Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 8)

[MummyAbroad]

A safe haven for those just off the mc rollercoaster and thinking about getting back on or are already on the TTC rollercoaster. Be warned these lovely ladies chat, and the thread moves lightening fast, but all are welcome to join in any time

For those who have just mc'd, there is great info about your first cycle here

If you want to add yourself into the stats, just copy and paste the lot, change everyones CD (cycle day) if necessary and add yourself in.
WTF = first cycle after mc
WTTC = waiting to TTC
CD = cycle day
UCL = usual cycle length

Argh.. I forgot to say. Had someone at work waltz into the office today to tell everyone she is 12 months pregnant. Cue frolics and cooing all round and me sneaking out of the office to go sit in the toilets feeling sorry for myself.

Had to go and buy cake to make me feel better and repeat 'I am happy for her' over and over to myself.

Oh, sorry for the x post mouse!

((((massive hugs)))

I am sorry you are feeling awful. That was very insensitive of whoever said that to the teacher. It's none of their damn business

No worries - your post made me smile 12 months pregnant? Poor girl...

Hope you're ok, it's shit isn't it? I really hope there are no announcements at work any time soon xx

golly...I hadn't notice my little slip

12 weeks obviously...

It is shit, particularly when she goes 'we were only going to see what happens but I got pregnant straight away. It was such a surprise'. grrrr...it took me 9 months to get pregnant (and it was months not weeks!). Not that I'm bitter. On the plus side the cake was very nice

Hitting the dates seems really difficult, I am dreading 12 weeks which will be soon. I hope you feel better once the 16 week milestone has passed for you.

@ 12 months hiding

Question for mummy if she can find the time in between packing & unpacking! My cervix is low! as in mega low! Educate me please someone... does it do that before fertile time, or after ov? Just wondered. I have a wierd cervix, it seems to have a hole in it permanently is all squishy round the outside and is shaped like an egg. I have had a Vag birth which alters it, and i did have cervical problems at delivery...but even so! its a bit bizarre!

Sorry about the pg announcements :( & sorry you are feeling down mouse 16 weeks is a date isnt it :( I would have been...nope have stopped counting at 20 weeks! i think i prob would have been around 24 weeks now and its sad to think about it but i am getting stronger...lighting a candle at babyloss week helped me and also talking about it too. bonkers that i have told people who didnt know, after it happened helps with the closure imho.

Hey mouse (((hugs))) sorry for rubbish day-I find that some days are just like that and it doesn't seem to be anything in particular that sets it off :( I can't believe what they said to the other teacher in front of you!! That is shocking!!

Big hugs for hiding too. You might have noticed but this is one of my absolutely hobby horse rant topics-people announcing how they didn't mean to get pg or that it was so easy or flashing around their scan photos. They are completely oblivious to how completely lucky they are and to how much hurt their comments cause. :( :( :( it's v hard to deal with, I hope the cake made you feel a bit better at least.

fondant thanks i now have 3 therms to choose from so will keep one spare in my car!!

Whos due to test?

i was one of those people fondant sadly thats what you do when you conceive, quickly or not, its happy news you want to share, you will be so proud when you conceive, happy and ecstatic,bet you flash your pic Saying that having sat on the other side for a while it will make us all more considerate. I am quite proud of myself atm, manage to not to attempt running over the "ladies with bumps" walking out in front of the motor ...progress!

HairyT good to see you lady, you sound like you're doing very well, having a look at other aspects of your life. Hope the next few days go as smoothly as possible.

Wednesdays List

MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 4 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD39
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 3 UCL33 CD35
Inbetweener TTC#3 Cycle 3 UCL 29 CD32 BFP!!
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 3, UCL 28 or 35 CD31
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 3 (post MC#2), UCL 27 CD29
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 3 (round 3) UCL27 CD26
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 35, CD24
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 5 UCL28 CD24
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 2 UCL 30 CD23
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 1 UCL29 CD22
Tunnocksteacake TTC #2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD20
Getawiggleon TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL26, CD19
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 3 UCL28 CD17
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40 CD17
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2 Cycle 1 (post MC#1) UCL 27 - 44 CD14
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 20 UCL24-9 CD14
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 4 UCL 27 CD11
Kat2504 TTC#1, cycle 3 UCL 26-28 CD10
RunForTheHills TTC#1, cycle 2 UCL28 CD10
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 2 (post MC) UCL 31 CD8
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 4 UCL26-30 CD7
Sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 6, UCL 24-28, CD1

WTTC
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 6 (round 7)UCL 28-31
Hairytriangle
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul), Ashermans Op 16 Nov
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#1 4th Oct WTF cycle
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Lemonsherbet TTC #1, ERPC 15 Oct 2010, WTF cycle
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
HidingInTheBackRow TTC#1 MC#1 Oct 2010
OrangeToeNails TTC#1 MC ERPC 15 Oct

MIA
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 2 (post mc#1)(PCOS)
Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Lottiecrump UCL 27/30
Cheepz TTC#2 (round 4) UCL30
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug

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Where's that Jamface gone? Did someone leave her behind in Arezzo? Coo-ee, we're over here!!

