Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

[meliesmummy]

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

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wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

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morning all

brooke I assume she knows about the mc? sounds very insenstive of her, i'm sure she's excited but might have been better not to send you the pic.

collie glad the pains have gone. symptoms don't tend to come in till about the 6-7 weeks.

chloe how are you feeling today? have you started your work yet? can't remember when you said you started.

mel sounds good to me. (have to say in my first pg i had really bad wind.) i'm keeping everything crossed.

blackkat fx for you too sweet.

i had an absolutely horible dream last night. I basically passed the sac again like last time i was holding it and could see the baby and everything. woke up thinking i was trying to get over another mc, took me a few mins to remember that i hadn't.

On the plus side, ds slept through till 5:30 and i took him back to his room told him to wait till the sun comes up on his clock and he stayed in there, i think he actually went back to sleep for 30 mins or so. i do honestly think that 8:30 is too late for a 2yr 10 month old to be going to bed though, but don't want to start him waking up during the night again if he goes to bed too early. wish he'd come with a manual.

morning cep and any other early morning mners .... Glad to hear your ds slept a little better just think of the later night as a temp measure , small steps and all that to get him back to a full nights sleep....

me me me bit now, was thinking you would all be slapping me with them there haddocks when i posted later as im only 8 dpo and i poas. i did it was the one i had left from the cb digi from last month. Im now shaking as i type this. i got a BFP!!!!!!! 1-2 !!!!!!!!!! OMG i can not beleive it !!! At 8 DPO !!!!!!!!!!!!! had really bad heart burn last night ( only ever get when updiffed) and yesterday morning imagined thought i felt sick, last night and this morning exactly the same so i tested and OMG !!!!

[absolutely scared stiff emoticon too]

cep Your dream sounds awful. Seems that it's quite comon to have mc dreams, I hope not. Sad dreams are so distresssing, they can sometimes set my mood for the day. So glad you managed to get a decent nights sleep and ds slept through. I wouldn't worry too much about what time he is going to bed, it's more important to make sure he's getting a full night and not walking up too early and making the whole family shattered. I'm pretty sure my SIL puts our dn to bed around the same time. They live to far for us to pop in on regulary, but she tends to be up when we are there at those times at the weekend. In fact I think sometimes it's later. You just need a routine that works for you and ds. (that's all rich advice from someone with ziltch experience ) x

Brooke hope your feeling better this morning.

really don't be shy, ask away. Nothing is ever tmi.... But I'm not promising I'll have any useful advice.

Morning chloe mels harassed yrmotb and *blackkat hope you're all ok?

Wondering if Hadrian and wellie are lurking? Hope you're ok? And lily you too?! Xx

X posts mumtum YAY!!!! That'd super duper news!!!! Congratulations sweetie!!!! And at 8dpo!!!

Missed my for you!!!

Big congratulations to mumtum!!!!! !!!!! when is your wedding again? Must be loads of hormone around for you so early...twins??!! !

Dont worry about tmi really, we've all done it!

Your friend sounds very insensitive Brooke, did she know about the mc?

Glad your night was better Cep, I second what collie said about doing whatever works.

Bfn here this morning (fmu this time). I think that I might have to accept that I've just finished a very light and strange af. :(. But on the plus side the Reflexologist is happy to treat me, he doesn't treat pg women for insurance reasons but he treats women having ivf and thinks it will help me.

sorry about the bfn mels how many dpo should you be? So annoying that you don't know what's going on, how strange that it could have been AF. Glad that your feeling upbeat about the reflexology. Hope it works for you. X

Morning all.

brooke your friend really isn't thinking, is she. I think people think that you just get over it, like that. When really it's not the case at all.

melies I've been thinking ofd having some reflexology, although I may have to wait til after my hols money wise. Let me know how it goes.

cep and collie How's it going in the BFP corner?

really it does get easier.Really. And hopefully you won't have to deal with too much feeling left behind, cos that sucks.

mumtum congratulations! and at 8 dpo, that's very good.

chloe whens the appt, Monday? Any more bleeding since?

melies are you in the wtf? How long after your mc are you?

mumtum oh that's fantastic news. so so pleased for you. can't believe it at 8dpo, my sticks laughed at me at that point.

mel don't give up yet hon. you still have a couple of days until af is due.

second collie's query and hope hadrian wellie and lily and the others we haven't seen for a while are all ok.

