Thread for the fanjo-furkling, red-fecker-hating, ramekin-peeing JSers

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The (updated) 'rules' from our Just Shagging Originator

Maintain a relaxed attitude at all times - drink if you want too, especially on your birthday. Thread precedent dictates if you drink to excess you will get a BFP (but not recommended). Horse-riding and other dangerous activities are also actively encouraged.

Covet thy husband and enjoy every minute. Shag at ever opportunity - shag-capes and awesome superpowers optional.

Keep acronmyage to a minimum! EWCM is now to be referred to as 'pant snot'. Try not to get sucked in by Fertility Friend (at least for a while), but knowing where you are in your cycle and furkling for pant snot is most definitely allowed. If you're a midwife, you can even get other midwives to furkle for you

Keep us up to date with gossip!

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Most of these rules are well and truly broken!! But we try to chill - honest

Part 1 Graduates:
Tanmu82 - BFP
PrivetDancer - BFP
OnlyWantsOne - BFP
Frankenfanny ? BFP
Notso - BFP
knittakid - BFP
loopeylu - BFP
PinkFondantFancy - BFP
Grannyapple ? BFP
Fuzzywood - BFP
canoe - BFP
janedoe - BFP
StarflowerGirl - BFP

Part 2 Graduates:
ihaveaplan - BFP
lovemylulu - BFP
shitforbrains - BFP
gormers - BFP

Part 3 Graduates
Bonkerz - BFP
Kitten - BFP
Cowboylover - BFP
takingtheplunge - BFP

Shout if I've missed anyone.

Oh! I get to pop the thread cherry

Ohhh it's shiny in here

Brassica everything crossed x

Hello ladies,

I didn't put some of our more recent BFPs on the list since we're still being cautious about them. Hope that's okay

Oooh ooh can I join please?

I should say that I can't use FF because I have bad dyslexia when numbers and letters are involved so I'm pretty sure you'll qualify for some sort of grant if you take me on.

Welcome Hedgeblunder, come join the madness fun

Catching up on the remenants of the last thread.

Wow! Congrats milano!! for DH's "crikey"!

Fingers crossed takethat!

Welcome hedge

Yay! Well I'm waiting on the red fecker- due tomorrow, maybe I should do a Noel Edmonds and ask the universe to be pregnant? I'm 99.99 % sure it will definitly work..

Come someone tell me how I feel? I can't say I know.

Faint positive at the GP at lunchtime. After seeing DH I bought more pee sticks. The digital one is still BFP. The traditional one is BFP but much fainter.

So overall I believe it's BFN for me.

The GP says that not everyone gets heavy bleeding and that sometimes the body just "deals with it".

So, any idea where I might be in my cycle?! The BFP cycled was 29th August. But I had bleeding 28 days later at 25th September. Then I've had MC bleeding 2nd Oct to Sunday 10th.

Sorry to drag the new thread down

Hi brassica- it's ok, I had one two years ago, i still tested positive two weeks after it happened and had morning sickness etc.
I'm sorry I don't know your back story so I hope I'm not putting my foot in it, but have you had a scan to definitly make sure it's over? I had an external scan just to make sure around ten days after because of my symptoms. Hope your ok x

Oh brassica I don't know. With my early mc I got a BFN on the digi the same day the bleeding started (I'd had BFPs for 5 days preceding it). But I was earlier along than you. Is the GP sure you've mced? It doesn't

Here are the things people said to me (and how I felt):

1. At least you know you can pregnant now. (I agreed, at least it meant something was working. But it also felt horrible to be back to square one again.)

1. You wouldn't have known about this if you weren't early-testing. (This pissed me off immensely because a) I would have known by the horrifying period I then had and the fact I'd had symptoms and b) It was a little life starting and even though it didn't stick I hated the way people didn't want to acknowledge it. On the plus side, once I realised this I was able to be pleased that I had known about it and that it wasn't a little person, struggling to get made, who I'd never even known about. Made it easier to deal with, for me, somehow.)

1. You'll be super-fertile now because you have had a mc. (I don't know if this is true. It hasn't worked for me but it seems to work for others).

I doubt that has helped because everyone's different. I cried for a whole day, in between stuffing my face with Battenberg, sweets and cheesecake, and then went home to visit family. I wish I hadn't done that because they didn't know what to say and I had to grin and bear them for four days, especially as I knew they were well-intentioned but basically wanted to tell them to feck off.

The best thing to come out of it was how amazing DH was - he looked after me, he said and did all the right things (and I looked after him a bit, too, since it was his baby too and he was more upset than either he or I would have imagined). Confirmed, though it doesn't need confirming, what a great DH he is and what a brilliant dad he'll be.

Anyway, the upshot is, my vote is for not losing hope yet. Wait for the blood tests. Take full advantage of all your DH's powers of sympathy, look after yourself, and just let yourself feel how you feel - happy, sad, angry, relieved, bitter, excited - whatever it is, then that's fine.

Welcome hedgeblunder! We alternate between rolling on the floor laughing our heads off and falling off the floor and straight into the pit of despair on this thread. I'm sure you'll get used to it! about your inability to use FF. You'll fit right in!

Sorry - I don't know what that unfinished sentence was meant to say ...