Hiding you poor thing, that sounds completely rubbish. The letters and work and everything you do sound very fed up and to be honest I don't blame you. The weekend is almost here, do you have something nice planned?

sunchild sorry AF got you. It was a shorter cycle this time for you, huh? Were you expecting that?

inbetweener stay as long as you like and need. There is a grads thread in pregnancy and they will take great care of you through all the worries and stresses of pg after mc. But you are always welcome here for as long as you want and I hope you won't rush off

nickster I get like this too - but I hadn't equated it with hormones - I just assumed it was suppressed stress as we got closer to the time when it mattered, I'd get increasingly annoyed and resentful with DH if he wasn't looking like getting to action stations. I hate having to walk the tightrope between letting him know I'm getting into the zone and not putting too much pressure on. It's crap. I think one of the reasons I was so annoyed that I'm looking to have failed this month is because even though we only had sex a couple of times, it was really good and we both enjoyed ourselves. It would have been so lovely if had worked out from a time we had a great time rather than just going through the motions.

mummyabroad that's great you've got the permission. You must be feeling so many emotions right now!

Getawiggle 6 D P O.

youremindme you tested on Wednesday didn't you? but still no AF...do you think you'll do another soon?

I tested this morning too (just to torture myself a little more ) and it was..BFN..what a surprise. Just waiting for AF to appear which will most likely be tonight.

Sorry that's obviously Thursday's List above.

MouseBacon sorry I missed you while I was writing. It is just little things that get you, isn't it? I know it doesn't seem like it will ever get better, but it will, in time. But I think there are lots of tears to let out, and sometimes they come out in small lots, and sometimes you let them out in huge wails. It's a sad sad thing that happened so don't feel bad about expressing the grief.

Thanks ladies. MN has been so invaluable over the last few weeks - from my terrified post in chat the weekend the bleeding started to this thread. I just can't thank you all enough.

I thought I was past this stage but something's really got to me tonight I just keep hearing the Bob Dylan/Adele song in my head which sets me off again.

I'm going to try and get some sleep; hopefully I'll feel better in the morning. I miss my baby so much but I know you all know what I'm going through.

Nicks I'm no cervix expert (have only just found mine at the grand old age of 37) but isn't it supposed to be firm and high just before ov? I'm new to all this cervix checking business but mine almost disappeared before ov this month, it was so high. I nearly waved out of my mouth (tmi)

Apparently if you've had a vaginal birth your cervix will always feel a little open too.

Hopefully Mummy will be checking in later and she's far more clued up on these things!

mouse hope you have a restful night.

Just a quick one, on my way to bed...pink I'm going twice a month, once before ov and once after. She thought that should be enough. Fx it will!!

(((hugs)))) for mouse and anyone else feeling low, hang on in there x

night all x

wigs yes have just read that it drops very low after OV (mine is only half a finger up!) as the oestrogen falls. thats not good i didnt think i had ov'd yet opks neg!
Oh who the hell knows im off to bed.... temps tomorrow, and forever better than this self torture

having an edward fix before bed, ready for new moon on sky tomorro... just to catch up of course!

Hi ladies,

I have managed to get some mickey mouse T shirts in a suitcase, am feeling a small sense of achievment but also massively daunted by the thought of a 16 hour trip on my own wielding suitcases, pram and two year old. Still, its keeping my mind off the op

Nix - the answer to your question is both! For a clear idea of whats going on you would need to do daily checks around ov, it should go like this:

Pre ov it is low, closed and feels firm (like your nose) then it gets gradually higher, more open and softer (like your lips) each day. This could go on for a few days and then very suddenly you should notice a dramatic change one day back to low, closed and firm, this would signal that you have ovulated. Makes sense because you wouldnt want the cervix open and letting in bacteria for any longer than necessary. Once you ov'd the shop shuts quick!

What I have never understood though is why it is HIGH when you ov? why would you want the swimmers to travel further?

Mine is egg shaped too by the way TCOYF says that a slightly open cervix after vaginal birth is normal - I cant feel the opening to mine though, but that is probably because of AS. So if yours is squishy round the outside, perhaps it is in the process of getting softer - moving toward ov? I have never felt it softer in different places, just changing from day to day. If you use FF you can put this info in, cervix position is on the "secondary" tab on the data entry form.

mouse sorry you are feeling low. I echo what the others have said. Dont be afraid to let it all come out, its what you need to do in order to be able to heal. Dont put any pressure on yourself to "get over it" it takes time to really accept your loss and the sadness that comes with it.

sorry Pink just noticed your question. I have a pre op scan on Monday and the op on Tuesday.

