Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 16)

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Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

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wttc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

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blue I know how you must be feeling, hopefully its not long now till you can go home and put your feet up, have a and shake it off

evening all.

Blue hope you are ok, it is so hard babies and bumps where ever you go, your time will come.

Shell - that is great news hope all goes smoothly.

Hope everyone is back DTD and working hard to those BFP

I had my scan today - am booked in for ERPC tomorrow again. Hopefully I actually get the op this time. Waited 14 hours last time and left as things were moving after MMM. Clearly not well enough. So fed up. Want this to be behaind me and move on.

Sorry I've not posted for a week or so. I was really just trying to pull myself together and move on. Still getting BFPs though and ERPC was 3rd June. EPU have finally agreed to scan me again tomorrow so will wait and see what that brings... By the looks of things there's others on this thread in a similar situation so hugs to whingey and MissGiraffe

Blue - sorry for a tough day. I hate those moments. I had one yesterday when one of my team phoned me to say she wouldn't be in to work as she had recently discovered she was pg and was suffering badly with morning sickness. Ordinarily I would have been really sympathetic and although I was, inside I wanted to scream "just be grateful!" Anyway, at least that was over the phone and I didn't have to face a photo in an office full of people!

Eve - hope all goes well for you tomorrow

Shell - huge congrats! It is great to get some positive news on the thread

Poppyjen - is it too late for some virtual Pimms?!

Hello to everyone else - whatso, marathon, Manda and anyone else I've missed!

hi all

Blue, so sorry that you're having a bad day - poor you. That's how my work colleague, who's due the same day I was, told everyone she was pregnant so I know how you feel. Not the best way to find out. Hope you're feeling a bit better and DH is giving you a huge hug now.

marathonmama thanks..all ups and downs isn't it?

Saw the doc today. I had convinced myslef overnight that it was a period and was wasting her time. She said it looked like period blood, but sent me to EPSU. I found walking past all the pregnant people really difficult this time. What really set me off was a man walking into the hospital with a carseat, ready to pick up their new baby! Anyway, they scanned and found tissue still in my uterus so I'm having a medical management to get it out.

I feel really woozy and tired - not sure if it's the pessaries or the painkillers...Just sitting here waiting for it all to start... again.... At least this will be it finally - feels like it's never ending at the moment. We're going for a few days away without the DC next week and we were hoping to start TTC, but it looks like that's out the window. Never mind.

Now you know why my nickname is WhingeyMacWhinger!!!

Hi everyone else - hope you're all well

Blue gosh what a day!!!!! So sorry that your day has been pants. I agree with eve - there really do seem to be newborns, bumps and 'announcements' everywhere you look but it will be our turn soon (I'm all about the positive thinking right now)!!!!

whingey and eve and the other ladies in the same situation - hope that the end of all this is in sight. Thinking of you all and sending you all [biscuits] (low fat) and A calming !!!!

Wishing shell continued good health and chilled thoughts.....it isnt easy but hope your taking it easy!!

Take care all.

Xxx

Thanks all...I tried really hard to stay calm and pull myself together but then my boss asked if I was ok and I ended up bursting into tears when I tried to explain so in the end just said I needed to go home! Went straight to a friend's house and had and a chocolate cupcake and a good cry which helped! Lots of hugs from DH this evening have helped too as well. Think it just shocked me about how it hit me so hard seeing the scan picture!

eve hope all goes well tomorrow and whingey hope everything gets started quickly...sorry you've both got to go through this and SES hope you get some answers at your scan.

Anyway...off to bed...nighty night all...

Oh blue what a nightmare, hope you're feeling better? It sounds like you need to get it all out. It really does hit you at the strangest of times. Sending lots of hugs and chocolate (why on a website for mums is there no chocolate emoticon??)

Talking of timing, when we came out of our 12 week scan where everything went horribly wrong, we were asked to take a photo by a couple who were just leaving the hospital with their new baby! I did manage to see the funny side and DH took the photo but couldn't believe how bad the timing was.

