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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

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MummyAbroad · 13/04/2011 13:29

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

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DoubleDiffedDachs · 20/04/2011 14:10

(oh and if you wait until the weekend there will be blackberry and apple crumble with home made custard - proper custard, not this Birds packet nonsense...)

cep · 20/04/2011 14:13

yay for good scan news orange and Tunnocks*

welcome flori and scooby

scooby i have been very scared until i passed all my bad dates from the mc. yesterday i was 11+3 which was when i got the bad news last time, i had a scan yesterday and it was good saw it do a huge bounce and now i can't not be excited. (which is also scaring me a little) i know when i get near the next scan date i'll get worried again though.

Blackkat · 20/04/2011 14:23

mm custard and crumble, you're spoiling us Dachs

BarbiesBeaver · 20/04/2011 14:31

Hello, I wondered if I might be allowed to join you all for a bit of handholding? I joined you all very briefly in January after a successful IUI (I think I was due the same time as Dachs ?), but sadly lost it just before 6 weeks.

I had a previous MMC at 12 weeks last year. My most recent IUI has worked and am waiting to hear if I'll be allowed Heparin and when my 7 week scan will be. I'm taking my aspirin for now and just praying this one stays as I've been TTC for nearly three years now. Thanks! .

DoubleDiffedDachs · 20/04/2011 14:38

oooh - fudge cake and lemonade - welcome back :) Good luck with everything - hope this one sticks. My IVF twins appear to be sticky so here's hoping your BFP will stick around too. Maybe you could have twins as well :)

BarbiesBeaver · 20/04/2011 14:41

Glad to see you're doing so well Dachs. I think it was only one viable follicle in the end when I triggered so it's probably only the one in there. But I would be happy with either!

MummyAbroad · 20/04/2011 14:54

PLEASE DONT IGNORE THIS

Can someone please tell BrokenBarrenBrook where you got your private progesterone prescription from? She has suffered 4 mc's and her GP wont prescribe until a letter from St Mary's RMC arrives, but she has already started spotting and is very worried. Looks like her last message got lost in the rush. If you got a private prescription for progesterone, please can you tell her where from and how you went about getting it. Thanks ladies.

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Collie2 · 20/04/2011 15:11

Afternoon everyone, what another b.e.a?utiful day! Smile

izzy yay for yesterdays great scan, so glad it went well and that your consultant was super understanding.

orange and tunnocks really pleased to hear your scans today went so well too. Its good to be hearing such good scan news, I hope it continues for all.

Grin @ blackkat I know I get worried too when I don?t ?hear? from certain people for a while. Although like you I won?t be telling DH that?.. he thinks I spend way to long on here as it is!!

banana I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling. I recall a couple of people off the thread feeling the same way over the past few weeks ? like mummya said for example. I feel so Sad for you feeling that way, but its not uncommon. I hope you start to feel calmer and more zen like soon ((hugs))

wiw well done in booking your 12 week scan and NT. The 12th really is not very long off!! That?s good news about getting your results on the same day, the wait on the NHS seems dreadfully long. I asked about the NT scan today and she (the mw) said the results would be sent to me in the post. V Confused

velvet I agree, and as you have just said you know you body and should do what?s best. I am already quite sick of being told what I can?t do and what I should be doing, much of which is contradictory and I question the basis of such advice. We can only do our best. At the end of the day, if I can?t stomach milk or fruit surely its better for me to eat what I can keep in, rather than spend the afternoon puking my guts up!

Pink it sounds like maybe you need a new phone Grin and laid that one to rest!! Also, I second the suggestion that you kick DH in the spare room, you need all the rest you can get! If your DH is anything like mine he could sleep hanging off a clothes line anyway!!

kat and lara my symptoms come and go too. Some days all I do is barf, some days its just the mornings, and the odd day I am free of ms all together. Most of my pains (still some aches though) have gone too.

Welcome to florizella scooby and barbie congratulations on your bfps. scooby like everyone else has said, I think mc changes being pg massively and al the emotions that go with it. I wish I could go back to being excited and naive, but sadly not. I think though, that if you think you can embrace your new pg and be excited and optimistic then you should. There is every reason to thing this one will go well, and worrying and stressing does no good really. I have tried to stop myself from getting excited and thinking about the future for fear of things going wrong, but as time passes, I do sometimes catch myself thinking about it without realising. I think in the end, whether I get excited or not, if the pg ends badly the pain and sadness will still be just the same ? so enjoy it as much as you can. Xx

hope you feeling ok sweet? How are you holding up?

