Testing around the 16th Feb? Join me for some "too knackered to SWI" laughs (!) with a bit of symptom -spotting and "shall I test early?" agonising thrown in!

[KatyCustard]

Hello,

So, I've been TTC on and off for TWO BLOODY YEARS!!!!! And am going to the doctors next week. However, I am the eternal optimist and will be SWI like the best of them for the next few weeks before I start symptom spotting again.

Come and join me and lets see who gets lucky this month!

(But pretty please let me be one. I mean, I am starting the thread, those are the rules aren't they?

hello q and welcome to the thread!

Well, I'm on something like CD16 now, but have spent the last five days being really ill - first I thought it was a bad cough and cold but over the weekend I started running a fever and vomiting. Can't help but think that this does not bode well for TTC! To top it off DH is away so I've been trying to look after myself. My mum offered to drive 200 miles to look after me, but she has chronic fatigue so I really didn't want to expose her to the virus of doom!

someone please tell me that being ill hasn't completed scuppered my chances this month!

(also be proud of me that I didn't break open the HPT the first time I was sick )

I've been ill too, only for a few days but it was very bad timing. Still managed SWI but it was a bit spasmodic so I'm not all that hopeful. 12 days to wait now.

q2011 that would be a fab present, wouldn't it?! Fingers crossed for you!

LoveInAColdClimate - the headache's been a bit better today, although still felt a bit sick this morning. However, I went to visit my 12 weeks pregnant SIL so could have been sympathy symptoms! Only 2 cups of proper tea today, the rest were decaf. Sorry to hear that IB woke you this morning, should be more considerate to his mother!

babybythesea - I know just how you feel, I've been umming and ahhing about going and buying a test 'just in case', but I'm trying hard to stay strong and resist until at least the 17th too!

ghost that sounds awful! I'm sure you've not scuppered your chances - stay positive!

And good luck, MrsAlanKey!

I'm starting to feel a bit nervous now. Do any of the rest of you get like that?? Not just nervous about whether it's worked or not, but nervous as to whether you've done the right thing in trying at all? Or is it just me??

hi knitty, thanks hon ;)

Yes, I think I will be absolutely petrified if I get a BFP! But I'm sure it will wear off after a while. It's going to be the biggest life change ever - way more than going to college, moving in with DP, getting married etc - unlike the rest of those things it's completely permanent, unchangable and massively life-altering! We'd be crazy not to be a bit apprehensive, right?!

I will be nervous about telling people if we are successful given that I am so old and they are all bound to think a) it's a mistake or b) I am completely mad - none of my friends want to have any more or understand why I do. They are all in the getting their lives back phase!

Ho hum - well I know we are doing the right thing anyway - how much longer to wait???

And the metallic taste is here with a vengeance as is hunger - I want to have something in my mouth the whole time at the moment. Need to go shopping tomorrow for some more fruit or I will be massive very shortly baby or no baby!

Welcome q and ghost I'm sure being ill won't have scuppered your chances. Hope you're feeling better.
I think everyone's wobbles about a bfp are perfectly natural. What we're trying to do is the most wonderful and special thing, but it's also pretty bloody scary!
Metallic tastes and hunger all sound promising. I've got sore boobs, but that's usual around this time of month.
Hope you've all had a good we ladies x

Thank you all for your reassurances - I thought I was being really weird! I think we'll have probs with people's reactions as well,as we already have the two kids and a lot of people seem to think you're crazy to want more. I just hope that, if we get the BFP, people will say congratulations before they ask us how we'll manage and whether it was an accident! Saying congratulations was a way down the list the last two times, and it does take some of the joy away at the beginning when people look more worried than pleased!

Ah, I'm probably overthinking it, and hopefully everyone will jump up and down if we have an announcement to make!

Which reminds me, I meant to ask; how long would you wait to tell people if you get that BFP in the next week and a half or so?

I'd only tell dh, best friend and mum and will definitely be waiting until after the 12 week scan before telling anyone else. Although having one ds I'm sure I'll be huge very quickly and out of my normal clothes by about 7 weeks!

knittymum - I can't decide about when to tell people (although most unlikely to be a problem for me this month!). Would like to tell my parents and best friends straightaway, but then don't know how I would feel about "untelling" if anything went wrong. Not much help I know! With work, would probably have to tell my bosses if have bad sickness (as work fairly long hours and would need to justify myself if needed to cut back) but wouldn't want anyone else (except maybe one work friend) to know for as long as possible. Would be interested to hear others' views.

I'm pretty sure that DH and I will only tell people, even parents actually, after 12 weeks. I'm a pretty private person in RL (MN doesn't count!). However, I guess it depends on how easy it is to hide - if I get sick etc.

With DC1 I told a few few select people - parents, sister and a trusted colleague. Partly because I was so sick that i had a job hiding it at work so having someone who knew and was able to help cover up was useful, and partly because I knew if anything happened I'd need some support. Untelling would be hard but at least my family could have helped to pick up the pieces rather than wondering why I was being so miserable!

