Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 16)

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Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wttc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

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Part 15 here

Hey, IQ don't get too dispondent - true, many women won't ovulate in the cycle following mc but plenty of women do as your workmates have proven. I wonder if the gestation at loss has anything to do with it

Anyway, I think it's really crucial to be aware of what might happen (or not happen, as the case is here) - I'm definitely not a believer of 'ignorance is bliss'.

So! Chin up! It may be you will ovulate, in which case you're in with a chance. But if not, you can take these months where you're not able to try to really get yourself in the best shape you can for your future baby/pregnancy. Oh,and a christmas/new year conception is highly desirable when it comes to school years! Try to look at it in a positive light, even if it doesn't really feel that way at the moment.

Hi ladies, I'd like to join this thread please!

I recently had a natural MC at 6 weeks. The bleeding only lasted a couple of days and my HCG levels were very low 5 days later. DH and I are keen to try again ASAP, so we had sex 9 days later (on Friday) and plan to keep trying every couple of days. I had a negative HPT on Saturday - I forgot to do one before TTC again, oops!

I'm treating the bleeding as though it was a regular period so I think there is a chance I will be ovulating this Tuesday / Wednesday. Can anyone tell me if this is the best thing to do or have I got it all wrong? I'm not keen to start using ovulation tests at this stage, we'd rather just wait and see how things go but I do want to make sure we're doing all the right things.

When I fell pregnant last month it was our first month of trying, so I'm hopeful things won't take too long the next time either.

It seems like a bit of a mystery as to what happens after a MC, so any words of advice would be great. x

Manda have had a good chat with hubby and he agrees with you about be positive. I know that we will keep trying until we get there - it is all a bit much all at the same time with hubby going away. I have been mostly fine over the past week but it was just one of my wobbly moments I think! But your right, it will all be fine in the end (I hope)!!!

Twittwoo hello again. I was advised by the original Dr's (on holiday) to not have sex for 10 days but to go ahead from there. Got back and saw my GP, was told to use 'alternative protection' until after I had an AF but feel free to try from there. We had been trying for 6 months but I don't think I really knew enough about my cycle in the beginning - up to the the MC I was really getting in tune with the changes in my body.

The thing I have learnt is that as with all pregnancies, all MC's are different. Advice on when it's ok to try again varies from one health professional to another and in reality no one knows your body like you do. If you feel ok and you aren't in to testing for OV I would think it is fine to go on as you are. The only thing to think about is that your MC is not classed as an accurate date for the start of a new cycle. If you were to fall pregnant straight away you won't have an accurate gestation date for booking scans ect.

Whatever you do - good luck with it all.

Xxxx

Twitwoo - welcome, so sorry for your loss.

Miss Giraffe - got my BFN on Friday but AF arrived on Saturday so no SWI in the nice hotel unfortunately! Was a very good wedding and unlike last week's I got happy drunk and not sad drunk

Glad to have got AF just to know normality is back, just want to get on with things now.

Morning all...what a gloriously sunny day shame it's like a sauna in the office...oh well, I'd still rather have the sun than rain!!

Got all excited when I POAS this morning as thought it was going to be a bfn...but then a sneaky v faint line appeared! But am encouraged that it is a lot fainter and took ages to appear so think we're nearly there! Which is good as i want to be able to enjoy DTD on our weekend away fri-mon in Ireland this weekend!!

Welcome twitwoo so sorry to hear of your loss but please feel free to join us...everyone's been sooo helpful on this thread and it's nice (if that's the word?) to be able to chat to people who are going through similar things.

whatso glad things are getting clearer with where your body's up to and that you had a good few happy at the wedding!

missG how are you doing...any sign of AF?

IQ glad you and DH have had a good chat - it's a tough time anyway and I think the time pressure of him going away will only add to that but well done for trying to stay positive! That can only help!

Twittwooo, so sorry for your loss, but welcome. This is a good place to be.

