Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

Minnie, good luck with the scan. There's nothing wrong with not letting yourself think ahead too much and get carried away with the thought of a new baby. Just make sure you don't stress too much because it is bad for you. I'm beginning to relax now but my first trimester was spent in a kind of day to day torpor. Better than thinking too much and stressing. Hope everything is ok.

I'm feeling sorry for myself because I have the worst mouth ulcer I've ever seen on my tongue. It is the size of a penny and I can hardly talk or chew.

collie glad you had a good holiday, on your behalf about the dates.

battery glad bleeding has stopped, fx thats it for you.

minnie fx for scan tomorrow. i know how you feel i'm the same, i expect them to say bad news everytime.

I started getting weird cramps yesterday, but i can't tell if it's my stomach or high in my groin. I had spd last time and have started getting it again, but as it's so close i can't tell where the pain is actually coming from, but it's making me worry more about thursdays scan.

I told my parents yesterday, ds gave them a copy of my last scan in an envelope, they were really happy for us. waiting till after scan to tell dh's mum and family as they're a lot closer and we can see them anytime.

Morning everyone.

Thanks all for your advice on date cock up and useless mw. Going to ring hospital today and try to get edd changed, my old dates taken off and my scan date pushed back. If that doesnt go well, i'll follow it up with a complaint as suggested, but will give them a final chance to sort it out first. We have 2 community mw in my area so i think I'll try and book in with the other for my next apt to see what she's like. Being referred to another area isn't really an option as I've heard horror stories about my second closest which also has terrible cqc results.

Thanks mummya for the downs tests link, it's really informative.

battery so sorry you had bleeding and on your dd too. So glad it's stopped now though. Fx it was just getting comfy, and brown can be good. Def ring epu tomorrow. Put you and bean first ahead of work. Nothing is worth the risk.

pink the tiredness is draining isn't it?! As you can see from the ridiculous time I'm posting, I'm having another night of insomnia!!! Aghh!!! And first day back to work tomorrow!!! How long have you been off for now? Do you still have more time to recoup or are you back to work? I hope it eases for you soon.

minnie glad you're getting symptoms, but don't worry about them fading. My ms was hiddeous one day and ok the next. Be thankful for the 'days off' iykwim.

harassed glad you're having symptoms too. Its all good signs. I know it's hard to be positive but it's nice your dh is trying to be. Fx this is 3rd time lucky for you x

cep sorry you're having cramps sweet. I know it's impossible not to worry but try to think positive. You've had so many great reassuring scans so far it's all probably fine. Remember how much everything in your body is changing. No doubt bean is just doing its thing and everything else is moving around so it can get comfy. I know it's soooo easy to dish out the good advice that to take it though. Good luck for Thursday. I want you to promise us though, after your good news on thurs (which you WILL get) you will start to believe that your bean is ok, and this pg is not going to end in disaster. I'll be expecting to hear that affirmation (hugs)

blackkat how are you lovely? And how is your dad doing?

Good luck to minnie and karherine for scans today. Hope we get some more lovely good news on the thread.

I had a big blob of brown cm on Friday, and nothing since. Since fri my ms has def eased (still get odd wave of nausia, but not been sick which is a record breaking 4 days). I was thinking placenta could have kicked in (I'm about 10+4 today) but nhs pg book I got says this isn't until 12-14 weeks???

Have been debating cancelling scan on weds as thought of having bad news before trip to Belfast freaking me out as I'd have to cancel abd ruin it for friends-which is ironic as the whole reasoning behind having it was to know if things were ok or not, so I could decide not to go if not! Think I'm going to keep it though, just petrified. I just associate scans now to that horrid news and I don't know how I'd cope hearing that again

Right, better go and see if I can get any more sleep before my alarm goes off at 6.30!!! Boooo to work!!!

Hope you got back to sleep collie - despite your anxieties, I would def recommend you still go for the scan on wed and as we all know, symptoms do come and go -read your post to cep - as you say, far easier to dish the advice than take it. Sending hugs.

minnie and katherine - good luck with the scans today and I hope you find a cure for that mouth ulcer irene - ouch, ouch....

Morning All

Have had a lovely week at home last week and whilst I was lurking, I wasn't on long enough to post. Now back at work today so will have lots and lots of time to spend on MN (funny how that works, eh?!)

Will read through everything properly later but a few quick points...

Good luck to today's scanners.

Blackkat - awesome news about your scan... I have to send a big fish-slap your way though as you still haven't added yourself to the list.