I?m sorry you?re having this worry. Sorry I can?t be of any help but hoping someone replies soon. yes she did see page 10

Had my booking in apt today. I find them very uneventful and a bit of a let down. My mw is very nice and bubbly, but I find it annoying that she doesn?t acknowledge that this is my 2nd pg and my last one very recently ended in mc ? likes its not relevant. Just awaiting my 12 weeks scan date now!!

owlbooty · 20/04/2011 15:18

Tis v.v.lovely to see you in here again, missus - I am still lurking Grin

Mainly because virtual cake keeps turning up.

Got lots of things crossed for BBB & hope some progesterone is forthcoming very soon indeed, tis stressful enough without having to fight for what you need, bloody idiot GP xxxxx

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 20/04/2011 15:31

mummya Sad. I can't help re the progesterone but have posted to bb in the common room.

barbie and other newbies - welcome to the mentalling!

orange and tt yay for great scans! Grin keeping fx for onions now...

velvet don't listen to anyone! I haven't eaten meat since I was 15 and it's never been a problem in pg, just got to watch your iron levels. Both my dcs are perfectly healthy and haven't caught the vegetarianism yet!!

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 20/04/2011 15:34

Oh wiw that's weird about our dates! I've just booked my NT scan too, 16 May so a few days after yours. The consultant yesterday said he would definitely advise it though seeing as he thinks the most likely cause to mc at the stage I did would be chromosomal abnormalities.

On a good note, I rang the mw today and told her what the consultant said and she has agreed to book me under consultant care, at least up to 20 weeks, so hopefully I'll definitely get my 16 wk scan etc. I know it won't make any difference to the outcome but at least I'll feel like we're doing everything we can to keep an eye on things.

katherine2008 · 20/04/2011 15:41

wish I could help BBB - I do think Pink offered advice earlier. sending fx to BBB and hoping it's just implantation xxx

dooscooby · 20/04/2011 15:59

Thanks so much to you all for sharing how you felt/feel. I felt really nervous about posting because that in itself is some acceptance and a bit of a declaration, but you've all been very welcoming and helpful already and it's made me feel so much less alone.

I've not been sleeping very well the past week, waking up 2am and feeling very sick and unable to get back to sleep. I don't mind so much apart from that I know that sleep deprivation contributes to my negative thinking and can make me feel very anxious generally, so it's a bit of a vicious cycle at the moment! Like one of the other posters (think it might have been banana? sorry if I got that wrong though), I've suffered from anxiety before so I'm keen to try and keep on the top of it as I don't want it to spread much wider than being worried about pregnancy things. I don't take any meds for it (I did for a while) but did have cbt and am think I need to do a bit of refreshment of some of the thinking strategies to challenge my worrying!

Unfortunately I don't know about anything about progesterone, sorry I can't help BBB, apart from send her my best wishes xx

Thanks again everyone x

PinkFondantFancy · 20/04/2011 15:59

Just a quickie - mummya I left BBB a message on here yesterday but thinking about it I should have just private messaged her as the reply probably got buried. So anyway I have private messaged her now.

Fantastic news about all the good scans so far today!

I have just two words for you all..... CREAM DONUT. I've just had one and there is another calling me from the fridge.... I know it's wrong but I don't just want it, I actually neeeeeeed it.

DoubleDiffedDachs · 20/04/2011 16:01

pink i have ordered cream doughnuts to come with my grocery shopping on Friday - it must be a pg thing :)

DoubleDiffedDachs · 20/04/2011 16:02

thursday even - i blame brian...

hotnspicyonions · 20/04/2011 17:11

Welcome to the mentalling Flori Scooby & Barbie There are plenty of us in here that have been in the same thought process/predicaments and general not knowing how to react! Everyone on here is great with lots of virtual hand holding and general great advice on everything from the Pregnancy post Miscarriage 10 Commandments (think they should be republished for newbies to Grinat!) to obsessive knicker checking/strange cramp mentalling/ and Biscuit Biscuit prodding!!!

Orange so glad you had good news at your 20 week scan. Hope some of the mentalling will calm down for you soon!

Tunnocks Yey for bouncing bean. They're certainly energetic. And when you see it looking so big on the screen you wander why you can't feel it more Envy

Thanks to all for the thoughts and hand holding. OnionBean was alive and certainly kicking when he/she made their first television appearance on screen this morning! It was a little wriggler! Certainly brought a few tears to my eyes when she said there was a great heartbeat! We got DS in after the all clear, and he was gobsmacked at what he saw. First off he said, "Is that where I was?" and when we said yes he replied, "How does it come out?" The lovely sonographer said she's leave that one for Mummy and Daddy to answer! He's been telling everyone he's going to be a big brother and wants a brother called Finlay (not my first choice though)! I have had my dates changed by 3 days, now 13+2 with EDD now 24/10/11. And my 20 week scan is 7/06/11 (if anyone is updating stats today. I myself cannot be trusted with the great responsibility!). So now we just have to wait for the results of the nuchal test. Was told if all ok I'd receive a letter in 2-3 weeks. If there was a problem, I'd hear by phone within 7 working days. So FX!!!

hotnspicyonions · 20/04/2011 17:23

OK, I'm giving it a go.......

