Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 13)

[Chloe55]

This is the place to be for all those wanting to TTC after miscarriage, or have plans on TTC in the relatively near future. This thread is full of support from people who have been there and no how you are feeling so jump on board and share the and chocolate (or water and celery for those of you off alcohol and caffeine )

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Ask any questions that have been niggling you or that you are concerned about, perhaps someone here has experienced the same in the past.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the old thread ref:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1135533-Just-MC-and-ready-to-try-again-Pack-your-cake-wine-and-tightie-whities-and-join-us-for-more-ranting-weeping-and-most-of-all-laughing-All-welcome-Part-12

Stats to follow.

i love one born every minute. some of the women on there are so funny. i keep saying to dh i wasn't that bad was i? i'm sure i wasn't. right i'm off to try and get some sleep. ds was awake from 05:15 this morning so i'm really tired.

Love to you all. and thanks again so much mel

Hi ladies. Bloods weren't back today so have to phone back tomorrow.

Blackkat just wanted to say I'll be thinking of you and dh tomorrow. I hope the service brings you a sense of peace. (((hugs)))

Massive congrats cep I'm thrilled for you xx

thanks mouse hope you get the results today.

mel and oli hope you're both feeling better today.

blackkat hope today goes as well as it can, hon, i'll be thinking of you.

well i made it through the first dose, nothing on st this morning. yay {grin] hope it carrys on this way.

chloe if you look before you go have a fab weekend away.

Hello to everyone

cep hope you are feeling a bit less anxious today, I know you'll never stop worrying tho...you get thru one stage and then there's the next to worry about isn't there?! If you need more advice tho pharmacists are usually better and knowing about drug absorption, interactions , dangers etc than doctors.

Best wishes for today Blackkat xxx

The rain has ruined our planned trip to a pirate event that would have been fun, it feels like it'll never stop (serves me right for living in Wales I guess...) so a trip to the library will have to make up for it (probably still with dd dressed in a pirate costume!) altho I should prib get around to having a shower and getting dressed first!

Thanks for all your kind wishes, it really does mean a great deal to know you're all thinking of us today, I can honestly say that without the support of this thread I would've gone made over the last month. X

mouse FX for good results today

cep that sounds good - hope it continues that way.

collie mel thanks xx

Ahem I meant MAD obviously!

thanks blackkat im feeling more positive today, i hope the service helps you in some way, good luck with bloods today mouse have a good weekend away chloe hope you are feeling good today cep hello everyone, have a good day

Well...the library wasn't great, my friends with babies went on and on about how they'll be running around here soon and isn't it nice that they'll grow up to be friends? Whilst I wanted to shout that my baby should be doing those things too! Then we all trekked to the cafe and my dd flat refused to eat her £3 sandwich bcos "the cheese is yellow not orange"! I just sat there and felt like screaming, I've got no patience anymore gir anything, I feel like I'm going mad sometimes. Please reassure me that I'm not the only one! Oh, forgot to mention the friend in labour, who really really deserves this bcos she had a mc last year and she's had a horrible pregnancy and I don't really feel jealous bcos I want my baby not hers but it just reminds me I guess. Big sigh.

mel oh honey, it is perfectly normal to feel like you're going mad, to have less patience all of it. You're being too tough on yourself. Don't expect more than your able to do at the moment it's not been very long. i didn't really go anywhere during dec, took ds to nursery and came home watched tv/bought xmas pressies on line all day i just wasn't up to doing anything. (had to giggle at the orange cheese though) i'm dreading tomorrow as it's af day so will probably visit loo a hundred times. although have ds, dss and niece so should hopefully be busy.

blackkat how did it go hon?

laylas not too bad. i still feel slightly nervous just before i go to the loo incase i see anything, but so far so good.

Well, friends baby's out, half of me is happy, half of me wants to cry, thanks for the support cep I feel like a horrible selfish person

you are definately not that mel i was due to meet up with a dear friend of mine at christmas who'd had her dd 1 week before i'd had ds, she was due in jan, i cancelled cause i just couldn't deal with facing her at all, even though we hadn't seen each other for about 2 years.

