Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 17)

[MarathonMama]

Hello! Just miscarried and ready to start again, come and join us...

'the garage' missg good heavens woman have YOU not heard of discretion

and i sincerely hope your likkle nephew is ok, much as it is heart wrenching for us to hear of births; my heart goes out to little ones who go through so much when only a few hours old. One of the girls on my old thread back in 2008 had a little boy who was born with a congenital heart defect (hope i got that right), we were all rooting for him and from her FB photos he is a little champion now

Ooh summer I have the same CM symptom too...can we be symptom buddies down in da hood??

I won't check that link at work IQ based on other's responses it might not be appropriate if anyone happened to see over my shoulder!! Will look tonight though!

If June is 'the month' then mini-blue could end up competing with my birthday but I'd happily have that than not have a mini-blue then IYSWIM! Being first time for me I have yet to invest in mat clothes except for the stash in the loft I've bought in the sales whilst TTC (before MC) and indeed some after the MC when I have been in PMA mood though I haven't bought anything for mini-blue, except for my 'spare-room' nursery redecoration project over the August bank holiday weekend

The door was closed Summer and I live at the end of the culdesac, so it's very quiet .

I'm sure he'll be fine, thanks. His big sis had the same thing when she was born, I think she was out of ICU after 1 week and home a few days after that. It's just horrible thinking of them being so small and sick and helpless

I'd just like to declare myself an idiot. I have spent much of today trying to figure out whether the stats are for me or against me. I don't know why I do this to myself. I know that once you've had 1 ectopic, you're at higher risk of another (15-20% higher), and that the risk seems to increase with age. The last pg, I was so focussed on hoping it wasn't ectopic again, that when they saw the sac in womb, I was like "phew". That was to be short-lived though, as that ended up a silent MC. Just like the last time with the Preg of Unknown Location/abdominal PG, I had never heard of a silent MC (or blighted ovum), so am wondering what else can go wrong that I don't know about?

Aaaaaargh! Where's the key to that padded cell??? No more googling. Summer, feel free to slap me! Or, IQ send in the heavies (aka your sister)

missg before i read the last bit of your post i was about to jump on here and give you the same slapping i gave manda but you have already given me permission so consider yourself bitch slapped sista! i am not even going to comment on your googling just stop it now!

as for me: metallic taste in mouth, stretchy feeling in tummy (i think). metalling? moi? yep and i am only CD17 and 6DPO

Yeeeeeooouuch! Ok I deserved that. Google is strictly out of bounds now.

Do you have a target date for testing? Not that I'm encouraging early testing of course, just that I am absolutely amazed at the people who actually manage to hold off until after AF is due! wish I had such restraint!

the odds are always on your side giraffe even after 4/5 mc's.

i do wonder how many things can go wrong that i don't even know about - it's crazy!

i am worrying about ashermans syndrome today due to my lack of periods and the fact i had a op to remove the placenta after last mc which could have caused it. been googling that all afternoon eekkk!

at least it has given me something else to worrying about instead of what the consultant will tell me in two weeks after all the mc testing.

think i need the padded cell!

Hello ladies, thank you all so much for the birthday wishes - we had a lovely time, dinner with DH was fantastic - he met me at the restaurant straight from work so it gave me chance to get ready like a proper date .....its been a while! I was quietly sipping a Mojito in the bar when he walked in, marvellous! Zoo on Saturday was great too - DS was thrilled with the tigers in particular, they were behaving like our cats (rolling over and exposing their furry tummies) which DS interpreted as meaning they wanted to be tickled and so he ran up and down the fence making "tickle tickle" noises and wiggling his fingers at them....so funny

So jealous of you ladies in the 2ww already...CD 22 here and no sign of ovulation yet according to temperature - from previous cycles I reckon I am about a week or so away so still very much in SWI phase which is nice, but I am in awe of MissG's garage plan.....no garage here but I think it may be time to mix things up a little maybe killer heels and a kitchen ambush would do the trick?

This is definitely too much information so apologies in advance but a couple of nights ago after we DTD DH said to me "now that's what I call baby-making sex" was quite pleased with myself actually!

MissG don't listen to Dr Google - that way madness lies (although I have to confess I have now self-diagnosed myself with any number of horrendous afflictions....)

