Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 16)

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Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

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wttc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

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whatsoever comforting to read your post and see I'm not the only one! A colleague moved companies earlier this year and if I wanted to I could probably make the move there too but it would still be doing the same job...just a different place and a longer commute...it could make all the difference but I'm not so sure. I've been doing a distance learning course to explore something I could start as a business and run from home that would work with (hopefully) future childcare but it won't pay nearly enough at the moment so still a bit about what to do so just plodding through here...was really looking forward to the break from December for a full re-evaluation of it all but hey ho...need to wait and see! I think I may need to set a deadline too though!

summer xpost...sorry you've also got the same job questions!! Such a pain in the midst of all the TTC anxiety!

Ah, blue so with no conclusive signs, you're right back to WTF! Which, in a way, is good... no doubt you were thinking those cramps were A Sign which must have been distracting, so hopefully you can get through your deadline a liiiiittle easier now.

Well, fertility friend has given me crosshairs today (for those of you who use it, you'll know that means it thinks it knows the day I O'd...) but I'm truly not convinced, especially as the '1dpo' temp I was severely sleep depried so it's not accurate at all. And, oh, the irony - IF I have O'd as it thinks I have, on CD14, then we SWI'd on CD10, 12, 13, 14 and 15. Couldn't BE more perfect timing, really, considering yesterday in an overly emotional wobble I 'decided' I don't want to ttc. I say 'decided' as who knows what I really mean? Not me. I seem to be all over the place. I think the suggestion of counselling is a good one but really don't want to pay silly money and suspect I'd have to wait ages through the gp. Hmm. Maybe I just plod along for the rest of this supposed tww (really not convinced I O'd with these temps/lack of sore nips at 1dpo) and see what the outcome is.

Speaking of GP that reminds me - would they tell me my thyroid blood test result over the phone if I call?

Manda just a quickie but yes the GP will give you your thyroid results over the phone but make sure they give you the actual numbers not just tell you they are 'within normal range'. Also last time the receptionist gave me them over the phone she said my TSH was 0.5 when it was actually 0.05 so again make sure they give you all the numbers they have :)

manda glad you are having a more positive day. maybe a spot of metalling is all you need.

TTC

Tokyotwist ttc #2 cycle 1 cd 71 ucl unknown
MissTinaTeaspoon ttc #2 cycle 4 cd 25 ucl 28
Stitchinline ttc#1 cycle 4 cd 15 ucl 33ish
Loup23 ttc#1 cycle 5 cd 16 ucl 33
Thefalconsmistress ttc#2 cd 7 ucl 35ish
Poppyjen ttc#2 cycle 1 post mc ucl ? (loooong and unpredictable)
Marathonmama ttc 2 cycle 2 post mmc cd 2 ucl 29-30
Missgiraffe1 ttc #2 wtf cycle, cd? ucl 27/28
Summerbird73 ttc#2 cycle 2 UCL 26/27
whatsoever ttc #1 wtf cycle ucl unknown
MandaHugNKiss ttc #4 cycle 1 cd12 ucl 30ish

WTTC

BlueCrane

Recent BFPs

Lily06 ttc#1 BFP 13/05/11
Piglet ttc#1 6+5 weeks
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 6+2
CuttlefishDramas BFP 10/07/2011

Aaaargh! Just done it again! Lost my big post!! Will I ever learn?? Today is not my day. I broke down in the Clyde Tunnel this morning! secretly quite chuffed at single-handedly colsing Clyde Tunnel in rush hour though
Will repost later when have time. Work manic, head up proverbial, need wine. And chocolate. A fry up would be nice too. Washed down with a beer.

Hi Peeps!

