Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

Digi so sorry in my discharge induced myopia I missed your fab news Fantastic news!!!

LadyM any news from your scan?

digi hooray for good scans and heartbeats!

AandR glad you found someone to give you progesterone.

AF finally deigned to show her face today. I'm feeling less PMT-ish already, which is nice. I'm sure it also helped that my last day at my old job was today, so all the tension around leaving has gone as well.

Congrats Tomboy It can't have been a nice place to be in the last couple of weeks. How is your campervan? Has your dh made peace with the garage?

Itsa I meant to say that I can completely relate to the list koala incident! We are amazing at supressing our emotion but they tend to find a way to leak out anyway!! I spent a cathartic few weeks recently just letting myself sob all the way to work on my bike and finally I can talk about the mc without breaking down. I think everyone has their own timescale and way of grieving and all you can do is go with it!

Tina it is rather momentous sending them off isn't it. My DD is settling beautifully but I keep getting a shock seeing her in her uniform?!?

Big waves to all

Quick post from train so mission accomplished. We got there with no tears (DH decided to cone with us rather than meet us at Euston) & I now have a DD sleeping on the floor next to me.
anyway enough of that

for Digi
for YRMOTB
for Tina & first day of school
Squeeze to Itsa but only if you want it
for AandR for the progesterone

(tmi alert) Another one here with lots of CM

Sorry that's about all o can remember for now, want to post before we get out of signal
Big waves to everyone else.

I'm spotting again, it's old blood. I'm day 18 so too early for implantation or period, I'm starting to get a bit worried about it. I'm not sure if it's my cervix or a messed up cycle...I had a few short ones after the mc but I'm normal like clockwork. I think I might have to go to the gp on Friday (the bonus of dd being in school is that I wont have to take her - it's not nice having her on the other side of the curtain whilst the dr pokes my bits about!

Enjoy your hols freezing

Hi had my scan and so far it's looking fine. Heartbeat was seen, I'm 6+4 by dates but measured 6+6 which tallies with me ovulating a couple days early. Am off for a nap after restless night.

That's great news ladym! Must be a relief. When's your next scan?

Tina perhaps ask your gp for a referral to a gynae? They can maybe check your hormone levels and also refer you for a scan to see what's going on.

digi & ladym fantastic news on scans, lovely to hear your news.

yrmotb congrats on the 24 milestone, sorry to hear you're so busy hope you get chance to read the hypno book soon.

Tina sorry to hear about mid cycle spotting, gp sounds like a good idea.

Sorry it's brief, on phone to everyone else

tina sorry to hear re spotting, see the GP just so he/she can reassure you, they might be able to take a look and do a couple of tests there. I have spotting on and off after O every month (except this one) but all blood tests came back normal so I've no idea why it happens - I hope it's a one off for you.

Congrats to lady great news.

7dpo here, no symptoms, slightly sore boobs but temps only just scraping coverline

Oh LadyM fab - long may it continue.

ladym that's great news

for lady

I've had several scans digital, they've all been fine. I'm going to see if the gp will refer me though, the mid cycle bleeding isn't normal for me, and the old blood I get before my period seems to last a little bit longer every month. It seems like some kind of hormonal imbalance to me, especially as I also get very spotty skin during my luteal phase. I've also been researching endometriosis and I've got some of the symptoms

to lady for a fab scan and to yrmotb for viability - great news!!!

aandr well done on getting the progesterone, keeping fx for you x

Tina I only had mid-cycle spotting once, but that was on the cycle I conceived I hope you get a sympathetic dr though...

GP said it's likely to be hormonal due to ovulation. She didn't want to do a VE because of the blood that would be there so I've got to go back on Tuesday for that pleasure! She did say that ovulation bleeding only normally lasts a few days though so I'm not sure I'm that reassured to be honest

Tina sorry to hear you didn't get a definitive answer, but hopefully they'll be able to tell you more on Tuesday.

LadyM hooray for positive scans!

I have yesterday and today off before starting my new job, and I've been doing some oh-so-exciting house cleaning. Not my first choice for how to spend my holiday, but it really needed doing.

Someone asked about our camper van. It's back from the mechanic, but it came back with a couple of minor problems that we're trying to sort. Its MOT runs out today and it won't pass with these problems, so we're still without use of it.

Hello everyone - sorry for not posting much - have been lurking with nothing much to say about my crap body!

lady fab news - a lttle heart beat is a huge milestone :)
tina - are your smears up to date at all? Where abouts in your cycle are you?

My news is that AF has arrived! 13 weeks post ERPC - and one cycle with no bleeding at all (which frankly scared the crap out of me). I had accupucnture last night - she specifically worked on getting my periods back on track and then this morning -AF - and full on - not just spotting. I could cry with the reilef. So I am ready to be added to any lists that are being put together!

TTC#1, 3MMC. CD1 UCL 29 DAYS

I hope everyone is ok and gearing up to a fab weekend x

I'm day 20 battery, the spotting started on day 16. I had a smear 18 months ago. for af

Fantastic scan news LadyM and Digi. 13 weeks is a long time to wait, Battery, you must be massively relieved it's here. I am now 16 days post-medical management and hope to get my AF in next couple of weeks. Last time it took 5 weeks. Have decided not to TTC until after I get it for my own peace of mind.

yrmotb - 24 weeks must feel wonderful.

