Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

[meliesmummy]

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

stats to follow

Hi ladies...Can i join in?....I heard there's tea (and possibly cake!)
Had an ERPC 2 weeks ago, have stopped bleeding now and am ready to start ttc again. so that makes me:

angela85 ttc#2 cycle1 UCL unknown (have been on the pill since 16, even conceived DD on the pill!)

Thanks guys.....by the way, is that cake chocolate?? xxx

Sorry you got missed off freelance and please don't see that as a sign!

mumtum my friends got twins, she said that when she tested the day her period was due a really really dark line appeared instantly because of the extra hormones so you never know! !

really mcs do stop and start but if might be worth going to your gp in case you need antibiotics. Frustrating I know!

Thanks for all of the positive vibes. I'm all over the place at the moment, I just dont know what to think. I've got soreish boobs today which is a pmt symptom for me, and a spot which is another! My cm is still weird too.

free dpo is days past ovulation.

Wednesdays List
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3

TTC
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD48
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, UCLrandom CD30
wellieboots cycle 2, UCL 29 or 30, CD28
meliesmummy ttc#2 cycle 1 UCL28 CD26
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 5 UCL 28 CD26
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 2, UCL29 CD21
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 mc#2 28/28days cycle 1 CD20
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 7 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD19
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 CD18
Minnie74 ttc#1 cycle 4, ucl28 CD17
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD15
Shorty ttc#2 cycle 2, ucl 30 CD11
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cycle 2, UCL35-40,CD11
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD35 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD10
vegasmum ttc#3 wttc ucl28-30 CD7
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 CD7
harassedinherpants TTC#4, MC#3, UCL 28 or 31, WTF cycle, CD8
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 8 UCL33 CD4
Skitoo TTC#1, WTF CD?
Angela95 ttc#2 cycle 1 ucl ?

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? WTF
Milkyway2007 ttc#? wttc ucl? WTF
jkklpu wtc ucl? WTF
securegal, TTC#1 MC#1 March 2011, WTF, UCL 28
Reallyusefulengine TTC#3 MC#Mar 2011, UCL 26-28 days
Freelancegirl ttc#2 WTF cycle ucl 28-38
Gimmegimmegimme ttc #3 mmc mar 11 ucl 28-32

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, 30/1/11
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD32 BFP 25 Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD30 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD30 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD31 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD29
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD29 BFP 7/2/2011
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 BFP 28/2/11
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 bfp 02/3/11
Ninunina TTC#1, MC#1, WTF cycle, bfp 09/03/11
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 BFP 17/03/2011
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 bfp 17/3/2011
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 BFP 18/03/2011
Iggly TTC#2, UCL 29-31 bfp 18/3/11

RECENT GRADUATES

VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP

Hi angela welcome and good luck x

Hello Ladies

Firstly I would like to say I am sorry for your losses, and good luck in your new journeys. Please can i join you in the ttc journey, I think i am 2 days past ovulation, so i'm in the 2 week wait, although i think i will wait a little longer than the 2 weeks, as not sure if I had my first af 4 days after bleeding stopped with mc, doc thinks it may have been my af but wants me to be scanned. Which is stupid as that isn't for another week, a month after mc, and to be honest what if i get lucky with ttc, i don't want them thinking i have left over mc, and offer me a d+c, if its a new pg. Do you think thats bad of me, should i go for the scan?
Thanks Jules.x

juicee hello. You should go for the scan, it's best to be sure that everythings ok because any retained products could make you very ill. Also, you won't be able to conceive because if there was anything left you wouldn't ovulate. Have you done a test since the mc to check that it's negative?

welcome angela and juicee sorry you have to be here but pull up a beanbag and grab some cake ( chocolate is ALWAYS available) sorry for both your recent losess and that you find yourselves here but you will find everyone here full of advice and support so get comfy ....

juicee i second melies advice its best to get things checked out just in case. Have you used opks? do you know if you have definitely ovulated this month ?

Juicee Hello and welcome. Am so sorry for your loss.

Cep gave me links to two pages which are tremendously informative.

Annoyingly I can only copy the link for one.

Cep Are you there? Can you copy the other one?

www.pregnancyloss.info/trying_again.htm

And sorry, Cep left out a please and thank you xxxx

angela and juicee welcome and sorry for your losses

juicee did you take a pg test and get a -ive after your mc? If so if you do get another bpf you can be sure that it is a new pg and not anything left behind form the old one. I would go for another scan on your gp's recommendations to get the all clear. If you do get another bfp and go for a scan, as long as you tell them you shouldn't need to worry.

Just wondering how chole is today? Have you been working?

Thanks Mels for adding me! Feels a bit more real seeing my name there. Hi angela and juicee and other fellow newbies, sorry for your losses that got you are here. Juicee am with mels and mumtums advice on this, get it checked out.

Really - They did another scan and saw that there was about 2cm of 'product' still in there. I don't think it was in the same place as they drew digital lines in a few places when scanning so am assuming they were just adding it together to give a rough idea of what still was to come. They didn't give me anything to help bring it out but they did give me antibiotics to take for 5 days in case of infection and told me to come back in 2 weeks. Am not losing much blood now which is a bit annoying but I did get a splodge (TMI!) when getting back to the gym (although taking it easy) earlier so maybe that helped get things moving...

