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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

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YourFriendBrian · 18/02/2011 08:35

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

OP posts:
AandRMum · 27/02/2011 11:42

Oooo how sad - am having symptom envy velvet Sad ! I lived on ham sandwiches on white bread for number 1 and steaks for number 2! Fizzy drinks (which I normally don't like much) were in hot demand. This time it seems to be vegemite on toast. I keep thinking I am having what feels like milk let down so possibly your ducts are tuning up!

Pink TTC brave attempt but ultimately pointless I feel - I think it is all about the bigger picture. I love being pregnant as I feel incredibly special and connected to the amazingness of my body to create something out of nothing. I think it is a real shame men don't get to do this, as we get 9 months to get to know every hiccup and every wiggle and when they come out it is like 'Oh there you are ...' Poor guys have to start with a 9 month lag. I am not a fan of the added bonuses of ms, cramps, needing a forklift to turn over at night etc. etc. but even then it is like running a marathon - it hurts like hell but boy what a feeling when you cross the finish line (not that I would know anything about that - does a 5k run count!) and it just wouldn't be so special if it didn't take a bit of effort and self-sacrifice. I think it is the blank statements of 'I hate being pregnant' which gets up my nose rather than any of the complaints and as I think you bravely tried to point out - complain away - but just remember the bigger picture.

Tunnocks pantliners rather than pads sounds like you have reason to be hopeful. When I had my CP in December, which was earlier than you are now, it was (TMI) dark, thick and copious - really gross. It lasted for a good 5 days and there was no doubt about what was happening. fx bean is hanging on tight!!

AandRMum · 27/02/2011 11:46

... and I went back to a negative a day after I finished bleeding (first time I tried testing)

mummyabroad · 27/02/2011 12:51
mummyabroad · 27/02/2011 13:15

Shock Shock Shock Those people are mean!! Pink and TT cant believe how rude they were to you, I just typed a piece of my mind because I was so Angry on your behalf I think I just learned a really valuable lesson - that no matter how tired and fed up I get I am really going to try not to take it out on innocent bystanders - I dont want to end up like those people!

Tunnocks thinking of you, hope you are OK.

Anyone seen coconuts in here recently? - how are you feeling now?

Velvetcu · 27/02/2011 13:19

lol mummya I couldnt resist posting in there just now too! How are you feeling today?

tunnocks how are you? I had an mmc so have no idea about quantities of blood but only 3 pant liners is a small amount - I was filling them up with brown goo last week!

mummyabroad · 27/02/2011 13:24

Yours was very well put Velvet I'm feeling OK, I'm "enjoying" pregnancy symptoms Grin tired, little bit queasy, and it feels like I can feel my boobs growing. No more bleeding so thats good.

tunnocks I had two pantyliners worth of blood + some stringy clots over a three hour period 2 days ago. Got my HCG bloods done afterwards and all is fine.

inbetweener · 27/02/2011 13:25

Sorry I am probably breaking protocol by transfering issues from another thread ( although you appear to be doing that anyway ) but how can you say that the people on the " I hate pregnancy thread " are being mean when you have referred to them on this thread as " selfish, ungrateful cows "

Im not sure thats terribly productive either.

those people have explained that they want their babies just as much as you want yours and have explained over and over that its just as this moment in time that they are fed up/feel rough etc.

I shall be interested so see how you feel in the run up to week 40 and shall expect not a murmer of discontent from any of you clearly !!

nickstermum · 27/02/2011 13:25

Waggles haddock! Why on earth are you reading about I hate pregnancy when it's something you so close to your heart? Step away from them ! People post on there for discussion debate and argument in most cases.

Also it's an assumption that everyone on there has had an easy ride. Not everyone who has had the worst time conceiving loves being pregnant.

Like the bump rubbing thing. Others may very well have struggled for much longer than you or had a more turbulent ride, you dont know, bump rubbing is a natural reflex!

I hate listening to people moan about pg, but... People do! Don't take it personally and perhaps ignore it?

I am not particularly a fan of being pg, it is a means to an end to get the one thing I want the most in the world, I dont moan about it

nickstermum · 27/02/2011 13:28

Inbetweener, from any of you??? Please exclude me from that comment thanks :)

inbetweener · 27/02/2011 13:30

Noted and will do nickstermum. Apologies Smile

AandRMum · 27/02/2011 13:31

Go velvet and mummyA - now feeling like a complete wus to have not commented!! That woman was just plain mean! And double yeah re symptoms MummyA.

I keep popping over to the grads thread and hoping to see my name at the top of their list and then to look down at my belly and realise I am actually 35 weeks pregnant rather than 5 (+4)! Can't believe how much I want it to be the case!!!