Well I have had a good day decided a pamper day was needed got legs waxed etc and bought new make up also went and took DS to soft play and had lunch trying to cheer myself up my Aunt who has been ttc for 15yrs for DC#2 had her 12 week scan yesterday (she is actually 14wks) ITS not that i am unhappy no one deserves it more, its just when i said i was pregnant that is when she told me and we talked about having our kids grow up together...:( so I have faced it straight on determined not to let the sadness take me over i bought her a Sanctuary mum to be set and a starter set for baby made me feel more sorted in a strange way.
Cep glad your treatment is going well
blackkatam thinking of you today ((hugs)) I know what you mean about the forum
mel feeling the same as you hun my DS just turned 2 and NO is his favourite word!!

hi oli glad you had a good day although ouch at leg wax have only been able to have that done once and that was enough. well done for seeing your aunt. how do you feel about it now???

I am extremely pleased for her i just wish i could share they joy of being pregnant with her, she has had her fair share of m/c so just glad she got there in the in end and if anything it proves never give up!
wax was sore not done it in a while but she was good and quick

Hi oils I'm sorry I didn't reply yesterday. I'm sorry about the fight with your mum. And the everyday stresses. Everything is so much harder to deal with isn't it. I know in the few weeks after my mc I just could not deal with making decisions, about anything.

I hope everyone has already reassured you that you are of course NOT silly for missing your bean. It's doesn't matter at what stage you lose it, it hurts like hell. You're grieving for what could have been, it's very natural and normal.

I'm sorry that you feel lost in your WFT cycle too. It's a horrid period as you really have no clue what's going on and if what you are symptom spotting is old or new symptoms or just your body reajusting. I think giving yourself a weekly test is a good idea, just try not to worry too much in between. I really hope a bfp is heading your way!

Really glad to read your feeling a bit better today, good on you for treating yourself. I think it's also really good and kind of you to do what you did for your Aunt. I know you want to be happy for her, but it still must have been hard. X

blackkat I hope today went ok lovely.

Melies sorry you are having a bad day. Your catch up with your friends sounds like it was hard. Never nice being around people who remind you of what you have lost. Do they know? You'd think they'd have a bit more sensitivity if so?!!

And melies you are NOT a selfish person for having mixed feelings about your friend giving birth. It's totally understandable and all of us on here have felt the same at some point. It was only a couple of weeks ago I posted on her myself devestated at the news my friend was pg around my dates. I just hated it. And at first couldn't even believe I could be happy for her, which of course I am. I just hate being reminded of what I should have. Don't be to hard on yourself sweetie, left yourself feel how you feel and don't feel bad for it. Eventually your happiness will outweigh your sadness. And hopefully you'll have your own bfp again soon.

cep glad you've got sorted by the doc and that's melies was able to reassure you. Glad all is boring with you today. Have you told OH?

I'm ok. apart from being shattered. Went for a pizza last night and treated myself to an Amerreto Coffee after.... which ended up keeping me up, got all of 3.5 hours sleep!! Cut caffeine out completely now so I was totally wired!! Feeling soooo much better than the begining of the week. I just hope this rollercoaster is coming to and end and there are no more dips ahead.... No doubt there are, but I can live in hope.

Going to put my feet up and watch some tv tonight... If I can stay awake!! Happy Friday all xx

I'm glad your feeling good about it, it will always have a tinge of sadness though, but you will get there as well.

there will never be a person who can do it quick enough for me.

collie sorry hon xpost. glad you're feeling a bit better today although you definately need sleep. I had a night like this last week must have had about the same amount of sleep, but then you get so annoyed with yourself for not sleeping, it makes it worse.
I have told DH, i waved the peestick in his face. i don't think he really said anything, he was about to leave for work. is a bit complicated with dh and babies, he doesn't really want another one.

Thanks for the kind words. Yes my friends do know about the mc. But I guess it's hard to think before every sentence when you are proud of your babies. This evening is not going well either, I spent ages making sweet and sour from scratch, dd picked at it, dh started getting stressed, dd was crying he was shouting, I had to leave the room bcos I can't take any more. Lovely photos of friends new baby on fb, she's being so nice, she put in a text that she knows I'll be having a hard time with her news and that made me cry. Thanks for reading all my negative stuff, writing it down helps somehow and it's nice to speak to people who know how I'm feeling.

