TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

[nurse47]

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

yellowtomato - sorry to hear you're having a bit of a glum day - sending lots of warm thoughts your way.

re: follow up appointment - my ob/gyn said to make one for 2 weeks after op but for some reason I keep forgetting to make it and she's always really booked up - have made a diary reminder for first thing tomorrow!

so much for me thinking positively, had someone ask me today to see my bump.... She obviously didnt know id lost the baby 9 weeks ago!!!
I do a regional job within retail so see people once in a while, its a good job id already had that happen to me twice in the last 9 weeks as it would of really set me back, i managed a calm, id lost the baby 9 weeks ago, without bursting into tears!! Is it going to get any easier i ask???
I think im trying to put on this positive, strong front but actually every day is a struggle!! Its getting easier day by day, but theres not a day i dont think, what if?? Its so sad....

hey everyone I am really really tired and you have all been busy chatting so apologies for not responding personally to everyone,

re check ups my dr told me to come back a week after I get my period for a scan and check up to make sure everything is clear and that my lining is regenerating etc..

honestly, I think work is good, when I am busy I have less time to think and in my job I rarely have a "quiet" moment so don't really have any time to feel sorry for myself, need to keep it calm in front of the children - they pick on every emotion and it's not fair on them but hey, I am NO hero I have had moments when I just had to get out for a coffee/sob and thankfully everyone in my centre who knows is very supportive and some of the parents that I have a close relationship and had told about have been really sweet too - one had exactly the same situation as me/us in February and now she is pregnant and due around Valentine's day so I keep reminding myself of her example.

Don't know about you guys but deep down in my mind I am hoping to be pregnant by Jan/Feb and that is the only thing that's keeping me sane and emotionally stable.....I know it's a dangerous thought to hang on to but I can't help it.

have a good evening ladies xxxxxxx

Thanks guys :). I do think i'm a bit strange though. The only film i've cried at is Marley and Me (during a flight i might add!). I cry at really inappropriate times though, like we've had a problem with DS's attention at school so i'd gone it in to see the head and got really upset about it. I think i try as much as possible to hold in emotion but then it bubbles up at times and people must think i'm insane. Not sure why i do this but never mind, i feel better now, thanks.

Sorry also to bring up the weight issue, was just pointing out that i'd put on quite a bit proportionatly :). I am also booby. I'm normally a 34 DD in my trusty Freya bras but bizarrely in a 32 F following the pregnancy. Hope they go down a bit again.

Gosh how awful MrsB, after 9 weeks i'm sure you weren't thinking about coming up against comments like this. It must have really hit you hard.

Lol at Wonnay nearly steamrollering said pregnant woman. Not really funny of course.....but hehe!! All the best for the new job too.

Yellow, sorry lovely but i don't think you will be able to better protect yourself next time. All you will do is inwardly grieve as even though you wont voice excitement to others, you will still do all this subconciously and it will still be an upset. It's just that others wont have witnessed the excitement or you wont have voiced it out loud. I think just do as always. Look forward to what the pregnancy could bring but be aware that there could be complications at any stage. All worry and excitement in moderation. :) Smile :o

Also, Beesok, is it London you're in? Just wondered if you'd been down to Winter Wonderland, at Hyde Park, before and what you thought of it? Considering going next month as DH down with work on the Saturday so thought we'd stop Saturday night and go on Sunday.

Hi Star yes, i live in London but haven't actually been to the Winter Wonderland :) sorry can't help! x

Can I also join. I am sorry am a little bit tippsy since been celebrating and did not make it through the past posts. Will try to read it when can focus a bit better. My condolences to all the other ladies that are on her post-erpc.

My story had an early scan at about 8 weeks, which showed no heartbeat. Then had to wait till the 15th october for an ERPC. Then bleed and spotted for about the next month, so till last week. Still no sign of AF. Feel like I have no idea what my body is doing. Am waiting for the next AF and then I would like to start TTC.