AandR I'm afraid I know nothing of the ways of CM apart from what I've just read in 'Taking charge of your fertility' but I totally get your stressing out over it. I can imagine being a nervous wreck at the slightest anything at all next time I'm pregnant. I'm sure it's fine and normal but obv good to get it all checked.

Tina Hope you can also put your mind at rest next week.

LadyM Are you in New Zealand? I was in Wellington when I found out I was pregnant with DD. Wondering if DH and I need to be in the southern hemisphere for things to work out....(packs up bags, quits job, sells house, buys plane ticket)

It's good to know the whole crying at minor mishaps thing is normal. I might make a list of strange things I've cried at this week - would include H&M obviously, plus today on the phone to DD's nursery while trying to sort out our invoice which they keeping messing up.

I think I already mentioned that I sent a letter ream of stuff found on Dr Google to my lovely GP last week. She has been trying to ring me all week and I finally spoke to her today. She thinks the whole un-fussy uterus thing is very interesting but probably not particularly helpful in my case as there's no solution right now. However, perhaps due to my perseverance total pain in the arse-ness she is referring me for all the blood tests that they do for recurrent miscarriage (not entirely sure what these are - Lupus? blood clotting?) plus all my vitamin levels etc as I'd mentioned Omega 3 and Vit D. I can make an appointment and have them all done at the surgery so without going to hospital. I feel reassured that she's taking it seriously but I have no doubt it's more for my mental state than for any other reason. Anyway, it shows that persistence and advanced google skills can open doors!

I've been off work since I found out about the mc and I'm going to go back in next week. Feeling quite nervous.

Forgot to say - weekend away was lovely. Very relaxing and DD had a wonderful time.

Hello all, one of my rare lurking by days and just had to say a big congrats to LadyB - that's just the best news!! I know you'll be shitting it now but the avoidance technique is definitely the best so do your best to pretend its not happening. I'll need to keep lurking by to follow what happens, got everything crossed for you pal and hope life is well back in NZ.

Hope everyone else is good, AandR big congrats to you too and well done on securing the progesterone. I couldn't convince anyone to give me some so self-medicated with cream off the internets. Best of luck to you too!

Before I go, Itsabear your story is similar to mine - except I had ERPCs both times. Had DD in 07, textbook pregnancy no problems. First MMC discovered at 12 week scan in Dec 09 but bean had stopped growing at 7 weeks. It took 6 months to get pregnant again, I had a scan at 6 weeks at the EPU where HB found but bean small for dates. I booked a private scan the following week as I was being driven mad with worry and again a MMC confirmed, followed by a second ERPC. The NHS took pity on me and referred me to the recurrent MC clinic even though I hadn't had the required 3 subsequent losses, however, I got pregnant 3 weeks after the ERPC so they refused to test me. They wouldn't give me anything either so I used the progesterone cream, took extra vit B complex, vit C and zinc on top of pregnacare vits and continued to take Agnus Castus until I was 12 weeks (on advice from a friend who's consultant in Oz referred to a study in Finland where AC helped women with multiple MCs). Anyhow, no idea if any of these things actually worked but DS is now here safe and well and 16 weeks old today. I guess what I'm trying to say is keep hopeful. I know after my 2 losses I was convinced something must be wrong but I got there in the end. Hope you get there too, and everyone else on the thread that is TTC x

Ah lovely story caribou congrats on your DS (and dd!) interesting re agnus, I stopped it after o day and am on 2ww, maybe I should start it up

Loup i don't know your back history but it is supposed to help women with histories of recurrent MC. I started taking AC to regulate my cycles after the first ERPC since they were a mess. I stopped taking it when I found out I was pregnant again but sadly lost that baby too. When I got pregnant for the third time I decided to follow the advice of taking AC until 12 weeks because I felt as though I had nothing to lose and had to try something different. The friend who recommended it on the advice from her consultant had 3 MMCs then got pregnant with twin girls who arrived safely - she also took AC until 12 weeks. I'll never know whether it made a difference or whether DS was just meant to be and the other 2 wee beans were not.

I know its contraversial though and its really your decision whether to take it again. Is there anyone qualified you could get advice from - herbalist, etc? Good luck on your 2WW!

Hi...I am beyond tired. Can't keep my eyes open tired. I'm wondering if there's any connection with the fact that I've just calculated that I've been spotting or bleeding for 16 days out of 22 . I am trying to console myself with the fact that my cervical erosion has only flared up twice - between 5 and 12 weeks preg with dd, and after my mc. And as I havent had a mc in the last few months I'm allowing myself a little glimmer of hope...although surely it's started a bit early if so?

Glad your gp is sympathetic bear

Great to hear a happy ending caribou

Waves to loup x

caribou that's a lovely happy ending. Thanks for sharing it. I feel like it could be third time lucky for me....at least I hope it will! I've never heard of Agnus Castus before but will ask my GP about it tomorrow. Enjoy your little one.

MissT You could well be iron-deficient if you've bled for that long?

I 'optimistically' did a pregnancy test this morning hoping for a BFN to show the mc is over. Still positive. Ugh.

Evening ladies!
Ok first things...I've had a go at doing a stats list. My stalking might not be terribly accurate though so please do go and have look at your info and add/edit/delete anything. If you don't want to be on the list just take yourself off or tell me and I'll do it - I know part of the 6th form spirit is sometimes wanting to forget all about lists etc, so there's no pressure, it's just helpful to people joining etc to find out where people are.
Also feel free to add in more history, I didn't do any much, as I didn't want to get it wrong and upset people.

Stats thread here