Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other... Part III

[YourFriendBrian]

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

WIW what a good due date :) my DH is pleased the conception date was probably his birthday. I completely understand the waiting to join the list
Izzy?!?! Oh I'm so pleased!! now sit yourself down on that beanbag :)
YRMOTB you're next
Tunnocks good rebranding!
Owl I agree, the pg books should be a lot more open about bleeding, goo and all that sort of stuff
Pink forgot to say awesome news about the scan. I'm worried about bookface for the same reason. I agree other people's pg seem to be going so much more quickly, like Nix 20 weeks half way!
Great news too Velvet does that mean BIL has to sling his hook?

Thanks for the get well wishes, I haven't been so ill in years, must be the current duff immune system.
Some of the friends coming today have been trying for a year and half, we hadn't told them or many people, but thought they'd rather know in advance. I told another friend last time in person and she was a bit upset, pleased for me but upset for herself which is understandable. Hope I did the right thing. Oh well....better go do some damn revision and get it out of the way for today

congrats collie, sorry if I've missed any other newbies, not really caught up properly! Welcome!

all the scan news is fantastic, makes me jealous, I want one :)

orange i'm in the same situation, seeing an old uni friend in a few weeks, they've been trying for 4 years and finally got pg in nov but had an mc at 8 wks in jan. Do i tell her before i see her or when I see her?

I don't to upset her, would rather give her some warning maybe? :(

Great to read about your excitement about the bean pink although no doubt you'll be ruing your lack of sleep later! How lovely for your friend to be so far along - hope you have a lovely time together.

It wasn't really 4am in my world - as well as adding to the marsupial numbers on this thread, along with mummya in CR, I'm also adding to the foreign contingent as I'm in Dubai so 4 hours ahead of you guys at the mo (I am an English girl thru and thru though, although DH is Kiwi so now I have a half Kiwi bean, does that still make me English thru and thru? )

Talking of you mummya- thank you for you kind words of welcome. I have been in a bit of awe of your fact-finding, determination and never-say-die resilience through your AS struggles - how satisfying it must have been for you to hear through your doc/DH about how you are a "miracle* .

I don't really have any words of wisdom cep other than if you're unsure, then your instincts are probably right.

yrmotb - your heeeelarious story of your friend and the staple gun reminded me of this thread on mn which really made me chuckle. I have to say that I think it would only ever be a guy who would do the staple gun thing

x-post orange - thanks for the welcome . What's your revision for?

That situ isn't easy for you and hils - I think I would prefer to be told in advance as it would give me the chance to swear / cry / scream etc. in private before I saw the person.....

i think either tell her before you see her or towards the end so that she can make a sharp exit if she needs to. Does she know about your mc? I had a heavily pg friend when i mc, who told me she had also had a mc when i told her of mine. Seeing her, despite the huge bump, was actually very comforting as it was good to have someone to talk to, but also who had a happy ending.

wiw hello. Whens your dd? According to FF mine would be 25th Nov

Hi collie - exciting re: your dd. According to the mn calculator, mine is 26th Nov - also DH's bday! Can we hold hands together?!

Whoo wiw just a day apart! yes please, have holding needed at this end.

Hand.. I mean

Firmly held! (again, hand I mean )

wiw that's a fab date! :) (my birthday ). Good luck!

Yay for velvet - fab news!!!!

hills that's tricky but I would definitely tell them before they have to face you in person...I know my dsis has been ttc for a number of years, no luck, and three mcs and she finds it really hard to hear things like that in person without being prepared. Have yet to work out how and when to break this one to her...

collie and wiw According to ff I'm 28 November (nearly another Christmas baby mummya !) but I know the mw will go for 25 Nov based in lmp because I ov late. Eeek - I can't begin to imagine getting that far!

In a bizarre near-psychic incident yesterday, my mum turned up with all my maternity clothes that she'd taken out of my way after the mc, saying she'd washed and ironed them for me! I had to try not to laugh. I haven't the heart to look at them yet but thought maybe it was a good sign that she had brought them back on the day I got my bfp [looking for lucky signs everywhere emoticon]

Anyway I poas again this morning and there was a definite if faint line that came up within the 10 minutes so I'm starting to wonder if perhaps it is real after all

An even better date then dachs! Love your name by the way

Someone else for me an collie to hold hands with at this super early stage then izzy - that's great and definitely take the mat clothes as a good sign and good to read re: the definite line appearing today - I'd offer a in congrats, but let's make do with a

Hi all,

I'm not on form at the moment so haven't really updated myself on what's going on. Will hopefully do a catch up post later.

