Clearblue Fertility Monitor Support Group Buddies Vol 6!!

[boba82]

Welcome ladies to our new home yet again!! I hope this one will be as lucky as the last one was!

ladies, i know i offically didnt jnoin, just got some advise along the way, but thought id pop in and tell you my good news!!!
after a long 11 months of trying to conceive after a mmc in september last year, then finally being referred for first stage tests.
we finally got our first BFP this week, only 2 months of using the CBFM...

were offically in a state of shock!! just wanted to share our great news and spread the love.

just praying now, this one sticks.

Congrats mrsb that's fab news, i've put you on the grad list! Hope you have an uneventful 9 months!

AF showed up for me today so back to the bottom of the list again....

sprinkles any news?

TODAYS STATS:

Tilly TTC#1, 3years, CBFM Cycle 11, age 36, UCL 28-34, CD
Clockspotter TTC#2, Cycle #6, CBFM Cycle 2, age 38, UCL 28-31,
Jayebird TTC#2 Cycle 8 UCL 32
TheNightNurse TTC 3yrs, CBOS cycle 1, age 33, UCL 27-28,
izzybizzybuzzybees ttc#2 cycle 11. CBFM cycle 1, age 27, cd 76
Raspberrytipple TTC#1, cycle 11, CBFM cycle 4, age 28, UCL 29-30, CD58
FarfallaRocks TTC#1, Cycle 4, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 24, CD27
SlightlyBabyCrazed TTC#1, Cycle #28, CBFM Cycle 6, age 35, UCL 25-32, CD
Karbea TTC#1, Cycle# 8, CBFM Cycle 3, age 37, UCL 22-26, CD37
Jazzy283 TTC1, Cycle 10, CBfm Cycle 3, age 32, UCL 28-30, CD36
Sprinkles77 TTC No 2 Cycle 5 CBFM cycle 2 UCL 31 CD32
Bumblebee TTC#1 CBFM cycle 2, age 34, UCL 30, CD27
Anytime TTC#1 CBFM Cycle 2, Age 34, UCL 31-35, CD26
Mamabelli TTC#3 Cycle 11
MrsvWoolf TTC# CBFM Cycle , Age , UCL , CD
Catus TTC#2 CBFM Cycle 5, Age, UCL, CD
Loup TTC#1, Cycle #8, CBFM Cycle 8, age 31, UCL33-35, CD1

Graduates:
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10, MissLolita BFP 30/10/20
Notnearly BFP 6/11/10, StormBird BFP 10/11/10
AnytimeNow BFP 20/11/10, IloveKittyElise BFP 30/12/10
Boba BFP 07/01/11, Chocciechip BFP 11/01/11
MissyRaines BFP 19/03/11, Frootbat BFP ??/05/11
SES BFP ??/04/11, Waterkelpie BFP ??/06/11
ElmMum BFP ??/06/11, KeziahHopes BFP 02/07/11
aMuminwaiting 10/07/11, mememummy 13/7/11
Mrs b ??/08/11

MrsB that really is fab news. Hope you are feeling well, as well as shocked!

loup, sorry to read that AF came. Just seems so unfair with all the hard work you've put in SWI.

So day 32, no AF, no PMS. CBFM now has the "M" sign showing. Had one tiny spot yesterday afternoon, but nothing since. I don't normally have spotting, and the one time I did AF arrived within a few hours. Just tentatively hoping this was implantation... usually one hopes too much. Last night I had a really rotten headache and felt really nauseous. Took some paracetamol and codeine rather than imigran cos I know they are OK while pg. I remember having a terrible headache soon after I got pg with DS. Obviously I'm reading far too much into this! I didn't find out I was pg with DS till a bit later on, so wasn't really looking out for any symptoms, so what I can recollect is all based on hindsight. DH is keen for me to test tomorrow, but trying to hold out till Monday!

sprinkles it sounds good here's hoping a bfp will be there tomorrow monday ( bows in admiration at poas willpower!)

this is going to be a ranty one. AF came, no need for POAS will power. All a bit odd cos no period pains, started this morning suddenly and heavy for me. I'm actually really upset and tearful. Can't really face doing anything. Serves me right for being even slightly hopeful. I know you've all been there and understand. SO here goes with cycle 6. It's taking over my bloody life. A few days of AF, then a few days break, then the constant POAS for the monitor, then the SWI then the 2WW. The only bearable bit is the few days between getting over the disappointment of AF and the starting with the sticks. It turns sex into a chore (well, we turn it into a chore), not so much shagging with intent as shagging with PRESSURE. I'm meeting a friend this morning who's a bit older than me, her DS1 is the same age as mine, and she's just had DS2. I just feel that the longer this goes on the lower the odds. DH worries because (TMI alert) he doesn't "produce" that much. When we used the syringe there was only about 5ml. He reckons there's less cum the more we do it, so wants to hold off entirely till we get a high on the CBFM, then go every 2nd day, and then every day with a peak. I guess there's no harm in trying. fact is we both feel the pressure. Last time I'd just come off the pill. thinking about going back on for a few months then trying again. give us both a break. feel stupid, can't stop crying