Nothing to report here, just off to the gym.

waves to everyone

Oh Blue sorry you had such a shock at work . Situations like that will get easier with time but, for now, there's nothing wrong with having a good cry. I am going to visit my friend and her newborn later today. Although I can't wait to meet her, and see my friend, and know I'll be fine when I'm actually there, I just know I'll struggle to hold back the tears when I leave.

Marathon you are sooooo right, There are pg women and babies everywhere! You and your DH must have amazing strength to have been able to take a photo in such awful circumstances!

Whingey How are you today? Must be draining both physically and emotionally, bleeding for so long. Where are you off to next week? Hope it gives you some time to chill, even if TTC is off the cards - temporarily of course.

Eve thinking of you today, hope it all goes well.

My DD goes away tomorrow for 16 days! Am going to miss her loads. We've never been apart for so long. But.... my week in the South of France will help me get through it
No AF, POAS today, still bfn. But am trying not to stress any more, and just wait impatiently calmly.

Afternoon all...I think it's time! I'm feeling a lot better today - think it just hit me hard yesterday but have pulled myself together again and just realised that things will catch me unaware at times.

whingey how are you doing?

eve hope erpc was as ok as these things can be

SES any more clear on where things are up to from your scan?

missg have you booked a docs app for next week in case AF doesn't decide to make a visit? So frustrating having to wait so long...but good that you have a holiday to look forward to!

marathon am with you about the chocolate emoticon...surely there should be one! Hope you enjoyed the gym!

Hiya all.

Rubbish day. Work is mentally busy, DH is in Thailand with work and I feel like poo. Don't actually think this has anything to do with the MMC, just too much stress at work.

Sorry to hear about your miserable time at work blue - perhaps there were just bad work vibes about today?

Realised I am a day behind - therefore my bad work vibes theory is blown out of the water!

Blue - thanks for asking! Scan showed everything was clear. They were at a loss to explain why I'm still getting BFPs but they lines I'm gettting do seem to be getting lighter so they said to give it another week and if I've still got a BFP in another week (nearly 5wks since ERPC!) to phone them!
Glad you have had a better day today. I definitely find that I get caught unawares by my emotions and it's one of the hardest things to deal with when it happens.

whatso - sorry you've been having a tough time too. Is there anyway the work pressures can be relieved a bit? What is it that you do for work?

missgiraffe - a week in south of France sounds good!

Marathon - maybe we need to start a campaign for a chocolate emoticon!

Hello InsomniaQueen, Eve, whingey, Manda, Shell, poppy and anyone else around!

Morning all

All went well at the hospital hopefully can how put this all behind me, just need to wait for BFN - how odd to look forward to that!

Blue - hope today is a better day - glad to here you got some TLC. Your time will come.

Miss G - 16 days wow - hope it goes by quickly although not too quickly whilst you are in France - hope there is a glass of some cold and bubbly waiting for you.

WmcW - hope you are ok, it is horrible situation to be in, lets hope it gets sorted and you can get back to TTC. The limbo just seems to go on for ever. Hope your few days away are restful.

SES - hope things sort themsleves out soon.

Shell - hope all is going well and you are not feeling too sick.

Soon be the weekend - finally back to work on Monday for me, I will of forgotten what to do after so long off!

Hi there i have been AWOL for a while but have been lurking and just wanted to jump on and give a big hug to blue i have just emailed DH about your (anonymous) post and said it is a cautionary tale to us all. I remember when i was PG with DS my DH and i had no qualms about plastering the scan pic all over Facebook and he had the scan pic on his desk too. If there is a next time then we will do things differently i know.

I have a similar scenario going on at the mo. My friend who is due 3 weeks before i would have been has started going to Pregnancy Yoga (that is where we met when we were PG with our DSs) and her ante natal classes start next week i have also had my friend make her a little patchwork pram quilt and it is so beautiful i want to keep it for myself

onwards and upwards

Hi all,

How's everyone doing?

