Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

Great news ladym! And ahead of dates too! That's got to be a good thing in my books. Better than too small.

Will be thinking positive scan vibes for you aandr tomorrow morning.

Sorry, I'm completely out of touch with everyone at the mo, but have been thinking of you all.
Just saw LadyM about scan. for you

Will catch up in the next few days.

Inconclusive there is a sac and a yoke but no fetal pole yet so she says 5+4 not 6w although possibly the beginnings on one (less than 1mm) I need to go back next week.

fab news Ladym

aandr sorry it's inconclusive and that you have to wait. How frustrating :(

Ok - deep breath. Sorry it wasn't more conclusively reassuring, but please do not despair. 5+4 is only 3 days out from 6 wks which is very possible if you ov'd slightly late or sperm hung around for a few days before fertilisation - you know that. Every single scan during this pg I've measured 2 days behind my lmp date - you could easily be the same. The good news is that there is something there and it's in the right place. This is a really good start.

I know that's easy to say and it doesn't stop you worrying, so please feel free to come on and mental as much as you need to. Hope this week passes quickly. Big ((((hugs)))) xxx

Oh AandR that's really difficult and frustrating. Izzy has said it already but it is very possible that you ov'd late. big hug for you and also will get out instructions for time machine to make this week go quickly.

Right now to catch up as best I can

Tomboy hope the new job is going okay. New jobs are exciting but a bit scary too (usually in a good way though). Are you working with nice people?

Brilliant news on the scan Digi and the "normal" midwife care

Mouse fingers crossed for a temp rise this month and successful SWI

Tina thanks for the link for the MN MC survey. I did it too.

For those asking about Dachs I noticed she has been posting on the angel babies thread, looks like all is going okay so far.

Battery good luck with the house move. It's pretty exhausting but so exciting too to be moving into a lovely new home
Jollster said she was going to take a break from MN I think, but I haven't seen knitter for a while. Hope she's okay

Itsabear very pleased to hear that you have a sympathetic GP, that makes a big difference I think. Sorry the HCG is taking so long to decrease though.

Loup sorry you're out this month

YRMOTB yay for viability (did I say that already?). I guess I must be there too now . Hope all is still going okay?

Right must get on with the mountain of post-holiday washing, and stock the house with some food.

Waves to EdwardCullen, Velvet, Blackkat, MummyA, Caribou, Tigger and any other lurkers

Ah bum AandR that's frustrating for you. With any luck though you'll go back and it'll have grown those few mm needed for the sonographer to feel confident about what she's seeing. Great that there is a yolk sac and everything is in the right place. Keep plodding through the days

Oh mummyabroad if you're out there, just wanted to check you're ok - you've got lots on your plate I expect but I hope you will come and vent if it starts getting too much. Thinking of you.

Thanks LadyM Trying to stick my head in the sand and trying to convince myself since I don't track my ov it could have been anytime from day 15 to day 18 which may account for the difference. I have a vague memory of DD1 dates being out by around 3 or so days so hopefully I am a slow burner (instead of believing I have a blighted ovum and need to have another ERPC)

I PM's MummyA a week or ago. She is doing well - due beginning of November. She is still trying to sort out passing her driving test ...

for lady!! And for freezing for viability

How frustrating for you AandR. When is your repeat scan? If you were a few days out last time chances are it's the same this time x

How are you loup?

I'm changing between optimism and pessimism by the minute...I'm day 27 and no pre af signs - no back pain, only one teeny tiny spot on my chin, no spotting, and I am so so tired and heartburny. On the other hand I'm sure it's my body playing it's usual tricks and I got a bfn on wednesday. I'm too scared to do another one so I'm going to spend the weekend in denial. We're going to be busy doing things for my mum's birthday (cheese festival ) so at least I'll be busy!

AandR sorry to hear it was inconclusive. It does sound like there's every chance that all is well, but the waiting and bricking it thing is no fun at all, I know. I hope the time goes really fast for you and it's good news on the re-scan.

Tina fx that it's good news for you too!