Would also like to add how f.off I am with my job at the moment! I've had offers from elsewhere but if I were to move wouldn't get maternity pay (although my work only gives the minimum) as they are contract rather than staff positions (but better paid). Also logistically it's handy where I am as DP & I can car share but, i'm pretty miserable and had a very stressful period earlier on this year when it started affecting my health and cycles (lots of spotting after AF, intense cramps etc). I have resolved never to let it get to me like that again though!

summer my ipod is 80% dance music (from my clubbing haydays) it always puts a spring in my step and makes me feel like getting up and doing something!

manda sounds like you have deffo put in the SWI for those crosshairs! FF gave me crosshairs for an ov date of last Friday because I had a silly high temp on Saturday (got up at 4am and went and slept on sofa as DP is ill and snoring) so I ended up discarding it and it's given me Sat as my ov date instead so will see what happens. My chart looked spot on last month (triphasic and SWI at the right time) so I was gutted when AF arrived!

mrsnes - hi and welcome! I love this thread and would be so lost without my virtual (IYSWIM) friends for support, kind words, encouragement and hugs! So so sorry to hear of your 6 mc. xx

IQ - will be thinking of you tomorrow having your scan. Hope you are feelig better and the back pain has subsided

My moods have deffo been very up and down since the mc happened. Having a holiday with a close friend who had also had a mc recently was really good (IYSWIM) and we had lots of hugs and putting the world to rights about it all. My work offer a 'lifeventure' service which includes counselling (I think). The utter pain, sorrow and downright unjustness of it all is hard to explain unless somebody has also been there themselves.

I need to phone the nurse to book another CD21 blood test now that i've got a good idea of when i ov'd. I had one the cycle I got my BFP and it was kinda average so hopefully this will be a bit better. Not sure what figure they are looking for though as 'good'.

Better get back to work, arghghghghghg! Hi to everybody, hope you are all well and fingers crossed times a zillion we have some more BFPs amongst us in a couple of weeks time xxx

missg crossed posts. sending big virtual mn hugs to you, it's so horrible having those feelings of being so overwhelmed with how utterly crap everything is xx

Wish we could all get together in a bar with big comfy sofas and work our way through the cocktail/wine menu (with OJ for IQ and marathon) !!

PS - manda here is my chart?
www.fertilityfriend.com/home/piemistress

Hi all - my back is just as bad but trying to keep mobile like the Dr said I should. I left work early today and might end up spending the rest of the week at home - haven't had a sick day since 2009 so feel like I might deserve it!!!

eve glad your feeling a bit better today.....things tend to perk up a bit when your not feeling rubbish.

summer yeah it was great to have a nice Dr rather than the trolls I usually seem to end up with. Night out on the wine....sounds like fun and a great laugh.

blue the pills were amazing - knocked me out and there was no serious insomnia last night either.....if not for the pg I would ask for more!!! Glad things appear to be getting back to normal - it's weird what we remember and what we forget about our cycles.

marathon welcome back!!! Scan is next Wednesday....not worrying too much about that YET just the lack of symptoms driving me metal at the moment. The cramps have gone, sore boobs have gone but still having freaky dreams.

whatso I agree with you about the work thing.....things are insane at the moment but I can't walk away cos the maternity.....I know hubby would support me if needed but I don't really want to do that if we don't have to!!!

Manda hope your results will give you something positive - but glad your a bit more upbeat if still very undecided.

MissG what a drama of a morning - how did the rest of the day go?

Metalling about my lack of symptoms and dancing to kiss love gun......currently say watching a bad made for tv movie called "wish list" about a control freak woman who makes lists for everything and when she cant find mr.perfect she makes a list. She has now found mr.perfect and he is everything on the list but also met mr.everything I don't want and their hanging out together. Can we say romance by formula!!!!

Afternoon all...apologies in advance for the 'me' post but feeling really low and down. Trying to get this work project finished, don't know whether the related stress is triggering me feeling so down or whether it's just adding to the underlying stress but just spent half an hour in the loo trying to pull myself together so that I don't burst into tears at my desk...no clear reason (other than the reason I'm on this thread in the first place) but just feel so drained, exhausted and fed up with it all!

mmmmm, cocktails.... Pie am with you on that one . My DD is 15 btw, she's away to Alton Towers today, and DH is away (he's working, but reckon he's glad of the rest, as he's been well and truly used and abused this past week ). And, as I don't have a car today, due to epic breakdown in one of the worst place to breakdown in Glasgow, I can't pick the girls up from the bus at midnight tonight (same time I dropped them this morning, yaaaaaaaaawn) which means it can be wednesday time! Every cloud and all that...

