Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 12)

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velvet that might be dangerous with the ladies on here. hmmm am starting to think might be good on slow days. like when we were kids and you'd pass the paper round and add one sentence.

can anyone explain why you'd need to be standing, surely it'd all come out.....or are they thinking to shoot high and would then lubricate on way down???

Hi all, sorry for just popping in and being all me me me but feeling a bit on the shitty side. Just had a text from a friend telling us they (she) are 14 weeks. I should be 16. Its floored me totally. I had a friend who gave birth during my mc, and a work colleague who annouched the day i went back to work that she was 2 days behind my dates. But i felt like i dealt with both ok. But this has floored me. We actually have closer friends friends but what makes this unbareable is they live right across the road litterally just facing. I feel like its earth shattering news. I never really feel green-eyed envy, but i am completely consumed by it. And its horrid as i can't even muster a reply to say congrats, beacasue right now i'm not even happy for her, all i can think is WHY NOT ME??????? WHY??!!! How the hell i am supposed to see her everyday????

Oh god i'm going into meltdown.

collie oh hon. it's natural to feel like that. Maybe your dh could reply for you.

do you see each other often? (mornings getting in car etc?) maybe avoid for a while until you get used to the idea. I'm so sorry it's hit you so hard.

oh Collie sometimes a good cry is what you need. You have lost something very very precious and its OK to grieve. In fact it is better you do now rather than store it up for later. You dont have to reply to that woman, you can deal with it another time when you are feeling stronger, but dont ignore what you are feeling or try and find a way to "get over it" Go ahead and have a meltdown, it really is better out than in. You can put yourself back together later when you are done. I am so sorry for your loss xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

mummya where abouts in costa rica are you???

collie Hugs. It's totally natural to grieve this way. Sometimes you can feel totally blindsided by grief, and other times you seem as if you're coping ok. Don't reply if you don't feel up to it, or as cep says get DH to do it. Take it easy on yourself, it's a long road xx

Collie it is ok to do mememe posts - that's what we are here for. Everything you are feeling is normal and we have all (and still do) feel grief and jealousy. Like everyone says, do whatever feels right for you. Don't reply if you dont want to - does she know you mc? My friend who was 2 weeks behind me was very understanding. I only saw her twice while she was pg and she didnt talk to me either time which was great actually.

Look after yourself xxxx

(((hugs))) collie it's totally natural to feel that way - I'm just waiting for my breakdown to start. Do whatever you can to cope my love xxx

collie we've all felt that way and no apology needed on here for cathartic mememe posts. Big hugs

Hope everyone else is well. Thanks for the good wishes, it seems my late ov and short cycle means bean is not as old as they thought it would be, so only saw gestational sack, being re-scanned next Friday.

mamap hey glad is going well so far.

Good news all progressing mamap. Glad to hear it.

collie my advice would be to weep, wail, cry scream and generally make a fuss... When I had my big cry a few weeks ago my DH passed me a tissue and when I started wiping my eyes he said no he'd given me the tissue because I was dribbling.... There is no shame in being very very sad for all you have lost.

mamap sounds like good news - You might see a heartbeat next week....?

Evening all
Wow this thead moves fast. Just saying hello while I settle down to read through what I've missed.
Hope you are all ok.

thanks cep and yrmotb
I'm hoping so knitter nervous times

mamap congrats on getting through the scan, sounds like all the dates tie up ok fx for another good one next week x

Yep; a right good snottering and wailing session is absolutely the right choice and good for the soul, I highly recommend it.

I tended to find it would happen at the most random and inopportune moments though; I think others here found they got 'hijacked' in a similar way which can leave you feeling very wobbly and vulnerable and down.

Collie I think cep has the right idea; get DH to reply if he will, and don't feel at all bad about making it brief and then avoiding her like the plague until YOU feel you can cope with it okay.

Oh collie my heart goes out to you it really does. I would be totally floored by something like that. I saw a friend yesterday who is due in a month's time and I couldn't even look at her bump. It was quite embarrassing actually, I kept jerking my head around to avoid seeing it out of the corner of my eye.