Never mind...thanks anyway :) x

Hi Lemon. Seeing as you mentioned bleeding and spotting for a month after the ERPC, did they considering scanning you to make sure everything was out? Have you not had any bleeding then the past week.
I had mine 9 days ago and have just had my first day without wearing a pad. A wee bit of yellow-tinged discharge but that's been it. Hoping that that's my bleeding finished. I have heard about 7 weeks is what it could take post op to have a period but you need 3 weeks of no bleeding/spotting apparently before getting your period to officially call it a period. Not sure how true this is but it's just soething i have seen either on here or other miscarriage info sites on the net. Maybe then, yours will show up in the next week to ten days hopefully.
Glad you enjoyed your night :)

Hi ladies , lemon sorry for you having to be on here but welcome all the same.
meltobe My natural lasted 10 days but I only bled for 2 days after I passed "it" and have now been completely clear for a week. I POAS and was negative so I guess that is saying all mine has gone ?
We have resumed our bedroom activity... But not properly trying until the new year when hopefully my AF will have been.
DH and I have a "date" on friday, My parents are having our DC's and we are off to watch Peter Kay then staying over, am really looking forward to it.
Sending virtual hot toddies to you guys with colds xxxx

Just tucking into brekkie at work and catching up with you ladies when got to 'yellow-tinged discharge' and choked on a shreddie I must time things better, I always seemed to be eating my toast during the headlice and brown toe-nails ads at home. Also snickered at wonnay almost shoulder-barging the pregnant lady, love these evil thoughts, so cathartic!
I'm still full of cold and back to being broody today, got a bit sad on the way to work as fluey tears were streaming down my face anyway and I felt terribly sorry for myself, which culminated in me picturing a snuggly baby in a babygro, and going 'waaaaaaah' inside. Managed to hold it together bar my now mascara-less visage. Looking good! Don't mind anyone mentioning weight by the way, I always devour people's weight versus height, same as I now check how old celebrities are/were when they have their children, to give me hope (am 36, tickety tock).
Star, does ET make you cry? I practically hyper-ventilate with grief! I'm a 36FF by the way, so goodness knows what will happen during pregnancy/breast feeding, they'll be like two veiny blimps! I can't wait until Jan/Feb to be pregnant, I have decided it must be now, this minute, and sod the Chirstmas champers. Echo everyone else in that there is no way I could skip along to the 12 week mark without constant testing/knicker checks/boob squeezing/made-up cravings and general panic though.
Welcome lemon and snuffly pathetic waves to everyone else x

Morning ladies

Sorry to have been a bit despondent lately, I think it is all just catching up with me. Am feeling soooooo tired today and still quite emotional. I was teary whilst reading something about the royal wedding (!) that is so not normal.

But in an effort to get a grip and pull myself together I am off to the gym now for a run, will then have an afternoon nap and am going out with a good friend tonight to drink a lot of wine........so I'll be able to tell you all about my hangover tomorrow!

Sparkly yup, ET gets me every time too!

Welcome lemon

I would also love to be pg asap but I guess I'm just trying to keep hopes down and be realistic as is took a year both previous times.....well I guess you never know, may be third time lucky?

How is everyone else doing today?

Hi everyone and welcome to lemonsherbert - sorry that you are in a position to be on this particular thread, but it's a great support and everyone is lovely. What were you out celebrating?

LOL at Shreddie incident sparkly!

yellowtomato - sounds like a great day ahead of you - enjoy!

I'm getting v frustrated with the bleeding - it seems to be v stop / start (ERPC now 10 days ago) and we are off for our lovely romantic weekend to the Banyan Tree resort here tomorrow. I probably only have myself to blame for not managing my expectations properly - silly wombat....

