Fantastic 40+ thread - part 4

[hippychick66]

Come on ladies - you know who you are .......

Hi all just me, me, me for now! I am fine, it is looking like about three weeks so I feel very positive.

Hugs to all.

Fireflies - so sorry the RTD decided to show up.

Just found an old book of poems and wanted to add this one in memory of all the little ones who didn't make it. alas, there are far too many losses on this thread:-

An average family by John Turnbull

And when the worst was over

And when the crying was done

We took ourselves to dinner

Away from everyone.

And we chatted far too brightly

About every subject but one,

About our little daughter...

Or would she have been a son?

And when the meal was over

And when the brandy arrived,

At last we started talking

Like normal husbands and wives.

And at last you held your head up,

Your eyes at last alive,

"Two-point-five kids is the average...

How we loved our little point-five."

Aaaahhhh hippy that's beautiful and has bought tears to my eyes.......

aah hippy that brought tears to my eyes too. I may send it to "d" H.

Anyway news from me is that I may still be pg. haven't done another test, but bleeding just appeared to be a tiny bit and then stopped on Saturday, and have been feeling very very sick since. I'm loathe to post on here as it always seems to lead to bad news, but what the hell!

Anyway, sickness isn't pissing me off at all, oh no, not one bit (honest!). But it has started bloody early this time and is leading me to think of twins maybe. Or just old age possibly. Of course nothing is guaranteed, so I'm sticking to Lou and Diege's mantra - for today i am pregnant.

fireflies sorry af turned up.
hippy sorry about camera up bum scenario. I have had cough experience in that area too I'm sorry to say. Lucky doctors that's all I can say!

Hello to everyone else. shandyhope all is well with you. I don't think symptoms or lack of them means anything tbh - I had lots with my last pg and pg still failed!

Sorry that af turned up for you fireflies, it's shit isn't it. Fingers crossed for you BB and hope you have resolved things between you and your dh. Italian pleased that things are fine for you.

Mmm... BB interesting?? You have a lot of restraint not to have tested again.
Sorry FF x
Hi Curly hope you re recovering?
Hi Italian countdown to 3 weeks whoo!!!
Hippy lovely poem xx
Love to all xx

Angel re your scan of GILS, she sounds gorgeous was it a 3d or 4d scan? Also just wanted to let ou know that even though you're tired, not sleeping well and may have cankles (you did mention this I'm not saying you have) etc you're still beautiful......I think all pregnant ladies are beautiful no matter what........no I haven't been drinking I'm on painkillers I'll have you know

Hi. Great news bb your emotions must be all over the place and feeling sick as well! Big hugs from me, take it easy.
angel Waw I can't believe how time is going by for you. You must be on wind down now.
curly glad you're back here.
+Italian* I've got everything crossed for you.
diege hi, are you finishing work soon?
hippy I loved you're poem, I'm very teary so no surprises that I filled up too.
I've just started reading 'how mothers love' by Naomi Stadlen and it paints a picture of how on conception a mother's love starts and makes a gap to allow a space for our little one emotionally and physically in our bodies. Its helped me to view the different impact a mc has on dh and myself. And I'm only on chapter 2.

Wow Shandy think I would fill up if I read that book now and would probably be sobbing if I was preggars like you........

OK, ladies, bistro, can I have some clear broth, some humble pie, a glass of water and would you all watch this, it is very moving.

[http://www.leader.co.za/article.aspx?s=43&f=1&a=3090]]

Oopse, I meant

[http://www.leader.co.za/article.aspx?s=43&f=1&a=3090]

WHAT am I doing wrong!! Here it is ...

www.leader.co.za/article.aspx?s=43&f=1&a=3090

Thank you Italian that was amazing. I'm in tears! I'll have some humble pie too please...

I can't view the film at the moment, so what the hell, dh is away, can I have a Chinese, duck pancakes with hoisin sauce followed by profiteroles with chocolate sauce. Mmm.

A new day, I will have what Shandy is having.

Hugs to all gum, AngelGeorge, Hippy, Lol, Fireflies etc etc and all.

How are you all?

I am still stimming.

All fine with me.

Love and hugs to all.

Hi Italian. I'm doing okay at the moment. But that is due to the fact that I am feeling pregnant, so getting all hopeful.Wish I could ignore all the symptoms but I can't, and the 's are very sore. Even if I'm not pregnant, then AF must be imminent and that's a good thing, at least I'll have some idea of where I'm at.

This thread has been a bit quiet lately. Where is everyone? Aren't the summer holidays finished?

We start our spring break in two weeks. I'm looking forward to our family holiday at Rottnest. The kids are very excited. I've always wanted to be pregnant at Rotto(don't ask me why, I'm strange), so fingers crossed I will be.

Oh forgot to mention that I read an article yesterday by Nicki Gemmel who has moved back to Australia. She was born in 66(like me) and just had her 4th baby. It was a surprise pregnancy! When she was 38 she tried for ages to have a third child, had two miscarriages and did acupuncture, eventually got pregnant. This time she wasn't even thinking about it.
It really gives me hope.(Despite the fact that DH and I are not ttc)

Gum Rottnest Island is absolutely beautiful. One of my favourite places. Fingers crossed

Curly sounds like everything's getting better surely but slowly. Good to 'hear' from you.

