Over Here Viroids! Just Shagging with Intent Thread!

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Last thread was here

The (updated)(again)(again) 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator for the Viroids:

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday (or when you've had bad news). Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended). (It just takes longer to get in the mood

You know when people complain about condoms "killing the mood" - those 2 minutes before sex where the wrapper is taken off and it's slowly rolled on etc, with the occasional "ooh careful, you forgot to hold the top down...it's full of air now!" or "Oh god, it's inside out... I can't put it on ", and sometimes a "Wait, I think I just saw a hole! [frantic]"

Well, right now we're having the complete opposite dilemma - he keeps FORGETTING we aren't using condoms anymore. He reaches over to his drawer and I have to say, "What are you doing?" And he looks puzzled and says, "Oh yeah, [ahem] you don't want me to use a condom..." And then I say, "Well, I thought we both agreed!" And then he quickly nods and says, "Yeah, sorry, I forgot..."

The same stupid conversation the first time we have sex after I've had a period. Now THAT'S a mood killer! And then, because the idea has been refreshed in my mind, I find myself thinking: "hmm, actually, this is a big decision - shouldn't I think about it first?" even though I know I've made up my mind already!

I don't see how his brain forgets after just one short week, but hey. This JSing is not as casual as I thought it would be

Wonky eyes......that's bad aint it
I swear once I get the BFP I shall stop the vino
Alarm is set for tom am as I have to watch the upside down tennis. Go Murray.

Tried the scientific warm feet argument on the hubster....he might just leave them on next time!

I am the shittest TTCer....my method = get pished and bouncy cuddle occasionally.....its bound to work one day

Go Shag socks

Don't worry babylann it'll get better. But I hated the "unveiling of the condom" moment too, and ditching them really fired up our sex life; once we'd get over the shock .

Just back from a friends house . Had a lovely evening, their 4mo was on great form. But comedy story I couldn't wait to tell the viroids! Pudding was a lovely chocolate ganache. The recipe recommended serving in espresso cups, which they didn't have. So out of the cupboard appeared .... 4 Gu ramekins . I had to totally bite my Tongue. And also, whilst eating I had to distract myself from the thought that maybe these had been pee'd in before [ hmm].

Must sleep. Chat tomorrow.

Cross post gizzy - in our eyes, that approach makes you A Legend!

Oh yeah and Come On Andy!! :)

Hahahaha ramekins......go nelly

I shall endeavour to piss in a pot...should the time come.

Shall see you all tomorrow.....If I is welcome back that is

I got some ramekins for Christmas from my dear aunty... I feel like they have been tainted somehow by this thread! :(

Welcome to the newbie?s (waves)

I need a rant viroids as ever! We have very little money and I have been agonising over what to spend my xmas money on. I have kept it, and now that we have 2 months free council tax we?re using that to do some very basic decorating - bookcase and about 4 rolls of wallpaper to do 2 walls (1 bedroom, 1 living room), but now the damn car has knackered, so the money is going to have to go on that instead. I?m really . If it doesn?t cost too much (yeah right) we?ll have the rest of the money for some little things for the house, but not enough to do everything we want, even if I add my xmas money to it we won?t be able to do everything. It just really boils my blood when I?ve been struggling to get out of my overdraft in my personal account for over a year and nearly managed it this month (by £40, woohoo ) yet here?s DH?s parents rubbing it in our faces about how they?re getting a new car, new kitchen (for about £5000, the surfaces are antibacterial and the flooring is £22 per square metre but they thought it was worth the extra, blah fecking blah) and now they?re going on holiday to florida, yet again, for 2 weeks. Why can?t anything go the way I want it to go!!!!!!! All I wanted was to buy a damn bookcase and revitalise a couple of rooms with new wallpaper and beside tables etc. ARGH!!!! And now I?m crying because we have no milk and I can?t have a cuppa and I can?t go out to get one because the car is knackered!!!!!

That is all?.