PinkFondantFancy · 27/02/2011 13:36

Wow I love you ladies, until recently I thought all MN-etters were like you but now I realise just how lovely you are. Well put you too, you are much more articulate than the pink rage monster! I'm over it though-the rage monster has gone away to digest its delicious roast lamb dinner and ifthey want to complain about this time in their life, that's their problem. Im not so naive to think this is going to be a walk in the park but i fully intend to use this as an exercise in trying to see silver linings and not complaining about niggly stuff. Actually that's another thing the MC taught me-I read in a chinese medicine book that complaining gets you stuck in a rut and blocks your energy-hippy dippy stuff I know but I really found that when I stopped whinging and tried to find the bright side of things I felt a lot better, and before the MC I was quite a whingy person.

velvet I quite like a selection from digestive biscuits, orange juice, tinned pears, grapes and yogurts when I'm feeling Bleugh. There's a mini supermarket round the corner from work and in the mornings I wander around the shop looking at each item, and if it doesn't make me want to puke on it, I buy it, stash it in my drawer at work and pick at it as and when. Don't know anything about fanjo twinges though!!

hotnspicyonions · 27/02/2011 13:39

Come on now ladies, what's been going on here then?!

Personally, not going in any other threads at the mo because I love our little group. We're all very supportive of other each other & ready to give advice/opinions. And that's one of the points of MN,its 'your' opinion. There's no right or wrong, its just what we personally think. Some woman may hate being pg, some of us are just grateful to be so.

Velvetcu · 27/02/2011 13:42

inbetweener my comment to them was not about their moaning it was about the use of the "hate" word in their title. I have not called any of them names nor denied the right to complain when you don't feel well.

hotnspicyonions · 27/02/2011 13:44

I had written more but it disappeared off my phone. But basically it said in the end as long as we get a healthy sprog we'll all be singing from the same page!

AandRMum · 27/02/2011 13:47

Inbetweener Nix I don't think anyone has said you can't have a good complain about pregnancy symptoms - I fully intend to do my share!! I think it was more the emotive language of the title of the thread (which I guess is down to the meaning individuals attach to certain words) and the rather mean response of one of the posters to an opinion contrary to the op.

tunnocksteacake · 27/02/2011 13:47

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PinkFondantFancy · 27/02/2011 13:49

Hello inbetweener nice to see you. As you've also been in the early, wibbly stages of pregnancy post miscarriage, you might recall that your hormones and rage monster makes you care more about stuff that you normally wouldn't give a stuff about. Yesterday, I was bothered about the thread, mainly because the pain of the conception threads are still such a recent memory and the title of the thread of the pregnancy thread is so inflammatory. Today I feel more rational and although being pregnant for me is still a huge novelty and I feel like I would go though literally anything to have a baby this year, I appreciate it's not a walk in the park.

AandRMum · 27/02/2011 13:53

velvet and possibly tunnock I was just reading a thread about a lady having vibrating near her fanjo (hmmm sounds dirty!! Grin) but in any case a number of people said it can be caused by a trapped nerve as ligaments expand (tighten?!) In any case groin and fanjo twinges seem to be another of the endless list of potential symptoms!

PinkFondantFancy · 27/02/2011 13:53

Also, had I read the thread for the first time today I probably would have left you all to it-so far I've sadly never made it as far as any the women on that thread so have no idea how they feel. Hopefully I have all that to come. Like I say, yesterday it triggered a nerve, today I would have had a more rational 'live and let live' attitude.

PinkFondantFancy · 27/02/2011 13:57

tunnock (or gimmick as my phone seems to prefer to call you) I had that too-does it feel like aching or stabbing? Mine was aching by where my appendix would be (i don't have an appendix any more though!!) and dr google says it could be to do with the corpus luteum-no idea how but I took it as a good thing. Have you got a gp appointment for next week?

mummyabroad · 27/02/2011 13:58

inbetweener

you are right, this probably isnt the right place but...
I called them mean, not Pink and I did it because telling someone to "fuck off" is mean. Its not debate or letting someone else have a different point of view, its picking on people. It wasnt the only mean spirited comment on there either. I fully defend everyone's right to moan about being pregnant (mainly because I am sure I will do it myselfGrin) but its not right to attack people in order to prove your point of view is "right". The OP asked a question and everyone should be prepared to hear all the answers, even if the answer is "No, I love pregnancy".

PinkFondantFancy · 27/02/2011 14:11

Thanks mummya- I think the comment on here that inbetweener is particularly bothered about is mine from last night. However, I was already Angry and fresh from cruising the MC and conception boards it just hit a nerve. Anyway pregnant women are safe to whinge all they like-have definitely learned a lesson to stay away from MN at large-have to deal with enough bile in real life.

PinkFondantFancy · 27/02/2011 14:17

Sorry for bringing unpleasantness into our little room. I'm going to withdraw to a safe place for a while until all this blows over.

I've put a pile of mini eggs in the corner as a peace offering.

mummyabroad · 27/02/2011 14:18

I am all Angry now. Like you I am used to the supportive side of MN, I just cant get over how people can be so vitriolic. I gather your first post was quite vitriolic too, but I have seen your subsequents posts which are much softer too. I think TT is right that there is not much point talking to them as their minds are made up anyway, but I am still Angry and Shock that they are so aggressive and mean. I really feel sorry for the kids they are going to haveSad