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Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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mousebacon · 21/08/2011 20:43

Roll up, roll up...

This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

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Twittwooo · 25/09/2011 06:39

Thanks Tomboy. Pregnancy worries are now adding to my job worries! The place I have the interview is a very small organisation so I'd feel awful if I did get the job and had to break the news to them in a few months. It's a strange feeling, I don't want to have to do that if the situation arises, but obviously I don't want another miscarriage. I guess I just have to wait and see what happens on both counts. I feel like I should be doing something to make this pregnancy work, but I haven't had any testing after just two previous miscarriages. Any advice? x

TomboyWife · 25/09/2011 10:38

Gosh, I don't know what to suggest, sorry. Absent a known problem that caused your previous miscarriages, I'm not sure there's much to suggest other than to try and relax. (I've only had one previous mc myself, so I'm just parroting what all the doctors said to me about it being bad luck and that there's every chance it'll work out next time.)

Sorry, I know this isn't very helpful.

digitalgirl · 25/09/2011 11:34

twittwooo welcome and congratulations on your bfp! I'm currently pg after 4 mc's and I could really only cope with the first few weeks by pretending I wasn't pregnant. I'm lucky that I don't get much in the way of symptoms so it was a case of keeping myself busy and putting pregnancy to the back of my mind. Do you think you could just pretend you're on a 12ww - where you won't really find out your pg till your 12 week scan (or an earlier one?).

mouse have you hatched an egg yet?

Tina any news?

AandR good luck with the next scan - these early early scans are sometimes no more helpful than sticking our heads in a bucket of sand.

tomboy sounds like you're in a lovely workplace - with everyone having a young family. Helps when they're on the same level.

digitalgirl · 25/09/2011 11:36

Oh and twittwooo the nurse at my epu told me after 2 mc's that I could try taking low dose aspirin in my next pregnancy. I wouldn't advise this unless a medical professional had recommended this to you but it can't hurt to ask.

Twittwooo · 25/09/2011 17:37

Thanks everyone. I think trying to relax is good advice Tomboy, although I'm finding it's easier said that done! It's funny what you say about a 12ww digitalgirl, that's exactly what I've been trying to tell myself. I need to find a way to forget about things at the moment, I've been obsessing a bit today and running various scenarios through my mind, oh dear! I keep changing my mind about what to do with regards to the job interview - one minute I've decided not to go and the next I'm telling myself to go for it and deal with the consequences if and when they arise. I'm going to phone the EPU tomorrow and ask about low dose asprin, but I have a feeling they will just say sit it out and see what happens.

LadyMaybe · 26/09/2011 08:36

Goodness Twittwooo that's some entry! Congratulations and the very best of luck that this one sticks. Come and find the Freak Out Thread if you want, it's more specifically pg post mc.

Tina I am still waiting with anticipation and little streak of optimism. My tests (and I did one a day for several days) only showed anything like +ve about 14dpo. Still have my fingers crossed for you. Hope you're ok.

EdCullensOW you asked a little while ago about stats, sorry, you can PM me or just post on the stats thread and I'll update, or feel free to copy and paste the list and edit it to change whatever you want. Up to you.

Seems like it was a weekend for visiting family - I was at DH's grandmother's this weekend, with his Father and stepmother there too. Was all I could to smile and chat for the time before lunch then just wait and try to suppress the yawns until a decent interval had passed before I could start semaphoring DH that it was time to go. Fell into bed when we got home and slept for 3 hours.

Feel quite pleased that I coped with DS at home today ok though, he didn't have a nap, so neither did I and normally neither of us are happy with that outcome, but a sunny day and shared slice of chocolate brownie seem to have done the trick (have been hankering for cake since Saturday Grin).

A bit of mentalling here today, a little crampy and sore lower back, but am just trying to put it out of my mind. I'll find out on Thursday if it's all over or we live to fight another week, and that's soon enough.

Twittwooo · 26/09/2011 09:38

Thanks LadyMaybe, and apologies if this isn't the most appropriate thread. I never seem to manage to find the right one on here! I think I posted on the freakout thread last time, but I can't let myself believe I'm really pregnant yet so I'll sit it out for a while I think. I realise now that I may have barged rudely into this thread yesterday, I'm so sorry! x

digitalgirl · 26/09/2011 10:16

twittwooo you're fine to stay on this thread, I didn't join the Freak Out thread till I was at least 8 weeks.