Collie - hope you got back to sleep. I'd echo WIW and urge you to have the scan. I too have had disappearing symptoms that has rendered me terrified but I do keep saying to myself that the symptoms do come and go. Felt awful this AM but it was probs just cos I was going back to work.

I am sooooo scared this AM - am convinced bean is no longer... got my booking in appt this week and am convinced it will be a big fat waste of time....

Morning my dears, how are you all today?

Collie hope you had a lovely holiday and that the hospital's useless cock up hasn't undone all the good your relaxing break had. Good luck with speaking to them, you sound incredibly rational and forgiving in the circumstances! I agree its worth seeing the other CMW especially if you find her easier to get form a trusting relationship with - they are great when they're on your side.

Hope you're hanging in there battery I've got everything crossed for you.

Lara good luck for your scan today!

Am finally back into work tomorrow - wey hey! Although a bit nervous now...

Daisy - I don't have a scan today unfortunately.... wish I did though!

Can I freak out with you too?? I had really bad cramps last night and just lay there waiting for it to all go horribly wrong, but I'm still here. Absolutely shattered and have lost my voice (again!), why have I come to work?! I'm terrified that my boobs don't feel as sore, although the ms is still here. This is even though my mw has told me symptoms come and go...... It's terrifying isn't it?

Good luck to the scan-ees today!

Collie - I think you should get the scan done, definitely. Have a look here re placenta taking over.

Lara hope you're ok lovely, why do you think bean is no longer?

Cep sorry you're having cramps too, have they eased?

Irene try salty water for you ulcer, like a mouthwash. I find it's the best thing, or Corsodyl if you have any. I always get mouth ulcers when I'm run down.

Hello Harassed. Hope you're less worried this morning - stressing at night makes everything seem a whole lot worse. I am probably overreacting but I just don't "feel" pg enough! I hope it's just me panicking and finding something to worry about. Nothing has so far happened for me to think the bean is no longer alive but after my last MC I just worry like hell. My DH is convinced all is fine but my symptoms are just so few and far between. I know others (like Dachs) barely didn't feel anything either but I just feel that if I felt worse, it would all be so much safer. Got my booking in appt this week and feel like the whole thing will be farcical again (last time I had my booking in appt and had a MMC three weeks later).

Plus on a totally different note, I am so utterly fed up of work that I think I'd be devastated if this pg didn't progress because I'd be stuck here for God knows how long!

I can understand that Lara! I'm slightly annoyed that I felt like I "had" to make a booking in appointment for mid May time. I had a mmc in Jan and 10+1 but baby had died at 7 weeks, so the booking in and blood tests were pointless. My dh isn't worried at all but I'd feel better if my boobs were as sore as they were 2 days ago.

We may be twins...... I feel exactly the same about work.

OMG - panicked myself more by taking a sneaky peak at the miscarriage section of talk. ANYTHING could happen to bean - heartbeat could stop, heartbeat could've slowed, I could have a MMC. Gahhhhhh! How the eff am I going to get through the next two weeks? Thought about trying to arrange another early scan but am too scared that the outcome of another scan is negative whereas the early scan I had at 6 weeks was positive with a little heartbeat. Please slap me hard with any fish you can find ladies.... Am getting myself into too much of a state to do what I am supposed to do today - WORK!

lara TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND CALM DOWN... I think you are my twin - I also hate my job and would be really annoyed if I were stuck here for the forseeable future, and I had no symptoms. There are lots of things that can go wrong with pregnancies, but you need to remember that there is a far better chance that the pregnancy is perfectly normal.

Awww - thanks Dachs! It's terrible... I feel that after two MCs, as much as it would devastate me, I could physically find the strength to pick myself up, dust myself off and move on in the event of a third MC. However, what would KILL me, would be the thought of being stuck at this hell-hole (the office) for an indefinite period of time! In my head I am already seeing November as my "cut-off" date. I know people would make shite "useful" suggestions like: find myself something "exciting and challenging" to do at work, focus on developing myself professionally etc etc but right now, the only thing keeping my going week after week is the thought that there is an end in sight! Can't wait to eventually have a positive scan result so I can tell them to take their job and stick it up their whatevers! Sorry f this sounds totally morally wrong (and my feelings are probably exacerbated by the fact that it's my first day back) but am just being honest!

Happy to be your twin, Dachs and *Harassed"!

oops - Harassed

Just projectile vomited at the Antenatal clinic.....

