Sixth Form Common Room part IV - ttc and pregnancy post mc

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This is the place to be if you are ttc post mc / pregnancy loss and need a little spot to call home.

aandr how did it go with the dr?

ladymb hope things are going ok, I agree denial works well for a start...those early days are hard, aren't they? I also think would be quite nice to reinstate list for stalking cheerleading purposes, good idea

digi good luck on the school tour, ask lots of questions and trust your gut instinct.

freezing sounds like a bit of an expedition - good luck!

mummya is it your driving test this week? If so, hope all goes well x

Hello!I'm back!Have been pc-less for what seems like forever, but in actualk fact has probably been less than 10 days.. I can't even bear to try and keep up on the iPhone, as it's a bloody nightmare and scrolling backl is impossible! So, I'm starting from here, what have I missed?!

Aandr is that a BFP I see before me?? Many hooge congratulations! So lovely to hear.

All other differs ok? ladym? All sounds good, if horrible symptom wise. I had 7 weeks of feeling horrific with this pg, versus nothing with the first. Got my fingers crossed for you.

digi when we had swearing episodes with DS we ignored it for as long as we could, but actually he didn't get bored and stop saying it, so we had to sit him down and explain about naughty words and how their use could upset a lot of people, Granny, great grandma, teaches, nursery workers. That worked. His trouble is that he has always been surrounded by a lot of adults, he is the first born out of all of our friends, and their language hasn't been tempered well enough. So now me, ds or dp bring their attention to it if it's in front of DS!

In other news I am 24 weeks on Thursday. Can I get a whoop for viability please!

freezing have a lovely holiday. Don't forget the midge repellent though!

ma do you need a collective "good luck"? Don't forget the cold hard cash as a back-up! ;-) x

Common room list good for stalking. Reinstatement sounds good. Right, best go do some work!

Morning all!

Big WHOOP for yrmotb for viability! , I hope you are able to relax a bit now. I see you've also been enjoying some free crisps , I posted our verdict yesterday and I'll be stocking up when I go to Sainsburys later

Freezing I also think that a taxi might be less stressful, and maybe mean that dd is a bit less tired so you might have an easier time? Would it be an option financially?

Hope the primary school looks good for ds digital. It's dd's last morning at nursery this morning before school tomorrow, my baby is growing up

I like the idea of a new list ladym. I'm day 17 today, ucl 28ish, sorry no idea what cycle after mc, I've lost count . I've had lots of ovulation pain since last night and tonnes of ewcm this month so I'm hoping that'll lead to something. I'm not sure whether to be a bit worried about some blood streaks yesterday and today though, I've had tiny spots around ovulation before but not normally so much. Dr Google suggests it's either oestrogen withdrawal, or blood loss from the follicle as it bursts (which would explain the ov pain (it irritates the abdomen apparently). Or maybe it's just my cervical erosion being irritated by all the activity ? I certainly haven't diagnosed myself with endometriosis

Yay yrmotb for viability!!

Will catch up soon when I drag my achy arse out of bed!

Having a quiet panic - am leaking watery discharge - reasonably small but scared it means my lining is pulling away . Have an appointment at Kingston Hospital tomorrow morning so hopefully will get progesterone and blood tests.

Sorry for me me me post

AandR don't panic. I had loads and loads of cm when I was pregnant, it could be just a normal pregnancy thing x

AandR I also had loads of CM leading to damp knickers in the first week after my BFP. Is there any colour to it or is it just clear?

yay for yrmotb's viability! And thank you for the advice on the swearing. I think if it gets worse (or if the Childminder mentions it) then we'll have 'the talk'. But at the moment it's quite sporadic - and never when it's just me and DH.

thanks for the link battery - hope you're ok today.

Good luck with big school tomorrow misstina!

Primary school is amazing. I love it. Which is a good thing as it's one of the only two schools that we're in the catchment area for. I'm hoping to send him to their pre-school class in the summer. They only have afternoon spaces at the moment, but he's an August baby so afternoons would be a bit too much for him at the moment. I don't want to apply anywhere else. Would I be taking a massive risk if I don't? The think is I don't want him to go to the other school we're in the catchment for and all the other good schools in our area are also massively oversubscribed. It's unlikely he wouldn't get in, but if he didn't and I hadn't applied anywhere else he could end up in Tottenham, which would be a horribly long commute across London to a terrible school. Sorry - probably not the thread for this issue. But can't face starting one in the scary part of MN where I'd no doubt get flamed for not wanting my son to go to school in Tottenham.

digi is he due to start full time next September? It might work differently to here, but dd isn't going to our catchment school, the one we chose is still walking distance, and we just preferred the 'feel' of the place. (The catchment school is brand new but big and not as friendly, and we'd heard bad things about it despite it's good official reputation). Legally in Wales as in England children are entitled to a half day place in the term after their 3rd birthday, but around here the schools only take children in September (we could have fought for an Easter place but decided it really wasn't worth risking being offered a place in a bad school or p**sing off the head!) We got a place in our preferred school for this year but we aren't guaranteed a reception place, the school have advised us that it's unlikely we won't get one (I'll be stressed come application time none the less!). Here we apply to the school for the nursery place, then the council for the reception place. If you decide not to send ds to the playschool it shouldn't affect your application to reception, but I would imagine if you came to appeal it would help if you had iyswim?

