Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 10)

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Had a miscarriage and ready to try again? This is the place for you, support in the form of virtual wine, chocolate and a great big shoulder to cry on (tears not essential). The new year beckons us, lots of BFP's for everyone

UCL= Usual cycle Length
CD= cycle day

I wasn't, but I just did after I read it!

Nada.

Go go boob prodders

bit hard to do that when sledging huh....?

been Snowing here too,,, but rain has pretty much washed it away now :(

Good lusk with sperm snatching everyone, emoo don some frilly nicks and get dh to the point of no return... i think that was izzys advice... or catch him when is half asleep and powerless to resist oh and watch some cheezy film like fatal attraction or something before bedtime.... gosh cant believe i suggested that... would probably just help the pissing self rather than arousal....

and emoo... if in doubt you could always resort to a viagra.. i always did fancy doing that but never did actually dare!! (al mouth and no trousers!)

@ viagra suggestion!!!

Yep - go boob proders!! No snow here - just rain rain and more rain. Still at least that's less likely to stop my train home from running tonight!

Nix congrats on new job btw!

Thank you so much for trying to keep me sane - sorry for all the me me me posts recently. I'm just such a mess!!

Been for acupuncture, come to spread some zen....

Am feeling pretty chilled this month (esp after lovely acupuncture), am taking a que sera sera approach for now...acu reckons I should ov in 2 days so there will hopefully be lots of swi this weekend, but I'm going to try and not get too hung up over it all, it's counter-productive (not sure the zen will last over the 2ww but I'm back for acu next week so hopefully will get a top-up!!)

Thanks to all who asked after dsis; she saw a really sensible (her words) cconsultant who agreed surgery wasn't needed. Her hcg levels were still over 200 buy down by one or two and she's not ill so he's happy to leave her another week, then if levels not decreasing as fast as they want, to use methotraxane (sp?). Big relief. The scary thing is that they wanted to rush her in a week ago and do emergency surgery (d&c, laparoscopy then tube removal if anything in tube) the next day and she cried and refused to go (got as far as signing all the consents though). But if she hadn't been so stubborn and questioned everything she would probably have had the tube removed by now, unnecessarily. So lesson to all not to just go along with what's advised but trust your instincts a bit and question everything!

DaddysGirl congratulations!!! I hope you stick around on the thread, all these pregnant ladies we have now are very heartening

Izzy I had exactly the same experience with finding out I was pregnant with DS. AND I got my dates so wrong that at my first scan I was 15 weeks - all fine, and the whole first trimester was a breeze. How different things are now! If I ever get to see a baby on a scan again it will probably be in there reading a copy of TCOYF

Nix congrats on the job!

Dach Gosh, it really is up and down for you at the minute. Hope you are able to stay sane a bit longer, what goes down must go up in my view, I am sure you will get better news next time. xxx

Re: SWI frequency, sorry totally lost the link, but now that wombat has written it I remember it was once a day if normal sperm count, less frequently if not (think I wrote once every other day if normal - can I get off my pedastal now I am getting things wrong)

anyway this link says every 36 hours (bit scientific? cant you imagine trying to plan that?) and no more than a week without "clearout"

Starting taking my temps again today - feels like I am properly back on board the TTC train, but like Emoo's my DH is lagging a bit behind. I cant decide if my plan is going to be a) confrontation or b) stealth.

confrontation means sitting him down for a chat and spelling everything out.

stealth means wearing more make up/short skirts/and getting in touch with my inner ho.

Unfortunately cant do Nixys morning pounce plan as DS always crawls into our bed at night. Havent had a morning shag since our anniversary weekend away!

Sorry forgot who asked me about scan results? I am waiting for my doc in london to get back to me, I think I might write to an american one too, who famously answers emails for free. I am just being extra cautious really as I was told orginally after the coil is out I can TTC. I would be nice to get an all clear before ov though! xxxx

Izzy great news iykwim! A woman?s intuition is a strong thing!! The doc's insinuated I was mental and in their words 'you're having a mc what did you expect?' In ref to my prolonged heavy bleeding! I insisted on an examination and they found those pesky polyps that needed to be removed!! Always, always, trust your instincts.