And I can't even speak to my SIL who is due 5 days before my due date. I know I'll have to deal with it at some point but it can bloody well wait. Right now I'm doing what I need to do to survive even if it makes me feel a bit dysfunctional.

Let the meltdown happen - let the grief come and have faith that there will be brighter days. We're here for you xxx

Collie - I'm one of the newbies so have been struggling to catch up with the speed on here - but have had a horrible day too and have been bawling away like a good 'un. Saw one of the girls at work who i haven't seen in ages and she's due 2 days after my dd. Then found out from another (closer) friend that she's 7 weeks pregnant - she didn't know whether to tell me - of course I was pleased for her but also wanted to scream like you and shout etc that life isn't fair. . I had a MMC at 12 weeks saw scan pictures then found out the baby had died - am DESPERATELY TTC but know i'll be haunted forever by those pictures and what could have been. Like everyone has already said there are going to be days like this but I do believe that good things will happen to us all - you just don't know when...
Hugs and kisses to the recent BFP's.
Everything crossed for everyone else.

good morning all. I'm sorry that everyone is having a tough time of it at the moment. i hope it starts to get easier for you all, we're here for you all the way.

I reread my ov instructions this morning and apparently i'm supposed to leave it to get to room temperature (about 20 mins it says) does anyone do this?? just wondering if it does make a difference.

Morning everyone. I just wanted to say thanks so much for you kind and reassuring words last night. I didn?t post back, but I was lurking and reading. I was a big help. My DH was amazed at how kindly and quickly you all replied, I let him read them and I am sure he welled up. Think perhaps now he won?t mind me being on mn.

I had a good old cry and lots of hugs of dh and I feel a bit better this morning. I managed to muster up a bland congratulations back this morning. They don?t know we had a mc and don?t really want to tell them, so I think avoiding her like the plague is going to be the way forward. They are not our closest friends (hence not telling them about the mc) but because they live across the road we have tended to do a lot together. She is (was?I can?t remember what the gym looks like ) my gym class buddy every week and our neighbourhood drinking buddies. Not to mention, yes I see them regularly in the morning/evening and weekends. I don?t want to be a bitter hag but I just can?t face polite chit chat about it.

I just seems like its all around me and by your replies I am not on my own. Hardian I know what you mean about not looking at them. I think I?ll be the same with my neighbour friend and could barley look at the monitor when the woman next to me at work was showing me the 12 week scan of her next grandchild. Having said that, I can?t stop staring at the work colleague (well her belly actually who is due around the same time I would have been.

Pooch I am so sorry you had a horrid day yesterday too. I think people being due around your due dates is the hardest thing as it feels like your are going to be tortured everyday for the next 6 months or so!!

Anyway, I am done moaning about my problems now. I just wish AF would turn up so I can start to look forward to my ov date.

Cep I don?t know about letting your pee cool (lol) I never did. I?ve finally put my ov sticks away. I?m on CD36 so I slapped myself with that haddock this morning as there really is no point. AF due Sat.

pooch i also wanted to say sorry for your loss. I found out at our 12 week scan too and its earth shattering isn't it? When was your mc? A ((Big hug)) for you today xxx

What's good for CM folks, is it Grapefruit juice? And did someone say not to bother with the cough medicine? Day 8 and gearing up to start...

Morning all - yes grapefruit juice supposed to be good for EWCM.
I've had success with cough medicine (guaiphenisin) - conceived DS2 using it and my most recent MC. Apparently it must be guaiphenisin only tho. A big swig of Tixylix cough & cold (the orange one) did the trick for me

Zam i'm not sure about Grapefruit juice but think Evening Primrose oil is good for CM and Flaxseed oil is good post ov (although i'm not actually sure why....anyone know??) Also read that red rasberry is good for strengthening the uterine lining and lengthening LP phase. WHat is red raspberry??