Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 13)

[Chloe55]

This is the place to be for all those wanting to TTC after miscarriage, or have plans on TTC in the relatively near future. This thread is full of support from people who have been there and no how you are feeling so jump on board and share the and chocolate (or water and celery for those of you off alcohol and caffeine )

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Ask any questions that have been niggling you or that you are concerned about, perhaps someone here has experienced the same in the past.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the old thread ref:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1135533-Just-MC-and-ready-to-try-again-Pack-your-cake-wine-and-tightie-whities-and-join-us-for-more-ranting-weeping-and-most-of-all-laughing-All-welcome-Part-12

Stats to follow.

Laydees - hope you are all having good evenings?

ninu glad the first day at work went ok, and good news about the hormone levels too. FX for December for you!!

maybe I do think chilling out is the way fwd, I got my BFP when I thought WTF to watching for everything and tried to forget about the evil drugs (clomid!). Just have some fun and try and forget about TTC, easier said than done I know

Lili have a nice evening

Cep hope you the pains clear up soon

Mouse Cep Lili Ninu will think hard about grievance. Rang my boss back who said that yes he was going to speak to this person (he's a peer) and explain to him how disappointed he was that he'd broken a confidence and how could he trust him etc etc.
Think mouse has the right plan though - mind you bet he hasn't got any . Have made one decision tho, not going to let the selfish tosser get to me.

Also re cremation, thanks for all your kind wishes, appreciate it Mouse can I PM you? Service is in Blyth and sounds like you might be able to sadly offer me some advice. Know what you mean about wanting babe at home and not there...

Chloe, Collie hope your days got better.

mumtum you will manage a wedding without whatever age babe you have

of for VAT of !

Not sure if it is OK for me to be here and post this bit just wanted to say to all you ladies that I feel your pain and am having a glass of wine with you!

When I mc somebody at my work told everybody too which meant that the conversations were not on my terms anymore, I mean it was OK for me to bring it up and talk about it but not for others to do so.

However, I did eventually concieve after almost losing all hope. Mumsnet was a source of great strength and comfort to me then, although I never posted then only read.

Please don't think I am posting this as a boastful new Mummy, I only mean to stand alongside you in solidarity and to say I hope you all get the happy endings you all richly deserve. Before I go I will distribute lots of chocolate and wine and hope to hear of your good news when it happens.

You are right, people who have never gone through it do not understand and it is OK to grieve as long as you need to in the manner you want to.

mmmm lovely cakes velvet thank you

I'm abandoned too DH is in the shed sorting his fishing tackle - that sounds far more promising than it is

mouse I really feel for you going thorough this mc again so soon after the last, I think you're being remarkably strong. X

blackkat I agree with the others. Wouldn't do the formal greivance root but I would make it clear to your boss you want it adressing, ie him being told etc. I think once told he would feel dreadful, but it doesn't excuse his selfish behaviour. I'd be furious.

Had thought about deactivating fb but haven't. To be honest only ever go on via phone and can't remember password so should just log out as the effort would probably be too much!

wellie so sorry about DH's gran, that's so sad especially when your so far from home... Or was she in oz? Sorry you think you won't get a 2010 baby but I you never know what will happen now you've relaxed about it! Fx

LILI I think pg women should be band fullstop have pg woman at wk too just around my dates, she's showing now find myself staring!

Ninu glad your bleeding has stopped, fx you get back to normal soon. X

Thanks velvet for the cake, Yumm don't mind if I do!

Baby I think do whatever is right for you. Most of my friends have got pg without the charting, and one only after she stopped.

Thanks all for nice messages. Day did improve and had nice evening although choice of film questionable.,,, swtiched -jennifer aniston charting to get pg!! seriously don't know what's wrong with me!! Lol xc

Night all xxxx

Ps sorry for any spelling mistakes, Dh counting to 10 for me to get off

Of course you can blackkat even if I just let you know what happened at mine you might feel a little better prepared.