Glad you had a good time at the wedding Whatsoever, even though AF got in the way of SWI! Most definitely a good thing though, knowing that things are getting back on track. Wish I could say the same!

Still waiting Blue - getting quite frustrated now. Anyone have any ideas when I should see a doc? or Ring the EPU? These last few weeks have felt like months . ERPC 6 weeks ago today.

Still managed to have a great weekend though. My friend had a wee girl on Saturday afternoon . All doing well. Hope to see them tomorrow. And my DD's 15th birthday celebrations were fab. Had to buy 2 gazebos though as it rained on and off all day, so we went ahead with the BBQ and were still outside at 11.30pm last night with a . Working at 8.30am this morning though, must've drunk about 6 already! (which obv wouldn't be good if I was pg - then again, probably not as bad as the last night! Tested yesterday morning just to be sure before drinking)

missg my doc said that AF should normally come 4-6 weeks after erpc but it could take up to 3 months!! I'd have thought that if nothing happens this week then a trip to docs early next week wouldn't be a bad idea. It's also possible that your cycle won't have kicked in properly until you got your bfn so it may count itself from then rather than the erpc if that makes sense. All very irritating and frustrating for you though! So glad your DD's birthday BBQ went well despite the weather!!

Blue, thanks. Good advice. I think I'll start counting from the day I got the BFN then, which makes sense really. Thats was 16th, so 12 days ago. Oh, it could well be approaching O time if I think this way. DD goes away on Thursday for 2 weeks with her friend and their family - which means SWI can happen when/wherever we want! (well, within reason )

Hope you get that BFN soon, will keep fx you get it before your weekend away.

Hello all!

Welcome twitwoo, sorry for your loss but good to see you on the thread. This website is good for info re. miscarriage www.pregnancyloss.info and should answer all your questions other ladies roll their eyes thinking she's preaching that bloody website again

Blue the water is soooo appreciated!

MissG you're a lucky lady being whisked off like that, it sounds fab. I don't get many surprises, apart from when he 'forgets' to do the washing up! It sounds like you're moving into prime SWI time, good luck with it, there can't be many limitations if dd is away

My epu told me to see my GP if I got beyond 6 weeks without having an AF so might be worth making an appointment?

IQ glad you and DH had a good chat. You never know, you might get lucky in the next month or so. Apparently if you dtd everyday during your fertile week your chance of conception is 37% (age dependent, obviously), which is pretty good. Every other day during that week and it's 33%, so don't give up hope just yet (ref. Dr. Google, he has a lot to answer for...)

No news to report here, we're now officially in the 2ww but given our lack of SWI in the optimal time, I doubt there'll be much to wait for. Manda are you there? Patiently waiting?

Hi everyone,

So I managed to wait until Sunday, day AF was due, before POAS again after my shocking slip last weekend.....and BFP cant believe it, but it's true POAS again using a digital straight after, so not even FMU and it was positive.

We are happy, but I feel scared abt another miscarriage and don't have the excitement of last time...hopefully this will come as the weeks go on uneventfully, fingers crossed.

Hi twittwooo sorry to hear about your miscarriage...I fell pregnant first time round last time, just got the BFP on my third cycle post miscarriage if that helps...but everyone is different, we just did what you are doing and tried and DTD lots each month!

Awwww, great news Shell! Congrats! Can totally understand you being nervous but take each day as it comes and we'll all keep our fx for you

Yeah shell fantastic news!!! also totally understand your nervousness, I know I will be if we get to that point too!

Dreaming of ice lollies at the moment but since I haven't got any in RL thought I'd pass a few virtual ones around

shell congratulations! Amazing news, can understand you not feeling as excited but lets hope as time goes on things will go well and you can allow yourself to get excited

missgiraffe hope you get your AF soon too just to get it out of the way if nothing else. I was told 4 - 6 weeks after ERPC, and I'm smack bang in the middle of that timeframe but I have heard people say it took 8 weeks for them.

mmmm, ice lollies, lovely. Cheers Blue.

shell!! Amazing news . Congratulations. It's such a shame that the fear of another MC takes over from the excitement you should feel, but totally understandable. The excitment will take over from the fear in time though. For the time being, you can mental all you like on here!! Really wishing you an uneventful 8 months

waves to Marathon Whatso and everyone else if they're about.

