Waiting to try for a baby

[AmandaCooper]

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello!

My DH had some issues that needed working through (toxic parents would be an understatement) and refused to go to therapy, but a friend of mine suggested a website called MoodGym which allows you to do CBT at home (it's a university study I think) for free. He did it and, whilst it isn't perfect, it gave him the shove it needed to help himself and, I swear to God, he's like a different man now. No, not different, but 98% of the time now he is the amazing wonderful man I used to get glimpses of through the hurt, angry, bitter and struggling man who surrounded him. I am so happy and contented now, I feel completely sure of our future for the first time in a long time (I came so close to leaving at one point because it was getting so hard) and he is going to make an amazing Daddy. I can't believe how in love I am with him - even after 6 and a half years together

If only we had some capital to back up our emotional security

Apologies for the sicky making spouting. It's nice to have somewhere to come and talk about this stuff - and I want us all to graduate at the same time so we can stay chatting. Maybe we could just start a little club? :-)

So I went to JL today as stated earlier to buy four white porcelain bowls with my Xmas vouchers. Terribly dull, but it was getting silly trying to live with just two bowls - I finally made the resolution to go and buy them when I found myself eating cereal out of a saucepan the other day...

Whilst I was in JL they were doing a product demo for this liquidiser thing. I wasn't terribly impressed at first, I like gadgets, but I have a liquidiser so I wasn't that interested. On the other hand they had a display stand piled high with fruit, veg and other goodies and if there's one thing I like: it's free food.

So, I stuck out the sales spiel and then was invited to try some ice cream - ice cream? From a liquidiser? I was dubious.

The ingredients didn;t make me any less so.

Cream. Fine
Honey. Fine
Frozen fruit. Fine
Bananas. Fine
Carrots? Hrmm
Courgette? Wait a sec
Cabbage? Raw? Yes, really.

But wait reader, it was delicious. Fruity and light and sweet and very yummy.

Then they made soup by blitzing up all sorts of ingredients, including garlic and ginger that hadn't been skinned and sticks of celery and lots of coriander and cashew nuts. They whizzed it until it got hot, then served it - raw food, but hot. Utterly delicious.

Plus, seriously easy to wash.

I waaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnt one. All I could think was:
a) good way for me to gets lots of vitamins to grow a healthy baby
b) great way to make baby purees and hide fruit and veg in child-friendly food like ice cream.

Catch? Oh yes, there was a catch. £439 worth.

I'm gonna need a few more vouchers.

sorry for the essay

Hey ladies.

Welcome Paint. Hope your white coat is as comfy as mine :)

Bebe I totally understand where your coming from regarding DPs stubborness. My DP is exactly the same, thankfully I have the in-laws on side to tell him to 'man up'

JS - take a glass of water or juice to bed with you and have your bottle of Folic Acid on your bed side cabinet and take it soon as you get up in the morning thats what I do otherwise I would forget and would forget to take my other tabs.

Works been sooo busy this month, both Dp & me are shattered. DD is at nannys tonight so we can chill and watch prison break. Last day of ovulation today too, and don't think much action is on the cards tonight!

Cakes £439 for a blender?!

DP confirmed May is the month we TTC

I know I know

And yay! Welcome to the Apr/May TTC club

So started charting using iperiod - inputting the last 6mths period and so by looking at this ovulation is around the time we go on holiday, so we could conceive a holiday baby

Wow that is one pricey blender!

Yay for Darcies! :)

I really need to talk my DH into this TTC lark! Gonna wait til after this week when we will hopefully resolve some money issues. Then there is no reason really, from a 'life' point of view, not to TTC! The very end of April or May would be a good time to start, but it all hangs on his nibs! Of course DD is being particularly difficult at the moment so convincing him may be even trickier!

DH 'caught' me taking my pill today and said, "oi, thought you were going to stop that now I've got my new job..." I think he's ready! However, I'm not just yet. I really want to make sure we've got life insurance sorted out first and I know every month I'm working we're building up a bigger deposit for a house. But then on the other hand I want my children to be able to enjoy my parents before they get too old.

Am I waiting, or am I just dithering now?!

Think that might officially be dithering FancyALittle.

Dithering, like me :)

Close your eyes and jump? :)
x

Bebe Will it be really hard to convince your DP?

Fancy I would call that dithering - i'd say just take the plunge and jump :) it'll all figure out in the end

It is dithering isn't it? I suppose that's why I straddle this thread and the ditherers. I think DH is quite enjoying the fact that I'm the reluctant one now! It's a bit scary once 'permission' has been granted.

I'm sticking by the life insurance thing though as I'm a little bit paranoid about him dying and leaving me unable to cope alone with a child.

Definitely dithering!!
Although wish I had thought of life insurance before we had DD! (DH has some I don't and now can't get it! )

Darcies - I've been trying to 'convince' DH for over 18months now! :(

Fancy I don't have life insurance and never even gave it a thought tbh. Not sure if DP does.

Bebe Hopefully your DP will come round soon.

Jeez this place gets quiet at the weekends.

Gah - I've been working from home today, but have to do supermarket soon, then pick up DH from work, then come back, hour to make and eat dinner, then out again for choir.

wtf can I make and eat within an hour?