Right, off to bed for me. My first week in my new job was good, my colleagues are nice, and I'm glad I made the move, but it's been absolutely exhausting. I hope Awake Me will emerge from my coccoon tomorrow.

Bfn this morning with fmu

Hi ladies, I haven't been on the forums for a while but thought I'd pop in to say hello again, and ask for a bit of advice!

After two consecutive miscarriages we took a break for a month, then we tried again and I'm now coming to the end of the 2ww. Obviously I'm nervous, if I do get a BFP I won't be able to help thinking the worst is going to happen again, but we'll just have to ride it out and play the waiting game as usual.

But, I have a bit of a moral dilemma. I have a job interview on Friday and I feel a bit deceptive going for a new job when TTC, but with my history I have to accept that even if I do become pregnant again, it may not last and we could be waiting a long time for a successful pregnancy. On the other hand, if I am currently pregnant and it sticks, I'll feel like a bit of a fraud. What do you think ladies - should I go for it or not? My current job is part time and temporary so I probably wouldn't qualify for SMP and it's unlikely I'd have the job to go back to after any pregnancy. It's a tough one, because added to all of this, my current job is in Education, which I went back to university to qualify in fairly recently, and the new one isn't, although it sounds great. Jobs in my field are few and far between at the moment and almost all of them are temporary.

Good luck to everyone TTC! I'm sure you'll help me make a sensible decision .. xxx

Bummer Tina - hopefully it is still just a bit early - enjoy your cheese eating and fx for a better result on Monday!!

Hi Twittwoo so shitty to be going through all of this. You can't put your life on hold though and whether you get pregnant now or in 6 months time, it will have the same impact on the employer - both bad (losing someone for 6-12 months) and good (generally getting a very loyal employee back) - I would go for the interview. Maternity leave is like tax - it is one of those things which companies don't always like but understand it is for the overall benefit of society. No maternity leave would mean fewer woman in the workforce and thereby a much weaker economy. I am sure Tomboy will be along shortly as she has just recently changed jobs with a similar dilemma.

Meant to say my rescan is next Friday - so should be pretty conclusive as to whether things have gone tits up or not this time ...

I'm sure a bfp should show up by 13 dpo on a superdrug sensitive AandR but thanks for the optimism! What's weird though is that I've got no pmt symptoms at all and my temp actually rose this morning . I guess the witch is just teasing me

And good luck for Friday x

AandR I'm sorry that you are facing such a hard week . Are you able to keep busy with house stuff? I'm crossing everything for Friday x

Tina I didn't get a bfp til 14dpo and even then it was very very faint as in had to do a cb digi to prove I wasn't seeing things!

Twittwoo as AandR says, I've just been through the exact same thing. In my case I was just coming off a very long WTF cycle and I knew I was definitely not pg at the interview due to AF having just finished a few days previously, but I still felt guilty. In the end we didn't TTC (much) that cycle, but now that I've started and all is going well, we're back to TTC properly.

I'm not too worried about what will happen if I'm pg soon because many of my colleagues and managers have small children or are planning to make some soon. So we're all sort of in the same boat with balancing work and family.

My advice would be, you're not pg right now (or if you are you don't know it yet), so go for it. Especially given that your current job is temporary and has no maternity benefits. In my case the decision was a bit harder because my old company had really great maternity benefits and I'd been there ages. But as AandR said, you just don't know what the future holds. Planning for something that will happen at an unknown time and have an unknown outcome is just not tenable a lot of the time.

Thanks TomboyWife and AandR, I really appreciate the advice. The situation has changed slightly in the last few hours however because I couldn't resist doing a HPT and, you've guessed it, we got a BFP. I wish I'd waited until after the interview to be honest. I can't bring myself to believe that this pregnancy will be successful though, and I'm sure everyone here knows the feeling. I fall into the category of getting pregnant very easily (every time we've tried) but not being able to hold onto it. I'm going to go for the interview and see what happens from there. I hope you're all enjoying the weekend! xx

Oh, and congratulations on the new job Tomboy! x

Congrats Twittwoo! I hope it's a sticky one!