I have also heard about 8 weeks for AF in some cases, and about not O in the first cycle . I've decided to refuse to believe the latter - only positive thinking here from now. Shell's news has motivated me to chill out and stop stressing!

PMA all the way now

Thanks everyone! I'm sure I'll be fine once it sinks in (prob not but I can hope!)

It may all be pie in the sky MissG but for the first two months after my MC I was mentally (and physically probably) a bit of a state and had just started to get back to my normal self and this BFP comes along...PMA all the way is right

Roll on the storm that is due here tonight - a few hours ago I was laying there gasping 'Where is the rain?!' It's just unbearable, this heat, and it makes me unbearable too!

My daughter has her prom tonight - she asked me to put her make up on for her so I can't be one of those 'embarassing mums', right? would be nice if the rain would hold off until after she's in there at 6.30pm as DP is taking her and her best friend in one of our cars that happens to be convertible (Not anywhere near as fancy as it sounds 'one of our cars' - he's a trader, so there is always a rotation of nice vehicles at our disposal, but always purchased with an eye to selling on )

Ugh, it's hot.

But, oh my, I will allow a moment of excitement (and so raise my temperature further!) to jump around in congratulations for shell. I'm hoping you have an uneventful pregnancy - so happy for you.

marathonmama Me? Patient? No, no. I'm waiting IMpatiently. 3dpo and it's dragging! I really don't feel it at all this cycle but you never know. After just 'knowing' with my first three (had symptoms out the wazoo), the only time I knew in december (not a symptom in sight) was when I was looking at a second line at 10dpo so... yeah, you never know.

Why, oh why am I feeling very ambivilant about another child now that I've begun to ttc? THis weekend I found myself hoping I wasn't so that we could cancel our ttc plans. Am I just protecting myself? Or do I really want an element of 'life' back - DS2 is a supremely demanding child.

Just popping in to say congratulations to shell really hope that things stay uneventful so you can start to enjoy it soon

Sorry I have been MIA, just got my cross hairs on Fertility Friend yesterday so now officially 4DPO. Feeling strangely meh about it this time. I have now started feeling a bit more relaxed (odd I know) but somehow the mc has made me realise that this is not something that we really have much control over and what will be will be......give me week and it may be a different story though

DH and I feeling very positive about prospect of sibling for DS but don't feel in a rush anymore. We'll just keep at it and see what happens I think. Feel very happy that I did actually ovulate (but was on CD27, small improvement on last cycle's CD36 though...).

Hope everyone is ok and not suffering in the heat too much - anyone else with toddler age DCs had issues with getting them to sleep the past couple of days? Poor wee things must be so uncomfortable - gave mine multiple baths today he must have been so confused!

Hi guys

Huge congrats to Shell!! Amazing news - always so nice to hear a success story!

Marathonmama - no rolling eyes here - I read that website from top to bottom several times!

MIssgiraffe - I feel that you and I are having similar problems at the moment - or at least feeling the same frustration. I miscarried on 27th May and have not stopped bleeding since. I did a test on Saturday morning and up popped a pink line- fairly faint, but very clearly a pink line. My doctor told me to call her if the bleeding hadn't stopped after 4 weeks. I'm going in for a blood test tomorrow and maybe some days after that to make sure my HCG levels are going down. I CANNOT wait 10 weeks for a BFN - or for this blinking bleeding to stop. I'm tired of sanitary pads now!

Blue- good to hear about your AF - you can get on with it now!

Poppyjen - my 2 year old took all her clothes off at 3pm today and ran around naked until bath time - refused to put any clothes on!

