Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part 6)

[KnitterNotTwitter]

A lovely place for those either lurking, waiting, WTFing or SWI after MCing...

...with optional fish slapping

Gaaaaaaaaaa hope you are all having a better evening than me. DP ridiculously busy with work so home alone apparently working/doing housework but actually having the first proper big cry I have had in well over a fortnight. Why? No bfp announcements amongst friends and family, no uber bump spotting out and about. Nothing to set it off. Thought I was doing ok. Drinking a bottle of red now. Unfortunately no cake about.

Perhaps it is just PMT, which if i can't have a bfp, is at least a reasonable sign of normal cycle.

Just seems out of the blue.

Can understand people feeling a bit miffy about the whole stats thing. Tbh not sure why we really need them. But there is at least one other thread where when a new one is started, only people who have posted on the last one are included. On the other hand this is quite a big thread and we seem to have a new one at least every 3 weeks or so.I'm sure no offense was meant!

PV - sorry, I'm also sure no offence was meant (and it certainly wasn't meant by me when I re-posted the list), and I can see your point and definitely want to see you all back on it! There were however people on the list who haven't been around for ages and don't seem to post here anymore so it makes sense to update it. I can't speak for others posting the list but my take on it was that it seemed less mean to start from scratch (ie posters on thus thread) and get everyone to add back in as they post, rather than to pick out specific names to remove. If that makes sense. Anyway I hope you are ok and aren't too pissed off.

Not going to try cutting and pasting everyone back in myself though, make an almighty mess of it whenever I try!

kat (((hugs))) sorry you're having a crap time also. Chin up, enjoy the red.

PV and Barren I don't think the intention was to dump you off the list, far from it. I think it was meant as more of a role call of sorts, just to see who still checked in - and you both still do.

I'm a relative newbie on here and lurked for a long time when things were moving v quickly as I just couldn't keep up. I'm sure I'd have felt a little upset if I'd been wiped off during that time though. During my lurkiness I've seen tons of v supportive posts from both of you along with others that were mentioned above

wiggle said it better than me!

thanks izzy am now entertaining myself watching Embarrassing bodies on the tv. Gross!! Very Gross! At least I don't have anything that minging going on inside and the entire nation can't see surgery on my bum on the telly. Really don't understand why people go on this programme!!

Fuck this! It was my suggestion to re-think the list based on it being a little out of date!!! However, as per Izzy's message I did suggest roll call. I totally respect the original ttc'ers post mc thread starters, this has been, is and always will be your space that others, like myself, have been invited to join through your kindness and I don't want anyone to leave...that was not the intention. Sorry

oh dear.

Can understand the list amendment pissing off those who have been on here a while. I genuinely dont think that was the intention.

Even though Barrenbrook we havent met, sorry to see you leave.

I propose we re-instate the previous list and perhaps attempt some sort of roll-call during the life of this thread?

To tell you the truth..... i do kind of feel as though we have hijacked your thread and taken over and i have been thinking that for a while, which has caused other threads to be setup (and thats not what anyone wants i dont think)

Maybe we should have some options

!) for us newer ones to setup a different thread

or

2. to not have a list?

3. to leave the list as it was?

At the end of the day its supposed to be a support thread for everyone (even though some have been here much much longer than others.. and have been happy for others in the same situation to join in the chat (and it is my dear wish that no one gets to stay on here very long).... its certainly not supposed to be pissing people off or making them want to leave their own thread!..

We could move those who haven't been around for ages into a "missing in action" type section, and ask them to move themselves back up to stats if they want to stay on. Then we could delete that section from the next thread? Just an idea?

I think perhaps newbies (like me) might be more likely to post more often on the threads because it is all new to us but that doesn't mean people who don't post every couple of days should be left off, especially as many have been a great help to us newbies.
There is a good place for the two new splinter threads as we are all in different stages of our ttc journey and the new ones are a good place to talk to people in the same situation as you, but this is the "motherthread" after all.
What is the purpose of the list? we all know our own cycle days after all. We all know who is due to test because a good number of us are inveterate symptom spotters and count down the days till testing time! If getting rid of the list makes more people happy to be on here I'm all for it. I don't mind having a list at all but it does seem to have caused a bit of a prob.

cross posts izzy. Missing in action sounds like quite a good idea if most people want to keep the stats.

