Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

[YourFriendBrian]

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads.

Lots of love
Brian x

Just trespassing on this thread to say hello to Wombat33 - spotted you and think we were on the September bus together and wondered how you were getting on. It hope all is still well with this pregnancy.

I got a BFP on the October bus - am now 6 weeks plus and very tired and grumpy! Feeling nauseous but provided I eat constantly its not too bad (though last time round the full on serious MS didn't kick in till 7 weeks I don't think).

Best of luck to everyone else on the thread.

Bumps x

Hello Bumps, congratulations!! I've PMed you x

Writing as I read so am about a couple of pages behind but had to say MamaP I was eating steaks for morning tea with DD2. It slowed down and I lost the weight afterwards.

Yay knitter congrats on the heartbeat - that is early!

Only a little bit more brown not red goo - I'm gonna get sore if I continue to wipe at this rate tho! I think I might get myself some expensive loo roll!

Early scan ladies - were yours private or nhs? I was gonna pay for a private one at 7 weeks coz I don't want to book in until I know it's ok but I'm in two minds as to whether I should do it early so they can keep their eye on it?

I'm having so many conversations with myself it's getting bit crazy! I'm wishing the weeks away which is rubbish coz I'm on half term so should be enjoying it. I really want to tell my mum in case things go wrong and I need her but dh says no :(

Oh Velvet I know what you mean about wiping and wiping! Brown goo only is a really good sign though. FX it stays that way - there's no reason why it shouldn't!

Can you talk to DH a bit more and explain to him how scared you'refeeling and that you'd really like to tell your mum soo that she can help share the burden of supporting you through this stage so it's not all on him?

I have my early scans privately as my GP wouldn't refer me to EPU (even after bleeding - my lovely midwife has now given me her number to arange this if I bleed again - but that's another story!). In terms of timing, it may be worth contacting the clinic(s) where you would have it done. The place I went to would not scan earlier than 7 weeks because they said the rate of development can be so different that they find earlier than that the risk of an uncertain result is too high. That might make the timing decision for you?

Inappropriate question I know, but how much do private scans cost. I'm 6+1 and was wondering about a private scan...

Mine at 7wks was £100.

velvet mine were private

apples I live in Berkshire and an early scan there is about £75, up to about £175 in some of the London clinics. I think most places in London charge about £100. Hope that helps :)

It does help, thank you. I thought it would be more

velvet my scan this morning was NHS as I've previously had an ectopic and they have to check that the pg is in the right place... With the ectopic I ended up having my left tube removed. Losing the right too would be somewhat disastrous....

Hi everyone.

I must say I feel like a bit of a fraud being on this thread. All this talk of scans and midwives. If I wasn't having nausea and sore tits I'd think I wasn't pregnant. I've still not seen the doctor, although I have an appointment for Thursday. Perhaps it will feel a bit more real then.

I'm glad in a way that I'm feeling normal. I'm not dwelling on being pregnant like last time and I'm not letting myself feel too excited. Hopefully it will be easier if it all goes wrong again.

My early scan was NHS - and they seem pretty supportive in offering me further ones too. Don't know whether this is because I've had 4 mc's, or whether they'd do this for someone who had 2+.....it's maybe a bit of a postcode lottery too?

Dachs more lovely news on your two beans - it's so exciting!

Knitter yay, HB found! Good news - am happy for you too.

mamap I am eating way too much too - I think I even eat that much that I almost can't breathe after too! I'm hoping it will slow down soon, but I put on half a stone in the first trimester when pg with DD. Food just seems to taste really good, and I don't seem to fill up - I can just eat and eat. I know that feeling tired makes me eat more when I'm not pg, so maybe feeling tired contributes to it too.

Velvet glad it's just brown goo now.

About to hit the wall of tiredness now - coinciding with having to get dinner ready, boo! Was awake at 6am this morning though. Anyone else finding that they can't sleep on their tummy anymore? It feels uncomfortable and a bit full (probably all the bloody food!!!!), and I just find that bizarre at 7 weeks. Maybe I'm just really in tune with my body in my old age......

Irene you just sit right there and hold tight... your scans will be upon you before you know it... along with some delightful symptoms, enjoy it whilst it lasts

Dachs sounds like you had a fab sonographer, makes an amazing difference.

AR thanks that's really good to know... I could quite easily devour steaks instead of mid morning biscuits

love I forgot to wave to you earlier I knew i'd missed someone!

Velvet I appreciate that decisions regarding your baby should be made by you and dh but right now this is about you, your anxiety, your body, your stress, your need for empathy and total understanding about the highs and lows of pg (that only a woman can truly give), on this one occasion I would either just tell your mum or just tell dh you're going to tell your mum and do it.

Irene same here-if it wasn't for the private scans I'd not have any contact with anyone official until my booking in appointment around 12 WEEKS!!!! how shit is that!!

Am on train back again now and I thought I was starving so downed a steak pasty but combining that with a tilting train I feel roughbags. Plus would be better if I could have a little sleep but the guy sitting diagonally opposite keeps staring at my boobs (admittedly they are quite well on display but even my modest tops look like I've got my boobs out now!!) so I daren't.

velvet I've also read that 7 weeks is the earliest lots of people will see you. Worth asking gp for early scan-seems from here that some are kind and understanding and others dont give a toss but if you don't ask you don't get I guess!!

Oh also velvet just tell your mum then tell DH it slipped out by accident. If she can hold your hand while you're wibbling that is worth everything. What's his reason for not wanting to tell her? Was she unsupportive before?

love my tummy is very tender to touch so definitely sleeping on my front would be out of the question for me!!

my mum is pretty useless as a mum really thats his reason lol but I had a big discussion with her in December about how she wasnt there for me after the mc, she didnt say anything around the due date etc and she got all upset and said its because she feels like I don't need her etc etc.