Yep, sleep I do need. DH is cooking dinner bleed him, and it's not beans on toast!!

Sorry to hear you didn't quite get the ethusiastic response from DH that I suppose you might like, but I am sure he is happy if only for you. I am sure whey the little bean eventually arrives he's heart will melt all over again! How are you? Has it sunk in yet?

I just can't get over all the bfp's for everyone, I'm just so thrilled for you all.

Got to say, I am BORED of waiting to ovulate! I hate having a long cycle!! Feel like all I've done since deciding to ttc again after mc us wait, and wait, and wait!!!

melis you're not the only one. It can be stressful dealing with a little one at the best of times never mind when you're on such an emotional rollercoaster after m/c. I know I've felt like you. It is so hard when other friends are pg and saying things like that! I've experienced exactly the same so rest assured you're not alone.

Someone at work said to me " the good thing about all of your friends being pg now is when it's your turn it'll be more special as they'll have had theirs". Just see it as we're saving the best for last!

Well got back from dr who was heavily pg!!! She had a feel of tummy and couldn't feel anything and she said the second bleed could be my body just working things out again. She has said if it happens again next month they'll take some swabs. She was really nice and said that when I get pg again they'll see if they can get me an early scan to reassure me.

She also said that they used to advise couples ttc to do it around ovulation but now they suggest every 2 to 3 days thorughout the month! Although she did say it depends how tired you are!

Hope evryone is ok?

cep how's it going?

blackkat olismum collie mouse and everyone else

oh sweet. i always hate that when you try so hard, although in my house it tends to be my dh who picks at it, such a fussy eater drives me crazy, his bloody mothers fault. Does dh normally stress over what dd is eating? or do you think he was worrying about how you'd feel? We're here to read the negative stuff as well as the positive. Just as yu are supportive for us.

just realised forgot to do list today, sorry peeps.

Friday's list:

Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 6 UCL33 CD32
wellieboots cycle 1, UCL 29 or 30, CD27
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 CD26
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 4 UCL 28 CD19
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 CD18
LILI80 TTC #2 Cycle 1 CD18
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD17
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 6 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD16
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD15
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD11
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 CD11
Ninunina TTC#1 post MC1: Feb 11, WTF, UCL 28-35 cd11
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cd10
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 cd10
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 CD7
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD4
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD3
meliesmummy ttc#2 wtf cycle, ucl? cd?
oli TTC#2 M/C#1 FEB 2011 UCL 30-31 CD?

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
Blackkat#1 MC#1 Jan 2011, UCL WTF
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 WTF cycle
babypops
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 WTF
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 WTTC UCL 28/29 days

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, 30/1/11
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD31 BFP 25 Jan 2011
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 BFP Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD29 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD29 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD30 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD28
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 5 (round 3) UCL27 CD27
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD28 BFP 7/2/2011
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 BFP 18/2/11
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11

RECENT GRADUATES

VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP

Oh melies sweetheart I am so sorry. We do understand and I'm glad it helps to share. I really am sorry you're struggling. It is natural, so just remember not to be too hard on yourself. I know you said you don't have family around to babysit so maybe when DH is back from his set weekend ( is that this weekend) maybe he could babysit and you go out one night, maybe in the week one night with a friend. I think it would be good for you. I went to the cinema a lot in the weeks straight after my mc. I found it was a place I could go to take my mind off it, without having to make a effort. ((big hugs honey)) x

Set, should say stag!!! Opps

LILI glad the docs went ok. she sounds lovely..... Apart from her being pg!!! Thery are EVERYWHERE aren't they??? Just started a new yoga class on my lunch and the instructor is 8months!!!

SWI every other day for the whole cycle eh???! That's a marathon for the likes of you and me with long cycles!!! SMEGing is hard enough!!!

collie lili i'm not too bad, it has and hasn't. i'm excited but as af is "due" tomorrow am slightly scared everytime i go to the loo. once i'm passed the next few days and have finished my cream i'll be ok......till i hit the next hurdle of the date i m/c'd....this is going to be a loooong 9 months.

collie ah bless dh for doing dinner.

lili glad the visit went well, and dr sound really supportive. glad they're willing to offer an early scan next time.

None of my dr's have ever said that, don't know what they'll say if i ask to be honest.