Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

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Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

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wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

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Hi and welcome gimmegimmegimme

Afternoon ladies,

gimme welcome and sorry for your loss.

collie mel he slept through last night but am sure it's only cause he'd been up since 3:30. instead i woke at 5:15 and it was dh's snoring kept me awake. typical

collie i'm ok honestly hon, just so so tired. sorted a load of washing and it knackered me.

mel still a little early yet try tomorrow with fmu. fx for you.

Hello ladies,

gimme sorry for what you are going through, take lots of time to rest up and hope you start feeling better soon.

cep I remember the first trimester absolutely zonking me so can't be good with your lack of sleep either Leave the washing, let your oh do it!

I am considering reflexology too, and acupuncture it's just finding the cash for them first. Still couldn't get through to the the consultant so I am sacking them off and seeing my GP on monday in the hope that he might refer me to another hospital, I can not spend another minute trying to get through to the right people at my hospital, it's tiring and time consuming

Not sure if I may have misse dthe boat this month, or even if I ovulated. Never did get a positive on the OPKs but had EWCM yesterday however didn't dtd I did on Sunday at about 3am (sat night) but we were both drunk as I had convinced myself AF had arrived but we got jiggy anyway Won't be doing it tonight either as my db is over to take ds to school in the morning for me but CM has turned creamy now anyway so don't think it really matters too much.

How are all the other new ladies? I am sorry to have not done much name checking recently, either have been in my own little bubble or had to sneak on for 5mins at a time as dh is beginning to think MN and Dr Google is not helping my stressing, he has a pioint to an extent but have found this thread so helpful over the time.

Hi ladies,

Have had a rotten couple of days so have been mainly on Mc board. Trying to get into a more positive frame of mind, but it's bloody hard!! Went for some blood tests and right palava that was. I have small veins, so she struggled to find one, not much was coming out and then it collapsed, so she had to do other arm as well. You should see the colour of first arm today!! Bruises are 15cm ish long, and very sore. We'll see what they say, I think it's more a fob me off kind of thing tbh .

Saw my lovely kinesiologist yesterday, have some prenatal vits from her to go with my b6 and she's seeing me again on cd28. If you've never tried or heard of kinesiology, I recommed a google!

Chloe how are you feeling?? I totally understand the bubble thing, me too.

cep sorry dh kept you awake last night, must have been in the water. Mine was same.

mel I think they say fmu as that's generally the one that's been in your body the longest without weeing. So if you're sleeping during the day, then prob best to test when you get up I would have thought.

Waves @ gimme recognise your name from mc board. So sorry you have to find yourself here.

Hi ladies

Gimme, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you aren't in too much physical pain from this morning. Everyone is really nice here and will help you through it.

Cep I do hope you get a proper, proper nights sleep tonight.

Harrassed Ooh, the kenesiology thing looks interesting. How do you find it works for you? Am sorry you have had some hard days.

Chloe, I hope you get more success from your GP. I am in a bubble too, and am finding it really hard to relate to anything in RL.

Mel Are you going to wait until tomorrow to test? FX for you too. I wouldn't worry about the itchy patch on your toe - I bet he's seen it all! It must be really odd staring at different pairs of feet all day. Anyway, I hope you are okay, must be a bit of a tortuous wait for you.

Dear Ladies,

Can I ask you something? Have just spoken to a pregnant friend on the phone who had her 12 week scan last week (all good). I could barely say anything else other than a quick congratulations before kind of changing the subject. Now I feel awful and think I might be turning into a cow. I avoided asking another friend who called the other day whether she found out if it was a boy or girl at her 20 wk scan. Am too jealous and sad to know. I really care for these friends and now feel really confused and selfish. Do you think this is normal and will it pass? Am hiding alot right now in RL because I feel unable to relate to anything.

really it's normal lovely!!! My best friend got prg at the same time as me in Dec. We were delighted to be doing it all together as our dd's are the same age and do everything together too. Unfortunately I had a mmc in Jan, and she's been the most supportive of everyone tbh. It has hurt a bit when she's had scans, found out they're having a ds (dh would love a ds ) and things like that. Now I'm mc'ing again and it's hard not to think "why me?!", but she's my friend and I wouldn't wish this on anybody!! I'm hiding from lots of people in RL, actually only a couple of people know about 2nd mc, too. Take your time, you'll get there!

Oh and I swear by kinesiology. Been using it off and on for 20ish years. I credit it with both my bfp's, and hopefully another one. Just need to find out why they're not sticky.

Thanks Harassed Thank you for that, am relieved I am not alone in feeling these things. Am so sorry you have had 2 miscarriages, that must be so tough for you. Do you think it takes long to start relating to people afterwards? This whole ordeal seems endless.

