Thread for the fanjo-furkling, red-fecker-hating, ramekin-peeing JSers

[takethatlady]

The (updated) 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday. Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended). Horse-riding and other dangerous activities are also actively encouraged.

Covet thy husband and enjoy every minute. Shag at ever opportunity - shag-capes and awesome superpowers optional.

Keep acronmyage to a minimum! EWCM is now to be referred to as 'pant snot'. Try not to get sucked in by Fertility Friend (at least for a while), but knowing where you are in your cycle and furkling for pant snot is most definitely allowed. If you're a midwife, you can even get other midwives to furkle for you

Keep us up to date with gossip!

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Most of these rules are well and truly broken!! But we try to chill - honest

Part 1 Graduates:
Tanmu82 - BFP
PrivetDancer - BFP
OnlyWantsOne - BFP
Frankenfanny ? BFP
Notso - BFP
knittakid - BFP
loopeylu - BFP
PinkFondantFancy - BFP
Grannyapple ? BFP
Fuzzywood - BFP
canoe - BFP
janedoe - BFP
StarflowerGirl - BFP

Part 2 Graduates:
ihaveaplan - BFP
lovemylulu - BFP
shitforbrains - BFP
gormers - BFP

Part 3 Graduates
Bonkerz - BFP
Kitten - BFP
Cowboylover - BFP
takingtheplunge - BFP

Shout if I've missed anyone.

you need to talk to me about implantation bleeding, periods and stuff.

I'm getting rather annoyed with the JSing thing. :(

i didn't even care that much about having a baby, and I had agreed with myself that if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.
but now I'm upset that i don't think it will ever happen.

like, this month, after we've been JSing a bit (and waving legs in the air - that bit was funny ), I been feeling quite fat, and also been feeling a bit queasy after eating.
(this is 2-3 weeks)

but I started bleeding last night, which means period, of course.

I know it's my period, and I'm really sad about that, so why does part of me still hope that it's really implantation and it'll stop?

it doesn't help that my period is always stupidly light for 2-3 days first before it all starts heavily.

i don't want to feel upset about it, but i feel like my whole body is just withered and barren.
:(

(i nearly cried on DH last night when I told him I had my period, but held it back because I didn't want him to see me react like that, when I'm supposed to be all "if it happens it happens"

nickelBANG you've only been trying a short while, haven't you? (Not a stalker, just remember you got married recently and then posted about buying folic acid.) I know how infuriating this is, but please believe me that everyone feels like you do right now for most of the time they are ttc. We tried for a year to get DS and every single month I felt just the same as you. That year felt so long. But we got there, and now I can look back and see that it was a pretty average length of time to conceive, particularly given our circumstances (horrible family stress all year).

ttl glad to hear you've had an 'Allied Carpets' moment

NMCB hooray for joyful reactions :) As an aside, your name is currently one of DS's favourite phrases: 'no choc bics?' said with hopeful expression, usually followed by a grave reminder that they are 'all gone'

How lovely NMChoc!

The BESHs are funny as hell. I don't feel like a fully-fledged member, but like to pop in there occasionally. They make me larf.

Nikel - Sorry you are feeling so low. There's a particular point which is really hard to get past and it's after about 3 or 4 cycles because you can forgive the first one or two not working, but then the enthusiasm runs out and you start worrying. Tis crap, but it will pass and then you'll turn into the hardened TTC-er. I'm on cycle 7 or 8 or something (didn't really try the first month and was away from DH another time over 'the window' so only really about cycle 6, but feels much longer). I'm now much more 'what will be, will be' but don't know how long that'll last for
BB fingers crossed for you but don't test early because if it's a BFP hiding in a BFN (if you see what i mean) you'll only get depressed whereas if you wait a bit longer it'll be a real and proper BFP .

thanks you two! i know it's early days, and i try to reason with myself on that, but it is disheartening.