Talking of silly wombats, has anyone seen those "Walk on the Wild Side" Talking Animal BBC clips on youtube? Here's a to one of them - there are lots. Excellent tonic if you're feeling a bit down x

May I vent? I'd just got back from a really lovely day, in fact my happiest yet since mc, logged on to mn and STUPIDLY read Jue in June - I knew it'd come back to bite me - someone has started up the orginal stats again and I'm still on there. It has really upset me. I couldn't help myself but I posted a message asking them not to use the original stats - I know no one would wanted to have caused any upset but it struck me as a little insensitive. Did I do bad? I tried to word it nicely but I think perhaps I should have just not still been looking in the first place, my fault I guess..... I probably managed to come across as a horrible bitter person which wasn't my intention, eek

Ah meltobe - this is the place to vent and be upset. It's a horrible thing to see and it is NOT your fault for looking - we've all been doing it. Sorry that it has upset you, especially after having had such a good day. Sending lots of warm thoughts x

And now I'm tempted to go and see if I'm still there.... agh! have to run so no time now....

Thanks wonnay you're very sweet. I didn't look for anyone else but I wouldn't look if I were you, it's not good! I think that has been my final sign that I need to stop looking. On the plus side I just received a little package of percy pigs from my sister, yum yum. Off to eat the whole bag one or two now

doh, I seem to have lost the ability to cross out words....

Aw, sorry Meltobe. Resist the lure! I popped onto the Jue thread to check for you and all is well, your words have not been misconstrued and you have been sent hugs. I was feeling quite defensive for you actually! Seems that whomever did it felt awful about adding themselves and just deleting people who they knew had sadly had to drop off, they all seemed lovely and it's a bit of a minefield really isn't it? I've gone from dithering, to conceiving, to miscarrying, to trying again, and you'll be dropped like hot potatoes when I conceive again
Easier said than done to not post when upset/annoyed as that's partly the purpose of being on here. That and to discuss our discharge
Big hugs to you, the jelly sweets will give you a lovely boost. Have you tried the Percy Reverseys? Hom x

Thanks sparkly I feel a bit silly now - it certainly caused a reaction didn't it. I'm glad I said something though. Yup, I've tried reversy percys, these are actually phizzy percy pig tails, yum! Not many left in fact....
I look forward to you dropping us like hot potatoes, in the very nicest possible way - your message really made me laugh!

Welcome lemon but of course, sorry that you're here.

Thanks brought for the info - yep it sounds like you're all clear if your poas was -ve. Feeling envious of your bedroom action....I think I've forgotten how!!!

Erm...will we be sharing when our AFs start again? I know mine will prob be a long way off as my hcg is still high but I really want to get back to normal asap.

Happy to share! Is an AF a period? Couldn't find it on the acronym list and don't want to get the wrong end of the stick, it could lead to all sorts of misunderstanding! My period arrived last Sunday after more stomach cramps than usual but nothing to panic about. So that's 5 weeks after my erpc, and didn't have any spotting in between so take it to be the real deal. It lasted nearly a week but was no heavier than usual.

I think I may be ovulating towards the end of next week or thereabouts, so will see how things transpire in terms of frantically casually working out when it is actually happening, using the dual indicators of general horniness and the presence of EWCM. I will then pounce on DH casually suggest intercourse, and remember to bicycle my legs in the air afterwards (once he is out of the room, clearly), as I'm sure that swayed things first time round

Hi ladies welcome lemon again sorry you have to join us!
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Mel what is your hcg level if you don't mind me askin??

Does anyone not feel like going out with anyone other than DH?

Hope everyone has had a nice day?

Hi ladies welcome lemon again sorry you have to join us!
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Mel what is your hcg level if you don't mind me askin??

Does anyone not feel like going out with anyone other than DH?

Hope everyone has had a nice day?

sparkly I think AF stand for 'Aunt Flow' but not sure. i don't mind talking about periods either. I only stopped bleeding/spotting about 3 days ago and i'm not quite 2 weeks from ERPC so it may be a while yet for me. But I'll keep you updated about any signs/discharge if you are interested?

nurse I haven't been out with anyone except DP since the bad news but I'm on a rampage tonight. I am expecting tears....but I think that will also do me good.

I think going to the gym did me good, really should have done a bit more work though. Oh well there is always tomorrow!