If it doesn't work let me know and I'll think of another way we can get in touch xx

Cep if you still want to know how to change your nickname on ff, when you click on your friends page (top left of home page) and you have a list of all your friends, on the top left you should be able to see your nickname and underneath have the option to add photo and change nickname. X

Morning ladies,

Started feeling better yesterday afternoon so I had a curry and a couple of glasses of with dh so it didn't turn out as bad as I thought. Received regular texts from my aunt (which I did ask for) and my cousin finally had her baby girl at 2.30am

Blackat I hope you don't have to do the crem on your own I think knowing mouse's story would def help you, I love this thread for such support

cep Do you think the EPO has been helping? I am sure if you was successful this month then surely it couldn't always prevent implantation, some ladies always take it don't they? Not me, I am all on remembering to take folic acid

Ninu We aren't generally very valentinesy in this family either, we certainly don't do cards which imo are a waste of bloody money! Great news on the bleeding stopping and there's still time for a bfp to have a baby before your 30th

physteach Thanks for popping by and sharing your thoughts. It is reassuring to hear positive stories and I hope all goes well in motherhood for you.

LILI Hope you enjoyed your night of luuurve

Meliesmummy Welcome to the thread, sorry I was a bit in my own world yesterday and didn't acknowledge many posts I know exactly what you mean about your dd wanting another sibling. It was my ds's birthday a couple of days ago and when he blew out his candles he said he wished for a new baby in mummy's tummy. It's little moments like that that both break and melt my heart at the same time.

Collie Glad your day brightened up too. Was Switch any good? Have seen it advertised a few times.

Maybe I think it probably will do you good to just SWI as and when you can. I know when I fell pg with ds it happened when I had given up all hope! So, remind me, why I am I on here temping and checking CM??!!

Mamap Thanks for dropping by! Hope you had a lovely Valentine's too!

A&R I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you and look forward to seeing some BFP on this thread!

Hi to everyone else! Need to shoot to get ds to school now.

Morning Ladies

I had a lovely evening thank you but got a bit of a headache this morning! That'll teach me for drinking 2 bottles of the sparkly stuff (shared with dh - i'm not that much of a lush!)

Well it's cd8 for me so time to start smeging!

How's everyone going is anyone due to test soon?

collie our lives are mirroring (is that a word?) each others as there's also a pg woman at my work place who is due 2 wks before I was due! Her bumps there on show for all to see - arrgghh!

chloe mmm curry - hope u enjoyed it!

blackkat mouses advice is the best! Think that's the perfect way to deal with him!

to cep lily ninu arti mumtum and the rest of you lovely ladies

at your 2 bottles of bubbly LILI we just had the one so head not too bad. Bottle of fiz and a Chinese.... I'm such a class act!

Yes we are mirroring, we are CD 8 buddies. However I'm not smeging yet as ov not due for another 15 days very of your short cycle!! speaking of which you need to update your stats on the list. X

Hi ladies,

Thank you to all the warm welcomes. Makes me feel I'm part of a special family, which really does help at the moment.

Forgive me if I miss out names and stick to topics, I'm still trying to remember who said what.

Blackat I agree with everyone who said Grievance would just upset you more. I think you should take the guy aside and politely tell him you do not appreciate what he's done. He will probably be very apologetic and a lot more careful in the future.

Baby My Dh is very keen we I avoid doing all the OPK and charting. HE thinks I stress out too much and take away the fun of just doing it without all the pressure. I actually agree with him and have promised not to when the time comes. However, I know it would be hard to do and may mean it takes longer to get pregnant.

