Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

[YourFriendBrian]

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

robin many of the scans i think have been down to bleeds, then through NHS EPU. (mine were) but some on here are rich paying for private too :)

orange what reason have you got to think you arent pg anymore? When was your last scan?

Think about the last positive scan..... and look at your symptoms hon xxx The mind can play evil tricks with you

robin I get a mandatory extra scan at 5-6 weeks because of my previous ectopic pregnancy; plus because I then had a MMC at 12 weeks which had started struggling at 8 weeks they have said I can have extra scans for reassurance between the 6 week one and the 12 week dating scan. St George's in Tooting, London is my hospital and seem to have a very relaxed attitued to stress-bunnies who need the scan for reassurance...

Mine have been private because my crap hopeless GP wouldn't refer me to EPU (which doesn't take self-referrals) despite having two weeks of [brown] bleeding!! Still, I'd spend my last penny on them for the reassurance. I can highly recommend the Fetal Medicine Cente in London if you're local and the profits all go into research in fetal medicine, so it's almost like a charitable donation really

MrsRobin I've had lots of panics due to no/fluctuating symptoms and (so far at least!) everything is fine!

Robin Mine were private - one because my EPU won't take early scan referrals unless there is full-on bleeding and the second because the Owlet was buggering about during my proper NHS scan and I was too scared to wait til 16 weeks for blood test.

So I am now £300 down and will be taking it out of his bloody pocket money in due course HOWEVER - if you can bear to hold out until 9 weeks it will be worth it as you will see waving, kicking, fingers, toes, the whole shebang and it is awesome, plus by then you are heading out of the danger zone which was my reasoning really. :)

Orange I believe what you need to calm you down is a kipper up each nostril (this is a new variation on being hit with the traditional haddock). Come over here and I will insert them for you

PS. As Womble rightly says, panicking about having no symptoms is pretty much an entry requirement for this thread as well as brown goo :) I blame the sodding books that tell you 'by X weeks you will be chucking your guts up, have huge boobs and be craving tarmac with peanut butter on it' etc. They lie. Everyone is completely different. Tis all a right load of bollocks imho.

Wombat, now that really is a rubbish GP for not refering you after bleeding.

Am glad it's not just me who has fluctuating symptoms. But I need something cast iron to hold on to!

I'm ooop north but I have found a couple of local places which do private scans so will try them out. I think it will be worth it for piece of mind.

Knitter, sounds like they are looking after you. Should think so aswell given what you have been through to get here.

Do you think Brian does massages? He seems in touch with his feminine side Have a stinker of a tension headache!

wombie is there a long waiting list for the Fetal Medicine Centre? You're the second person that's recommended them and I was thinking of using them for nuchal test as they are supposed to be really good for that plus hertfordshire NHS doesn't give a toss.....

owly glad you're still around to dish out remedial fishing-not sure about the nostrils though-will definitely focus my mind to not mental if that's what coming to me!

I'm supposed to be on a half day today-just broke out of the office :(

robin where oooop north are you?

Robin I'm a bit of a scan addict so probably not the best person to advise but you can't beat the reassurance they give. I agree with owly that the later you leave it the better but you've got to trade that off against pent up mentalling which isn't ideal either so I reckon 7 weeks onwards is good, just in case you ov'ed/implanted later than you thought.

Pink it depends how flexible you can be on time of day but I've had no problems booking in - this week I called on Wednesday morning and got an appointment for 3pm Thursday. I think they only do 'standard' scans (viability, nuchal, abnormality, growth) on Mon, Tues, Thurs and Fri. Wednesday is the day they do they complex stuff (CVS, Amnio and intra-uterine fetal surgery).

heading off for a listen in at 4

and again on monday... and next friday no doubt! Nowt like satisfying the anxious

FX x

Oooh now A&R a head massage would go down really well! Headaches can be a side effect of the increase in hormones ya'know

Velvet and AandR I'm sooooooo happy to see you poking your heads in with those BFPs what great news, congratulations!
Yes, brown goo and wibbling is just usual behaviour on this thread. wombat is the queen of goo, she gets it at least once a week it seems like (sorry sweetpea, not making fun I know it's horrible for you) but every time a scan has shown things are fine - I on the other hand being a 'clotter' not a 'bleeder' am terrified that my absence of said goo just indicates that my body is withholding the evidence of it all having gone wrong. See? You can mad in so many ways on this thread

Great news on scans so far - and long may it continue for everyone. Mine is next Weds and I've started mentally counting down to it. Am now just about at the stage when I want to get it over with, just want to know either way and am desperately hoping it's all ok.

