Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

bumpwanted at 6 weeks with dc1 i had the same, was tested for ectopic I was in so much pain but it all ended up just fine (she is now 2.8). fx it's nothing - but I remember how horrible it is - I was crying and being sick all the time. It stopped at about 8 weeks.. x

Thanks Katherine I really hope so. It was so bad last night that I thought if this is a MC I just want it to happen and for it to be over as I just couldn't take it. I told my husband this morning I think it was more painful than childbirth! Clearly if I make it this time I will be going for an epidural!! xxx

oh bump you poor old thing. but remember, pain and no bleeding is just fine. I clearly recall being in hospital at 6 weeks being tested and wanting it all to end too. it might be worth taking a panadol. also I know it seems daft, but take some gaviscon too. I remain convinced that the pain was something wierd happening with my digestive system (although it didn't feel like it at all at the time) so you never know, it might just work and it won't do any harm.

Sending you lots of love.

oh bump i'm sorry i xposted your message. fx the pain stops soon for you, glad they could see the sac in the right place though.

bump sorry you're having all the pain and worry, but fx it's not what you think. Good news that sac was in right place, and no bleeding so try to stay positive x

collie I have that Doppler too but with the LCD display (also an eBay bargain!). Despite all my promises not to use it before 12 weeks I did have a sneaky go on Monday (11+3) and think I found the hb. Took me about 15 mins and then I only got it for about 10 seconds but still I think I had it; display had a solid black heart at 165bpm and I could definitely hear something!

Of course I may just be deluded but I'll probably have another go at the end of the week when hopefully those few days will have made all the difference!

Bump - so sorry to read your post. Take it a step at a time and try not to fear the worst. I guess you're going back in a week or so for another scan?

I did chuckle that we were probs there at the same time - I was there from about 09.30 till 10.15 (am I the stalker or the stalked?!) I was blood test no. 004 (!) I went to the ante-natal section first, then went to the bloods. I sat right by the ticket machine so I could spy on everyone's number as they went in (as calling-out system wasn't working) at first. FYI I am of Mediterranean-kinda appearance, long dark hair, olive skin. I was wearing black jeggings with ballet pumps, black cardy-thingy and olive loose, long vest top with sparkly bits, green mulberry bag and blue cath kidson shopper (now feel like I am feeding the stalker!) After my bloods I had to cross the floor back to antenatal carrying a vial of, erm, blood. Nice.

Gawd - had I gone for an early scan, I could've been sitting next to you....

Do you live locally to St Georges BTW? I am in Streatham Hill.

PLEASE try not to worry Bump - unfortunately we only have our past experiences as reference points.

Cep - sorry to hear about car incident - at least you're ok. I only passed my test last summer and have a beautiful Mini Clubman outside that I am too scared to drive. Enjoy the cream cakes though

cep missed your post - sorry to hear about your bump in Tesco - hope you are ok.

Oh bump poor you sweetie i am so sorry your night sounds just awful. I really hope you all is ok, like in katherines experience. Can you get tested for a UTI with your GP?

Ohh lara i Love the new mini clubman, how swish. I got a TT 2 years ago with a promotion - i've wanted one since uni, but am now looking at practical family cars to trade it in for

cep oh no about the crash - just a little one though. glad you're ok.

I have a very funy crash story. About a year ago i went to the gym before work, got back home for a shower in a rush. Just about dressed when i had a knock on the door, to find someone asking me if that was my car (my previous new to me TT) - as they pointed down the hill of the road we live on. I'd parked it outside the house. But I live of a steep hill and hadn't put the handbreak on properly. It had rolled down the hill into a neighbours car!!!! Thankfully (or amazingly) no damage. But the worst of it was i ran out of the house in a panic and the front door locked behind me. So, stood in the road with no shoes on, no car key, and no house key i was stranded with my car blocking the road, with a queue of cars trying to get up and down the street. The police had to come to corden off the road while my dh drove 25 miles from work to let me in!!! Opps

Collie - that is a BRILLIANT story... Love it.... Was your DH livid?

Mini Clubman is pretty cool - in fact, got it as my "fcuk it" car when I wasn't getting pregnant, the rest of the world was so I decided "sod it" and I blew my commission on the car (with support of DH). Anyways, spent extra cash then customising it (cool black and white union jack on the roof, chrome wing mirrors etc). Three days after laying out all the £ for the car (hadn't even taken delivery of it yet) and I got my BFP. hahahahaa!

Anyways - decided to keep it. Figured it's large enough to fit a buggy in the boot and if I ever need the cash, I'll just sell it.