Valentines day - DH and I had agreed not to mark this. We both feel it's a bit silly. But then on the spur of the moment I decided to make an effort with dinner and cook a roast dinner. What a disaster!
DH came home 2hrs late, so dinner was sat warming in oven for an hour.
DD is recovering from a particularly nasty virus which has left her with sores in her mouth. So she spent the afternoon in a horrible mood, tipped her dinner over and then spent the rest of the meal sat on my lap playing with my food so it got even more inedible.
I was so stressed out and close to tears, I considered locking myself in the loo and just having a good cry.
Luckily the evening turned out okay. I chilled out and spent it playing Kinect with DH who was on his best behaviour having witnessed the earlier chaos .

Back to work tomorrow. Not looking forward to it at all.

Morning all!

Well every seems ready to go so that's me and DH TTC again I think it will just be a case of DTD every other day, taking iron,zinc and folic acid i am quite anaemic and zinc helped us conceive my DS so i will give anything a go..

I wish I could chart without getting obsessed but i would! Good luck on your 2 week wait AandRmum!

Hope everyone had a fab valentines day :) I was in bed all night with the cold so not very romantic!!

Hello again!
blackkat it's horrible knowing people are talking about you...before my mc a collegue was telling everyone about my pregnancy before I was ready (I had a hunch it wasn't going to go well) and I don't know how she even found out, so now I've had to tell my close friends there to tell everyone what happened so I don't get the inevitable "how far along are you?" etc when I go back...I'm dreading it now bcos there'll be no hiding from it...I work in a scbu so no escaping babies either!

Bit teary today...something an insensitive nurse said in the hospital has been bugging me so I've been on the phone to a (lovely) nurse asking questions. Plus we planted a shrub for our lost baby, it should flower around my due date. Not much of a trade is it?

Afternoon ladies, how is everyone today?

Cep hello, just realised I somehow missed you on my catch up yesterday, so sorry. How's things with you? I think someone has already said, but I too seem to think many people take EPO all through their cycle, so wouldn't worry unduly. Are you now the official guardian of the list???

LILI you and me both. Stopped at 2 glasses last night but head is still sore this morning, some reds do that to me though. Sounds like you had a good evening.

Chloe glad you had a nice evening, hope you are ok after the news from your cousin.

Tokyo that's a shame about the dinner after all the effort you went to. Glad the evening turned out ok in the end though. Hope work is ok today - is it your first day back?

MumTum when is your wedding? Are you getting married in Barbados or is that for your honeymoon? Very envious!

Collie maybe stick to disney for now? My favourite film for cheering me up is Sword in the Stone (no idea why, just makes me laugh).

Mouse are you back at work now? How are things with you?

Blackkat I can't imagine how hard it will be for you, but I really hope it helps. I was in Blyth last week, ages since I've been. Perhaps a walk along the beach before or after would help to clear your head and sooth the soul a little. Will be thinking of you. Sorry about your work colleague too, sounds like an arsehole.

Mel that must have been so hard for you with everyone knowing - wish people would realise its not their news to share! Sorry you're feeling down today. Have a virtual tissue, tea and biscuit.

Oli I know what you mean about the charting/obsessing. I didn't do any last time though and now wish I had, I'm promising myself I'm going to chart but not obsess. >

Phys thanks, that is nice of you to pop in and give us all some encouragement. You don't come across as boasting at all.

AandR here's hoping the 2ww goes nice and quickly for you.

Velvet lovely cakes, thanks!!

Nina glad to hear that your levels are dropping quickly, hope the next result is what you need.

Maybe I think that sounds very sensible, I do think knowing "the day" can make it hard and seem artificial sometimes. Guess its just personal though, whatever feels right for you and DH.

Sorry if I have missed anyone (again), will try and catch up more regularly this week.

News here is that AF finally came so I can start the clomid tomorrow night and begin the madness thereafter. For the newbies, I was prescribed clomid back in September, but had to wait for an MRI scan for possible pituitary tumor first. Got the results (clear) in early Jan but then somehow had 57 day cycle (usual is 25-30 for me) so had to wait until now!

Too early for ?