yrmotb I had a period three weeks after my mc, then not even 3 weeks later (last weds) started spotting but it never really went anywhere like a period, it was red a few times but mainly brown or pink and very mucousy. I've also got a cervical erosion that was aggravated by the mc so I don't know if it was that again or a light af. My gp didn't know either. So as a result I'm either day 26 today or day 8!

collie I'm 14 dpo (I think...). Which tests did you use? Mine are the strip ones from amazon, I'm not really sure how sensitive they are compared to fr or cb. How many dpo were you when you got a bfp? What about you Cep?

mels this time around i was 10dpo when i got my faintest of faintest lines. i used a cheapie stick off ebay like the amazon ones. I must stress though it was very faint and had to hold it in the right light and squint to see it. I used a FR the next day and got a better, but still faint, line - i found it clearer to see though as my ebay ones were still barely shadows.

That said, with my first pg, i got a bfn on 14dpo and a bfp at 18 dpo. If your AF still hasn't come, i would say your not out, but don't want to get your hopes up too much for a big fall if this doesn't turn out to be your month. The bleed really doesn't sound like AF though. (??!)

I'm ok thanks yrmotb apart from mentalling worrying about symptoms and pains i do have, and then again when i don't! Driving myself mad. Just want to be reassured everything will be ok this time. How is your holiday planning going? Where are you looking at?

Mumtum Fantastic news . Congratulations, 8DPO, blimey!

Cep Sounds like a horrible dream but glad you had enough sleep to dream at all. You've had one hell of a sleep deficit recently.

Blakkat Nice to meet you briefly, thank you for the advice. Fingers crossed for you xxx

Mel I agree with Cep, don't give up hope yet and its good that you have the relexologist appt to focus on.

Chloe How are you doing? Any change in bleeding?

Collie When do you think you'll get your scan? Are your doctor and MW helpful?

Okay, I hope you have all had a chance for your breakfasts to settle. Apologies TMI in advance. So, I started pink spotting 3 weeks ago. I had the actual miscarriage 2 weeks ago. It looked complete as far as I could tell. The bleeding was tapering off for a day or two last week but is now pretty full on again but mostly just red blood. Don't feel ill or have a temperature. Do you think this is normal? How long do you think this could continue for? Cep, I read the link you gave me - brilliant. But have been bleeding for longer but with no side effects. Really want to avoid seeing the Dr., don't want to go back to the clinic where I got the news etc.

What do you reckon? All normal?

mel i didn't get anything until 12 dpo i was doing fr's and got bfn's. i did a tesco's own i think, at 12 dpo. then did cb digi at 13 dpo Ok just checked and i got my bfp on day 27

Hi everyone, thanks for all your support on other threads Mels and congratulations to those of you who are getting BFPs. I can only imagine how terrifying it must be to be pg again after mc. Cep your dream sounds awful. I always think that bad dreams mean good things though!

I think am coming to the end of the mc process and will soon be ready to TTC. Aiming to invest in tests to get a BFN first and then probably some sort of ovulation kit. Going to wait for the first AF after mc I think.And also taking selenium to help thyroid antibodies. I think I have slipped off the WTTC list (mel put me on a week or so ago) but I am too scared to go back on just in case it was an omen...

I have a question - what is dpo? And what do I need to know about it? Will it all come clear once I start looking into charting and testing etc?

Thanks in advance for having me on new thread :) I've been reading this avidly for a couple of weeks xx

really not sure what to advice, if you're still bleeding heavily, give it a few more days maybe. but then you should call a dr just to discuss it. You don't feel light headed or anything like that?? or pain still?

Really I reckon you should go back for a scan to check it is all out. I went back yesterday (12 days after mc started, 6 days after passed sac at what would have been 12 weeks) and they said there is still a bit in there to come out. They have given me antibiotics to stave off infection. I know you don't feel ropey except for the bleeding but I think you should have it checked anyway in a few days if you are still bleeding, just for peace of mind. It's probably totally normal (I have heard of people bleeding for that long) but it's good to get checked anyway, imo.

free dpo is days past ovulation.