My sister just phoned to tell me she thinks she might be upduffed. Really excited for her but it may make the next few months hard if we have failed again this month. Of course, if we haven't, then we could have babies born within weeks of each other. Roll on 17th!

Oh that would be lovely - having babies at the same time as your sister, does she know you are TTC?

I am going to try to keep it to myself as long as possible if things do happen, but I am such an open person that I am really rubbish at keeping secrets so will probably tell everyone in strictest confidence!!

I wasn't sick with my boys so nothing to hide there but I am guessing that I will get large with a number 3 - I sadly don't do the stick with bump type of pregnancies!!

The first two times we kept it more or less secret until after the first scan. I think this time I'd tell our parents straight off, and my sister in law but other than that I'd keep quite quiet again. Like a couple of you said, it might make untelling a bit easier if something went wrong. But positive thinking! Maybe in a couple of weeks we'll all be wondering who to tell and when!

The when to tell people is a difficult one last time i told 2 best friends and that was all, when lost the baby at 13 weeks, my 12 week scan was late then had to explain to people why i was so upset, telling people my baby had died and lots of confused expressions, followed by me explaing the baby that no one knew about, this time if get BFP will prop end up telling people as it is widely known we are ttc again, though my gut instinct is still not to tell.

Ghost hope you are feeling better.

Hmmm, temperature has gone back down after two days of higher temp so think have not even ovulated - only recently had Implanon out and first month of charting so nothing to compare it to. Think may have been over-encouraged by all the "oh, I got pregnant on the way home from the doctors after having Implanon removed" stories there seem to be - perhaps will take a bit longer for my body to settle down than I'd expected.

Hope everyone is enjoying some nice symptom spotting on this windy Monday morning?

Symptom spotting?? Who does that now? We are all far too sensible to poke our boobs (quite hard if necessary) and wonder if that felt just a little on the sore side, surely?
As for me, boob poking has produced a result - definitely tender. Must be a sign that I'm on my way to being upduffed, yes?

q oh that's awful, so sorry you had to go through that.

Am feeling lots better now - not well enough to go back to work today but should be tomorrow. Still coughing like crazy though!

Actually I'm not much of a symptom spotter - do you think that you're more inclined to do that if you have been pg before and know what you are looking for? Maybe it's because I have quite light periods, no ov pains, tender boobs etc?

I have 9 days left before AF is due, though cycles have been a bit variable lately. Definitely counting down the days... this has been a long month, already.

hello, the thread has got nice and busy while I've been away for the weekend. Hello everyone who joined us!

I think that someone asked when my doctors appointment is but I haven't made one yet... I hate going to the doctors so I've wimped out again. I keep thinking to myself "I'll give it one more month!" I know I'm being daft, but there we go! I have 9 days left to go ghosteditor too. Normally I'm symptom spotting like crazy but I think I've lost the will this month. I just feel like I'm gearing myself up for another disappointment all the time.

It was me who asked katyc, only cos I'm going through tests at the mo. If it's any consolation once I started having tests I started feeling a bit more relaxed about it all. If there's a problem someone else can find out what it is and hopefully cure it. I feel more 'looked after' than I have done over the last few months of 'waiting and seeing'. I'm also geared up for disappointment this month, but statistically speaking surely some of us ladies will get a BFP, and that's exciting stuff

katyc you should go to the GP! I order thee! Seriously though the GP can only help move things forward, so if you feel like you're ready then - we know you can do it!

gosh 9 days is a long time right now...

Can I join? Have 2 DS, almost 5 and 3. DS1 Clomid baby. I have PCO and am on 100mg Clomid. Around this time last year I conceived on 50mg Clomid but MCd in May then subsequently 50mg didn't work so am on my 2nd cycle of 100. Will hopefully be testing on Saturday or Sunday. I'm obsessing less than I did about ttc prior to the MC, can't put my finger on why, possibly as a defence mechanism (for 6 mths afterwards I decided I didn't want another as couldn't cope with the loss) but am ttc cautiously now. I have a stack of HPTs bought in bulk on Ebay ready for my weekend testing. Also have a spa appointment booked on Sat afternoon with my SIL so can't decide whether I should wait til after to test or do it before so that if it's negative I can console myself with a massage and facial....!

twolittlemonkeys - very sorry to hear about your MC. Perhaps you should test before spa so you don't need to worry about what aromtherapy oils they're using or whether you can use the sauna/hot tub? Good luck!

twolittlemonkeys - sorry, pressed send too soon! Meant to expand and say if BFP then you can ask them what oils etc are safe to use and can avoid any hot treatments, but if BFN then you can cheer yourself up with lots of lovely oils and steam etc! First post sounded a bit as if I was assuming would be BFN which I wasn't - sorry!

Hello monkeys, sorry to hear of your mc last year. A few of us on here have had one or more and it is a tough thing to recover from (I don't think you do recover actually, but things become more manageable and less raw, don't they). It's good that you're feeling calm. Not long to go with testing for you. Is that when af is due or 4 days before? Either way I agree with loveinacoldclimate, test before. You don't want to spend your time at the spa wondering and worrying. Lucky you, I feel in need of a spa day too. Maybe I can make some hints about a valentine's gift