Congrats mrsb

Sorry AF got you loup - keep positive for this month hun

sprinkles I know exactly how you feel hun. It does turn into a chore but unfortunately I didn't find a way to get round that. With regards to your DHs 'volume' situation remeber it does only take the one! I think swi every 2nd day is a good idea - it is enough to get pregnant and takes the pressure off a bit. It took me 19 months TTC and keziah was nearly 3 years I'm sure so don't think the longer means less chances. Have a good few tonight and enjoy them then try and start again tomorrow feeling positive. Crying is a good stress release anyway so cry all you want. We all know how you feel and it is shitty. x

Oh sprinkles so sorry af got you I know exactly how u feel, I was so down yesterday but am enjoying today as no bloody poas. really agree with everything u say it's one wait after the other and it takes over your life. What about instead of going on the pill u just don't use the monitor this month and just do every other day...?

I was tempted to go on the pill to try and kickstart as hear so many people get pg straight away, I don't know. This month I'm trying to think of the positives of waiting a few more months, we're can do a big holiday over Xmas etc.

Stay strong sprinkles I truly think we'll both get there

Hi to boba only a few weeks to go, how exciting! X

thanks both of you loup and boba, I'm so pleased I found this thread!

I am indeed thinking about all the positives of waiting: more time to spend with my wonderful DS one on one. He is as good as gold, and seeing my friend this morning, with an 18 month old and a 5 week old, I did not envy her one bit. And spent this evening helping out my SIL with her 3 month old who needs sleep training (not sure who needs it more, the SIL or the baby!), not envying her either.

Had a chat with my mother today about things, she had no idea exactly why I had been so down recently, but knew there was something. Was sympathetic and doubly sad cos she had conceived me and my brothers very easily. She suggested that I go to the doctor and try to start any relevant investigations asap. I just don't think they'd be interested at this stage, after only 5 months and me being relatively young at 33. Even if we went private. She even offered to pay!

loup I just don't think we can manage every other day! It's too much!

Sorry for your af sprinkles. Every other day is a good idea and waiting for a high may reduce pressure, unless you feel like it. As a long time ttc number one, 34 mths of serious ttc, the pressure did build up. So finding ways for you to relax and manage it helps. We had tests and due to dh's low numbers were told every 2 days was best. A gp will not do any tests till you've been ttc for a year below 35 and to be honest although it feels ages 5 months is well below average for ttc. Going private is the only way as you already have one child there is no nhs funding for assisted fertility. But I doubt you need that as you have a child. Really hope you can cry it out. People here are lovely, they helped me lots when I was in my second year of trying.

Hey girls! Just thought I'd nip in and say hello. All getting chaotic here now, this time next week I'll be on honeymoon!! Have had family feuds boil over, friends and various people being arsey, pil to be reducing dp to tears with their childish behaviour and all sorts this week and have spent most of the week in tears, including my hen night last night but that was after a lot of wine!! I've been so stressed I've scared AF completely lol. Bitch will no doubt turn up on my wedding day but hey ho, least then it'll be a new start for me! I've done three tests, all negative but am hormonal, cranky and feel like shit and at 9-10 days late I'm just a bit fucked off with it!

Anyway, nevermind. Will be heading towards a ferry this time next week to sail to France.

Sorry to hear AF got you sprinkles and loup. It's so gutting isnt it :( mother nature is such a cow sometimes x

rasp nothing brings out the worst in families like a wedding. My DH nearly fell out with his father over ours. I found the stress really built up, but by the day before there really wasn't much I could do to deal with any dramas, and the tension really eased off. I really hope you can enjoy the rest of you preparations and the big day. it sounds like a major cliche, but it really did turn out to be one of the best days of my life! Oh, and failing that, have a great honeymoon!

Thanks Sprinkles, you are right weddings really do bring out the worst in people but fingers crossed that it will all be alright on the night, and yes failing that the honeymoon will be amazing, I just can't wait.

Right I'll be back in a few weeks - then you can call me mrs tipple! :) xx

How exciting raspberry don't stress and have the most wonderful day ( whispers and baby making honeymoon!)

How are u feeling today sprinkles? after the crappy feeling af brings I hope you're enjoying the poas reprieve! I'm off on hols mid this week and whilst I'm unlikely to get a peak there I'm hoping the r and r pre - peak might help

Hope everyone else has had a good weekend, any 2 wws out there at the moment? X

Best of luck raspberry - they can bring out the best in people too like you and your DH to be! Hope everything goes well and have a fabulous honeymoon! x

Morning all. Havent been posting for a little while but have been keeping up to date with all the news. I finally had my consultant appt at the fertility clinic and am extremely disappointed with the consultant. Won't bore you with all the details but she was incredibly unhelpful, kept saying 15 months ttc not very long, we should just keep trying and then strarted to hunt around for possible 'causes' eg suggesting my bmi might be to blame (despite being absolutely normal) and brushing aside my dh's poor SA results as not that big a deal.
On a positive note though she did very reluctantly agree to let me have a hycosy and SA latest test showed a little improvement so we've resolved to keep trying till end of year and then reconsider in January if hasn't worked.