Eek, none of this was expected. No one has hijacked thread, it got busy and we're all in same boat. My rubbish hours at work don't really allow me much time and I couldn't keep up. That's all. I'm sure pv feels the same x

Eeek indeed - xposts nicks and kat and barrenbrook. Personally I don't mind stats or no, I quite like being able to see at a glance where everyone is so I can ask after them at POAS or AF time, but understand they can be a bit stressy, so completely happy to go with majority verdict

We are all in the same boat..... a shitty little wooden one with no oars thats floating in the middle of nowhere.... golly thats dramatic!

with a wonderful ending in sight!

Would now be a good time to join???
Been lurking since 17th sept and have found great comfort in all the goings on. It's just so reasuring to know your not the only one......
Mmc on 6th sept erpc next morning I was 11.5 weeks baby only measured 8 weeks....I had no idea that this could happen.......
Off to update fertility f then bed....start @8am work sucks
xxx to all

izzy thanks for the G&T! Have just imbibed quantities of red wine but one more can't hurt!
nicks yeah not the best boat but perhaps soon we will get a little paddle for it? Positive mental attitude and all that.......

So then. Let's all enjoy the friday night drinks!

Lolly so very sorry for your loss :( and that you find yourself on here. It is comforting! Very much so

YRMOTB re national babyloss week... do you know when it is this year? I sent the link off to my mum, who promptly sent it back and told me that was 09 and when was 10 knowing me i sent the wrong thing!

Urbanlolly - sorry it's not usually as fractious as this, these are a fab bunch of girls and you will get loads of support. I'm so sorry you find yourself here I had a completely unexpected mmc at 16 weeks in July and still sometimes have difficulty believing it could have happened to me, so I can understand to some extent what you mean. It's a hard time and, although you wouldn't wish it on anyone, there is some comfort in knowing you're not alone.

lolly big hugs so sorry to hear about your m/c and erpc. I know what a shock it is when you thought all was well. You are very brave being back at work so soon. I could not have done it but perhaps the normal routine is something that helps you. Glad to see you on here but sorry that you have had to find us.

Goodness me, what a kerfuffle. I think that would be the correct term?

I've been around for a bit and we have previously done a MIA section on the list, so if you don't mind I'll re-instate and do an MIA bit. My criteria was anyone who didn't post on the previous thread is moved. Ok?

Personally, I think the stats are good - it's hard to remember everyone's situation and sometimes a reminder of how long some people have been trying, which MC this or where they are in their cycle can be useful. Plus the splinter threads don't seem to have them and it's handy to keep a track somewhere

So here goes...

Ooh, one other small point, previously, we've let people who have been lucky to get a BFP decide for themselves when they move to the grads list. It can feel quite nerve-wracking when you get pg again after a MC and not everyone feels confident enough to jump onto a 'hoorah!' type list straight away.

THE RE-INSTATED FRIDAY'S LIST

StarflowerGirl TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD53 BFP
Pinkie08 TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD46
Lottiecrump UCL 27/28 CD39
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 2 (round 4) UCL28 CD37
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC#2) UCL 28 CD 35
getawiggleon TTC#2, MC#1 1st Aug CD30 WTF
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 1 UCL 30 CD29
digitalgirl TTC#2 Cycle 3 UCL41 CD28
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 4(round 7)UCL 28-30 CD27
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD25
sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 3, UCL 26-28, CD23
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 4 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD23
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post mc) CD22
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 17 UCL24-9 CD19
pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 2, UCL 30 CD18
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 1 (post MC) UCL 33 CD18
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 2 UCL31-38 CD18
velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 2 UCL 30, CD18
Appleblossoms TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL 34 CD 17
BrownB TTC#1 Cycle 15 (post MC#1) UCL 24-26 CD 17
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 3 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD16
choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 2 UCL 28 CD16
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL28-29 CD15
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 2 (post nmc#1) ucl??? (PCOS) CD11
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 3 (post MC#2), UCL 27 - 40 CD7
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL28 C6
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 2 (round 3) UCL27 CD4
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 2 UCL 30 CD1

WTTC

Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Jollster TTC #2, MC3 conf 16th Aug
Nickstermum TTC #2 MC August
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul)

MIA
pippaandpolly
Honeywitch TTC#1
Curlylox TTC#3
delilahbelle TTC#1

RECENT GRADUATES
hairytriangle BFP 21 Sep
CaribouMoo BFP
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
batteryhen BFP 18 August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August

I remember delilahbelle posting a few weeks back saying she was leaving us for a while pending m/c testing or somesuch. Hope she is ok and is finding out the information she needs for happy ttc one day in the not-so-distant future.

lolly welcome. pull up a chair and make yourself comfortable! (offers a chair)

BTW ladies, what does MIA stand for in the stats list?

ah, sorry, just read back. missing in action-i understand!