:( Josie

I'm still here! Haven't been around for a while, cos I was getting too obsessed last month. I've got things much more in perspective now, and I will only be allowing myself onto this thread as a happy medium. I have just sat and read through the last couple of days, and I can't stop laughing! I don't know where I am in my cycle, and I hope to be able to keep it that way.

You lot make me laugh, I can't stay away Welcome to the newbies!

PS - I like cats, crumpets and shag capes, but I'm not convinced by the super socks!

Ah Josie, That's shit. What's wrong with the car?

@ your drunken ramblings last night

Still no ERTD. Spotting very very occasionally. Fuck knows whats going on.

Josie sorry you are feeling like this, hope you can try to not let the green-eyed monster drag you under! It can be hard seeing other people having an easier time of it than you but I'm guessing as these are your in laws, they are a whole generation older so they will have been through the tougher times before. We struggled financially a couple of years ago for various reasons and it was really stressful at the time. My Dad said that when we'd got over it we would look back and talk of it like 'remember that time we were really broke, that was hard work' but we'd get through it and do that together. He was so right, things do usually work out. (((hugs)))

Also, sorry for any offence with the charting comments last night. I thought we all knew that some of us aren't truly 'JSing' anymore and the general chat on here is unrelated, was trying to be helpful! Point taken though so I shall keep any proper TTC chat to other thread

Josie sorry to hear about your situation... Sounds like us. Every time we have money left over and think, "finally - we can do X and Y!", suddenly something breaks or needs replacing. Or, in this month's case, DP paid the same £300 bill twice by accident and then the company says they've sent the money back but it's two weeks later and we still haven't got it. Overdraft fees building up by the day.. And DP says he's too busy to call the company when he's at work (long queue times during lunch hour too apparently) but that's the only time they're open and they won't talk to me as he's the account holder. Money drives me crazy.

Hi all,

Josie sorry to hear you're struggling. It is galling when others (even parents) seem to have the money we need so much and make silly comments about things being "worth the extra". I bet you'd have swopped the anti-bac surfaces for a new bookcase or a working car!! You could even have given them a bottle of Flash as well!!

Well, I went well and truly to pieces with the arrival of ERTD. Made a total fool of myself. Yesterday at the baby shower I snapped at my mum when she made a comment about when I have a baby. Then disappeared upstairs for about half an hour as I sobbed. Gathered myself and enjoyed the rest of it.

Today was worse though - completely fell apart at church. Sobbed and balled and felt compeltely powerless to pull myself together and stop. Lost all make up (read - smeared face with mascara) and was red nosed and red eyed from crying. NOt a good look. Felt so stupid, as I so did not want to do that - esp not in front of the whole congregation! Disappeared as soon as I could after the service. DH was lovely and I think realised how had I'm finding this and actually it is causing me pain with the disappointment.

Wally. I'm just fed up with it all really. Must keep the faith.

Sorry to have ranted so much the last few days. Does seem to be getting to me somewhat. Am almost tempted to have a month off clomid as well. Will see.

Had my sister in law and her two littlies over for lunch. Whilst I played the "hot cold" game with my 5 yo neice, DH held the 11week old - he looked so adorable! I really want to be able to give him his own.

Hope everyone is having a good and relaxing Sunday. Recovering, by the sounds of things!!

Aw Got2Dance, sorry you've had a bad day and did yesterday. Hope you're feeling better now. Little things like bloody supernanny on tv seem t be making me cry at the moment - keep having to look away from DH so he doesnt notice

Thanks for all your lovely comments, just needed to get that off my chest I think. We were a bit naughty today and took the car to asda cos we had no food in and I wanted to do some cooking, and made it there and back in one piece luckily. Think the clutch is going. It judders really badly and struggles to pull off on the bite, but is better once you're past the bite. Hoping to get it in garage tomorrow.It's partly my fault we have no money as obviously we have the horse, but most times I'm ok with being constantly skint and others being able to afford stuff, it just gets to me sometimes. And you're right Truff, they have been there done that, it just sometimes feels like we'll never be able to afford a holiday, or new car etc

Babylann hope you get your money back!