Well my erpc was 10weeks ago today, and most recent mc started 6 days ago, but before I mc'd last week I really felt things were starting to come together. So 8-9 weeks really. I still got upset and down sometimes, but I was starting to feel more like the normal happy go lucky me. I'd started new exercise routine, got back into things I like doing - general things that just made a bit of a difference.

Set right back now unfortunately.......

Chloe I don't blame you for looking into changing consultants. How far will you have to travel to see someone else? When can you see the gp? The Reflexologist I'm seeing costs £25 for 40 mins, that seems to be the going rate around here. I'm not sure how often I'll need to go. The people on the reflexology thread seem to be spending a lot more than that though. I guess it depends where you live, i would imagine that south wales and up by you would cost about the same?

rue I wouldn't worry about feeling like that, I find it very hard to be near pg women ATM. I'm sorry to say that 6 weeks on that's not getting any easier. In fact I think it'll feel like that until I get a bfp.

harassed those bloods sound traumatic! When do you get the results?

I am so so tired. Can hardly keep my eyes open. I slept really well this morning too. I've had to put dd in front of the tv and dh is doing the swimming run, I just cant face it.

really I hate to say that I am still like that and it's 6 months on for me, like melie says I think I will prob feel that way til I get my BFP. Another friend text to say she was 14 weeks pg yesterday and my tummy did that whole flipping thing and I actually cried she and her dh have been trying for over a year and her sis has been through some really tough times with multiple mcs and finally ivf which was successful eventually so she is well aware of the complications and not someone to take falling pg with a pinch of salt but I still felt It makes me feel like a bitch and of course would never ever wish for things to be different for her but it doesn't stop that aching in our hearts to see/hear about pg friends. I too have done the whole, 'how are you? Good ok so anyway...' and I have always been one to support/encourage chatter about pregnancy and babies

melies I think they will refer me to my next town so not too far but triple the distance, I don't care though, just want it sorted now.

Has anyone heard from blackkat recently? I hope she is ok.

harrassed Off to go google that KennyG thing in a minute. I don't bloame you for the way you are feeling right now, you have had a massive up recently then a massive down and that must be very exhausting. I hope the MC threads have been helping you and hope that you have been getting lots of RL support too.

reallyuseful it is totally normal to feel like that. i avoided one of my best friends who was due in jan, we'd had dc's #1 within a week of each other and had planned to have same age gaps between #2. however it took longe than normal to get pg and then i lost it. I also remember having to leave tesco's on a weekend shop cause there was just too many pg women.

hihp so sorry you're feeling low hon. hope you're getting lots of support.

chloe i would definately change hosps. make sure the one they give you monitors you. (saw that on another answer about clomid) hv should be calling me tomorrow, i really hope they have some great ides. although they're supposed to be coming round at some point.

mw was fine was the same i had althrough ds's and last pg. was nice she was asking if i was ok, and how i was doing etc.

harrassed I really like the look of that technique. Have been reading some comments from people who have tried and tested it and wonder if that's just what I need. Seems almost an alternative to counselling but by making your body do the work as such? There is a lady in my area, I might find out about prices and if I would be an ideal candidate. Thanks.

Oh yes, I was in Tesco on Sunday with my sunglasses on as every other woman was prg or had a new born. Must have looked an idiot, but was past caring!!

I was also wondering how blackkat is, hope all is ok.

chloe it's just fabulous, although can seem a little freaky at times! They use muscle testing to identify intolerances, deficiencies and illness, and can treat a virus unlike the doc. I'm currently taking a form of B6 called p5p as you get deficient in this as you get older, and yesterday she gave me some prenatal general vitamins. I'm a big fan as you can tell!

Hey girls

Been lurking the past week as have nothing exciting to report other than still waiting for 1st period post MC and can't wait to start TTC again and I have no advice being pretty new to this!

but reallyuseful I just wanted to add that you are completely normal to feel that way. I've had lots of friends who have been very upset over the years when they have seen other friends go on to have babies when they are struggling and now I am trying I am exactly the same. Irrational crying, jealous of pregnant celebrities, watching OBEM even though it does me no good!

I did hear one thing one of the people said on OBEM this week though and it did help - she'd gone through IVF and been trying for years and then had triplets. She said if you have to really wait for something then it really makes you appreciate it so much more when it happens and it feels even more wonderful. At the time I wanted to throw my shoe at the tv set but I am going to try and focus on that!!

xx

Oh thank you, thank you.

I am relieved to know I'm not alone. I am so amazed by how profoundly sad I am - I had no idea it could feel this painful. It sounds like it takes a good while for it to subside. May I ask whether you think it will always make us sad, even after we all get our bfps?