Problem is I just need to get over my fear of driving (inner south London streets terrify me). But hey - when bean comes I will do at least three routes - the drive to Sainsburys, the drive to my mum's and the drive to the doctor's. Hopefully doing those drives enough will boost my confidence to drive to other places.

Awh thanks girls that is so sweet of you all. Fingers crossed the bean hangs on to my uterine wall!

Ha Lara seriously funny we were sat about 10 rows apart. I was right by the EPU scan doors so I could monitor peoples faces as they came out to determine if they had happy or sad news and thus my chances. I didn't see you but I went to the loo about 8 times in the loo right by where you were sitting so you probably saw me even though unlikely to remember. I was wearing jeans and a pink v neck jumper. I live near Earlsfield so not far!

Going to the GP tomorrow for a UTI test. The EPU said I can go back whenever I want but recommended (unless anymore scary pain) I go back at 8 weeks as they said I would see a lot more, a proper baby and a heartbeat and it would make me feel better. Seems like such a long way away though!

Cep sorry to hear about your crash. Glad you are ok and have cakes.

Collie that is so funny!!

Izzy hope the doppler monitoring goes well!

Good luck today Minnie

Blackat hope all is good with you.

xx

collie that's so weird, I did exactly the sane thing with our car nearly 2 weeks ago. It was so embarassing and could have caused a big accident-I didn't really get any sleep that night as I kept thinking about both what I'd done and how the stress would have harmed the bean! I couldn't say anything about my distracted state of mind either as it was really early on for me. It's also costing us a lot of money to put both our car and the one it crashed into, right! As long as no-one was hurt and bean is ok-I don't give a crap though!

Bump - you can go back at 6 and 8 weeks... Was your sonographer, Anita? She is brilliant.

I probs walked past you a few times then! I didn't see you but I was avidly concentrating on the blood number system (as it made no sense). Earlsfield is v close - I frequent Carluccios there v often!

Hope all goes well with the UTI test and in the meantime, get lots of rest and I hope the pain subsides.

We will all do a raindance for a super sticky bean.

I have a small car story - when trying to get out of my parking space (we have street parking), I massively scraped my (old) car against DH's car. So both cars were damaged courtesy of moi.

Doo - so sorry you had the same experience and like you said, as long as you both weren't hurt...

bump sorry to hear about the pain and the bad night. Hope things are calming down and all turns out well for you x

Talking of food-I munched two gregs meat pasties for lunch! No fruit, veg or nutrients at all and I could eat 2 more now! Better stuff some veggies down tonight!

Darn Doo - could kill a pie.... Thinking of asking DH to get me a Pukka pie on the way home. We bought a load of "Just Cook" M&S stuff this week as I'm too knackered to cook (and DH is useless at cooking) but I don't fancy any of it.

Bump hope you have a better night tonight, and good news that the sac is in the right place. ((hugs))

LOL at you and Lara stalking in St Georges. I used to live in London and in lots of ways still miss my friends and the fact that everything happens there, but in fact, I wouldn't swap Yorkshire for London now. [smug emoticon]

Cep at least the cream cakes were consolation, sorry to hear about your prang.

Collie I love your story made me laugh so much, although I can appreciate at the time it wasn't a laughing matter

We live in the middle of the country which is v beautiful, but not so great when we get snowed in for 5/6 weeks. I had a rear wheel drive car before we moved here, and hadn't appreciated the problems this would cause. So after being towed out of a carpark in York due to the snow and ice (yes the flattest place in the country ) this winter and not being able to get the damn thing off the drive for 6 weeks, it was goodbye to my promotion car and hello something safe and practical which fortunately should be big enough to haul baby crap about in,

Scooby are you back this Friday for a scan??

Minnie any news?

Izzy lovely that you could find the HB, 165 is just spot on isn't it, lovely

DH has said we can buy one as he is most envious of the cat who seems to spend most of his time on my knee with his head leant against my tummy purring. I'm seeing that as a v good sign.

. Have contacted DH by text, email and left a voicemail asking him to bring me home a pie... Think he'll get the message?? He'll either come home, goods in hand with a smile or otherwise be pissed off with me for stalking him on every possible communication line while he is busy with real priorities at work. I hope the former but suspect the latter

Blackkat - was the move to Yorkshire a lifestyle choice? Before my Dad died (of cancer a year and a day ago to be precise) we were going to relocate back to Cheshire to be closer to family and enjoy a more family-friendly way of life. Now he's gone there's not much drawing us back there (plus my Mum has moved down here) but I do sometimes think what we'll do in a few years time when bean has grown... Love the idea of moving somewhere peaceful.