Orange we're considering all options but ideally any of the home counties or perhaps Dorset/Somerset/Gloucestershire... wherever there is money basically! Want to do an upmarket Bistro style thing!!

Mummya go with your inner ho

Right you lot, such a distraction! Got friends coming round for dinner tonight so might not catch up until tomorrow!

mummya bring on the inner ho!!

I actually think the 36-hour thing can work quite well, I've tried it before when we've been flagging a bit on the every day scheme. Basically quite simple: for example, Saturday morning, Sunday night, Monday off, Tuesday morning, Wednesday night, Thursday off. And so on. But you do need to be able to squeeze in some mornings!!

I've stuck with every other day this cycle, because the last few months we've done every day for the middle week and it's led to shagging rows. I will try for more over the weekend as I'm due to ov but not going to stress. I think the shagging rows are directly linked to putting too much pressure on, personally.

mamap hope you manage to find your ideal premises!! And yay! to coming over to our part of the country!

MummyA Inner ho = TCOYF reading bean lol !!! I could put on my coaching hat and ask what you think is behind DH reluctance (happy for you to just ignore this q if it is TMI). My Dh hates any kind of pressure - all I can do is talk about the end game (large, lovely, noisy family having fun together in big messy house) I find longterm visions work better with DH rather than cute cuddly baby (which is my obsession - I can smell the baby powder and warm baby scent!) and then I just have to trust he buys into that and hence into SWI. If it doesn't I ham up the imagery!! Next step a bribery iPad and then onto Viagra in his coffee!!! Lol Nix I love your commitment to the cause!!

just quickly as am on phone

wombat I'm 16dpo and the only thing I feel is very slight irritable feeling in lower back and wombular area. Sometimes, v occassionally and mostly when cold my nipples feel a bit 'fizzy' and tea tastes weird - this could be because of a new kettle though (must have gotten used to the lime-scale). That's it. No nausea and no huge sore boobs - had them a bit before AF was due but not now. I've got blue veins on one boob but get those every month pg or not.

The bleeding you've had must be worrying but I wouldn't read anything into symptoms. Ive had them in varying degrees with all pregnancies and nothing has been an indicator that things are ok or not.

Still no joy - got hold of gp yesterday, he said he'd contact consultant and call back to let me know what to do. No call, no message. Am getting v annoyed - don't understand why this is so difficult to coordinate.

You girls are so lovely and reassuring and absolutel saints to put up with my mentalling THANK YOU!! I feel so much better now :)

Thanks Lady - we are a day apart then - I'm 17 dpo and you could be describing my symptoms, minus the funny tasting tea but plus occasional (and possibly immaginary ) nausea.

Izz I'm SOOOO glad for your sis - that's brilliant news, what a relief!!

A&R didn't realise you were a coach - ekk - coming on here must be a bit of a busman's holiday for you?!! :)

Mummya - brilliant - I agree with the others - inner ho is the way to go!! 'Twas me who asked about the scan. FX for a speedy response from your doc and the American doc too!

MamaP are babies going to be allowed in your pub?? If they are then you might just find a group of crazy MC ladies with their babes, bumps and beans decending on you when you open!

Wombat but of course, the more bambino's the merrier (perhaps we'll get a nice pub with a snug that we could take over and let the little uns crawl and play)
www.delusionsofgrandeur.com

Yey!! That's something for us all to look forward to then Mamap!!! My work firewall won't let me open your webpage but I'll try again from home later x

I wonder at which point a bean becomes a bump - I like the distinction. MummyA how lovely to find out so late 15 weeks - wow. Now off to remove some Christmas fat in the rain - soggy but nice really

All that commented Thanks for all your tips and advice. I'm definately gonna wait until my first AF before considering trying again.

As the pregnancy wasn't planned it was a shock for both me and my DP when we found out. I really want to TTC again after my AF but my DP wants to 'wait until the right time'. That really upset me, has anyone else had this reaction from their DP/DH? I feel so unresonable!!