I should add that her name is on the waiting list for reception at both schools just in case, but if it came to it I think I'd drive her to a further away school rather than send her to the catchment school

Yes, DS starts full-time next September. He's next in line on the waiting list for a pre-school place there (we applied last year) - they have 16 morning places and 16 afternoon places, we're so close to the school but siblings get priority so he didn't get a place. He's in another pre-school which is a little further away, but it'll do for now. I just wanted to get him used to being a in big group of similar aged children, hopefully prep him for next year.

It's 3 form entry so they have 90 places in reception so I think we'll be fine getting him in to reception. We're very lucky to only live 133m from the school, so only 2 minutes walk. Last year's catchment was 380m. The other good schools that would be sort of walking distance (maybe 30 mins) in this area have much smaller catchments. The situation in our area is ridiculous. The prices of houses in these tiny catchment areas have shot up because there's a real lack of schools, so even though you're not paying for private education you're still paying for it. We're in a tiny two-bed house, which I'm hoping we can extend into the loft to squeeze a third bedroom out. If we can't then am thinking DS and this little DC (fingers crossed) will be sharing a single bedroom till they're off to uni (or whatever is left of the higher education system then).

Oh look, I've started ranting!

Ok No colour - so fx it is just normal.

freezing good luck with the trek LadyM makes sense with her route planning, as for grumpy tots - I would recommend keeping to your bedtime routine including changing them into pjs , trip to loo for teeth brushing, stories etc It fills time and means they are generally calmer. Sticker books and more snacks than you ever imagined requiring are also essential!

I completely understand the school trauma - if we hadn't been given a place at our local school we would have a huge trek across a train crossing which is always down. Check the council sites to see whether a place in nursery is one of the prioritisations for the school. If it isn't on there then you are fine. I have an August baby as well and I can't believe she will be starting school a year after her sister despite the 21 months between them!

I just wish I could be put in suspended animation and unfrozen in about 8 weeks time with a happy scan picture to blithely wave at people. Other than dh and you, none knows - so unlike me but I just can't ask anyone to go through this again.

Big whoop for YRMOTB - such wonderful news. I am waiting on a birth announcement from a friend who is having a c today.

Waves to all ...

Hi all

I can't keep up so a list would be great for me! It's so fantastic to see all this bfps and positive scan results. I can't quite imagine a scan going well at the moment so knowing it can and does happen is very reassuring.

I keep thinking I'm ok and then something happens to show me I'm not. I managed to lose my daughter's koala bear toy that her godmother in Australia gave her at Christmas which led to me actually crying in H&M. Certainly got me some funny looks. DD barely noticed it was missing but I was inconsolable!

I'm toying with the idea of ttc as soon as I have a post-mc negative test. At the hospital I was given mixed advice - the dr said to try as soon as we felt ready but the sister said to wait for at least one cycle. Is being able to date the pregnancy the only reason for this? I don't really want to waste any time.

Was away over the weekend with no internet so will catch up on all the thread now.

Big waves to all x

Aandr I completely understand what you mean about wanting time to be frozen until the 12wk scan. All fingers crossed for you at the hospital tomorrow.

Schools are something we haven't had to think about yet (DD is 2 next week) but I'm sure it will come soon enough. We have 2 schools that I would happily send DD to but then 1 which would not be ideal (it actually has an outstanding ofsted but is huge and a few friends have had bad experiences with their kids there). My DH is a primary school teacher and he's not worried at all though.

digi sounds like you should be ok with your first choice school but I would definitely list as many choices as you can - there's no harm in doing so and if you don't you might get caught out. When we applied for dd our choices were (1) ds's school, about 10 min walk away (ds was in year 1 there at time of application); (2) obviously closest school, 5 min walk away; (3) school in next village (2.5 miles away but village less densely populated so safe choice). You would think we would have been ok with either (1) or (2) but no, dd was allocated school (3). If we hadn't put a third choice then she would have been allocated the really rubbish primary in a nearby housing estate - lots of people relied on getting their first choice and ended up with this one. (and for those whose allocations don't go to plan, we ended up moving ds and while it wasn't our first choice we all love the school now)

aandr sympathise with the wait to 12 weeks - it is horrid. Keeping everything crossed for you, lovely x

yrmotb hooray for viability!

