still waiting for your results?

izzy I feel like I can coo to my hearts content at other people's babies, but somehow that I'm actually having obe still doesn't feel real-despite all the preparation! I think the bonding will come though, when he's born. I've never really understood how you bond with something you can't really see / don't know anyway...let alone comprehend. You'll be fine.

Tina love the new name!! and YAY for ewcm! let's hope your right and your body is getting settled and this is your lucky month!!!

Loup what's your cm and cervix like?

Thinking of a&r xxxx

Hi Collie, mentalling still tame at the mo. I told one of the TAs today (dh doesn't know that!) She was one of the most supportive people when it was all really bad and totally understands what I've/we've been through.

Other than that, trying to keep everything low key & haven't told another soul.

How's you?