Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

[YourFriendBrian]

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

I'm back!

All normal with scan, measuring 12 weeks.

I realise that this is going to sound ungrateful, and I don't for one minute want to upset any of you lovely ladies, so those feeling wobbly please look away now.

I came away from the scan feeling a bit disappointed

I guess I hoped that I'd feel a much stronger positive connection with the bean after the scan. But, although the sonographer was lovely, it was very quick, the image very blurry, and was on a screen at the other side of the room, so I couldn't link the scanner on my tummy and the image on the screen.

Does this make any sense?

Right, my "not telling anyone" is not going so well. I have told my mum (who told my sister and step dad) my dad and step mum, two friends and a woman I see down the park all the time who knows my entire mc history.Oh and my doctor in London. oops. I think "not telling anyone" really just means "not telling DH's family" or maybe its because if I do have another mc I wouldnt want to be burdened with a huge big secret and I will want to be supported. Anyone else turning into a blabbermouth like me?

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Daisy congrats on your scan!! Dont worry about what you are "supposed" to feel or not. Every pregnancy is different and there is no such thing as "normal." If you have had a scare before, you are bound to be feeling a little detached, its a very effective self defence mechanism, I am sure things will change later on. xx

Right, that's enough Me Me Me

Knitter I need one of those ducks! OH has banned me from having baths because I have them too hot - this is just what I need!

And Knitter and Digi thinking of you today - I hope the terror is easing a little.

Wombat - what kind of job do you do? I'm sure if you use an antibac handgel you'll be fine. Everything crossed here for your results.

Mamap and AandR you are truly talented multi-taskers. I bow down before you

MummyA I've told masses of people too, by the end I thought that if I told anyone, there's no way it could not be ok. Totally irrational, I know

MummyAbroad I've only told my Mum, and DH told his brother, then this morning I told a friend who I normally go running with. I thought the excuses for how flaky I'm being and how slow I run were wearing thin.

Daisy congrats on good scan!

How bad is everyone feeling with morning sickness and cravings? I threw up this morning for the first time, but nausea doesn't go away often, when it does I'm ravenous. I am eating and eating at the moment. It is embarrassing.

Hellooooo

God... shagged today! Verrrry long meeting... still at least i will hopefully get a good nights sleep tonight in Bris.

pink :) at the MS analogy. Mine kicked in at 10 weeks and today at nearly 17 1/2 weeks i honked! Bizarre!

mamap normally i love tootie fruities but sadly not at the min. Have been scoffing opal fruits and blackcurrant liquorice sweets today YUM

blabbermouthabroad i was quite good actually and only told Mum, dad & sis plus DH parents. That was it! No doubt they told one or two peeps secretly.. why cant peeps keep a secret. I was of the same ilk as you though...would need the support in the event of a loss.

Irene yey for the nausea and sickness :)
Daisy a massive whoop whoop for the scan... shame it left you disappointed! Is this your first baby? generally i didnt bond with DS until i felt movement.

wwombat did you know the biggest cause of toxoplasmosis in the uk is unwashed fruit and veg? I agree re the sheep though. Our cats are on rabbit murdering duty atm and i wont touch them. We dont have a litter tray but do have cats... very conscious when the cat shoves its arse in my face...gets launched!!

Good job on the list tidying ladees

emoo good luck for the scan tomorrow :) xx

AR you are supermum but you dont need to be superwoman. Can you get some help with the girls? Put them into nursery for a couple of days or get a PT nanny or something? Dont take on too much, try not to stress and try not to feel guilty about being busy or stressed xx

Can I just say I love you ladies - you always make me smile and make me feel supported (or ridiculed if appropriate!!) I am never going to live down the tooty fruity pg brain moment

Mummya I haven't told anyone apart from my two very close friends who are also the only people in the world who know about the MC. DH wants to start telling people now we've had our scan and I'm really scared to! It will make it so real. and what if something happens? I think I need a whallop over the head with a haddock!

Nix yep, I'd heard about the unwashed fruit and veg thing. It has had the effect that I'm having to give a wide berth to the amazing salad bar at work because I can't be sure it's all washed and I'm totally parnoid about washing salad at home! Lord, I'm turning into a maniac! Hope you're feeling a bit better now.

Irene Im impressed you're still running! Frustratingly I'm on exercise ban due to the bleeding I've had. I might risk starting some long walks soon though as I'm going stir crazy.

Daisy congrats on the good scan!! That's fab news!!! I also felt a bit detatched at mine, I think it's a self defence mechanism because I'm so worried about things going/being wrong. It was also less emotional because I'd seen the bean before iykwim - that's the only downside of multiple scans I think. I'm a lawyer btw. The farm visit is not my usual job (sadly) but some pro bono I do for an animal charity. Will take hand wipes!