I know I'm one for crazy symptom spotting, but I have been feeling just a teeny tiny bit sick at points today, and have been having funny crampy twinges. Trying so so hard not to get my hopes up but I really really can't stop, and DH is getting excited so we'll both be devestated if ERTD arrives again I have caught myself talking or thinking as if I have been confirmed pg aready! It's really gonna be a blow if I'm not but I can't stop myself

They say trying to concieve/having children and money are the two most stressful things we go through as human beings. Just congratulate yourself for keeping going, and think about all the things that are going right. For example, I bet it was lovely seeing your husband with a baby, G2D, so hold on, and know it'll happen when you least expect it. As for the money Josie I'm just the same whenever my parents do anything, they seem to have more money than sense, when I have a great long shopping list but nothing to pay for it all with. I know the feeling with the car, it only starts when noone except me is looking (I'm totally serious), and I have to say please. Even then, I am always surprised when I get to my destination without the RAC man (who thinks I'm my mum!) having to help me on my way. The garage just makes me shake with fear at the final bill.

Just remember - Everything will be alright in the end. If its not alright, then its not the end.

Lizzy what a fantastic philosophy! I'll remember that thanks

I jst had a lush shower in the dark with jst candles, now sittin in bed readin. I'm bloody knackered and will b asleep before long

Goodnight viroids

I'm pretty pissed off.

After our last little JS sesh, a few hours ago, DP suddenly freaked out and announced he's worried about me having another baby. A culmination of PND and SPD concerns, amongst financial and "where would another DC fit in with our routine right now" worries. :(

He wants to start using condoms again :( :( has changed his mind and thinks we need more time to figure out whether it's what we want.

I know it sounds silly, but actually joining this thread made me even more excited about having another baby and made me start really enjoying this casual approach to TTC.

Awww Babylann I know exactly what you're going through ... OH did just that after my MC. He suddenly got worried about finances and 'time' - because we're both approaching 40 and have our own children who are getting more independent (aged 10-17) he got the jitters about losing the freedom we have. Initially he had to talk me around to having a child together - and it seems right to me as we were very close at school, but lost contact for over 20 years and both married and had our daughters, before finding each other again. It just feels right for is to have a child together.

As I said, he got scared after the MC and wanted us to use condoms too. Of course, it seemed easier for them to get detached from the idea ... but for me, it was harder, as my heart was set on it, I'd fallen pregnant so had that hormonal thing going on, only to lose it very early ... so much harder to just switch off.

Thankfully he is back on board, not quite as excited, but says that's due to fear and assures me he'd be very excited when I get pregnant. Hopefully, given time your DP will come back round to it. (Hugs)

Sorry you're having a hard time Babylann, I hope you can get through to your DH and explain how much it means to you. Hopefully he's just got cold feet and will come round soon

Oh Babylann I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time. It is such a huge change for your OH to get his head round. I hope you're able to talk about things more and get the outcome you want. Men have a tendency of getting cold feet!! Aahh...give him the shag socks maybe?!

ERTD here in full flow now. And I've come down with DH's cold, so not going to work today. Curled up on the sofa with the laptop, duvet, a box of Kleenix and a pack of Strepsils!

Oh my god, the garage have quoted me £295. I don't have that

Good morning. Thanks all! We had a bit of an in-depth discussion about it, lots of "well, I do want a baby, that's not what I'm saying..."s and "I'm always going to have reservations about it!" Eventually he concluded that he was very much on-board for having another baby and leaving the condoms in the drawer, and that he just momentarily panicked and didn't know whether we were doing the right thing.

Feels like it's put such a downer on it all though. I obviously have my own reservations about pregnancy and childbirth and all the complications that come with it, but while he was feeling strong, so was I. Now I know he's on edge about it, it's rubbing off on me a bit and I've started catching myself wondering whether we should just leave it.

Maybe I just need to take DD swimming again today. That always makes me broody. That said, in a moment of madness yesterday evening I booked me and DP in for a dry-slope skiing lesson next week!

Oh Josie :( that's so expensive... Maybe try a different garage?