Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 3

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As you were ladies

shandy its times like this when the internet chat seems totally inadequate. I wish there were some words, any words to help or make you feel better but nothing really helps... I am thinking about you today wishing you a better outcome than you believe and sending big hugs take care of yourself X

Thanks diege. It is crap. Dh coming home soon, ta. Dd2 just playing on, bless them. Dh poor thing us due to go off on a boys holiday next Thu and is now thinking of cancelling it, but I've told him to go. It's horrible time but no good everything stopping and I have family around.

shandy so sorry. as everyone has said, it's really hard to find the right words. I also hope that it is still gonna be ok but, I too have been in the position where they say it doesn't fit with dates and like you I knew the dates were right. It is so horrible.

Sending you hugs and hoping your lovely family are a big help right now. XXX

Hi all. Thank you for your kind words. I know it isnt RL, but it is comforting, especially when I know some of you have been there and know the highs and lows of ttc and mc. Also I don't feel much like talking or seeing anyone in RL at the moment. Bring on trashy tv and internet inanity if that's a word.

Shandy I'm so sorry; if you know your dates are right then that's so sad. I had a similar experience but, like Panache, had started bleeding so already thought something was wrong. I can't think of anything adequate to say but just take care of yourself.

Diege I'm pleased the doc was able to tell you what you wanted to hear. Midwife not so good.

Fireflies good luck with the embies and implantation.

Gum caught in the act! As you didn't deny it, he definitely knows now, whether he asks again or not. I like that "I think I might be" suggestion from Diege

Italian hope it wasn't too upsetting when your colleague thought you were pg. And sorry about the car.

It seems as if every day I come on here, I'm baffled by new terms or abbreviations. At first I thought doula was some sort of typo. I've googled it now. I'm so ignorant about all this kind of stuff; I feel really stupid. Still, I'm learning ever such a lot (including about nipple tassles. My DP may be a lot younger than I am but he's not remotely adventurous in the bedroom dept. Don't know whether he'd like them or not although probably, as he's definitely a "boob man". Sorry, TMI.)

Hello, just wanted to let you know that I had a first show of pink today.

I know what you'll say but for me this is pretty much a sign that AF will be here in about 2 days. Also, endo pain is twinging away. Of course my boobs still feel very solid but they are always the last to know. I'm a bit pissed off as it would have been great to beat the clomid but of course it is just a period and as we all know they do like to come along and spoil the party. On to the clomid then.....

shandy ((())) it's all so difficult isn't it. Maybe just maybe you'll be ok. But if you prefer to be pragmatic then perhaps that's best.

diege open up the bistro early please and show me the wine list......

Right no more reasons needed, the bistro is open!!!
Ah Hippy what a bummer BUT there is clomid to try next, so it's all very much game on. Take af as a breather before phase two starts xx

Thanks diege. I didn't want to come along and moan that i didn't think I was preg when shandy was obviously suffering so much more. but on the other hand I didn't want you all thinking ohhhh no news is good news re: Hippy etc. We all know each other cycles so well on here, don't we.

ps. Send a bottle of rose over to my usual table please.

I'm off to help at the school disco at 5.30pm. I always do the pocket money stall. Will need a serious drink by 7.30!!!

Bottle of finest Rose (girl after my own heart) coming right up missus!

shandy I'm so sorry. Please look after yourself x

hippy sorry about rtd. Me too fwiw - cramps yesterday and today and now some pink. It's a bit crap isn't it? I have one more month of clomid too that I'll try.

Shandy so very sorry. How are you, do you have supportive friends in real life? It is so tough.

Yes Isaboo it is a lovely place.

Hippy I need to avoid extra fibre, like whole grains, potato skins, cabbage, garlic, onions, etc and peas. I also personally think sugar is a bad one for me but that is very hard to give up (the dietician has not said sugar to me though!). So no sugar ? does that mean I have to avoid the Apprentice! Anyone else watching it.

So, Hippy good signs!? Fab.

How is everyone else?

The car is a write off, feel sad but accepting, no one was hurt.
All fine with me, looking forward to fertility treatment.
Another person said today that she thought I was pregnant, or to be more precise asked me, when I was due?

BB What does RTD stand for? (I've figured out what it means, but what does it stand for?) I googled it and it said "returned to duty" which doesn't sound right.

Hippy "I know what you'll say" but nobody has specifically said it yet... shall I be the one? OK. Could it be implantation bleeding?

Diege I'm not normally around on Friday nights so haven't visited the bistro before; hope it's OK if I join you tonight... Will have a scan of the menu.

Mitzi*, bistro is requests-only, so order away to yur heart's content!
Italian, you do sound very clued up on the food front. I suppose knowing what you should eat/avoid and having the willpower to stick to it are two different things though. Oh and yes, I love The Apprentice! No favourite up to now, but thought the wimpy, foppish one who changed his mind about who to bring into the boardroom (last week?) should have gone! I really enjoy the BBC2 Dara o' Brien programme after too.
Thinking of you Shandyxxx
Hippy how was the disco?