I would rather not tell her but I just need someone in RL

Velvet I can understand that feeling. My mum and DH are the only people who know about my pregnancy. I'm lucky with my Mum, she's a pain in the arse in many ways but is particularly good at looking after people being reassuring. She's also been on at me for sooo long to have another child that every symptom is interesting to her. Sorry yours isn't there for you in the right way.

Mama thanks. I know I've just got to let the days and weeks go by. I'm getting nasty flashbacks to my mc which I'd buried in the back of my mind.

This thread is fab though, lots of good scans and heartbeats.

at pinks attention grabbing norks!!

velvet do you have a friend you could tell? I've actually told a few friends - the ones that were really there for me after the miscarriages. I did tell my mum, but we ended up rowing about it quite spectacularly. She is very supportive, but incredibly emotional and when it clashes with me being hormonal it's not pretty.

knitter out of interest did they say which ovary you ovulated from? I remember reading an article about a woman who lost a tube after an ectopic, and had the opposite ovary removed for some other reason. But the remaining ovary and tube somehow found each other and she conceived naturally, much to her and her husband's surprise. Amazing what the body will do to keep going.

irene I don't even have nausea or sore boobs, but have had one scan so I know something's there.

I have just come back from counselling. It was really good to talk about all the little things that I'd been storing up and not wanting to bother DH about. One way I've been coping these few weeks is to write down every single little symptom, no matter how insignificant. That way, when I go a few hours feeling non-pg, I can look back at my diary and see that I did recently have some symptoms. I've stopped POAS-ing, as this is my new reassurance. I worked out that today is the day I started to lose my symptoms last time. All day I've been feeling 'period-y' but not in a scary way so I'm actually feeling really secure right now , hoping it stays that way.

Good work on the increased ( ) Owl and Wombat
Tunnocks and Velvet sorry you're having such a tough time at the moment (((hugs))) the dr said post-MC my uterus would be more sensitive and prone to cramps/bleeding. Didn't stop me being terrified
Dachs great news about the pups :) I bet the heartbeat difference is just linked with their different growth/stages and nothing to worry about. No idea about dating except to go by the measurements? Sorry. If it's any help my LMP and gestational age are 11 days apart so not that exact
Knitter that's great news!! I'm wishing you a very boring but symptom-filled few weeks
Nix not harsh at all, I need to be told! :) you mentioned movement, when did you feel it first?
Mamap my stomach constantly feels empty and I'm constantly amazed at how much I'm eating

I'm very of everyone that's heard heartbeats. I've seen it on screen, but have to wait til 16 weeks to hear
Welcome Bumps my MS didn't start til 8 weeks on the dot, then I've been pukezilla ever since!
Apples I think it was Mamap that recommended one near brum, £75 which is cheapest I've found
Velvet I'd tell your mum, you need a woman's support, and only a woman that has been pg will truly understand, dh's try as they might can't fill that bit
Digi glad the counselling helped, I'm considering a repeat top-up visit well worth it

Sorry for this morning's meltdown in my defence, I wasn't on MC thread, I was innocently tripping around PG threads :( I think I'm worse as I'm on my own away on a course, and last MC started on last course. But no, must be positive! And I'm positive I've puked 3 times today already so am taking that as a good sign

Orange freaking out is what this thread is for. It says so in the title . It isn't easy to freak out in real life. Vent and post about the minutia of it all on here so you don't bore your nearest and dearest.

GOD! i have felt shit today. started the day off howling on my sisters shoulder as i felt so awful. Drained, exhausted, overtired and just nothingness :( Then topped off by a drive from cheshire to MK and back again after a 2 hour meeting (thankfully i put on some slap and acted almost jolly and it was a good meeting!) Felt better after i stopped for a KFC in the absence of any supermarkets!

Im not sure but i may have the tail end of a bug that my whole family have had.. leavign them feeling similar - unpregnant! Started on the spatone t see if it can give me a boost...but my appetite is not much so i think perhaps am not eating enough!

mama EAT IT! if you crave it your body needs it which means baby wants it! A few extra pounds - who cares?!?! in the bigger scheme of things they will drop off easy enough after its arrived. You are naturally slender and wont have a prob shifting it.. :)

pink stop tantalising the locals with the perkypinksters

orange its ok to mental, but what you have to do is try and look at the positives! Look at the symptoms you have (3 x puking - thats a lot!) and your scan. Try to stay away from MC stories. Self preservation is important to stop you from going mad, but also horror stories are not good for your subconscious. I bet you dream about it tonight! Heartbeat was picked up by doppler at 14 weeks. Apparently it depends on how slim you are(!)

Velvet in the word of the gynae at A&E when i visited recently.... brown is good! How it can be good i dont know. Apparently it is. Obviously you and i know Clear would be better though x

Dachs and knitter have you come back down to earth yet?!?!

love how are you my love? wombat? everything ok with you? digi im sorry that you rowed with your mum hon, thats not good x Good you are still going to councelling.

BEe are you out there...? Hope everythings ok xx

irene your scan/booking in will be here before you know it xx... does seem like a long wait though x

PS Wombo and velvet yep... welcome to the world of sorefanjo... and not because of too much nookie!! Still religiously wipe and poke... oh dear TMI

nix yep. A few minutes of googling the likelihood of mc after seeing a heartbeat at 7+4 has brought me right back down to paranoia again!