And, drum roll..... the hospital called back with my nuchal results and they're all fine!!! Downs risk was really low. I'm thrilled with that but to be honest I was more worried that the hormone levels would show something out of the norm that might suggest some other peculiar abnormaility (bearing in mind they don't know exactly what genetic issue I have that I have a 50/50 risk of passing on). But all the hormone levels were perfectly normal!!! I'm soooooo relieved! It's not definitive that everything's okay obviously, but each step that shows nothing abnormal is a huge step in the right direction as far as I'm concerned!

Wombat33 Lovely news!!!

Emoo I'm rooting for you too. Good luck xx

Wombat great news on the nuchal test.

Emoo Good luck tomorrow.

Daisy Good news on the scan. Don't worry about feeling detached. Things hit different people at different times. The best bit for me with DS was when I felt him move for the first time. Scans and hospital things can be a bit impersonal but I did love the scan photos they gave me of DS.

Daisy great news on the scan, sorry it wasnt how you wanted it to be.

Wombat fab news from you too!

Emoo good luck for tomorrow

Mummya I have only told DH! I agree it would be nice for some people to know in case they are needed.

Irene sorry you are suffering with nausea and now sickness.

hello to AandR mamap nix orange pink dachs digi knitter onions and anyone else I have missed!

emoo hope your day has been as uneventful as mine. Was v nervous this morning but feeling a bit more relaxed now I'm home. Thinking of you and your scan tomorrow.

knitter don't worry, what you said made perfect sense when you put it up against the statistics on the MC Assoc site - 78% chance of a successful pg if you see a heartbeat at 6 weeks, 98% once you see a heartbeat at 8 weeks. I just didn't realise it was because the placenta starts to fire up.

mummyabroad have told my mum. Two friends from my m&b group. Two friends who I rarely see but were trying to organise a big weekend away. And one friend who caught me just before my last scan and had to listen to me having a panic attack on the phone. They all know my mc history but I don't see any of them often (except my mum) so I don't have to talk about it everyday. I haven't told anyone at work yet - but thinking I should do soon, especially as they're planning for me to direct a 2 day shoot at a theme park next month. Normally I'd be v excited - all I can think is how I don't want to go anywhere near the rollercoasters.

wombat hooray for normal results! That's brilliant news. (ps I also read 'addition' first - did a double take and realised, but not before wondering who on earth tooth fruity was)

love glad to hear you'll be phasing out the roids soon. Have put on tons of weight and don't have that as an excuse. Didn't even think I was eating that much. With ds I distinctly remember having second breakfasts by now, and am quite disappointed when lunchtime rolls by and I realise I've made it through the morning without a proper tummy rumbling that can prompt a trip to the shops for a croissant.

daisy yay for good scan too. I felt exactly as you did at my last scan - it was also blurry and was only able to look at it for a few seconds. I really want to see a clear picture and have everything thoroughly measured. Did you get a photo to take away?

Thank you all for the reassurance, I feel less of an ungrateful cow now . We have a very blurred out of focus picture but hopefully saturday's will be much clearer.

Wombat that's fab news re your results, absolutely brilliant! Nice job too, I'm a land agent so spend time hanging around farms for work as well as home. Plus, if you're worried about toxo, you can be tested for it at your booking in bloods - they took an extra armful from me today to test.

Glad you're feeling a bit better Digi

Nix Blackcurrant and licquorice humbugs - awesome!!!!

wombat am madly - so happy you have had good results!!! The nuchal gives me a real scare.

daisy so glad bub is doing well. I am a 20w girl in terms of baby bonding - I need a decent bump to rub to make it real. It is also extremely normal to not connect until sometime after birth. DD2 took a little bit - I love babies in general so it wasn't a big problem but it was a good month or so until I had that 'heart living outside your body' feelings for her.

Don't get too excited on the superwoman label (although am now secretly imagining myself in superhero outfit - airbrushed of course) I am sadly very male and can't multi-task for the life of me hence my rabbit in headlights impression. I just get overexcited and say yes to everything. Your OH sounds very sensible Daisy mamap me and my 50 year old body are going to be propping up your bar once you are open!!

nix thanks hon - I have a pt nanny who is wonderful - I think i will settle down once we get going as the thought of it all is much worse than the reality will be. When are you starting ML? How are you coping with full-time?

mummya I am rather surprised at my restraint - I am normally blab central. My DSis guessed just because I said I was warm and I told DMum which means the whole clan knows but are sworn to secrecy to not mention it to me which suits me fine Still grinning about your sweet Dad knitter

No real symptoms this way other than continuously losing keys and purses and I've been freezing too! Might be because dh is a cheapskate and keeps reducing the heater settings!

