Over Here Viroids! Just Shagging with Intent Thread!

[nickelbabysnatcher]

Last thread was here

The (updated)(again)(again) 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator for the Viroids:

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday (or when you've had bad news). Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended). (It just takes longer to get in the mood

Oh Crowette - i'm sorry.

Thanks dee I'm ok though ... gearing up to get "up an' at 'em" this cycle

:( crowette for your E RTD

I'm in the same boat as you - that means we're cycle buddies!

I've always wanted an HB - well, since I decided that I might want a baby after all. My friend had 4 and she was a very good advocate for them. I'm actually quite amazed how many women just assume that you have to go to hospital, and don't even question it or ask for options.
Odd that your GP went that way round, though - would have thought that if they did support HBs, that they would have just gone we'll talk about that later and hope that wishy-washy ladies would forget about it.

In fact, the closer I get to having a baby, and it not just being a pipe dream, the more vehement I am about HB. Now, the thought of a hopsital birth really freaks me out and fills me with dread.

there, see, no iphone and I can't spell [oops]
i meant hospital

I decided after my first daughter was born (17years ago - Eek!) that I'd have my next at home ... I hated being in the hospital, could not relax at all. Too many silly rules for me! At least at home I felt in control, and as a result, the birth was much better - was only 42 minutes long once I was in established labour too!

Go for it!

ah, sorry, crowette, glad you feel inspired to go for it this cycle though.

I've always wanted a home birth. It has been proven that my blood pressure rockets in hosp as I'm so frightened of them so the chances of a risk free birth in hosp is slim at best. At home I'd feel much more relaxed and in control and wouldn't freak out as much (hopefully!)

Ah - now see I've NEVER wanted a home birth! I can't get my head round the mess .

So practically, where do you actually give birth, and given there will be blood and poo and in all likelihood some puke too - who cleans it up??? I can't think of anything worse than having to clean that up with a newborn to contend with too .

Plus I have a feeling if I was at home, all my family would take that to mean they could pitch up whenever. At least in a hospital you have visiting hours to keep them at bay

don't think it's silly to think about birthing plans, nelly, but I guess it is worth saying that it's not really in your best interests to get completely hung up on ONE way of doing things - births rarely go exactly as you think they will

in the only-slightly-longer run, so long as you and your baby come out of it in pretty much one piece, it doesn't matter a hoot where or how you do it

(disclaimer: I am trying to convince myself here really; I think I have JUST about managed to let go of my disappointment that I didn't get the waterbirth I wanted!)

Nelly - according to all the people I've spoken to, the midwives clear it up.

you have to cover the room in plastic hseeitng, then they clean everything up while you're bonding.

and if you're at home, if you want to keep visitors at bay tell them "we'll let you know when we're at the hospital then you can visit" - oops, not going to hospital?

don't know what hsseitng is - should be sheeting

aqua - why didn't you get the waterbirth?

Oh yes I should clarify, if I had a home birth it'd be in a birthing pool. I knew my friend was having a home birth but didn't really think about it until she said she was picking up her plastic sheets for the bed! Think I went a funny shade of green

I can't decide about water births - i go swimming every week and always complain abotu the temperature, so i can't imagine i'd be happy being wet and cold or wet and too warm and then cold etc.

I was bleeding nickel and they wanted to monitor dd, and eventually I had to go on a hormone drip anyway to make it happen a bit quicker. So my dreamy MLU waterbirth turned out to be a hospitally tube-ridden one. And honestly, it didn't matter at all at the time: labour makes you very tough (just as well really, ho ho) and GETTING IT OUT is so important that other things (mess, embarrassment, if your hair is straight, whatever) matter rather less.

lol at the idea of nickel jumping in and out of a birthing pool comlaining about the temperature!

I've given lots of thought to the type of birth i'd like this time - i say this time, and i'm not even upduffed.

My first birth was an EMCS at 28wks, which was horrendous. Second was a vbac with just gas and air and ended with a 3rd degree tear. Last one i should have been in a MLU - fought tooth and bloody nail for it - but then bastard fuckign MW scared the bejaysus out of me and i ended up being induced and having an epidural.

I know my next birth will be my last - sending him for the snip - and i'd really like a waterbirth. I'll probably have to fight tooth and nail for it again as they'll want me to be monitored ect, but i feel no need for it.

I'm not convinced of a HB tbh - again, all that mess! Though the thought of climbing into my own bed afterwards for newborn snuggles is appealing...

:( aqua at your birth story.

yikes, dee, reckon if anyone has earned a lovely waterbirth then it's you!

tis OK nickel, I was lucky on many counts (so many of my friends had emcs which made my labour look like a walk in the park, albeit a long one) and I don't really regret anything about it. Story had a jolly happy ending

though I will be hanging on for my MLU waterbirth next time!

dee :( for you too.

why do some midwives scare mothers so much?

aqua - i suppose the important thing is the little teeny baby at the end!

Oh i think this one was just a right ould cow. I had GD and was planning just to wait and see rather than be induced, and she told me that if i went past 39 weeks then it'd be likely baby would be stillborn. Now, enough to terrify anyone, but i lost DS1 shortly afer birth, and when i explained this to her and told her that i was upset with what she'd said, she told me that this was the risk i took if i will get pregnant!

I wish now i'd put in a formal complaint, tbh.

oh dee I'm so sorry about ds1, and about the midwife

Thank you

Hindsight's a bloody wonderful thing, and i can see now it was hormones, and stress and everything piled on top that made me agree to induction. DS3 was no where ready, but i felt i had no choice.

Things will be different this time round though!