Sorry not to name check, I really hope that you are all ok, I know we are all at different stages in this process but its great to have a safe place to come where you know people understand. I am very grateful for that

Jump in pebs, think you might also need a slap some encouragement to stay off google for the next couple of weeks. Hopefully, your holiday between now and seeing the consultant will help take your mind off things for a time.

I have set myself a goal. Put all thoughts of doom & gloom out of my head until at least Monday (scan day). I will allow myself to metal like mad that day, as scan is late afternoon. But, until then, I am in zero tolerance mode. PMA and all that

I need a krispy kreme!

Sorry MissG crossed post... Just wanted to add that DH made a batch of amazingly delicious brownies in lieu of birthday cake - there are so many left I am duly offering them around to you ladies.....save me from myself......!

I know Poppy, it never does any good! Chocolate brownies (yes, plural please) gratefully received
Loved your zoo story. Your DS sounds so cute!
Sounds like your DH is enjoying the baby-making process as it is Go girl! Might as well make the most of the long SWI phase!

Mmm ... brownies. :)

Glad your DH appreciates your efforts Poppy!

pebs - Stay away from Dr Google. He is generous with his diagnoses but rather incompetent. Hopefully the consultant will be able to help you better.

Evening all just a quick one as my computer is playing silly buggers. Hope all is well.

Sorry I have been AWOL not really felt in that place. DP away again this week so really fed up. What is the point of TTC if he is never bloody here.

Starting school for DS is stressful for me, he starts after school club next week so more stress. I am being OTT I am sure but he had real problems in pre school and nursery.

On the up side Disneyland Paris on Thursday just hope DP doesn't get to stressed with DS. He isn't v patient and DS is going to be so excited.

i promise I will return in a more positive frame of mind ready to hopefully ttc a july baby :-)

Am knackered so a brief one once again but wanted to send hugs to both Blue and Summer in particular. You appear to be in the same situation, well similar to the one I have been due to my cousin's baby who was born last Monday. Pants innit?

I am hoping to jump on the June bus but am also, as this is the first AF since the MMC, realising this is unlikely but it's better to get practising all the same!

Summer, by the way the chat you had with your Grandad up in t'sky made me fill up - it was lovely!

I am going to go now even though there is loads to catch up with as tired and need my bed. Sorry not to be posting much, but I am checking up on everyone's news.

Morning all...just wondered if there's any chocolate brownies left Thanks poppy

Well...CD22 today was soooo tired last night but can easily put that down to my bad night's sleep the last few nights, though I do seem to be heavy on the CM front (sorry for TMI) missg I also keep prodding my boobs so we're all as bad as each other with that one!!

eve I know what you feel about DP/DH being 'unavailable' last month I got SO frustrated with DH's shifts getting in the way of TTC...just makes the whole thing seem more hassle when it's bad enough as it is! On a note though...Disneyland Paris - yeah!! Hope you have a fantastic time and that DS loves every minute...and you and DP do too!

baby thanks for you kind words...hope the house is going ok and winds have died down. They say practice makes perfect so keep up the SWI!

summer how are you today my metalling friend? Hope you're ok

manda and boobeez hope you're both doing ok and not metalling too much, am sure the early days are really tough!! Take care

IQ I forgot to look at that link last night...still daren't try it in the office though! Hope all's well with you!

Although it was only 10 degrees when i left the house this morning I am loving the sunshine after all the grey days we've had recently!!

blue i am CD19 so just a little behind you. Although my AF usually arrives early so we may be in tandem this month. AF or BFP! Oo and i have a bit of a CM issue too which i did have when PG with DS...(metal metal metal)

baby thanks for the kind words.

eve i really hope DS settles in school, i am sure he will, it is a big upheaval for him and for you so dont expect it to go smoothly straight away. good vibes to the eve household ///////\

thanks for the brownies poppy just in time! we should get our DSs together as mine loves zoo animals too, your story about your DS is sooooo cute!

missg i am in awe that you and others on here have early scans, i wont get one until 14 weeks despite the MCs unless i start bleeding, it is a big hosp with millions of procreating families. god knows how i will get through those three months

waves to shimmery pebs pie manda marathon IQ and all the moshers = it occurred to me this morning whilst i was drying my hair that we really ought to have a 'quiet' area of the mosh pit for the bumps, i really dont want to be held responsible for elbowing mini moshers...

i am channelling the PMA and feeling good about my friends baby and really looking forward to scrunching the little munchkin. i was sad yesterday but at the end of the day L is one of my bestest friends and is such a sweet laydee.

baby my message to you stopped short! i meant to add that i hope you got your windows sorted? you seem to be channelling Cathy from Wuthering Heights!