Aww how beautiful that the flower will bloom around the due date

I found the midwife who talked to us directly after finding out about the mc highly insensitive You would think, given the line of work these people are in they would have a bit more tact! I hope the second nurse made you feel better meliesmum

Is this your first round of Clomid then lili I hope you have a better first month than I did. On the plus side this month has been a hell of a lot better though. Prepare your dh for the moodswings

Hi all,

collie thanks for that, was so much easier than the ff instructions was telling me to go to the chat pages to do it

chloe i had to go and remind myself of what the epo was actually supposed to do. it's supposed to help with the cm again, i've had loads, and in fact still seem to be getting it. 6-7 days of what looks like ewcm, but whether it's the epo or grapefruit juice i have no idea. remembered to not take it this morning but still had pains on both sides tday. if still on going will speak to dr at my app on thursday.

mel sorry the nurse upset you, they do seem very matter of fact sometimes, but then i suppose in that kind of job to survive you have to. I don't know if i could do it.
Shrub is a very nice idea.

oli have moved you to the other list if that's ok. do you know what your cd is?

very at the bubbly, dh rarely drinks and when he does it's stuff like smirnoff ice. too expensive for me to drink on my own.

My temp went sky high this morning. up to 98.17 never that high, wonder if i'm coming down with something.

Tuesday's List

Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle? UCL28-32 CD31
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 CD 27
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, CD26
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 2 postMC#2 UCL26-28, CD25
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 7 UCL 24-30 CD23
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD23
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 6 UCL33 CD22
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 CD18
wellieboots cycle 1, UCL 29 or 30, CD17
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 CD16
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) UCL28 CD13
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 4 UCL 28 CD9
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 CD8
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD7
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 6 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD6
LILI80 Cycle 1 CD6?
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD5
oli TTC#2 M/C#1 FEB 2011 UCL 30-31

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, WTF cycle
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
Blackkat#1 MC#1 Jan 2011, UCL WTF
Ninunina WTTC#1 post MC1: Feb 11, WTF UCL 28-35 days
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 WTF cycle
babypops
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 WTF
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-?
meliesmummy wtf
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 WTF

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26

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lily what a coincidence, that was pure timing that was. do you want me to move you to the top list now?

oh and it was the bubbly that's to expensive to drink on my own by the way

Thanks, Chloe, yes it will be the first round. It says day 2-6 so will start it tomorrow night - was it you that said that night is better because of the side effects? I did warn DH about the mood swings, but he just asked how he would know the difference.....tactful, eh?

Meant to say earlier, sorry to hear your mum has been insensitive again, I think she has a lot in common with mine . Don't take it to heart - I'm sure your DH knows how lucky he is to have you.

Oh, yes please Cep that would be great. Wonder if it was finally getting added to the WTTC that did the trick?

Lily tomorrow will be my first day back. Everyone at work knew I was pregnant as I was constantly making trips to the loo to throw up.

I'm hoping the word has spread as I can't bear having to tell people myself.

Scared but eager to get it over with as well.

Thanks for all your advice ladies, think we will go with the laid back approach for now. You are all so knowledgable!!

oli I think your cold must be catching. I am about to slink off home feeling rubbish!

Will be thinking of you tomorrow, Tokyo. Perhaps have a work with someone you're close to at work and let them spread the word for you so you don't have to keep explaining. Take it easy though and remember its ok to be upset.

This month I have taken it in the evening lily and it seems to have helped with the side effects.

Can I ask a question? Can't seem to stop obsessing about why I miscarried, I've just finished Lesley regans book and it says that if the baby gets to 8 weeks, as mine did, then bcos there was a heartbeat by this point it's unlikely to have been a chromosomal problem...i was consoling myself by thinking that it was a one off thing that meant the baby wouldn't have survived but now I'm not sure. I can't help wondering if I could have prevented it...I don't think I did anything differently this time but maybe I did. And im so scared it'll happen again! Did any of you ever know the cause of your mc (s)? I hate that I'll never know.