Marathon hope you had a nice holiday. Are you back to usual metalling/moshing/head banging mode??

IQ phew, that was a wee bit of a scare. Glad everything seems ok though, I think with a record like that, you can relax taking a few days off. Hope the back pain clears up soon. Btw, I watched (a bit of) the most ridiculous film EVER last night - on Syfy, starring Debbie Gibson, Tiffany and Mickey Dolenz! I kid you not. They were even getting their song titles in to the diabolically hilarious script. NO - I'm not on drugs, This was real!

Blue are you the next one to POAS then?? (no pressure or anything )

Manda and Summer, read over your posts, so sorry to hear you've been finding things difficult. I think sometimes, for me, it's self-preservation. I sometimes talk myself into thinking that I'm not that bothered whether I get pg, or that in fact that it might be better if I don't, but I know that it's just a tactic to try prepare me for that dreaded BFN (when I know deep down that I do really want a baby).
GPs are very quick to offer pills sometimes, aren't they?! And, whilst they have their place, they're not always the best solution. When my Mum died, and I went to get signed off for a couple of weeks, I was offered AD straight away! Declined of course. I write things down, which I find helpful in just putting thoughts in order and trying to understand how I got from one feeling to another. Hope you're having brighter days today .

Eve, good to hear you're feeling better - and possibly even symptom spotting! Yeah! I think we are going to hear a lot more of that as this week progresses into next.

Hi everyone else and welcome Mrsnesbit. Although I may be a little baised, I am confident in saying that this thread is a great place to be, there are some fabulous ladies on here with an array of experiences.

I am scunnered today. Need some BFP stories to cheer me up

and PS can't get hold of DH to chat either as he's in a meeting and we have a load of friends coming around tonight when all I feel like doing is curling up on the sofa with a hot water bottle and hiding!

Blue cross posts, sorry! No need for apologies here. You're bound to feel like that, having all these little "are they AF or are they something else" symptoms teasing you. Our bodies can be cruel to our minds sometimes. You may remember I was in the same place before my holiday, it really was doing my head in. I had no signs or symptoms either way. Then, thought I had felt Ov, but 2 days later AF arrived. It's not nice this WTF cycle, and you're dealing with that on top of the fact that you are still grieving your loss.
Total headfuck (sorry for language, but that's the best description).
Hang in there - something will happen, eventually. I don't know where all this 'UN MNsnetty' hug ban stuff comes from, so here's a MAHOOSIVE VIRTUAL HUG from me. x

Thanks missg have managed to pull myself together, have a sandwich and now working late to try and get ahead on things after my super unproductive afternoon and to avoid over-stress tomorrow! Also managed to chat to DH who's trying really hard to understand and support but it's difficult for him when I'm super emotional! I've some nice calming music playing on mp3 player and typing away (will save the head-banging metalling for later on!!) It's so so helpful to be able to chat on here and know that you all know exactly the physical, mental and emotional trauma that all of this is!! I really do hope and pray that we all have some good news soon!

Me too! My friend has just left, came over for dinner with her 3 1/2 week old baby. She is simply gorgeous, but just reminds me what I've lost and what I really REALLY want. It will happen, it's just a matter of time. PMA all the way

Am considering going to the gym.

Considered it. TV and wine it is then!

Right...now going home! Somehow managed to get quite a bit done in the last couple of hours - so nice and quiet in the office once everyone else has gone home!! Have emailed my draft stuff to my new boss who hopefully won't put too many red lines through it all in the morning...and to-do list for tomorrow written! Now to go and see how many people have invaded my house...kinda hoping everyone's baled out so that I can go chill but suspect that may not be the case...d'oh!