We've all got a stinking cold in this house and I'm coughing, sneezing and heaving all the time. DS is asleep upstairs and DH is sniffing and moaning in front of the rugby.

Izzy, a faint line is a line in my book.

All quiet on the thread eh? That can only mean all is good (FX emoticon)

Morning everyone - the coffee is brewing and I've just taken the pain au chocolats out of the oven - help yourselves! Hot lemon and honey and fine selection of teas available for irene and other poorly posters and non-coffee drinkers.

I have a question for you lovely ladies- has anyone else been prescibed progesterone supplements as a "just in case"? I called the midwife this morning to let her know the news, book in for a scan (17th April - gulp - should be 8+3 by then - FX) and also to speak to her about the supplements as last time my ob/gyn said to let her know as soon as I could and she would write a prescrip without me actually having to make an appointment. The midwife said it was likely to be "Duphaston" so obviously as soon as I got off the phone, I got onto Dr Google who reliably informs me that it was withdrawn from the UK market in 2008 following a report by the MHRA about lack due to the practice of prescribing them "being based on theoretical considerations rather than robust evidence of efficacy." What advice / suggestions / other knowledge does anyone have to offer? I live in Dubai, not the UK, and I have definitely seen Cycolgest on the shelves here so perhaps worth asking about although most of the info seems to say it is for PMT and PN depression....? Any help gratefully received! Thank you.
P.S. Also planning to put post this on the pregnancy board

WIW it's for a finance/purchasing type exam, very dull. Sorry I don't know anything about that medication, I bet you'll get loads of help on the pg boards. Have they said why that medication? Sorry if I missed that. I would be wary too having read that about bring withdrawn. Can you get a 2nd opinion, or does is not work like that out there?

Hils I think the telling in advance went well yesterday, but I suppose each person is different on how they will take it

Izzy that's a great lucky sign, she secretly think you are pg, my acupuncturist was convinced I was before I knew myself. It took me til about 10 weeks to think about maternity, but then was forced to as my work clothes no longer fitted

Irene sorry you're I'll, and crapola that you can't take Lemsip etc too

My cold is now just sinus pain, which I am lathering myself in Vixs for, but it doesn't half hurt. Am glad I told my friend in advance, I let them bring it up on the day and only answered questions so I hope I kept it low profile enough

I also realised that none of my bras fit me so went to Jo Jo Mama, and was seen by a wonderful lady who led me to buy 3, and my norks are now lovely and comfy

ahhh that's the stuff

Morning all!

I was about to celebrate with WIW that someone else was up at stupid o'clock but you're in Dubai so presumably its a sensible time with you! Grrr. Very jealous

Izzy I like the psychi-ness going on, definitely a good sign. Have not even considered maternity wear here either - am fat and blobby with no sign of a bump yet.

Am now going to run away in as OH is trying to read this over my shoulder

Catch up later!

Morning all! Just popped in to scoff to pain au chocolats while still hot :)

izz your mum is definitely psychic, the timing is just too weird! You got a BFP on a digi right? Don't worry that the other one's faint then, if it was FR you always only get a pretty unconvincing line. Plus i think the digi is less sensitive so I'd say you are thoroughly diffed!!

Irene sorry you're ill, that sounds grim! :( especially when you're all ill so DH can't look after you. Pizza delivery all the way I think!!

wiw I am on cyclogest, but it was prescribed privately rather than in the Nhs, although I think some ladies do get it through the Nhs. Whats the 'just in case scenario'? The thing is, the more research I do, the more I find that most doctors know naff all about fertility, pregnancy and miscarriage, and those that do know something don't agree with each other. So you get lots of conflicting reports on the Internet about whether stuff has any point or not. Progesterone definitely falls into that camp. For example, the clinic that is monitoring my pregnancy tested my progesterone levels when I was first pg, and they felt that they were barely high enough to fall into the safe bounds for a natural pregnancy, and that if it was IVF they would have wanted them lots higher, so I've been on cyclogest. Theyve then been taking regular bloods and increasing the dose if my levels dropped, whereas other clinics prescribe prog routinely but don't check prog levels in blood because it's very variable anyway. Then some other clinics again think that supplementing progesterone is pointless. So that is a longwinded way of saying.... If you trust your dr, go with the progesterone. As for the branding, I'd push then on why they'd prescribe one not the other and if they can give you info on why one's not in the uk.