I love cooking, but I frickin' hate trying to think of things to cook. Unless they're chocolate. I can think about chocolate things all day.

Pasta?! Really quick! :) Stir in a tablespoon of creme fraiche per serving, some small cooked pieces of bacon & salt & pepper to taste into piping hot pasta....voila! Sort of cheese free carbonara! :)

I am full of cold & feel rubbish! Not even the sunshine is helping! Managed to find the energy to do some gardening, but that was more for my sanity than anything else!

Hey Ladies

Felt lousy yesterday so reason for me not posting yesterday.

Today got DD sorted for school and done school run, then went to work. got everything I needed done upto date and then went for my appointment with the Rheumatologist - my spine is not doing what it should as is damaging the nerve endings to the wiring to my legs and circulation to hands and feet :( so 3 options, 1) physio and hydrotherapy in specialist spine problems, 2) pain clinic for well pain relief lol and 3) spinal surgery :( - using that as a last resort.

Other than feeling shattered and having a slight cold feel alright lol.

What a day! Usually work 8am-4pm but had a meeting-that-needed-to-happen-RIGHT-NOW at 4pm which went on and on!

I do voluntary work for a charity too and it's all gearing up at the moment and getting a bit stressful. It's good fun, but it's so bloody bureaucratic and I'm used to just getting on so the faffinf frustrates me. Humph.

Picked up a bottle of wine on the way home and am enjoying right now . Lovely. Wonder what alcohol-free tipples would be as relaxing...

MakesCakes In your situation it would be soup for me, I think. I tend to have stuff stashed in the freezer too, for example we're eating up half of a lasagna for dinner tonight as I'm home later than expected.

We're waiting on a life insurance quote at the moment. I think DH's cancer last year has made 1) me paranoid about him dying and leaving me an unsupported widow (even though his prognosis is excellent) and 2) it so much harder to get life insurance (all quotes are over £150 per month when, without the cancer, they'd be £8). I'm sticking to my guns on that one as the thought of him dying fills me with terror, but my parents have very kindly offered to meet the cost of life insurance as they recognise that it was rotten luck he got cancer just before our wedding when we had planned to get him covered. They offered totally without any bribery about postponing of family creation without it.

Yay for the fellow May-ers!

....anybody else getting slightly scared that it's now only two months, a mere 8wks away, and then if you get pregnant it's like, REAL!?

eep! really hope I'm doing the right thing....

Fancy - that sucks re:life insurance! Really nice that your parents are going to cover the cost for you. It's such daylight robbery! I can get insurance but without critical illness cover because of my MS (and it would cost a fortune) completely ridiculous as MS isn't a critical illness. So basically I'd only be covered for accidental death & not being sick, so not really much point paying a fortune just for that when I'm a SAHM!!

Darcies - that sounds horrendous, you poor thing! :( Really hope that some physio can help & that you don't need surgery.

Fancy Hope your enjoying your . Sounds like you've had a busy day. Nice that your parents will pay for the insurance but bad about the price.

Bebe At the moment surgery is a last resort and don't think they will operate until we've exhausted all other options. So just waiting to see now, but nice that they've finally taken me seriously and that they have found a problem and i'm not just making it up! as some of my family have thought in the past :(

They had a pack of stir fry veg on special so we had stir fry. It wasn't very nice, I prefer my own selection of veg. lesson Learnt.

Am so tried this morning so I'm chain-eating malted milk biscuits. Excellent weight loss plan I think.

Hello, sorry I haven't checked in for a few days, I don't know where I've been!! Made a mean chilli for tea last night, great for the Gluten free amongst you-Nigella's Choc chip chilli. Undeniably amazing!!! (Although I always forget how long it takes to cook, so we didn't eat until 9 ). Going snowboarding tonight, which is great. Dp has been stuck at work, so I haven't been able to go for a few weeks, so am mega excited.

Dd has friends coming after school for the next 3 days, then one all day Sat, and her b'day party on Sun, phew! Will feel like uber mum by the end of it! Have also just been ok-ed by the animal sanctuary for two rabbits, and was told the habitat was "wonderful", so I am really excited. They are to be my children, as dp is getting more and more against it (and the grouchier he gets about it, the less of a daddy light he shines in ). Urgh, it just drives me so barmy. There are so many mum's at school who's husbands bend to their baby-bearing will. I want mine to!!!!

My white coat is extra strong, as otherwise I may try to gnaw my way out of it!

having a crappy, low confidence, can't-do-anything day. For a long time I had health issues and though I'm pretty much better now, every so often something will rear its ugly head and kick me in the arse and I'll just feel...incapable, and incompetent. Not helped by the fact I am married to the most competent, intelligent and amazing man in the world, cos I wonder what I'm offering him, y'know? And how can I be a good mummy when I just go into meltdown like this?

Come out cakes! I am the more capable of the two in our relationship, but dp brings just as much, if not more to it than I do. He is much better at the emotional side of everything, and the things he does do he does so well, that I don't feel a patch on him.

Every mum is the best mum to their dc, I promise. I've done some fair old screaming and ignoring towards dd, much to my shame and horror, and she still tells me every day how much she loves me.