Wednesdays List
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3

TTC
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD48
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, UCLrandom CD30
wellieboots cycle 2, UCL 29 or 30, CD28
meliesmummy ttc#2 cycle 1 UCL28 CD26
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 5 UCL 28 CD26
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 2, UCL29 CD21
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 mc#2 28/28days cycle 1 CD20
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 7 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD19
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 CD18
Minnie74 ttc#1 cycle 4, ucl28 CD17
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD15
Shorty ttc#2 cycle 2, ucl 30 CD11
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cycle 2, UCL35-40,CD11
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD35 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD10
vegasmum ttc#3 wttc ucl28-30 CD7
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 CD7
harassedinherpants TTC#4, MC#3, UCL 28 or 31, WTF cycle, CD8
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 8 UCL33 CD4
Skitoo TTC#1, WTF CD?

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? WTF
Milkyway2007 ttc#? wttc ucl? WTF
jkklpu wtc ucl? WTF
securegal, TTC#1 MC#1 March 2011, WTF, UCL 28
Reallyusefulengine TTC#3 MC#Mar 2011, UCL 26-28 days
Freelancegirl ttc#2 WTF cycle ucl 28-38

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BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
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at work now and just cant concentrate so sneaked back on....

Thanks collie for the bean bag i feel i may be needing it !

Am still scared and think i should at least wait until af was due (8th April) before im ready to go on any lists join a recently updiffed thread etc so can i stay here for a bit longer please ???

mels i used the real cheap opks from wilkinsons they are like 5 sticks for £2.80 and they gave me 3 feint lines then one definite then 1 feint so im pretty sure i knew when i had ov'd, and i agree with *collie your bleed really doesnt sound like an AF so fingers crossed for you still

freelance DPO is days past ovulation, glad you appear to be coming out the other side of your mc everyone of us on here know what you are going through and you just need to take time to me kind to yourself x

thanks cep i agree sorry i got so carried away by the me me me post i completey didnt mention your awful dream. Just remember with all your raging hormones vivid dreams are common so nothing to worry about and certainly no omens etc, though i can imagine very horrid all the same

and though not helpful really im totally unsure about your bleeds, but they do say if you are worried to contact your GP could you perhaps see a differen one to last time ?

and waves out to blackkat chloe ninu knitter lily and all the other lovely ladies who may be lurking x

hands out big plate of chocolate brownies and for all to share

melies sorry forgot to add wedding is april next year so provided this bean sticks i could be taking a 3 and a half month old to Mexico ! 8 dpo is really very early isnt it ....do you really think that may suggest twins ???

sorry me me me again quickly leaves more cakes by way of an apology and shuffles out of room under pretext of doing work but actually is still lurking .....

ill have a proper catch up later but i just wanted to say congratulations mumtum im 8dpo tomorrow and youre making me want to test and i know i shouldnt
hello everybody have a good day

mumtum no worries hon, ofcourse your bfp would be first on your mind.

Morning girls

So sorry in advance if I miss anyone off this email as there are so many people to catch up on so waving to everyone and enjoying MumTum's delicious brownies...

Cep so sorry about your dream. That must have been awful. I hate things like that as they stay with you for a bit after so hope you can shrug it off today. Glad you DS slept though and I think you should just go with whatever works to get through the night so you get rest too. You are right - there are no manuals so just because someone else puts their child to bed at 7.30pm it doesn't make you wrong to put your little one to bed at 8.30pm

Brooke I think that is so insensitive of your friend. Maybe she just didn't think in her excitement

Collie really pleased your test went up to 3 weeks -that is great

MumTum congrats on your BFP!!! That is brilliant news and I hope the latest of many new BFPs we will see on here!

Really when I had my MC I was reading about bleeding and there were some articles/posts about people who had a bleed, then it stort of stopped or went to spotting and then started again. I think its where not nec all of it comes away at first. I think the girls are right and you should prob go for a scan to be sure its all come away properly.

So wed, middle of the week....it cannot be friday soon enough!

xx

i can not say how surprised at 8 dpo so go for it laylas you never know ......

really need to go do some work.....

Mumtum et al, I love the BFPs on the thread, it's lovely and reassuring to hear your good news and good to hear that things move on in time. .

Layla Oh good grief, the temptation! Can you get someone to hide your tests for a few more days? Can you lock yourself in a cupboard?

Thank you for the advice on the bleeding. Again, you are all lovely. I have decided to give it a few more days and then reassess.

Freelance, thank you for the advice. May I ask you what they said about some still to come out? Did they say this will happen naturally or were you prescribed anything to help the process?