Am feeling weird today, have gone from feeling miserable and hormonally thinking about babies to actually starting to enjoy the fact that I am not pregnant! It feels good to have my body back (well, I need to lose the 5lbs I put on in first trimester) and fit in clothes comfortably. Gosh it is also good to have a drink!!

I think it's all part of the grieving process though and it doesn't mean I won't be ttc as soon as get my first af!

Thanks for clearing up the dpo, I have another question - what is cm? Is is something to do with discharge...? I think I have since it used in that way relating to the gloopier stuff you get when ovulating.

Sorry Angela I forgot to welcome you too. I am sorry for your loss. I pass you a big slice of cake.

Have totally forgotten my manners, have just had the God Almightiest tantrum from my 3yr DS and he has taken himself off to bed. My ears are a ringing! Amazed he has carted himself off though

hi angela and juicee sorry for your losses but the ladies here are very supportive,
RUE i think i could do with locking in a cupboard for the first 12 weeks just to keep me away from google my oh doesnt know i have got some tests so i wont do one yet because if i get a -ve it will get me down and i wont be able to tell him why.
have a good eavening everybody.

freelance cm is cervical mucus and if you monitor how it looks you can understand your cycle better here [[http://www.fertilityfriend.com/HelpCenter/FFBook/ff_fertility_signs.html see here

I mean see here

Thank you for welcoming me, the cake is lovely by the way!
So sorry for the losses of everyone who is here, surprised there are so many of us! But is certainly lets me know i'm not alone. Its so nice to have people i can come to for advice if i need it or support when i'm down. and its so good to be going on this journey of ttc again with so many of you.

Quick question...when after ERPC should i get a -ve on a test? haven't done one yet as they're expensive and i don't want to waste the ones i have waiting for this to be over. Its been 2 weeks now, should i do one? TIA.
Much love ladies. xxx

welcome new ladies and sorry for your losses.

Here's the other link

www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm

i was told to do one after a week angela hope that helps,
hands out peppa pig birthday cake x

Angela it varies for everyone, i took one about 3 weeks after and got a bfn, but didn't test before that so it could have been earlier i suppose. here are some cheapie tests you can also get them off ebay so you can test withough feeling guilty.

Freelance Thank you sharing the details. I has a splodge too (TMI again!) this afternoon and the bleeding seems to have tapered off slightly and I have cheered up a bit so am hoping that if I'm lucky I might stop bleeding sometime before my 80th birthday. Then I can start trying again .

This miscarriage is costing me a fortune in acupuncture, sanitary towels and cheer up wine.

I am up and down all the time, Did remember that I could eat pate again and can actually look at 'normal' clothes for summer. That made me pleased. And then cried a bit in the supermarket. . Maybe its all those hcg levels falling back to zero.

Layla I like the secret tests. V. funny.

Evening my lovelys,

Phew, I am knackered - I am soooo not used to being on my feet for this long, I have no idea how I will get through the next 2 weeks I must think about the extra spending money though Well, another slight bloody cm on wiping last night but nothing again Weird. I am not getting my hopes up for it being implantation as it is too early and the same happened last month with a bfn so sod getting my hopes up this month. Don't get me wrong would love to get that bfp but if it doesn't happen this month I am not going to cry about it as imo (and it is totally imo having got an aunty who's birthday falls christmas eve) I am not excited at the prospect of a christmas baby anyway. (Now, if I get a bfp this month I am sure that will be a different story )

Congrats mumtum And at 8dpo? Brilliant news.

Welcome to the new ladies, everyone here is very supportive and feel free to rant/cry/whatever you need to do to get past the next few weeks/months.

Sorry it's a quick post and I haven't name checked, have got tea to make and ds to put to bed now, have only just walked through the door - this fulltime work and being a mum malarky is exhausting, hats off to all you ladies who regularly do it!

chloe are you enjoying it though? have you managed to make an appt with your gp?

Thanks for letting me join the forum, And the lovely words of advice, mega confused if im honest as sort of convinced myself there was no need to go for another scan, I actually feel as if this miscarriage is easier to deal with now and if i am truly honest I am scared of being told there is still something left, as I have moved on and feel ready to try again. I have definately ovulated as had the ewcm, a little earlier than normal, but i know things would be different this month. I done a pregnancy test just over a week ago and it was negative. Thanks again for your advice, i'm not saying i wont go, I probably will now, just scared!! :(
P.s before i disappear i just wanted to say welcome to the other newbies, and thanks for the yummy cake, just what the doctor ordered. Can't beat virtual cake, you can eat it without piling on the pounds. :) x

Juicee Just to let you know, I am avoiding a scan too! I don't want to hear that there's something left either.

Can we all have some wine now?

juicee does your gp know you've had a bfn? That's a good sign that things are back to normal. Didn't mean to scare of confuse you. Do what you think is right. I know that the thought of going back is hard. See how the rest of your cycle goes. If you don't have any pain or irregular bleeding and still don't want to go back, revist your gp. If you do get a bfp, you might find a scan reassuring? X