I'm glad i could amuse you all with my story. DH wasn't mad, he never really is bless him. I on the other hand would have hit the roof!!

doo i am so sorry about your crash and that the cars were damaged. It is scary how much worse it could have been, my car was just yards from rolling into the main road in the village.

I'm having M&S cheese and onion pie for tea

I've never lived in the big smoke and after visiting my friends down there always came home thinking how we should move. But now i wouldn't swap my tiny village and rolling hills for anything.

blackkat i was thinking 1 series, but is a rear wheel drive really a bad idea???

lara so sorry to hear about your Dad, , not an easy time for you I'm sure.

Yes I moved here 7 years ago, after 6 in London straight from Uni. I worked in tv and worked silly hours, went out til silly hours and drank too much, but loved every minute. DP at the time worked up here and my parents were retiring back here (I was born in Yorkshire) so the move was fairly straightforward, one of us needed to if we wanted to be serious. He's now DH so I guess it was the right move
It makes me laugh when my friends come to visit and ask if I need them to bring anything from London in case I can't get it here!!

Collie I had a 1 series, and loved it to bits. But, rear wheel in the snow and ice is not a nice experience, particularly where hills are involved. Are you in the Pennines? When I could get the car out I spent all winter driving round with bags of logs in the boot to weigh the back of the car down, and more often than not moved down roads sideways. DH who is a blue light driver, and consequently well trained, said it was a nightmare too. Also they're quite tiny in the back seat and the boot and with run flat tyres the drive is hard, you do feel every bump (I'm not sure if you can choose not to have runflats). When I got updiffed first time round we agreed we needed to get a 4wheel or front wheel drive just to be a bit safer here in the winter and enable me to be able to go out.(scolds self for even thinking 4wheel when I don't live on a farm and need to go off road) Just switched to a VW and it's a comfier drive and more economical, though it's a bit boring compared to the 1 series. [it's only a bloody car, stop chuntering emoticon]

Right enough Clarkson type chat...

Lara hope dh brings that pie home!!

Oooh, cars and pie chat - now this is my scene

I'm having to part with my beloved Fabia vRS as it won't take any baby crap, and did get stuck on the massive hill up to OH's last winter. To make matter's worse, when phoned him wailing that I was stuck and sliding, he said "I can't come and get you, I'm about to take the sheep to market" Grrr

My parents are giving me their focus estate, but we also have a pickup for the farm. If all that fails, there's always the tractor!

I really want pie for my tea now! With chips and loads of gravy

Collie love the crash story- hilarious

bump hope the pains are a bit better

jollster sorry to hear about the CP hope you're back here soon

blackkat I love being a yorkshire girl too but I do like to be near a town!

Thanks for all the good thoughts on the scan but didn't manage to get one for this week-so much for scanning from 8 till 6 every day as on the website! Am going next Wed eve instead. It's a long wait but the bleeding has really slowed down. I'll be nearly 10 weeks then if it carries on ok which sounds good!

No morning sickness at all though which is freaking me out < whispers symptoms come and go, symptoms come and go while rocking in the corner>

Got pooed on by a pigeon today when I was playing cricket with the kids at work- went right down my cleavage! Lovely-I'm not exactly small chested but that was pretty good aiming! Good luck though I'm told!

minnie the bird do is supposed to be very lucky! Shame you have to wait til next week - but so pleased everything has calmed down.
Are you up north too then Minnie?

daisy the focus estate sounds like just the job, though the tractor sounds cool too!!

Blackkat Yes I'm up north too- we're in Leeds. Pretty much born and bred. Only left briefly to live in Lancaster for uni years ago. Even my brother's come back after many years saying he'd never live in Yorkshire again- the south being way cooler! He lives round the corner now! I'm glad cos he'll be a fab uncle.

bump sorry you're having a lot of pain, fingers crossed it doesn't mean anything sinister. Have they given you antibiotics in case it is a UTI?

Lara I am impressed at the scan turning-down-ness! at the clubman too! Why don't you try a route in the evening when it's quiet with DH with you to build up your confidence and then once you're ok with it when it's quiet, try other times of day? LMAO at you scraping your and DH's cars

I think a grads section is a fab idea. I just looked at the list and assumed someone had made a mistake putting me at 20 weeks! It's right but in my head I'm still about 8 weeks....

CEP sorry about your stressful shop, hope you're not too shaken up.

collie that is a fantastic story! Your DH sounds like a sweetheart.

izz good work on finding heartbeat!

OMG I need pie urgently! I'm on the train trying to control the urge to vom..... Can't decide if have washing machine stomach from being hungry or feeling sick IYSWIM. Had my repeat 20 week scan today and all is well such a relief-trying v hard not to let Kelly Brook story freak me out...