AandR I too had loads of discharge of various types. Sometimes watery, sometimes clumpy. I don't think it's anything to worry about.

itsabear the bursting into tears at random things sounds pretty normal. That happened to me a lot for the first 6 weeks or so post-mc. It does get easier, I promise.

Well, still no AF for me, but I'm feeling crampy this evening so fx the witch will arrive shortly and put me out of my misery. I'm not concerned about not being pg, but I'd really like the PMT to eff right off now. I never get PMT this bad, or for this long.

Hope you have a lovely time in Scotland Freezing and that all the washing, packing and travelling goes smoothly.

We're currently having gale-force winds most days so am too scared to put my washing out on the line in case my smalls end up blown across the neighbourhood! Weather sure is weather here!

Where did you go YRMOTB? anywhere nice? And whoop whoop for viability. I've heard that post-viability is when pg post mc might start to feel a bit more certain, I hope that you are relaxing into it? I'm going to have to start having words with my brother about language - he doesn't seem to hear himself swearing at all. He has a son a little older than DS, but my DN's language is a little delayed so I guess they haven't had to deal with him picking up on it, whereas DS is like super-sponge at the moment and will pick up on something with just one hearing of it.

MissTina I wish I could say something sensible about the mid-cycle bleeding but I've never had it. Never had an implantation bleed either. I suspect my clotting thing means it's all or nothing for me. Good luck for this cycle though. Are you feeling any better now that you're past the pressure of being pg when you due date went by? I hope so.

Oh I'll make a start on the new list this afternoon..will stalk for dates etc.

Scan went well, baby measures 9+1 (1 or 2 days out but Mr S thinks that's fine). Heard the heartbeat which was 176bpm - amazing to hear it this early! And baby wriggling lots. So pleased. Mr S thinks getting past the 9 week stage lowers the mc risk significantly so he felt very positive.

Weeeee! That's fab news digi! How lush xx

yippeeee digi that's great news :)

aandr dont get me started on discharge! I have to wear the extra long panty liners now otherwise it soaks through either at the back or front of my clothes depending on where it's positioned!

Those with new bfps it is sooo hard at the beginning and the middle and the end and I totally remember the feeling of wanting to go to sleep and wake up after the 12 week scan. It really is best to try and forget about it although I know realistically you cant. Ranting on here really helped me through it though :)

LadyM I have pgp and it's finally gotten the better of me now. I've been given really shitty classes at school so I'm going off sick for 2 weeks now before my mat leave starts. Good luck for your scan tomorrow.

I'm so glad I don't have to deal with choosing schools yet - sounds like a nightmare! I don't know if having insider info about local schools will make it more or less difficult?

I hope everyone has a good day today. I'm using todays sick day to take the dog for a haircut and go and get my nails done :)

Yay for digi fab news and hooray for yrmotb, this thread is producing lots of positive stories so Fx for those of us yet to get the BFP.

tina hope the midcycle bleeding has settled - since coming off the pill a year ago I have had ov bleeding every month except January and this one..... I'm wondering whether it is a bad sign that I dodn't this month as my temps post O are quite low too so wondering if I did in fact O at all the specialist I saw said ov bleeding was fine but an acupuncturist I saw said she would try and stop it (maybe that's what's happened this month....) Anyway, good luck on the 2ww, I'm 6dpo today...

Waves to all and hands round packs of haribos for morning sugar rush required to get going

for digi

I'm sitting here sobbing because I just dropped dd off , she didn't look back though!

The bleeding's stopped now loup, I'm 3 dpo today so we can be cycle buddies!

pops in to say thanks for replying at the weekend Tina what you said was really helpful! My nipples used to be quite flat, but are now very peanut like so I suppose the shields wouldn't help, which is good to know. Turns out my pushy pro breastfeeding friend has been working with some local women to help them latch so as long as she promises not to lecture me, I know I have her to go to for help, which is hugely reassuring!

Really sorry for not catching up properly but I'm having major sleeping issues and I'm a walking zombie! But, big whoop for yrmotb for reaching viability!!! How was the hypnobirthing book by the way?

And good luck to Tina and loup on the 2ww..I'm always lurking for happy bfp news!!

Thanks all for your leaky stories - they help! I have a prescription for progesterone from a consultant who was simply humouring me - only 400 per day but hopefully it will do it's bit. I have a scan scheduled for Friday week when I will be 6 weeks so fx there will be something to see ...

Will catch up soon - work calls!

Big whoop!!!! for digi !!!!