WEDNESDAYS LIST
Nickster 24+3 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 20+3 EDD 4/9/11 next scan 20/4/11
Wombat33 19+4 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 18+6 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 17+2 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 17+1 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 17+0 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 16+0 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 15+5 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 15+1 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 13+2 EDD 24/10/11 next scan 20/04/11
Onions 13+2 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 13+2 EDD 23/10/11
Velvetcu 12+5 EDD 28/10/11
MummyAbroad 11+5 EDD 4/11/11 nuchal 25/4/11
CEP 11+4 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 11+0 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 10+5 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 10+3 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 9+6 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 9+6 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 9+2 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 8+6 EDD 24/11/11
Collie 8+5 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 8+4 EDD 26/11/11 first scan 19/4/11
Banana87 8+1 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 7+5 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter

hotnspicyonions · 20/04/2011 17:24

Tunnocks knew it would happen, we're back to being DD twins Wink

hotnspicyonions · 20/04/2011 17:29

Found 'em!

The Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors. And the Blue Whale. And the Squid. Mmm, salt and pepper deep fried squid.

IreneHeron · 20/04/2011 17:52

Onions that is so sweet, your DS sounds lovely. Mine has a name for the baby, Poo Head! He's not keen to be a brother at the moment.

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 20/04/2011 18:33

Great news on the scan onions - your ds sounds like a star! Grin Now fx for some good test results over the next couple of weeks!

Just updating the list as have booked my NT scan (eek!) and I've taken off the scans that have passed - hope that's ok!

WEDNESDAYS LIST
Nickster 24+3 EDD 7/8/11
Orange 20+3 EDD 4/9/11
Wombat33 19+4 EDD 10/09/11 next scan 27/4/11
Daisybell 18+6 EDD 14/09/11
Pinkfondantfancy 17+2 EDD 25/09/11
Tiggersreturn (TTT) 17+1 EDD 26/09/11 next scan 10/5/11
mamapower 17+0 EDD 28/9/11
DoubleDiffedDachs 16+0 EDD 5/10/11 next scan 18/5/11
Emoo 15+5 EDD 7/10/11 next scan 19/5/11
Lovemysleep 15+1 EDD 11/10/11
Tunnocksteacake 13+2 EDD 24/10/11
Onions 13+2 EDD 24/10/11 Next Scan 07/06/11
IreneHeron 13+2 EDD 23/10/11
Velvetcu 12+5 EDD 28/10/11
MummyAbroad 11+5 EDD 4/11/11 nuchal 25/4/11
CEP 11+4 EDD 5/11/11 nuchal scan 5/5/11
Hils74 11+0 EDD 8/11/11
Katherine2008 10+5 EDD 11/11/11 next scan 3/5/11
Haffertee 10+3 EDD 14/11/11
delilahbelle 9+6 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 9+6 EDD 17/11/11
Ninunina: 9+2 EDD 21/11/11 next scan 12/5/2011
wombatinwaiting: 8+6 EDD 24/11/11
Collie 8+5 EDD 25/11/11
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy 8+4 EDD 26/11/11 NT scan 16/5/2011
Banana87 8+1 EDD 29/11/11
LaraMi 7+5 EDD 2/12/11 Next scan - 18/05/11

Thinking of.... hairy; ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; harassed; MumTum; Knitter

tunnocksteacake · 20/04/2011 18:34

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banana87 · 20/04/2011 19:43

BBB The fertility clinic that I go to for scans does recurrent mc counselling and has a pharmacy on site...I am sure a quick private consultation and you would have some. It's called Surrey Park Fertility Clinic in Guildford. Hope everything is ok.

Thanks everyone for your support. It really does mean alot.

mamapower · 20/04/2011 19:45

I've popped in for sanctuary for 5 min's!!
Hope you are all well. Knitter, if you're around been thinking of you lots xx
Welcome newbies! Mentalling is not compulsory, you could always sell and buy a new house, move at least 5 counties away, and buy a business and get it up and running and you'll be too damn busy to think about it!!

Met one of my new MW's today, she was so nice and also heard Baby's heartbeat for the first time! DH was obviously working so bless her heart she sat and figured out with me how to record it onto my i-phone so he can hear later... how kind is that!

Nothing has calmed down, to do list is the same size!! No one wants to work these days and we are going through staff at a rate of knots because those that come think it's gonna be easy money and it isn't!! Bah!! Bloody government needs to stop with benefits and then those lazy buggers will have no choice!!! sorry! Ignore me, sleep deprived, stressed, new business owner and pregnant woman rantings!!

BIG hugs to those in need and magimix for everyone else x