I'm really glad its all happening fast because I would be a nervous wreck if I had to worry about this for too long.

deep breath and think calming things...

oooh just remembered mince pies will be in the shops I had to resort to baking them last year.

Boo!! Hi gorgeous girls! Currently in KL, shopping and eating, it's a tough life!! Return to Blighty tom but not home until late Sunday so catch up with you all properly on Monday. Hope you are all well and look forward to catching up xx

Morning everyone

Mummya and nix you've answered my question about cervix so saves me asking :) ties in with OPK+ last fri but I know it's WTF this month anyway

desperate for AF to visit :( been 4 weeks today so I know there's plenty of time. Tho I reckon next Fri for some reason

mouse I am sorry what a horrible day. My 16 wk was last Fri and spent whole day at work on verge, then home to bawl my eyes out. I'm anticipating same each marker :(

hiding hehe for 12 months, but I hope you'll have BFP soon. And how insensitive to say that.

Sorry for no namechecking, still getting used to MN on iPhone

Morning all - test this morning = BFN. Still, if FF is to be believed I'm only 8 dpo anyway so can't get too stressed. Think I'm going to try and step away from the pee sticks until this time next week then at least I'll have tested before I go to yoga and will be able to chill out in the knowledge that my rubbish approximation of a shoulder stand isn't mulching a little bean.

Have got a really weird feeling under my pelvic bone, not a pain but a kind of sharp sensation. Fish please!!!!

Will check in again properly - staring at the pee stick trying to summon up the fecking invisible second line has made me late.........

pink fx for you I'm sending good vibes for a second line and good news for the weekend- and no yoga!

Hi ladies - can I join you? Have been lurking for a while hoping to see lots of BFPs for you. Am in Hong Kong though so bit hard to keep up with thread (not sure how you do it MummyAbroad) with time difference. Been TTC #2 for a year now, miscarried back in July.

HongKongBaby - TTC#2, cycle 3 (post mc), UCL 32-42, CD36

Hello girls rant alert, look away now if you're of a mild disposition....

I'm so pissed off this morning, put suit on that fitted last week and had £10 dry cleaning done, and they've f**king shrunk it so it is so tight across my back I can't even lift my arms. Marvellous. And I'd been beating myself up that I'm getting fat cos none of my suits fit but turns out they've shrunk them all. Gonna have a barny this morning but seems a bit pointless as it will just raise my blood pressure even more and i can't imagine the dude could care less. Even if I get my £10 back didn't change fact that I have to spend another heap of money on another suit now, which feels like a particular slap in the face as I should have been far too big for my suits by now as would have been 7months. And the incompetent train company decided that the fast Train would go from other platform with 1 minutes notice-it was already 10mins late so you would have thought they might have already had a plan for what platform it was aiming at. Aghhgg couldn't be in a worse mood :(

ALSO am behaving like a complete dick around DH at mo, can't decide if I resemble a teenager or toddler more closely but keep throwing a strop at the smallest things, it's actually quite embarrassing but seem totally incapable of controlling myself! My poor colleagues had better behave today or bad things will probably happen......

Hello girls rant alert, look away now if you're of a mild disposition....

I'm so pissed off this morning, put suit on that fitted last week and had £10 dry cleaning done, and they've f**king shrunk it so it is so tight across my back I can't even lift my arms. Marvellous. And I'd been beating myself up that I'm getting fat cos none of my suits fit but turns out they've shrunk them all. Gonna have a barny this morning but seems a bit pointless as it will just raise my blood pressure even more and i can't imagine the dude could care less. Even if I get my £10 back didn't change fact that I have to spend another heap of money on another suit now, which feels like a particular slap in the face as I should have been far too big for my suits by now as would have been 7months. And the incompetent train company decided that the fast Train would go from other platform with 1 minutes notice-it was already 10mins late so you would have thought they might have already had a plan for what platform it was aiming at. Aghhgg couldn't be in a worse mood :(

ALSO am behaving like a complete dick around DH at mo, can't decide if I resemble a teenager or toddler more closely but keep throwing a strop at the smallest things, it's actually quite embarrassing but seem totally incapable of controlling myself! My poor colleagues had better behave today or bad things will probably happen......

Hi hongkong sorry you find yourself here but you're very welcome to join us. sorry about ranting that crossed with your post-not always this angry!! These ladies between them know the answer to every question you could ever have so I hope you find it a comforting place to hang around for a while. Don't worry about the keeping up, it's almost impossible in the same time zone!!! X