I'll get used to it.
:)

Well done on resisting the early testing viroids. It does sound like it causing more harm than good. Listen to the wise words of NMCB!!

NMCB - bunting was for clomid. Which I have. But AF hasn't come calling just yet - thought it was, as had v light spotting, but pettered out and nothing for about 6 days now. Only had my last on about 2 and half weeks ago, but that has been my normal cycle length!

Gotta go - at work and screen on view. But I'm so with you Nickelbang about the spotting getting hopes up. We'll get there! Keep positive! (and do cry on DH if you need to - that's what they're there for!)

Hi everyone

Thanks Miffles and Brassica. Things are really difficult right now, so difficult that I?m actually glad my temps are going back down and it seems I?m not pg this cycle. I couldn?t cope with it at the moment and the amount of stress I?m feeling it wouldn?t be good for me or a baby.

Nervous mine is only in as there?s no grass, never has been this year but I?m having such an awful time at my yard I?m waiting for the owner of a smaller one nearby to get back from her hols then beg her to make me a stable! I?m really desperate! I?m praying for the snow to stay away, she went lame as she was stuck in last year (yard owner doesn?t get any grit and we can?t give them hay in the fields so she can?t get out at all, was in for 3 months last year and got arthritis), whereas in this other yard, the fields are a few steps away, they grit, and put them out with a big rolled out bale of hay so they?re happy as larry out in the snow. (sorry for hijacking thread with horsey talk )

Sorry people are getting sick, but it?ll all be worth it

I might not be on much again, friend leaves tomorrow and I?m really feeling the pressure, not just from work, had a bit of a cry in the kitchen yesterday cos DH asked if I wanted a hug . Anyway, I?ll try and at least lurk and keep up with any BFPs!

BB - are you really thinking of IVF already? But you're only cycle 1 of clomid and it worked in theory. Is it cos of the MC?

to Josie. Your body knows what you can and can't cope with, so glad you feel it is a blessing not to be pg this month. Having said that, if you were, you'd cope! Really hope you get the support you need at work. Make sure you make yourself heard if you need help. x

Thanks Miffles. Actually work isn't the main problem, although it will be after tomorrow as that's when my friend leaves and I officially take over everything! It's more a combination of work and problems with horses yard really stressing me out. I've made myself known at work though, everyone knows I'm not happy . Stupid thing is, I'll work my butt off getting everything done, and done well, and I'll get no recognition whatsoever.

Sorry, I don't mean to whinge, I've just got so much to spout off about I can't help myself!

Sorry you are having a tough time josie And there's no need to apologise on here for having a rant

Sorry nickle too. I understand entirely how this proper fucks with your head. Hang out here and rant away!

Miffles we've been TTC since Jan. Even when I was pg the day 22 blood test result was quite low. So enough to ov but not enough to sustain pg. I'll see what the day 22 test is this week and if it's still low even on the 100mg clomid then I'm going to ask for a referral.

Josie hugs to you my luvvie - I miss your chitchat here!
miffles,don't mean to pry, and sorry if I've missed it but have you POASd recently?

Just a very quick hello viroids.

Josie I know how tough that is, my last yard didn't hay in the field either . If you do get snow, any chance your horse can go out for even a few hours without hay? Not great obviously, but much better if she's going to get arthritis. I suspect the winter blues are getting to you - early winter is by far the worst time for me as it stretches out so far in front of you. But it'll soon be spring :)

(sorry again for the horsey hijack!!)

. Looking forward to the test-fest. I'm about 7DPO so a few days behind. Not exactly feeling PG though.

Must go to bed now I'm on winter duties and early mornings. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

Mwahs and hugs all round

omg! i gotta (very faint) bfp! Caved last night as boobs were mega sore, so guess it must have been 10DPO, did another this morn and it was clearer.
Poor DH didn't sleep all night (i literally did it at 1030pm) poor guy! I think I told him the average time it takes is 6 months or something so I guess he took it as it would take that long exactly...I was a bit worried about his reaction but then he randomly started discussing names in car this morn so felt better!
Have purchased some digis to do on friday... trying not to get too carried away and still cant quite believe it!

ttl didn't go with scrambled egg on toast, upped it to omelete and beans, class!

sorry for v self indulgent post btw!