MissTinaTeaspoon · 26/09/2011 10:58

Hi all. The brown spotting is here 3 days late so I'm just on a longer cycle Sad. I'm pinning all my hopes on the acupuncture on Thursday!

lady I'm sure it's just stretching and settling in pains so think of the cramps as a positive thing. Good luck for the scan x

Congratulations to twitwoo

I had a bad dream last night. I got pregnant and then mc again Sad. I hope it's not a premonition.

MissTinaTeaspoon · 26/09/2011 19:33

Check this out! Thanks

lily06 · 26/09/2011 19:37

Hello ladies,

Love the Thanks, Tina!!

We're off to see the consultant in a couple of weeks after which I'm hoping we can start TTC again. So, will be lurking a little until then if that's ok.

Off to catch up on news from the thread, a quick glance shows some great news from LadyMaybe (Ladybee?) I think??

SmileyGirl1 · 26/09/2011 19:46

HI Ladies,

Just wondering if I could join you all? I had an MC last year, then was very fortunate and had a beautiful baby girl. However I've now MC'd again at 8 weeks on 11th September and although I know how lucky I am to have a little girl I just am devastated that I've MC'd again. I got such support from Mumsnet last year I was hoping I could join you ladies on your road to PG hopefully?

I'm now 14 days since the start of bleeding and no sign of a positive OPK which is really getting me down but i'm trying to stay positive. Just want the OPK to come, I'm starting to worry what if for some reason I'm not going to ovulate.

Aaaaaanyhow I hope I can join you all and I'm really really looking forward to getting to know you all

LadyMaybe · 26/09/2011 19:58

Oh no twittwoo sorry, didn't mean you were on the wrong thread, just wanted to make you feel welcome on the other thread too if you want - this one is excellent for early denial Grin
FWIW I think you should still do the job interview, and then make further decisions after finding out more about the job, company, and if you're offered it THEN make a decision about leaving your present employer. I think at my former company shortlisted candidates are spoken to by HR after the second interview and they outline benefits etc then so you could get a bit of info about that without asking too obviously. That said, benefits beyond statuary ones had to have 1 years service before kicking in.

AandRMum · 26/09/2011 20:34

Hi Smiley - welcome. So sorry you have had to go through this again. As I am sure you know the cycle after a mc is called the wtf for a very good reason - it is such a horribly long wait. You are still fairly early to ovulate - anything from 5 - 7 weeks until af is very normal and longer has been had on here with nothing in particular wrong, just the body taking it's own sweet time to sort itself out.

LadyM hang in there - backaches and cramps are very normal pregnancy symptoms. Come join me in the 'nah nah nah' corner (hands held over ears to block out incessant negative commentary on every bodily twinge, leak and cramp)

Twitwoo congrats and here's hoping for a lovely sticky one. This is a great place to be when living in denial. I peeked my head in over at the freak out room and it is lovely but I am not really ready to go there yet - so I am hanging around as well.

Sad Tina here is hoping the acupuncturist can sort you out - so frustrating. Big hugs.

Waves to Lily looking forward to having you back on the mentalling ttc -

Twittwooo · 26/09/2011 22:07

No worries LadyMaybe, I sometimes end up unsure of where to post on here as there are a few similar threads and I'm not on all that often! I'll stick to this one for a while I think though, like you AandRMum I'm not ready to move to the other one yet. Hello Smiley, and sorry to hear you're going through another miscarriage. I don't think it ever gets easier, but I think it does help to know that everyone on here knows what we're going through. x

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 27/09/2011 07:26

Welcome to twittwoo (goodness, what a dramatic entrance - congratulations!! Grin ) and smiley, I'm so sorry for your loss and hope your stay here is short. And welcome back to lily Smile

Tina sorry she got you Sad. I found acupuncture really helped sort my cycles out so it's probably worth a try.

ladymb and aand I hope you're not mentalling too much! Keeping my fx for some good scan news this week!

I'm at home with a sicky dd today (lovely!) so trying to work out when I can make up the working hours...so frustrating as I've only got 11days (3 and a bit weeks to me) left at work, so if she could just have hung on a few more weeks it would have made life so much easier!! Smile

MissTinaTeaspoon · 27/09/2011 13:00

Hi lily, lovely to see you, how are you? If anyone deserves Thanks it's you!