Strangely (because I thought I was past all this) am having a bit of a wobbly time in the last couple of days. I think it's because there's a neighbour who's just had a baby and I saw her with it today for the first time, my boss is having a baby shower on Friday and I'm really, really tired - which also makes me grumpy and teary.... Actually, if I wasn't still bleeding and had had a BFP, I would think it was the lead up to AF!!!

We're going away next week so hopefully it will take my mind off it again.

Hi everyone else - hope you're all wellxx

Shell.....OMG brilliant news!! That has put a huge on my face, I shall be keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!!! Xxx

Thanks all for your advise and trying to keep my spirits up....sometimes you just need people to jolly you along......glad to have all you ladies to keep pushing me forward!!! Xxx

Sending out positive vibes, fertility magic and crossed fingers for everyone getting to the OV point, waiting for a BFN, waiting for bleeding to stop, newly BFN (lots of luck) and trying to hold off on POAS!!!! (I think that is everyone covered)

Xxxx

Sorry missed off the BFP's......hoping for lots more of these!!!! Xxx

Oh Manda, it sounds like your head is all over the place. I wonder how you'll feel if you get a BFP or BFN, maybe that will tell you whether you really do want another dc?

You probably are protecting yourself somewhat, you've been through a terrible experience and are trying to stop it happening again in the only way you can.

I felt awful when I first discovered I was pg, I thought it was too soon and I wouldn't be able to cope with two little 'uns. When I mc it made me realise how much the baby was wanted and how much I'd give to be pg again. I knew I would regret not having or trying to have another but wouldn't regret having a baby. Do you think you'd regret it if you didn't have another? How about if you did?

Give yourself time to grieve properly and think with a clear head and I'm sure the right decision will emerge.

Poppyjen, I think you're a cycle buddy with me and Manda, we're both 4dpo. Given the stats, that would mean that one of us is likely to have a BFP this month! Oooh, good luck! Unlikely to be me so it's between you two... no pressure though

My dd (23m) is currently crying in her cot, desperate for sleep but unable to settle. I think it's the heat so I feel your pain. It's frustrating, she's so overtired and really needs a good kip.

Whingey hope you're feeling more positive? I had a bad day yesterday. I had been feeling good for a while so was a bit taken aback to be down yesterday. I think it was because I met up with one of my friends who's due two weeks before I would have been and had an email from another friend announcing that she's 17 weeks pg. I was so jealous of them both and felt really upset. I also realised that I've got to wait nearly a month before we can try again and wish the time would speed up, it seems to go so slow.

MissG have you POAS recently?

Shell I bet you're mentaling like mad, we're all here to support you so let us know how you're doing.

IQ glad you're feeling more positive

Hello to anyone I've missed!

Dd is finally asleep, phew! Right, for me, anyone else?

Yep marathonmama totally mentalling, only known for 3 days and it already feels like a year ...not complaining though, I'm lucky to have got here, just hoping it stays!

Hi to everyone else

was having a good day and feeling quite positive, managed to do my salsacise DVD this morning and starting to feel that losing some of this weight is a possibility but now a bit again...a colleague at work who doesn't know what's happened and who I've only just started working with has just proudly printed out his 12 week scan picture and stuck it up next his desk and told me his 'news' ... first time I've seen a scan picture since our trips to the scan dept when MCing so not really feeling too great. I just feel so tearful and sad! Was asking him how his wife had been feeling etc and was nice to talk about first 12 week symptoms and seems as though she's been feeling almost exactly the same way as I was until we found out about mc... oh dear, really can't cry at my desk...

Just stumbled from my desk into one of the secretaries offices and had a good cry...now enjoying a hot chocolate but still feeling quite shakey...just brought all the memories back of how i felt and all the pregnancy symptoms I had and then the awful time at my 12 week scan when they said there was nothing inside the gestation sac

Sorry for splurge...can't ring DH at work...

Oh blue I'm so sorry.