Glad to report I'm feeling much better now, I think a good night's sleep had something to do with it, plus I got some of the aggro off my chest so dealing with it a lot better now, thanks for listening yesterday.

Thanks Milano, I miss the chitchat too!

Nervous, there?s no chance of even a few hours out, the yard gets so icy and they never buy grit so she can?t walk at all. It was a slip last year that started off the arthritis (or so we suspect). Plus when I'm at work there's no-one to put her out for me. She loves the snow though when she can get out. Fingers crossed I can get moved though, I have a sneaky plan of action . Loving the mwahs

Oh my god Cremegg, congratulations!!

cremegg!!! That is brilliant news, well done you and DH Oh how exciting. Quick, everyone rub their ovaries up against cremegg's post

PMSL DarkStar

CONGRATS Cremegg!! Fantastic news! Really am pleased for you. We were due another BFP - and who knows, you may have opened the flood gates. Who's next to test?

Well, Milano - I last PIAJP about 1 hour ago...BFN obviously! But, in my defence, it was only cos I'm getting the flu joab today and it's not really recommended in first 3 months of pregnancy. So wanted to double check first! I think last AF was less than 3 weeks ago, so would have been a miracle if I was pg!

BB - to you. Wait and see what this 21 (or 22) day progesterone is. Is it definite that the low level would be responsible for the mc? I'm sure your DH will support you in whatever you decide and we have Vallinna blazing a trail for us down the IVF route. How goes it, Vallinna? You must've finished snorting drugs now?

Congratulations cremegg!!! Yaaaaay :)

Are you mad, though? Digital on FRIDAY? After a BFP on MONDAY? You need a chemist, and quick. At the very MOST I'd wait until tomorrow.

Buy a double pack like me and then if it comes back negative you'll still have one spare for later in the week :)

Sorry to hear about your horse josie, I really hope your dastardly plan of action works.

Still not posting on the June thread. It is an unrelenting site of misery at the moment ...

Whoop Whoop creme! Fingers crossed for a sticky one!

I've had my day 21 blood test results back. They look for a result over 30 to show that ovulation has taken place and is high enough to sustain a pregnancy. Last cycle it was 19. This time it's 91!!! Yeah! Thank fuck for that! Now I've just got to get the egg and sperm to meet and make friends!!! Most relieved though!

bb that's amazing news

You've got the sperm and egg to shake hands before - so I'm sure it won't be too difficult to make them get it on next time around!

Wahoo BB - that is great!! I'm so so pleased. At least you know your body is working. Mr Sperm, this is Mrs Egg. Please get to know each other!

BB that's great news! Best of luck introducing the egg and sperm

TTL shame the june thread isn't that great, it'd be fabulous if we were all on it obviously

Woo hoo! nice one Cremeegg

You funny lady darkstar - mine need some nuclear war to wake them from their dormant state!

Nope Miffles still snorting away! 2 weeks pure snorting and then you continue to snort while you inject (I know it makes no sense!) and only stop snorting when they tell you too. At £85 a spray bottle it's going to add up - about 1/3 through the first in a week!

Fab news BB - you deserve some good news!

BB that is great news :)

[grin for Cremegg and Brassica and a bit of PMSL at DarskStar's ovary rubbing.

Brilliant to see some good news for a change.

Also fingers (hooves) crossed for Horsey move Josie

I hope TTL and I aren't putting anyone off complaining about the doom and gloom of the June thread. Considering there is something stupid like 160 of us in there, it's inevitable that there will be a few upsets. Anyway the truth is we love all our fellow viroids so much