Thank you for the hand holding. Couldn't do this without you. xxx

And Harrassed, am so sorry you have been through this twice in such close succession. xx

Chloe Harassed Mel thanks for asking after me, still here, just about - RL keeps getting in the way (knackered emoticon). Work super busy!
Trying to do my best to forget what DPO I am . Fully expecting a BFN. At that point will likely bow out bcs I can't cope with more disappointment.

Harassed so sorry you're m/c again ((huge hugs))

chloe sorry to hear that hospital are still being sh*t - reflexology seems to be working well for me and easing the symptoms of PCOS (FX!)

Sorry not to have time to catch up with all cep sorry to hear DS still not sleeping and collie so sorry to hear about your nan ((big hugs))
Hope all well with everyone else.

reallyuseful your reaction is totally normal - fear not, you're not turning into a selfish person, TTC is tough if it doesn't happen quickly, and you have to be kind to yourself, and not beat yourself up, when all about you seem updiffed

really i think it always will to a certain degree. I think it will lessen over time, but you'll never forget.

blackkat hey good to see you. how's your dad?

bump glad to see you're ok. that lady on obem got to me last night, same as the one the other week who'd had loads of mc's. was so pleased for them when they finally got them.

Hi blackkat it's good to see you. How is your dad? Glad work is taking your mind off the 2ww, I cant help obsessing thinking about it!

My plan is to do daily Internet cheapies until sat, then if no sign of af do a digi, if neg start opks again. Plus Reflexologist on thurs. I emailed him to ask about his non pg policy, he hasn't replied but I've found another clinic that does treat pg ladies but it's more expensive.

I'm off to bed, feeling really tired and I think I might have a mild stomach bug - ive got gripey pains and ahem, wind. Good night.

cep glad to hear your ok. sorry you're having a tough time at the moment. Glad you've got the week off though, i think its important to rest if you need to and not force yourself into work.

Chloe your body is being a right pain in the arse this month i hope that its just tricking you and all is ok though. Hoping you'll be peeling off the VIP reserved sticker from your bean bag in the freak out room soon, its not the same in there with out you. You too mels

Glad you are going back to gp for a new referal chloe its about time you got the care you deserve and need.

harassed glad to see you back lovely, although so sad as well xxx Its was about 8-9 weeks after my mc that i started to feel like i had a bit of my old self back too. I hope its not so long this time for you and that you'll get another, stubborn sticky bean, very soon.

really No, i am afraid you are totally normal - or at least by our standards anyway. i have been there too with pg friends. I found out about 2 weeks after my mc that a friend was pg and about 2/3 weeks behind. She lives across the road and have spent ever since avoiding her, even now, despite having another bfp.

blackkat so glad you popped in. I'm sorry RL is so busy, i hope your dad is ok. I hope your wrong about AF xx

gimme hi and welcome. Sorry for your loss. This is a lovely thread.

Nothing from me really, no symptoms still. Sharp pains have all but gone in stomach and back, cramping rarer now too. Still not sore boobs or anything though. poa cb digi again this morning though and it went up to 3+ weeks. (yay) was totally crapping it as had convinced self it wouldn't go up.

Have gp apt tomoz as need one b4 can see mw, so am going to run through all the pains i've had and the slight bit of bleeding i had and beg and pleed ask for a reassurance scan or hcg bloods at least.

wow lots to catch up on and im sooo tired so not going to attempt it tonight!

ive had worst day and need a little rant...

One of my really close friends is pregnant and we planned to get pregnant together, she told me one week after id MC she was pregnant and went for a scan today at 8 weeks and sent me through a little picture of her bean :( i was a mess after that its so unfair, im meant to be having my 12 week scan this week and its brought back loads of shitty emotions! Just wish i was pregnant still :( or AF to hurry up!

Hope everone is well xxxxxxxx

Ohh Brooke (((hugs))) it is so unfair. I'm so sorry for you. You'd have thought your friend might have been a bit more sensitive than to send you a pic so soon. Have a good cry Brooke it's ok to. We've all been through it, it feels like shit I know. It's ok to feel the way you do, you have lost something so dear and special, and it's still so raw for you. Your friend is just a reminder of that loss at the moment. But it will slowly get easier I promise. So sorry for you Hun. Have a cuddle off your oh if he's there. Xx

Big hugs brooke that is harsh. I would like to think that perhaps her pregnant (lucky her) hormones have sent her a bit loopy. For flips sake, do people not think? Have a good cry, always beneficial. Thinking of you. I agree with Collie, it is still very new.

BTW, I hope you all have strong morning stomachs. Just to warn you, I am still bleeding but heavier than before and may have to ask your opinion in the morning

Sweet dreams everyone, thank you for the advice today, much treasured.

xxx