Eve sorry you feel a bit flat about everything. Hope you have a fabulous time in Disneyland though!

Blue my boob-prodding buddie! How are the gazongas today? Mine feel tiny bit tender but reckon it's just from all the prodding! Actually, I think I had a real sign/symptom today. I was out early at a meeting, and it ran on, so I was really hungry when I got in the car, and boaked the whole way home! I don't think it's morning sickness as such, just that - like the last twice - I get boaky if I let myself get too hungry when pg. Great excuse to eat more!! And I have definitely had the evening bloat going on these last few nights.

Summer I think I get an early scan due to having had an ectopic, rather than the MC. It must be awful having such a long wait though. You know we'll all be here to metal with you through it! PMA all the way!

Hi to everyone else. Cousin's wee baby took a turn for the worse last night. He's ok, but they've had to up the phototherapy lights and, although he had been out of the incubator and starting to feed, is back in with feeding tubes. The poor wee lamb! Hope he gets better soon.

Hello all! Thanks for the congrats everyone and for being so friendly :0) I felt a bit cheeky coming back. I think my due date is 19th May summer. not really sure though because my mc was in July and I have only had one period since which was 5 weeks after mc... Should go and see a doc, but am waiting a while...prob should go soon though. I am 4weeks 4days according to my iPad app! That's a long way to go!

Morning all... missg really hope your cousins's little one is doing a bit better this morning!

I'm in need of a bit of PMA...had bad cramps on Monday (it felt like implantation did last time)...though it did seem a bit early (CD20). When it happened last time I got my bfp 3 days later, so I POAS (IC) this morning and got a bfn...now panicing that the pain I felt was late ovulation and that we've now missed it this month and peaked too early with all the SWI last week as we haven't managed it since Sunday this week due to work etc...grrrr...trying to stay positive and tell myself the pain on Monday wasn't ovulation or implantation, that it was just trapped wind and that there is still a little bean floating around waiting to implant...need to keep PMA but it's so hard!! On the flip side I have signed up to start doing some direct sales parties (like Tuppaware but not that brand) for some lovely kitchen and homewear and have my launch party on Saturday...if I do get my bfp in the next week then I could well end up way too tired for doing the parties I've got booked, but if not then at least I can get off to a good start with that IYSWIM clearly dealing with the tiredness due to a bfp would still be my preference though!! (incidentally if anyone is localish to West London/Heathrow and fancies hosting a party PM me )

So to answer your prodding question missg in the morning's I prod and feel decidedly unpregnant but in the evenings it feels more hopeful...but in the light of what I've posted above I really have no idea at all!!

boobeez of course you're welcome back!!

Sorry not to namecheck everyone but better get on with some work, sorry also for a bit of a 'me' post...catch up later!

omg missg sending lots of good vibes to your likkle wee nephew ////\ i hope he gets better soon and is back out of those feeding tubes

nothing much to report here, no symptoms to speak of this morning. think my PMA has buggered off as i am less hopeful of a BFP this month. but there are worse things to be blue about. my sister was moaning the other night that she is going on hols with her friend in Oct but they are arguing about where to go.. oh to have problems like that!

blue IF those pains were O (did you notice any fertile cm too?) then SWI on Sunday is absolutely PERFECT. With both DS2&3 swi the day before O seems to have done the trick. So don't worry!

As for where you live... it seems like we live VERY near to each other! I'm on the border of Richmond and SW London (postcode is London, but two minutes walk up the road and I'm in Surrey. But grew up in Isleworth and DD was born in West Middlesex hospital!). Have to admit I'm not realy up for direct selling for a variety of reasons, but perhaps a meet up at some point would be nice

missG Fingers tightly crossed for your cousin's poor wee man. DS2 had to have IV antibiotics which I found traumatic (not least because they got me to help with the procedure to put the cannula in - ugh, awful) so goodness knows how I'd cope with more intensive care. I suppose you just do, don't you?