(as in I had no symptoms, same as you, and am not liking my job, same as you, rather than I'd be annoyed if I were stuck here with no symptoms which is how my original post read. I blame pg brain!)

Good luck to fellow scanners today, my first one for this pregnancy is at 3pm....argh. I couldn't feel more sick which is probably a combo of ms and nerves. I just don't want to be the one put in the special room to cry my heart out again!

Oh no Pink! At least they won't keep you waiting ever again . Hope you're feeling better now.......

That's how I feel too Lara. I've had two mc's this year, and don't know how I'll cope if this goes wrong. It's meant to be our last "go" too, so not sure if dh would even want to try again. I try not to think about the future at the moment...... denial etc.

Dachs no early symptoms at all??!!

harassed none whatsoever - as the ladies here will confirm. I was a freakout nutcase as I had no symptoms at all and was consequently totally stressed out about it all. Slightly sore boobs maybe, but that was more likely me prodding them to see if they were sore than actually being sore, as they were nothing like the soreness I had when I had the mmc. Not even a hint at any point of any morning sickness, didn't go off any food or drink at all, tired but not as tired as with the mmc and no real feeling of being pg at all on any level. Still nothing- I have no bump, I can't feel the babies moving and I'm sure everyone thinks the pregnancy is a figment of my imagination. But there are still two babies there, nearly 18 weeks and wriggling around on scans. So lack of symptoms does not always mean there is something wrong. It doesn't help though - guaranteed to make you freakout if it doesn't feel like anything is happening.

Hello all

Poor pink I hope you feel better :)

I can completely understand the work thing. I can't wait to finish work, and the thought of having no light at the end of the tunnel is grim. I don't mean that to sound like all I want a baby for is to get out of work, but it is a bonus too!

Quick update from me - tiny bit of brown, but nothing else. EPAU have moved my scan to friday as they wont scan before 6 weeks. I have had my bloods done though and have to have them done again on thursday to see if the levels are rising.

Good luck to all scanners today - will try and name check more - just having trouble keeping up! xx

Hello all, same with the work stuff here too. I think that's what made the MC even harder to deal with, as I had an end of work date in my head and then when TTC afterwards it felt like I was in limbo and couldn't change jobs as didn't know when might get pg.

Had the anomaly scan today - the baby seems well but wasn't co-operating during the 5 minute slot allocated to it (can't get over the difference between NHS and private scans, it is a joke how rubbish the NHS is) so have to go back in a week. Am glad that what they saw looked fine but am disappointed not to have a conclusive result. Especially since I'd worked myself up about it for weeks Hopefully next week they'll be able to see the final few things they need.

Big hugs to all the stressed people today. Am off to bed now xx

You give hope to a whole lot of us, Dachs.

Battery - good news that the scan will be this week. Better it's at 6 weeks. It would stress you to no end if you had the scan a few days early and they made you come back.

Feel quite sick and very bloated. Not sure if it's pg or more likely, the after-effects of the mini eggs I convinced myself I "needed" to eat after lunch combined with the fact I am constipated as hell.

Hi all,

not been on much of late as I have been juggling work/childcare/housework again, our cleaner/nanny has gone awol and its all down to me again!!

I've still been reading what you are all up to though.

Collie my sickness dropped off at that point too, I am pretty sure its when your HCG levels stop rising too which is a gradual process that starts at about 9 and a half weeks.

Irene mouth ulcers are a sign of being run down. Are you resting and getting enough healthy food? You and Pink need a nice lie down in our sick bay area

cep battery I am officially joining the cramping/bleeding club. Admittedly both are very mild, tiny bit of spotting yesterday and day before and cramping is the same uterus expanding kind I have had all the way through. Its a bit worrying, but my coping strategy is just to push it out of my mind and remind myself of all the great scans I have had.

battery I know you are probably desperate for that scan, but I am glad it is being done at 6 weeks - its much more reassuring to know that dates are right at that stage and be in with a chance of seeing a heartbeat rather than going just to see a sac and then worrying if it is empty. Bloods kept me going until the first scan. Loads of good info to read about HCG levels here

good luck with your nuchal scan today Katherine and your first one minnie

Hi Guys - hope everyone is hanging on in there - symptoms and/or lack of them are so hard to get through.

pink hope you are ok!!

Just dropped by to say all went well with the scan - I've gained a day which is great and the little mite was waving at us like a loon. Nuchal measurement was only 1.1mm so fx for a good nuchal result. chuffed to bits anyway.

good luck minnie for 3pm.

xxxx