Brassica I had an mc when I was 18 (7 years ago), totally unplanned/surprise pg and I had sworn for years that I didn't want kids but it absolutely broke my heart. To make it worse, we had only been together a month and lived with our parents so had to tell everyone all about it. My family disowned me and I moved in with DH and his parents, so all my sobbing and breaking my heart was witnessed by all but I needed to get it all out, I literally cried all day every day for about a week. I don't speak about it now, even to DH, and this is the first time I've really told anyone else about it

The point of my rambling on is that you will feel absolutely horrendous but you will come to terms with it eventually I promise. Lots of massive hugs until then (let yourself cry if you need to, bottling it up won't do any good) xx

Ah Brassica I don't really know what to say. Can't help holding out hope for you, but I guess if the test results are getting fainter I ought to be handing you a bottle wine to wash that Clomid down with.

Welcome Hedge As you can see you've joined us at a very intereseting time. Donb't worry though, sometime a viroid might do something silly (like drunken posting, flashing arses) to keep us all amused sane.

Josie That was very brave of you to tell us that. Hugs to all too.

Brassica I didn't know what I felt for ages. So kind of understand. If it is a mc I would wait for your next AF to arrive. Count from 2nd Oct as first day to give you idea of when next due. I didn't have any abnormal bleeding, as the body can absorb it (think that was the word used).

I agree with ttl's three points.

Not sure if I should but this, but try and wait at least 2 weeks before testing again. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache by not looking at the word pregnant on a stick when I wasn't.

I hope this is helpful and not sounding too bossy.

Thanks very much everyone for the welcomes! It's been alot of ups and downs for me too - I got diagnosed with PCOS Sunday, it hit me like a ton of bricks to be honest, I don't have any of the usual symptoms etc so I'm sort of ramping up my efforts now!
On the last day of my cycle now - but I don't expect to be one of those really annoying lucky people who join a thread and get pregnant the next day

Wow - another busy day viroids!

Welcome to Hedgeblunder (why the name?!)

And the biggest congrats to Milano that is fab! Well done you! And DH, of course.

to BB. I'll be praying for you - this is a tough time, so really hope you're doing ok. Like TTL said, anything you feel is ok and valid. Be patient with yourself - whichever way the dice rolls. Wise words from TTL. There have been a few of viroids who have been there, by the sounds of things. Thanks for sharing Josie

And Vallinna - a plan! Yay! So pleased that you found somone who listened to you and explained things and realised that you are a person and needed to be treated like one! So...IVF...are you having the one where they mix the egg and sperm, or the one where they inject the sperm into the egg? Sorry - our doc said there were 2 different ones and but called them both IVF. . So you're on the pill again for 2 weeks. Then what?

In any other news, I have been pigging myself silly the last 2 days. Felt crap and so have been comfort eating like anything! Figure being healthy and having a normal BMI hasn't made a ha'peth of difference to my ability to concieve, so my weight loss programme has gone out the window. Have also hit the wine hard tonight. Sigh. Maybe in a day or two, once the bleugh has worn off, I'll get back on the straight and narrow.

And TTL - a nearly BFP. Is that a LittleFP? Keep off testing for another couple of days.

Is it tomorrow or Sat that Josie is testing? I know she has spoilt all the fun by buying tests in first, so we won't have the Asda dash...

Remind me - who else is testing soon? I remember some are, but the wine is having an effect?!

And well done TTL on the new thread - loving the title, esp the midwife furkling bit!

Hi miffles! I used to work in finance working with hedgefunders (really fffna fnnaa rich types!) and my name is my nice old receptionists nickname for me because we were peasants compared to most of the staff

well that-thing-what-happens-onnce-a-month has turned up, right on schedule. Must try harder!
Good luck to everyone testing!

Welcome hedgeblunder and good luck for this month.

My AF is two days overdue but got a BFN this morning, Wish I had waited longer. Going to just see if 'it' comes by the end of the weekend. Got a load of BOGOF first response tests waiting patiently in the cupboard.

Have also just realised that I managed to miss another BFP on the thread. Congrats Milano! Very , but really happy for you too :)

Thanks guys. I thought I was doing ok. Until we went to the pub and I saw my "usual" lined up on the bar. Had a little cry.

Shiny thread - love the title, though it may be confusing to those just joining!

As usual, lots to catch up on, we'll have to start a new thread by next Tuesday at this rate

BB - don't really know what to say - what a sad and worrying time for you :(. You know, of course, that we're all here for you, for whatever you need us for. Shoulder to cry on, ear to rant at, wine distribution as you need. to you, and all the other JSers who've been in your position :(

Hedgeblunders sorry about the red fecker, but welcome to the thread. We're all completely nuts a little bit strange, but fun none the less

miffles - I'm on 9DPO (I think ) same as TTL. Not sure when I'm going to test. I usually get spotting about 3 days before my period arrives. That could be anytime from Sunday onwards, so I guess if no spotting by the weekend I might be tempted.

Ha ha nervous I knew you'd start to crack

josie you are a lovely viroid and that was really touching of you to share. brassica I hope you're okay.

Yes, I wondered if the name would be confusing but as we've already got hedgeblunder I reckon we're fine :) Oh well, too late now! The rules of infinite bendability should explain it all well enough ...

Did another test (whoops). Another Little Skinny Positive, this time not blurry but not exactly pink either, so still not sure. I seem to do this to myself every cycle so prob it's nothing.

Lots of love xxxx

I've not cracked yet .

Very very tentative excitement for your LSP. But you deserve a thread kipper for such early test nonsense

Hi. I'm a bit of an expert on ICSI (the assisted conception where they inject the sperm into the egg). Ask any questions you like. I've had three ICSIs so far, all failed sadly. I'm an info nerd. and a control freak. Not being able to get pregnant for over five years messes with your head. Can i join you lot please? Don't take that the wrong way!!!!!