My team was told I'm leaving yesterday - I think I must have been carrying a lot of stress about it and all came out in a big headache and visual disturbances - zigzaggy halo type thing in my left eye. I'm trying to get an optician appt for tomorrow to check it - I know it's most likely a visual migraine but need to rule out clexane-related bleeding or retina stuff.
Ooh, just seen more references to headaches above...hormone-related huh?

lady have you managed to go home for a lie-down? I get them sometimes - they're horrible and I just have to sleep it off. Fingers crossed it'll be gone by tonight if you can have a good sleep. Good plan getting it checked out though.

nix am at your ability to spy on your bean without having to show your fanjo to random men and spend £100 a throw!!!!

Moo Am chuffed to hear that your bean is there too - lots of hugs to you!

Being the div I am, I posted on the old thread if you haven't seen....bean is 6.5mm, and about as big as a grain of rice. Burst into tears, and have finally managed to calm myself down by this afternoon. Just very happy to have got this far, but I know with my history that it's the next 4 weeks that are crucial. Truly hope that the meds will make this one stay.....

Orange it's a mandatory requirement that you are irrational to be here! Am sure you are fine - had a day worrying about symptoms this week, and have felt sicker that EVER today, so you sound pretty preggers to me.

Nickster you have made me crave salad - with a large side order of pizza. Now got to convince the family that they want the same - may pull the pg card - hahahaha(evil laugh).

banana my peiriods are always like that, but I also remember after my mc, they were a little lighter, so I'm sure this must be normal.

Hotand spicy caramel apple lattice - mmmmm. All you ladies are driving me to distraction with all the talk of yummies - well, apart from pork scratching nipples, obviously.

Hello velvet fingers crossed the brown goo is all normal - it seems pretty normal round here.

Hello Irene - and any other newbies....you're in good hands here!

Have I missed anyones scan news? Brain is not functioning well today, am afraid. Am completely knackered, and God, had to get the nausea wrist bands out today - felt the worst I have felt so far. Haven't been sick though - but wasn't when pg with DD.

Took another step today, and have my MW booking appointment on the 2nd March. Feels cary to make that official too, but suppose I have to bite the bullet sometime.

EPAU were lovely today - have offered me another scan at 10 weeks, 14th March (this is the particularly scary time for me as 2 of my mcs happened around 9 weeks), and I have one with Dr.S on the 28th Feb. Told them about my treatment with him, and they didn't know much about NK cells at all, but I expected that - don't mean that in an arsey way...

Poor DD is parked in front of the tv - feel so completely cack that can't face doing anything other than lying on the sofa too. The first thing she asked me when she came out of school was "Is the baby ok?" - just makes me wanna blub thinking about it.......

better go before I start delcaring undying devotion to you all - it's one of those days, ladies xxxxx

Soo nice to hear about good scan news and new BFPs. Keep it up everyone. And nice to be reassured about brown goo even though I've not had that particular pleasure yet.

I'm wondering when to go to the doctor. I was thinking of leaving it a little while as last time I went straight away feeling all happy about my news only to have a mc a couple of weeks later. At what point did you go ladies? don't know if they'd offer an early scan.

Irene this is terribly eeyore-ish of me, but it's probably best to get things in motion and make an appointment. This is why I think:

1. If you're lucky or stress how anxious you are, your GP might push for an early scan knowing your history.
2. (and I apologise) God forbid the worst happens, it's better to have the pg recorded 'in the system', so that if there does turn out to be any problem, it will be 'counted' when assessing for test eligibility.

Sleep that is bloody marvellous, and well done on booking the MW appt. So nice that your EPU are looking after you.

Irene , Bee is definitely right with her wise words.

They may or may not offer early scan but it's always worth asking - and failing all else it's definitely worth them knowing what's going on. I went at around 7 weeks - would have gone at 6 weeks but my GP was booked up 2 weeks ahead.

There is nothing you can do to jinx this. Honest. :)

Two good points Ladybee, taken on board. Still very early days for me, only got my bfp on monday so only about 4 weeks gone.

Thanks Owl, good motto. It is easy to get superstitious.

The only people I've told are DH and my Mum. I couldn't keep it from her. I was at her house when I took the test. Couldn't keep it in.

Irene Another one who would vote for seeing your doc early. I left it until 7 weeks last time and then ended up being seen later at the hospital. Might be good to sound your gp out about an early scan too, as others have said.

Owl liking your motto too. My friend always tells me "only worry about the things you can change" which I am repeating over and over to myself right now whilst rocking quietly in a chair.

Nickster Am in Cheshire, the grim part not the posh part . Where are you listening in on the doppler? At home?

lovemy Excellent news about the scan. 6.5mm, wow! These beans are a growing.

Pink, thanks for the advice on the scan. I fear I may become an addict too. If I can just hold out a bit longer. Not like I can change the outcome but it's the not knowing.

Shooting dirty looks at my DH who is off to shop to buy beer for himself and flippin' Appletizer for me to have in a wine glass. Pah!

mmmmmmmmmmmmm doughnut mmmmmmmm...

You alright there Wombat?