Hope everyone has a good evening... and missg I think your long thought through decision not to go to the gym was a wise one

ooo just to let you know i am lurking but have been super busy the last coupla days, anyway just wanted to jump on and give blue and manda a hug and will send you a full 'personalised' post later.

also i am feeling loads brighter as it turns out my friends cancer (although still stage 4 ) has a much better prognosis, they think it isnt as widespread as they first thought . anyway i shall do a full update either lunchtime or tonight. ok this is turning into a long post but i truly have to go

speak later!

Yeah summer that's much better news about your friend ...and thanks for the hug too!

I'm also feeling a bit brighter today though still exhausted...cramps seem to be easing off which is odd but who know's what's going on in there!! New boss didn't redline stuff too much which was encouraging and nearly there now for my deadline...woohoo!

Good news Summer. I am proscrastinating on here big time, website updating awaits me. Grooooooaaaaaannn....

Blue you obviously did a good job then . Here, you deserve a Krispy Kreme doughnut with your

It's raining, again. DH back tonight, DD goes to her Dad's on a Friday, so tomorrow night is all about the SWI!! . Although, if my cycle is back to normal (which, of course, having only had 1 very short and light AF since ERPC, I have no idea), Ov will have happened already. But, I am adopting the 'shagging at every available opportunity' approach, just in case. Roll on Friday!

Watched that program about the 16 year old drag queen last night. Fascinating. His Mum was so chilled about it all, shame his Dad wasn't, but I expect Dads may find that harder to accept than Mums would (although, maybe that's unfair stereotyping). And, I seriously doubt the kids at my high school would have been so mature and supportive!

The metalling has hit me now. Woke up with a knawing feeling of hunger and convinced myself it was morning sickness! (No, I was just ready for breakfast )

Have recounted and my AF hit 32 days after my ERPC, meaning the next one should be due next Wednesday (I had been expecting Monday). However given my 23-32 day cycles pre-ERPC it could hit anytime now. In all honesty don't feel preggo but will give it another couple of goes on the old SWI when DH gets back from London just in case

On another thread a MNetter mentioned prodding her boobs quite hard whilst sitting at her desk at work to 'will them' to hurt and therefore be A Sign. I did that last night. Nothing. How very silly of me.

summer good news on your friend

Not much to report here - still no symptoms to report but trying not to worry. Only 6 days until scan so just hoping can hold it together until then.

blue - glad your feeling better and got loads done last night - bloody work!!

MissG that film ended as predicted but was quite sweet really....really bad but still a bit sweet. I like your gym consideration, that is why I never get out to do exercise.....the sofa always feels so much more appealing than running until I can't breathe!!!!

summer - brilliant news about your friend. So glad that things are not as bad as they first thought!!!

Hugs to all and thinking of everyone who is currently metalling!!! Hoping for lots if BFPs.....need some more of you to join me and marathon on our roller coaster!!! Xxxx

On another thread a MNetter mentioned prodding her boobs quite hard whilst sitting at her desk at work to 'will them' to hurt and therefore be A Sign. I did that last night. Nothing. How very silly of me.

I just did this whilst reading it! You're not the only silly one Whatso

IQ 6 days. Sounds like nothing to 'normal' poeple, but to us it's an eternity. Am sure all will be just fine
I am only a few days into what I had originally considered to be the 2ww wait BUT am feeling relatively insane already . I've now convinced myself that the 2 day light AF (on Tues 5th and Wed 6th July) may not have been AF at all, it may have been implantation bleeding (since, got BFN on 16th June and technically, could have ovulated anytime after this). I tested on Wed 6th and either the Fri or Sat - can't quite remember - both BFN but........ if it was implantation bleeding, then I wouldn't get BFP until a few days after that anyway. Am now thinking of nipping out for a test after work to do tomorrow morning. Oh dear, why do I do this to myself??!!

ps IQ there were a lot of cringe-worthy bits in it, especially his Lady Gaga performance!

Ok, now I am sitting feeling my belly, thinking it definitely possibly feels a little swollen (or I could just need to pee). The last 2 times I was pg, I bloated really quickly.

It's official, imaginary (but also probably possibly and hopefully 'actual') symptom spotting has started. Feel insanely -ridiculousy -oddly optimistic

Oh, and I drunk half a bottle of wine last night