Hello, so much going on. Great big congratulations to Hairy - that is just the best news. So pleased for you. And Penashe - I hope all goes well and your little bean is a sticky one.
It just shows that it is possible to get pregnant in our forties, and for many - to carry to term.
I'm not so terrified of never getting pregnant now, it's more about actually getting a sticky one that will grow beyond 9 weeks, all the way til 40 weeks (or 38 - that'd be ok).
The best way forward for me is always to get proactive. It doesn't mean I'm not working my way through grief, I am, but it helps me to start thinking about what is in my control, and what I can do to help myself.
So I've been researching. One doctor wrote a whole book about his wife's recurrent miscarriage, and how he put her on red raspberry leaf to strengthen her uterus. It worked for them. I've also read about the combination of inisotol and melatonin to improve egg quality - so I ordered some of that. I'm also going to ask my dr about high doses of folic acid (5 mg) - is anyone here taking it? And also about taking aspirin. I was taking it (80mg) when ttc, but stopped taking it once I got bfp. Now I wonder if I should have kept taking it. Something to think about. I don't think DHEA is for me, but I have a list of tests that should be done for recurrent miscarriage, and it is on the list.
I'm aware that my miscarriages are likely to be because of my age. I am 44 after all, however, I don't think it can hurt to have the testing done, just to feel I've left no stone unturned.
I'm reading a book about trying again after miscarriage and the author says that she thinks if you are over 38, you should have testing done after one miscarriage. Waiting for three miscarriages is crazy, in her opinion, as it may have been something preventable. Of course I'm yet to talk to my dr, to see if she's open to it. She's away for three weeks, so I have to wait.
Hippy, I'm glad it sounds like you will have a home to go to. It's exciting.I hope it is a smooth move.
Deige - I don't know how you do that extra marking. Yuck! It's bloody hard work. At least you'll get to spend the money on a lovely new Phil and Teds. I recently bought a second hand (but in as new condition) Quinny Buzz. I love it, and I use it for Charlie in town. I was really looking forward to buying the maxi cosi to use with it. Now I'll have to wait (remaining hopeful that I will get to put a wee baby into the quinny - our baby- one day).
Thinking of you Galwaygal. I hope you are getting plenty of TLC from your family. (((MASSIVE hugs)))