Diege I was on the thread for the day things with this one:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/telly_addicts/1217731-The-Apprentice-so-who-do-you-think-will-go-home-tonight-and-who-do-you-want-to-win

here

I would love Sue or Felicity to win.

I'll have a P, please Diage - Payella.

As I think I have totally messed up TTC this cycle, I'll go for a mixed shellfish pasta (papardelle if you have it,) with a green salad, followed by some soft oozy blue cheese with crackers. Ta very muchly!

Is there any chance of a sticky toffee pud with custard from the bistro? And maybe a decaff coffee?

Hippy - Love the idea of Spring-watch/egg-watch webcam! Will raise with embryologists, and if not poss, will see if a field trip to the lab can be organised for us all!! Currently have 8 little lovelies in the nesting box and am dying to have a peek. Transfer Sun or Tues according to how they progress.

Italian - you were asking re the name - there was a lovely song called Ten Thousand Fireflies out last year, and the sight of them is really magical, hence the name. Bit like fairy dust. :-)

Hugs to you all and an extra squeeze to Shandy and the rest of you on a bit of a downer. xx

AH BB and HIPPY thats rubbish ....Rose for me too please too much sad news today with a bacon sandwich and a bar of cadburys dairy milk and a latte for pud thanks
We are watching Bob Dylan documentary ....sadly after 15 years with DH I am so brain washed that I am enjoying it.

Hi all.
Shandy sorry ((()))
Hi Hippy sorry a.f got you though like I said I have a good feeling about the Clomid! X
Diege how' u ?
Italian!sorry about your car, quite excited your time for tx is getting close.
gum do you think your hubby has an inklingnow?
Hi Panashe
Hi lOL
Waves at curly, mitzi and anyone I ve missed. All good here
Thank god it s the weekend work good but lots of office politics going on that's all going to erutp big style soon!!!! So beware if you re anywhere near Wakefield in the next couple of weeks !!!! Just
Trying to sort out my next appt with my consultant in 4 weeks after my scan .happy weekend all , excuse the grammar or lack of got a new I phone and still getting used to it !!!!
Please everyone have a large glass of Rose on my behalf. Xxxx

xpost with 10000 love love love the nesting box thing.... lovely! and well done you.........8 FANTASTIC has improved my day no end ..thanks

Lou my dp is in Wakefield - is there anything he needs to know?

Fireflies that sounds like wonderful news.

10000fireflies check it out, beautiful

Mitzi maybe he should avoid Josephine Butler centre ( sexual health) for a variety of reasons !!! Tee- hee !!!!

Shandy, I am so sorry about your scan. I know how awful it is. Do whatever it takes to get through.

Hippy and BB, sorry about RTD (Red Tide of Doom). I have a good feeling about the clomid Hippy.

I know the bistro is usually closed by the time I get here, but I'm going to order anyway, because I can't eat certain things in RL.
So, I think some fresh oysters to start, and some lasagne made with fresh pasta (mmmm...I can't eat gluten in RL and really miss fresh pasta), a big green salad, and follow that with bread and butter pudding with hot custard. OMG that sounds good.I'm salivating....

I had a pretty rough day yesterday. I have been slack with the sugar and even had gluten this week - was just caving in to cravings - and paid for it with some nasty cramps and upset tummy. But also having lower back-ache and lower abdominal cramping. I'm thinking it is just the baby burrowing in, but don't recall having this much cramping before. I fear I may have an irritable uterus which will make itself known all through the pregnancy ( have had it in past pregnancies). Sometimes I worry that the cramps are bad news, but in the end I can't do anything differently really - apart from taking care of my diet, so if something (mc) happens, I can't do anything about it.

I'm practicing the mantra(that I think Lou was using): "Yesterday I was pregnant, today I am pregnant, and I have no control over tomorrow: for now I am pregnant".

As for telling DH, I really should have said "there's a possibility - I'm late, and need to test", but was just frozen! If he asks again, I'll definitely do that.

As for the shirt on ebay, Hippy , you are right about that - I have plenty of clothing, but I do love to shop and like to have plenty of options. I'm one of those silly women who changes her clothes three times before I walk out the door, because it has to be just right. The rest of the time - at home - I schlep around in the same daggy tracky pants and sloppy pullover. Very chic!

Me again...just had lunch at the pub with DH.He asked me if I am pregnant and I told him I thought so, my period is late and I feel like I am. I said I would test (small white lie) soon, but I didn't want to say anything for a couple of weeks because of his workload. He laughed and said, could I wait another couple of months to test, then he wouldn't have to think about it til then. He then said it would be alright, whatever will be will be.

So I guess I worried far too much. He was lovely and then told me he'd retire early so I can go back to work full-time while he looks after the kids! There's no way I'm going to let him do that!

Feeling very relieved and welled up when he was so sweet.

Phew.

Very good gum glad alls well with your hubby.Why when u don t have to get up I can t sleep ???? One of life' great mysteries!!! Pub lunch mmmmm ...... I m starving. Have a good , sunny day all xxxx