Shandy hang on in there. One hour at a time.

Italian how exciting. We're all officially counting down.

V cross with dp. He wants me and his dd to go skiing with his friends are their kids. I know it sounds great, but we've not been on holiday AT ALL as a couple, and certainly not with his dd. I wanted to have our first holiday together without other people. And they're all brilliant skiers and I'd have to be in ski school on my own while they went off-piste and joined me for an hour at lunch. Then we'd all look after the kids in the afternoon. Even the kids will be better than me. I'm not terrible but I ski at 2mph and look nervous - and I get bored after a couple of hours. Am I being selfish? Please give me a kick up the * if I am.

Hopefulgum Hope all is going well.

Lol I think you are not being selfish but I also think maybe if you miss this opportunity you may look back and feel sad that you had a chance to have fun with DP and to bond with his DD and meet his mates and missed it.

When is it? If it is skiing I am guessing it is not for at least 2 months, possibly 4 or so? Or are you going to NZ or somewhere? If it is not for a couple of months I would tell DP that you would like a long weekend (mini-break in the words of Bridget Jones) and to go away without friends or DD and just be together in some idyllic setting before the skiing trip. Get a low cost last minute 'don?t know where we are going' thing or even a whole week if it is possible with work and other commitments. I know money does not grow on trees and you may not be able to do all this but even a weekend away may do the trick.

I am the kind of person who loves to have all the people I love in one place and DH is the opposite (essential family only kind of thing) so part of life is trying to work out how these two opposites can work. I am sure they can but your DP may argue (as would I) that a quiet holiday a deux can be arranged at almost any time where as a big skiing jamboree with mates takes ages to put together and if you do not go on this you may not get the chance again for a long time. Think of it as a compliment, he loves you and his mates and wants you all together! But at the end of the day, as I always say, it's your choice. Love IGH ? the relationship guru and Dr Cake!

Panshe any news on wedding plans?

Hippy how is life in your idyllic place?

Hugs to BB, Shandy, Angelgeorgie, Fireflies, gillyglops, Diege, Soothe, Hairy, Pocket, Curly, Jolls, Tank, Shandy, Tina and Mitzimaybe and Nicole.

Thanks, Gum. You're right. I will feel bad if I don't go, but I'm not sure I'll feel great if I do, either. I'm stuffed either way. It's dp's dream to be with this couple and their kids skiing. I know that I'll look very Bridget Jones on skis, with them all wishing I could go faster/stop slowing them down. Or just telling me what to do every 5 minutes. I find skiing incredibly stressful.

It's just before Christmas - when we're supposed to be trying the IVF light/donor egg thing. What if I fall? I just wish this hadn't come up this year - it makes me look like a real killjoy . If they'd said they were going trekking on reindeer through Lapland I'd have happily said yes.

lol I am a right old kill joy. Tried sking once and bloody hated it - I was soooo crap. I would not do it (especially if I might be trying IVF). But i am a grumpy old bag so best not to listen to me at all

gum that article sounds interesting. let us know how boob-watch goes

Lol, I am a totally crap skier. I spend the entire time on the learning slope. It sucks. I fall over 100's of times. And I lived in Canada for two years! I just never got the hang of it. So I sympathise.And you know, if I was doing the IVF I'd be sitting at the lodge, reading a good novel and sipping hot chocolate. Don't think I'd be going out to the slopes.

Hippy, boob watch is making me crazy, as per usual. I had decided yesterday after a negative test that it was definitely over. But then in the middle of the night I awoke feeling very nauseous, and then had a very high temperature (the highest one yet) this morning. ARGH!

I did another test, but it was a dud. It didn't have any dye in it and it didn't work at all. I don't have any other tests, so might just wait now til Weds or Thurs (13 or 14 DPO).

Must dash, have to get kids off to school...

Lol not sure I would go skiing if I were doing IVF! It was me (Dr Cake) giving you the old 'why not go' story! But not sure if I would be skiing if I were busy trying to conceive. I think you and DP need to decide what you want to do together. But to be honest, why do you need to ski! Just invent a dodgy knee (my knees are crapoloa and I think skiing is a lot about knee work!). Why not spend the time working on your novel (isn't everyone doing that) and being with kids might kick your overies into action! Your call, totally, but if you decide not to go just make sure you and DP can work it all out. I mean that he understand why, not because of some sort of 'first holiday together' thing but because of some sort of 'trying to have our dream baby' thing. IMHO. Hugs.

Hi all; quick check in from me!!! Had a very busy weekend at parents house , didn r get home ton9 last night. Off to to work now as knackered ( what's new??)
Only 4 days this week then off to the wonderful Thoresby Hall on Friday for 3 days of relaxation.Can t wait.
Hope everyone is well?? Apart from the " ski" dilemma?? Never been myself, looks far too much hard work for a holiday!!!! Xxx