Hope dd is feeling better soon izzy. I'm waiting for dd to come down with everything going now she's at school but we've escaped so far

Hello to smiley, welcome and sorry for your second loss x

I'm getting a bit concerned now about my lack of a proper period Confused. I'm day 31 today and apart from a bit more brown spotting and cramps, nothing. And yes I have poas today and got a bfn. I'm starting to think that my hormones are totally up the creek...

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 27/09/2011 13:05

Oooh Tina looks like you're still in the running after all!!! Fx for you (I would don the suspenders but at 31 weeks it wouldn't be a flattering look!)

Dd is clearly absolutely fine, she's just eating chocolate and asking if we can go to the park Hmm. Trouble is, she's sick very easily (eg if she gets v snotty) but without having to have an actual bug iyswim. But there's an enforced 48 hour school ban after any sort of sickness so she's at home until Thursday! I did send her in once pretending nothing had happened but the first thing she did was tell her teacher she was sick yesterday. I was not popular Blush

MissTinaTeaspoon · 27/09/2011 13:42

I don't think I am izzy Sad. I'm 16 dpo now so it should show up by now Sad. I'm worried that my hormones are totally messed up.

Freezingmyarseoff · 27/09/2011 13:55

ha ha Izzy at not tellling the school about your DD being sick, but not laughing at your DD being poorly. Our DD is also a bit poorly. She woke up this morning croaking "medicine, medicine" as obviously calpol is delicious. Anyway we went down for breakfast and she immediately got on her little bike and started riding round the kitchen - so very ill Hmm

Tina, I'm just looking in my chest of drawers for the suspenders.

Twitwoo congrats on the BFP and welcome. And if it's not too late, I would say go for the interview and see what happens before making any decisions about what to say when. FWIW, I went for an interview when I was 4 months pregnant with DD (but not showing). I ummed and arhed about whether to tell them. In the end I told them at my second interview because I felt it was the right thing to do. My interviewer said I didn't need to tell him then, and I didn't get the job. The reasons they gave were a bit strange TBH and I think it was because they knew I was pregnant although that could never be proved. I regret telling them at that stage. Who knows maybe I wouldn't have got the job anyway, but I'm pretty sure that you don't have to tell them until you are offered a job.

Smiley welcome, and I'm very sorry you're here.

Lily how lovely to hear from you. Lurk away please. And have some Thanks too. I like this new emoticon

LadyM and AandR here have some earplugs to help with blocking everything out.

Tomboy how's the job? Sounds like your colleagues will be understanding - that's good.

Battery how is the packing going?

Sorry I haven't caught up with everyone but waves to you all digital, loup, mouse, velvet, edwardcullen, MummyA, itsabear and anyone I've missed (sorry if I have)

Blackkat · 27/09/2011 14:13

Just delurking to give a massive wave and ((hug)) to Lily lovely to hear from you x

to everyone else with a big thanks to lady for such a lovely list

Twittwooo · 27/09/2011 16:16

It's lovely to meet everyone, and thanks for the welcomes - I feel a bit silly to have made what people think it such a dramatic entrance! I look forward to getting to know all you ladies on this lovely thread.

I've just cancelled the interview. I'm pathetically honest and was getting so stressed out about what to do if I were to be offered the job that I felt this was the best solution. I'm no longer feeling stressed so hopefully I've done the right thing! Who knows ..

I hope everyone is looking after themselves and feeling happy on this beautifully sunny day! x

MissTinaTeaspoon · 28/09/2011 07:14

Okay...what's going on? My temperature went up this morning. Where is my period? Chart Ovulation Chart here Help!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 28/09/2011 07:17

twittwoo don't be daft it's lovely to hear such good news Smile. Hope you're ok about the interview? Sounds like a tricky situation..

Oooh Tina this sounds very promising

MissTinaTeaspoon · 28/09/2011 08:05

I'm worried izzy, not optimistic. I'm generally a worrier so I'm trying to rationalise it but I'm going around in circles thinking what if it's an ep or I'm going into a premature menopause or something? Combined with the mid cycle spotting it seems bad to me Sad