Just had massive strop at dh for saying wait until Monday's scan instead of private today or tomorrow, then flashed him to ask if my boobs were still big

Mamap I do remember you saying about location now, I can just imagine when you open all of us sneaking in
Izzy that's a lesson for us all, and I'm glad she's getting a more cautious approach
Mummya get back on that pedestal! I hope you get your all-clear soon it would be nice peace of mind. Oh yeah, and you channel that inner ho!
Good plan Izzy it's too much pressure otherwise, but hopefully you'll have a nice relaxing yet successful weekend
Ladybee how frustrating, will you have to wait until Monday now?
Francesca at first my dh wanted to wait as he was worried it would be too soon for my health, but epu said wait one month so that made him happy

@ Viagra. That's one way, slip it into the cornflakes, but hope it's fast acting or else there'll be when he gets to work

wombat I have just collapsed into fits of laughter... www.delusionsofgrandeur.com (I taking the piss out of myself = delusions of grandeur)!!!

Orange did he confirm your knockers were big big big??

Ah, Mamp, now I understand

daddysgirl congratulations am really pleased for you.

francesca my dh kept saying about not trying again at all as i was so upset. but shutup when i told him that wasn't an option.

Thanks kat and mummya for the link and advice. if my cycle is as short as it was when i caught then it shouldn't be too long after af finishes, i just worry that it's going to randomly be a 28 day one. i might do a calendar and overlap the days to see where i should be most fertile, to know when to stop.

My af is finally here, yippee. just in time for me to get a horrid cold. i'm bunged up and my throat is killing. I'd better be rid of this before i start dtd or i'll be coughing through it, with a medical mask. So do i still stay on the wttc list until it stops or do i move now?? and a daft question again (sorry i'm full of them)would this make me cd1 now??

Mamap yes he did confirm bless him, and also said that last pg they didn't grow at all
Cep oh congrats! It feels weird being happy to get it doesn't it? You can go on the ttc list as cd1 if you like? I can't do it on iPhone but am sure one of these lovely ladies will
I'm fed up of this cold, dh has relapsed too so our house is like the plague

at orange 's dh! Hope that has your mind at rest! Men are good to ask in matters of the boob

at knocker flashing! I keep lifting up my top, undoing the brazier and saying 'ere cop a feel of these...are they still pornstar like?'...rather than taking advantage he justs looks at me and cringes as if i am gonna strap on a GString and give him a saucy lapdance!

mamap watch out for tingly nips early on! I had that before anything....and a sore throat

so we have knocker flashing, sperm snatching, fanjo fiddling....anything else ? Willy watching?

Just updating the list for daddysgirl and cep (please fill in the gaps if you want!)

Any news from hiding or knitter ??

HidingInTheBackRow TTC1, cycle 2, UCL 26, CD27
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 3, UCL30 CD26
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 5 UCL33 CD25
knitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 5 UCL 25-30 CD25
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 5 UCL 35, CD20
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD20
BackOnceAgain TTC#3,Cycle 1 UCL28-34 CD20
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD20
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 4 UCL 40, CD19
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD18
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD18
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 2 UCL29 CD17
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 CD15
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 6 UCL 24-30 CD13
ochaye TTC#3 cycle WTF UCL 31 CD13
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD11
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27 CD 11
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, CD11
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 2 postMC#2 (but WTF cycle only 2 weeks long, so maybe it's only cycle 1 really?) UCL28, CD10
Kat2504 ttc#1 cycle 5 ucl28, CD8
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 1 (Post AS Op)) UCL? CD4
Getawiggleon TTC#2, UCL26 CD?
Cep TTC#? Cycle 1 UCL? CD1

WTTC
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Mamafoof TTC#2, MC#1 Nov 2010, WTF cycle
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, WTF cycle

MIA
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle RunForTheHills TTC#1, UCL28 Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 UCL28 GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 UCL 27 - 44

RECENT BFP's
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31 BFP!!
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Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle BFP!!!
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PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30 BFP!!!!
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