I am of you living in Dubai! It was a lovely day here yesterday but not quite on the same scale of warmth!!!

orange you should ask your acupuncturist to zap your sinuses and headache-works a treat!!

Haha talking of bras, I thought my bras were feeling a bit uncomfortable, so went to John Lewis to see what they thought. Er, they've only grown a bit, from 36D to 38F!!! Eeeeekkk!! quite chuffed with that!! Plan for pretty bra has gone temporarily out of the window in favour of a lovely comfy, albeit totally unattractive one but now I know what size I can cruise round the Internet for others.

Went to a dinner last night with my 30 something week preg friend and she was talking to another girl about her birth experiences. It's really weird, I felt like a complete fraud for even listening to the conversation. I know I've had about 100 scans and there's definitely something in there but it still feels totally unreal. Hopefully that will change when I get a proper bump and can feel movement. I've definitely changed shape and would have been a but confused about it had it not been for mummya's fab website link-at least I know it's not just from my new junk food addiction

CEP what did you do about swimming in the end?

mamap you been working on business stuff all weekend?

Waves and hugs to all xx

Wombat my first scan date is the 18th April, so we can almost hold hands together. I can't wait, this trimester is going so slowly. I've not even booked in yet. Such a frustrating waiting game.

Pink I'm so jealous of your new bras. I so need one. I dug out some of my old maternity bras the other day but they're old and rubbish and don't quite fit. Can't jinx it by buying new yet.

Orange hope the sinus pain goes away. I'm feeling a bit better today thankfully.

Wave to everyone, DS is pestering me for some apple juice.

Ok, quick message whilst OH has buggered off to play MW to some sheep...

I really don't want to freak anyone out here so, deep breaths all round. Ok? So, one of my reasons for hanging around on here is that OH's best friend's baby was stillborn a few weeks ago. A lot of my mentalling has come from my guilt at being PG when they so desperately want a baby and have suffered so badly.

I know that their DD will be coming up next month - would a card be appropriate to say that we're still thinking of them? They said the house was filled with flowers/cards at the time, but I'm not sure if anyone will remember the date. They are coping extremely well, although I think that they are suffering far more than they are letting on, and our news won't have helped with this

As I said, I don't want to upset anyone, and I think I would be touched by getting a card, but I just wondered if that was just me, and what you guys would like?

Really hope I haven't upset anyone - and choccies on standby for anyone who wants/needs

Blimey orange - I can barely spell finance so most impressed you are taking an exam in it. Good question re: why they've recommended that one - I will see if I can get her on the phone to ask. She is unbelievably booked up (which is a good thing that she's popular, but not such a good thing when you need to get an appointment....) and of course it's always possible the prescrip will be for something else - the mw should be calling me this afternoon to pick it up. The "just in case" probably isn't the right description - it was more of an "it can't hurt" - she told me last time that it is routinely prescribed for all IVF cases to help bed in the bean so why not apply the same theory for non-IVF cases.

Thank you v much pink for your post on that - it reinforces what I thought, that there is no one definite opinion on the practice of prescribing it. I was a little surprised that she would prescribe it without doing bloods first, so it was interesting to read what you said about the levels being so variable. I do definitely trust her so good advice and I'll check re: the branding. Good work on the boobage front

Don't get too about Dubai - nor you daisy - there are some testing moments living here and the heat is truly awful for 4 months of the year. However, I do consider myself extremely fortuante and 98% of the time really enjoy it. I am reading all about your farm adventures!

Re: your friend and a card - I think that's incredibly thoughtful and I'm certain they'd appreciate it.

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better today irene and yes please to scan hand-holding!

I'm having a major wobble here. My Nan passed away yesterday, and we're a very small close-nit family so am just devastated. Spent most of the day yesterday at the hospital with her, but wasn't there in the end and was quite a mess when I got the news. I'm worrying now too about the effect the greif and stress is having on this v v early pg (AF due today) Been having crapms all morning and intermittent sharp pains. No blood, but so very worried. Don't think I could cope with losing this as well now!

Sorry for joining the thread and immediately freaking out!