Manda Poppy, started symptom spotting yet? I'm now 6dpo, nothing to report though. However hard I try to imagine a metallic taste or tender nips I just feel totally normal

Shell how are you feeling? Any symptoms yet? Will you have an early scan?

MissG has the old witch appeared yet? When do you go away?

SES a campaign for a chocolate emoticon sounds good! Do you think MN will listen to us?

Blue Whatso hope you're feeling more chipper?

Eve so glad the ERPC was ok. Fx they sorted you out good and proper and you can move on.

Summer good to hear from you. I know what you mean, my friend who's due a few weeks before I was has just started ante natal aqua and I'm jealous.

waves hello to everyone I've missed It's getting quite busy on here now

Marathon - yes indeed the symptom spotting is in full swing....right now I am suffering from cramps, extremely sore boobs and last night and this morning felt distinctly nauseous. 7DPO. Didn't get any morning sickness with DS until about 7 or 8 weeks but the cramping happened last time (mc) and also with DS at about this time (but could just be normal post ov thing). The sore boobs is new, not had this before either before AF or after conception....

Its going to be a loooooong week Marathon / Manda when do you think you will test?

Saw my old NCT group today and told them about MC, I know a couple of them are also trying for number 2 - I really don't think they wanted to hear about it, I wish I hadn't said anything...

Hope everyone else is feeling ok today

poppy i felt for you when you said that about your NCT group, i thought us mothers were supposed to be there for eachother. It is awkward though isnt it? I still want to go up to my colleague and apologise for blurting out about my MC in the local swimming pool

i am symptom spotting at the moment. i have sore (.)(.)s and have been back and forth to the loo (though i have just started Slimming World so that could be it!).

I am CD21 and 11DPO (i have short cycles). I am trying to hold out until next Thursday (CD28) but know that AF should be here by Tuesday given my usual cycle. After all i will be 14DPO on Sunday. WWYD??

We really want this month to be it, DH has told me to stop telling him about my symptom spotting as he doesnt want to build his hopes up like we did last month. However this is only month number 2 so i should count my blessings.

FX for our other 2WW's! I will try and catch up with 'Fred later on

Afternoon all...feeling a lot better today but that could also be to do with going on mini-break to Ireland with DH tomorrow 'til Monday Had a bit of a moment yesterday when I thought I had EWCM and was contemplating pouncing on DH in case it was early Ov but since I haven't yet got a BFN thought it was rather unlikely...forgot ot POAS to check again this morning but will do tomorrow.

eve so glad erpc ok - here's to a swift recovery and body getting back to 'normal'

SES glad scan ok but hope you get that elusive BFN soon!

manda, poppy, marathon keep us posted with the 2ww symptom spotting! Something for those of us still waiting to get started to look forward to!

summer since MC I have very much realised how many comments I've innocently made of the years and how I was planning to announce my pregnancy might've caused so much heartache for people - has really made me think!

whatsoever how are you doing today? hope work's a bit better, the last thing needed with all of this is super stressful work so hope it eases up for you soon - when is your DH due home?

shell hope all's well with you...I was told that I could have a scan at 8 weeks next time, can you do something similar?

I posted on here earlier and it seems to have gone. Wierd

SES It was 4 weeks 3 days after ERPC until I got BFN. The end is in sight!

marathon no, still nothing. grrrr. Don't know if I'll have time to get to docs as work is mad, and I need to get to a place next Tues where I can relax when I finish, and not stress about leaving stuff undone (or too undone anyway)

oooooh Poppy, sounds promising?

I'm looking forward to hearing of everyones 2ww symptom spotting and mentalling! I'm doing it now, as I have no clue what's going on in there so have decided on PMA all the way. When I held my friends 4 day old baby yesterday, I thought I might explode but in the end, it was fab, she's a wee doll and I love her to bits already. Can't wait for more cuddles. AND, I was convinced I got a tingling feeling in my boobs - the sensation reminded me of breastfeeding NO JOKE even though it's been 14.5 years since I did that! Now, of that's not a symptom....

Summerbird I've decided it's our God given right to go slightly insane around the end of the 2ww. MN can be your mental outlet for symptom spotting.