So, am back in the saddle so to speak with my most positive mindset I can muster and ready to make sure that bfp is mine!

Can you not ask for a second opinion minih? When is your HSG? Good luck in the mean time.

It's next month (the woman on reception couldn't work out cycle dates to save her life so although not supposed to offer you an appt for your next cycle, she thought day 5 was day 22 . Anyway, am going to do that, keep trying for a couple of months (given possible boost after having tubes cleared) and then take it from there. Can't get any help with assisted for my pct so we are on our own after that....

Hi all, been a bit quiet as trying not to think about ttc too much, is so very hard to keep positive each month that af arrives. Have never even had so much as a whiff of a bfp. Am nearly through first month of metformin, don't think it's doing all that much, they have only put me on 500mg a day, with no dose increase mentioned. I do feel like I crave sweet things a lot less, which must be a good thing. Haven't had any of the desirable side effects like weight loss either, so feel podgy still. Everyone around me still having babies and lots of new pregnancy announcements all around, which obviously gives people that I barely know the right to turn to me and say "you're next though aren't you" my response obviously is "no, I've got baby horses to worry about" but inside I'm thinking some rather evil replies!

Rant over

I am on the 2ww, day 20 now, trying not to symptom spot, but it does seem I have less symptoms this month than all previous, so clearly am taking the lack as signs!

MiniH I felt similarly disappointed after my first consultation, my advice is - be pushy as it took ages for me to get anywhere because I was feeling so low I didn't push at all and here I am 3 years later, only just on metformin and starting IUI.

Good luck to all with holidays and weddings to come

Give it time sbc I felt like that after 1st moth of Clomid failed but 2nd month got lucky. Plus the month I got BFP I had really bad AF symptoms and was convinced AF was on they way. Try and stay positive but I know it can be hard. Good luck on 2ww.

MiniH - I think most NHS fertility consultants are very disappointing for the first time you go. I guess they get a lot of people who go who haven't been trying very long (ie lied to get an appointment) so don't seem to treat those who have very seriously. But sounds like you got more out of them than you think... the first 2 or 3 appointments I had (all with 3 month waits) were: bloods, semen analysis (and repeated those) and then a HSG. After that - apart from recent smear which gp can do and STI tests which nurse at gp's an do - they don't offer anything else apart from treatment.

MiniH - if your BMi is below 30 then that is all the NHS criteria is for fertility treatment (weight wise I mean). The reason I got weighed and told to lose weight is the risk of miscarriage is higher with assisted fertility so they want your bmi to be as close to 25 as normal (mine was a little higher at 28, ouch!) so we were told it was to help treatment. Equally too low a bmi is an issue.

rasp - enjoy your special day and honeymoon [smie]

Morning everyone, so sorry about all the AFs.
sbc its so hard isn't it? I can barely look at facebook anymore as its just all birth and preggo announcements and little updates about johhny teething/walking etc etc.

I am on day 6 today, and for the first month CBFM did not ask me to POAS on day 6. Weird? I normally get the peak on day 15 so I am wondering why this would be the case?

Farfall - CBFM getting to know you so you only get asked for 10 sticks - it'll prob start asking day 8 to make sure it covers both peak days and one after.

Who else is currently on 2WW?

Hi EVERYONE I have been away for a few weeks and then took some swi timeout as my dh and myself started to feel like robots lol, anyway we r back lol so im on CD22 and just had my peak today so im assuming my af is gonna show up late this month as i normally peak on CD 17/18 so we will see last night was a marathon night and ill go in for the kill when dh gets home from work. I dont know if anyone else is feeling the strain but ur sex life is losin all the fun and feels like a job now :( i wish i was like them women that just look at their hubby and get pregnant and if one more person tells me its my turn nxt ill kick them lol. Sorry to here all the af arrived and fx for all u 2ww

far i know what u mean my facebook is full of the little darlings :(

So 2 WW here i am do your best for me pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and everyone else on here :)

jazzy I was just thinking about you today! Good to hear back from you.
FX for you this month.
i know what you mean about DTD. Once we get into it I really enjoy it, I just find that I am initiating it and I am so stressed that DH will not be up for it that it turns into some sort of issue. That is the bit I find hard. i really don;t want it to become a chore!!

sbc that is reasurring thanks!

Far yep thats what i mean he is sooooooooo tired works really long hours and i know he is sooooooo tired but i cant do it alone :) bless he it is getting to be a chore time to step it up i think lol