Thanks everyone for your kind words of reassurance and encouragement. I feel like I'm awaiting sentencing tomorrow.

Congrats wombat on the nuchal result. Am a bit mystified as to how they know the 50/50 statistic if they don't know what the condition is?

daisy well done on the scan I think it is quite normal to not bond until much later. I know with me and dd it was not until I got home from hospital and she was still there that I knew there was a part of me missing.

digi glad you got through the day successfully.

mummyocd and mamaocd pmsl at your list tidying antics!

knitter yes, I too feel cold and am wrapping up lots!

Dachs I see you also have a scan tomorrow - hope all goes well with you and the pups!

Oh good luck scanners emoo and dachs. It feels like sending you off to combat

fx to tomorrows scanners

night night ladies (and Brian )

YIKES.... definately felt the baby (yes baby!!) move during the night... defined kicks... I THINK!

AR am ok thanks, probably wont start ML til July ish sometime. FT is tough but the last 2 weeks i have worked 3 days per week from home with 2 days in MK/Bristol with a stop over so its not been too bad. I am supposedly getting a development assistant [hopeful emoticon] whether that happens yet i dont know. We just got the go ahead yesterday from my customer for more products and associated systems which triples my workload...so its definatelyl needed. Shattered though. DH being great and helping round the house etc, but my ironing pile is ever growing ...loving the challenge and its a fab career move but I still miss the extra days with DS. 20 days off at easter so that will be great

20 days...? bloody big fat sausage fingers... 10 days off... Doh!

Wow nix!!! must be a grand feeling, those first kicks! Congrats.

A&R thanks for the hanky - to shed a few tears if it's all gone wrong, and the tin hat - to shed a bucketload of tears if it's all ok!!

Touch of insomnia here...

nix at moving baby but that is v v cool, v excited for you!

daisy is this your first baby? I don't think you sound ungrateful-your experience sounds a bit rubbish actually given it's such a huge milestone. Someone else was saying their 12 week scan was unexpectedly rushed and efficient too. How come you're going on Saturday too? Is Saturday private? Hopefully they won't rush you so much then. I'd never considered what happens if working sheepdogs are ill! I would love to have pet lambs in the kitchen!! I think I have a secret hampering to experiment with the good life-commuting to London isn't all it's cracked up to be

Good luck today dacha and emoo!! I am loving having the list, my brain can't keep track otherwise! Thanks mama and mummy for giving it a spruce up!

mamap tooty fruities???! Omg I need some NOW!!! I also work up with a desperate urge for fruitcake.....

Do any of you have the problem that you get thirsty but after you've drunk water you want to puke? I'm not actually being sick, just feeling that way but drinking seems to bring on the waves of nausea....

I am a bit annoyed with myself-am havingmy weekly we'd/thurs wobble that I'm bleeding and it's going to go wrong-I'm not bleeding but have had some dampness and end up running to the toilet petrified :( am scared I'm going talk myself into it-do any of you have this particular type of mentalling?? Please tell me how to just chill a bit!!!

Emoo I'm thinking of you today, sorry you're having such a tough time

Wombat excellent news on the scan
Nix - kicking?! Oh how wonderful!! 10 days still good tho, no? Your mat leave will hopefully start soon enough and you'll be back home again
Daisy I think I know what you mean, after seeing a scan it's been over 2 weeks and I'm struggling to imagine what's happening at the moment. Shame you didn't have a better view during, and your pic isn't very clear x

I'm just counting the hours until tomorrows scan [wobbly emoticon] I'll be 13+5, and am hoping it might set my mind at ease a bit

orange fingers crossed tomorrows scan will be v reassuring! emoo consider your hand firmly held by us while you're at the scan today.

Sorry about all the typos everywhere-phone thinks it knows best and makes me look mental. For example, I in fact have a HANKERING for cake. Although I'd like to have a hamper-ful too....

YES re the water pink.. couldnt drink it, would spit it out! Juice, squash and fresh orange or apple juice were all i could swig by the gallon and the knicker checking! I still say something along the lines of "please god, no bleeding" every time i go to the loo, and not particularly religious!..even now.

I have a real thing about textures too.. hence my passion for tomatoes. Cant really eat cake, still off chocolate, but anything fruity and fresh is yummy :)

Best of luck for scan emoo xx and orange tomorrow xx

Orange yes 10 days is great, esp as i have only had to book off 3 days across the bank hols.:)