Me? FULL ON METAL. FRERs frightened the life out of me by staying the same or vauely getting lighter for three days... so I got some more superdrug early tests (which is what I was watching my progression with before) and two cd digi. CB digi gave me a 2-3 week reading with afternoon wee, so perfect, and superdrug was significantly darker than the last one three days previous... and breathe. Then the superdrug one the following day looked vaguely lighter again! Cue MORE METAL. So my final FRER this morning given it's two days since the last one - MUCH darker, test line finally much darker than the control (I'm 20dpo). I obviously want to do the second digi and get a 3+ reading and in theory that would be tomorrow but I'll try and leave it until sunday to be sure.

I know, I know, I should JUST STOP TESTING but... I can't.

Hi Peeps!

Well have had 2 raised temps now so am pretty sure I ovulated on Tuesday and so the 2ww begins! Have to go for another CD21 blood test though as my result wasn't good last month (boooo) but then I knew straight away I wasn't pg as it was so low (whereas the month I was pre m/c my CD21 result was much higher).

Blue - do you use OPKs or temperature chart to gauge ovulation day? I think that's the advantage of using fertility friend in that it does show you when you've ovulated (only after 3 raised temps though) but it does become mildly addicitive putting the info in each day! I use it with a combination of OPKs. We do try and SWI every couple of days but I just don't have the energy to do it from the end to start of AF so at least this way I have a 7-10 day window to aim for! :) Are your parties like Pampered Chef ones? I would love to come but live about 500+ miles away from you!

eve enjoy Disneyland Paris!!!

Waves to everybody else! Hope you are doing okay missg & manda - when is your scan missg? xx

summer not sure how much PMA I have either but that is purely down to work stress. I just can't help it however much I try not to! PAH!!!

I haven't had any caffeine since the m/c! I can't quite believe it myself, that's been 4 months now and I am amazed that I managed to give up my daily diet coke! I am shattered today though and would LOVE a nice fat filter coffee!

Love to all !!

Sorry manda crossed posts!!!! I can totally understand the mentalling! Can you get an early scan in your area just to put your mind at rest? Not sure how 'early' is good to be seen at though? 7 weeks?

Oh, and forget to mention, the Dr is referring me for counselling - she said it is quite a long waiting list but I have a reason now (new pregnancy) for being bumped up the list, somewhat. It'll be with the Prioy group so me and the Stars/Slebs shall be mingling and then I'll be All OK Again. Wait, what? It doesn't work like that!? Darnit.

I didn't see my usual doctor (pretty sure she was one of those 'almost quaified, just needs to do x hours of consults before she is fully fledged, as it were - they always have them at my surgery) and I mentioned to her that the EPU said they would keep an eye on me and give me extra scans so she said she'd refer me to them but I'm unsure as to whether she will specifically be requesting a viability scan - which is what she should do. Oh well, I'll give her a call in a week if I havent heard anything.

pie I shall be stalking your chart! I too, find charting somewhat addictive... and so empowering too. It (mostly) takes away a lot of the mystery of our cycles and I KNOW that since the mmc (I no longer feel O whereas I used to and so KNOW I'd Od) I'd have been going out of my mind testing/waiting for af when it wouldn't even have been due! Fx for you this month, you and all hthe June Massif!

pie i too am wondering whether blue is doing Pampered Chef? a friend of mine did them and their stuff is vaairy nice. i have the muffin tray and dibber (or whatever its called!). i have wowed many a coffee morning with my whipped up muffins! . Sadly i am nowhere near you (South Manchester) otherwise i would be there!

And i agree with manda that SWI the day before OV is on the money, it worked for DS and also for my MC bean.

manda good news on being bumped up the list for counselling, i cannot recommend it highly enough, i am in a much better place than i was in July, i still hear my counsellor in my ear when my sister/mother get me wound up!

boobeez there is a conception app??? a friend of mine was saying there is a Breastfeeding app too! tells you which boob you last fed from and for how long..!