Hi everyone else? Hope you're all well this sunny Thursday. Sorry if I missed anything recent, today has felt like a long day after dropping my DD and the her friend and family off at airport ... at 6.30!

mmmmmmm, chocolate brownies, cheers blue

Oh, Duh (missing teen DD so using her language to compensate for her not being around) clearly MN moves faster than my brain. Blue it was you who asked about docs. See above . Will def be POAS like a nutter for nest week and half, as will need to know asap if I was pg due to gpoing on hols

And marathon , hol is next Wed, but 9 friends are coming to stay the night before (as I am closest to the airport) so my holiday starts at 5pm on Tuesday!

Whatso, just realised you sounded a bit fed up in your last messages. Hope you're having a better day today.

Hello all - hope everyone is enjoying the fact it's Friday tomorrow!!!

blue glad to see you feeling a bit better - things can catch you off guard but they can only get better (or so I'm currently hoping).

whingey I'm getting very jealous of your tine away.....keep getting offers through for holidays and I can't afford another right now!!!

eve hope all went smoothly at the hospital. And keeping fingers crossed that your body starts to settle down over the next few weeks.

whatsoever sorry to hear work is insane and DH is away (pants), you shall have to try to convince him to treat you to something on his return!!!

ses any progress on a bfn yet?

poppy how rubbish.....I've only told a few people but all have been very sympathetic....some peoe unfortunately can't see past their own noses!!! Big MN hug from the group - at least you know we will always want to hear about how you are!!!

MissG I'm liking your thinking......I'm right on the PMA wagon with you!!!

Good luck to all the symptom spotters and those struggling not to POAS!!!

I'm currently trying not to symptom spot but have woken up the past 3 mornings feeling sick - happened last time but I don't actually think I ovulated so not really sure what is going on. Also had 4 days of sore boobs.....again this happened last time but trying not to let my head run away with me......no OV means no baby - but have bargained with hubby that if I promise not to test early he will take me to cape verde when he gets back - if that is bribery I don't know what is but it is keeping me on the straight and narrow!!!

Sorry, tired in my bones today - ds2 was attached to my boob most of the night. He's cutting four molars and two canines, so can't blame him for being unsettled but, ugh, it's hard.

Just because I've been asked, I shall regale you all with my symptoms so far.

2dpo had some very sharp stabby pains in the uterus area that lasted about a minute. No idea wtf it could be as too early for implantation but mentioning as it's out of the ordinary.

Yesterday (5dpo) and this morning (6dpo), have been absolutely starving in the morning, to the point of it making me feel a bit sick. THis is unusual for me too - dont normally feel to eat anything until about midday/lunch.

Quite a big dip in my temps today (from 36.71 to 36.51) so either it's an implantation dip, my lp is screwed and heading for the coverline/af already or just a random cold temp for no reason. That's conclusive then!

So tired. (that could be a symptom though, and nothing to do with getting no sleep! )

ooo manda that sounds optimistic - and i am resisting POAS until at least Monday so your Symptom Sipotting can be my diversion

wow insomnia i am loving your DH's bribery techniques FGS step away from the sticks!!

missgiraffe and at your tingling boobs 14 years on!

i held my friends 4mo just after i had MCd and i was actually ok, mainly because the little darling had puked on my shoulder after a huge smelly burp, filled his nappy, threw his bottle at me and cried v loud! i respectfully handed him back and realised i could wait a little longer he is adorable though!

This is the place that I've picked out - www.riu.com/en/Paises/cape-verde/boa-vista/clubhotel-riu-touareg/index.jsp. He has no idea what it costs but never mind - he currently has all the kits to stop me cheating - I'm not saying I can't be trusted but the the temptation is HUGE!!!!

Additionally as he is working away deserting me for 3 months (so no TTC) I am using that as further leverage to get him to shell out the extra for a suite......not sure if I will manage it but here's hoping!!!!

insomnia may i respectfully point out that you have your DH by the short and curlies - please be my life mentor