Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part 6)

[KnitterNotTwitter]

A lovely place for those either lurking, waiting, WTFing or SWI after MCing...

...with optional fish slapping

Tunnocks so sorry about results of scan. Your sonographer sounds terrible, it's such an emotional time and the last thing you need is someone confirming your mc like it's what you were hoping to hear.

Don't be afraid to cry when you get home though - sometimes it just hits you when you least expect it and even the slightest thing can trigger it, it's only natural to grieve and your hormones will be all over the place at the moment. FWIW I was absolutely wiped out after ERPC for a good week afterwards (although I had been bleeding for 2 weeks beforehand so that may have added to it) so go easy on yourself and make sure you're well looked after x

Gorgeous, sunny day in London town but bliddy hell it's cold! So, ladies (and esp those experienced charters) is that why I've had a massive temp dip at 11dpo?? Should I blame the weather or is it that red faced old bag waiting for me around the corner? I've had a cold/ sore throat the last few days (and recorded 36.90 yesterday but feeling better this morning and it sunk to 36.54, which is still above crossline) I was also cold when I went to bed and definitely cooler when I woke (only wearing vest type thingy) so I knew before I even temped that it'd be much lower.

Am I vainly clutching at the vague possibility that a change in seasons is to blame for my 11dpo dip and not the imminent arrival of AF?

Tunnocks big big hugs. I'm so sorry that scan was awful and the sonographer so insensitive. I would have been a bit uset about that too, but then again, I'm also awful at knowing what to say in a difficult situation. Big hugs and good luck for Monday morning.

Jolly Welcome and I am sorry for your loss.

Everyone else can I add my apologies for the upset caused by the list change. I am a relative newbie here but I don't know what I would have done without the support of all your lovely ladies over the past couple of weeks. Thank you xxx

Sorry Lolly for the typo. D'oh, I'm not having a good morning here :(

Forgot to say welcome urban Sorry you've had to find us but it's a good place to hang out whilst you're wttc, ttc etc

Will endeavour to update list later as have lost a couple of days - CD39 now. wtfff?

tunnocks (((hugs))) so sorry about your scan, that must have been awful . I have to say the moment in the scan room when I heard the news still haunts me, and I had a reasonably sensitive sonographer, I'm so sorry that you had to hear it in that way. I hope you're getting some RL support and get through the weekend ok. I'll be thinking of you on Monday x

wiggle - I can't help re the temps as only half way through first month temping, but if it's not dipped below coverline maybe that's ok? Hopefully someone with more experience can help out a bit more.

My temp is still below 36; monitor still high with no sign of a peak, am still kicking poor DH into weary action every day or two. Ho hum.

wiggle - also noticed nickstermum has fallen back to WTTC. Did contemplate altering and adding tunnocks but cannot face making the attempt from my phone. Apologies for blatant laziness.

Ok, here goes. Apologies in advance if I hoof the whole thing up! tunnocks and urban I've added you to wttc but am not sure of your other stats (scrolled back but couldn't find posts) so feel free to update.

Sunny Saturday's List:

StarflowerGirl TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD53 BFP
Pinkie08 TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD47
Lottiecrump UCL 27/28 CD40
getawiggleon TTC#2, MC#1 1st Aug CD39 WTF
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 2 (round 4) UCL28 CD38
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC#2) UCL 28 CD 36
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 1 UCL 31 CD30
digitalgirl TTC#2 Cycle 3 UCL41 CD29
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 4(round 7)UCL 28-30 CD28
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD26
sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 3, UCL 26-28, CD24
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 4 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD24
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post mc) CD23
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 17 UCL24-9 CD20
pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 2, UCL 30 CD19
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 1 (post MC) UCL 33 CD19
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 2 UCL31-38 CD19
velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 2 UCL 30, CD19
Appleblossoms TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL 34 CD 18
BrownB TTC#1 Cycle 15 (post MC#1) UCL 24-26 CD 18
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 3 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD17
choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 2 UCL 28 CD17
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL28-29 CD16
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 2 (post nmc#1) ucl??? (PCOS) CD12
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 3 (post MC#2), UCL 27 - 40 CD8
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL28 C7
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 2 (round 3) UCL27 CD5
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 2 UCL 30 CD2

WTTC

Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Jollster TTC #2, MC3 conf 16th Aug
Nickstermum TTC #2 MC August
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul)
Tunnocksteacake
Urbanlolly

MIA
pippaandpolly
Honeywitch TTC#1
Curlylox TTC#3
delilahbelle TTC#1

RECENT GRADUATES
hairytriangle BFP 21 Sep
CaribouMoo BFP
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
batteryhen BFP 18 August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August

Dont worry about me... will sort in a bit. Just having a very pickled brain moment sadly. Will catch up properly in min, just trying to get DS to eat!

Teacake so sorry :( Not helped by F*cking insensitive comments from sonographers?! I take it you are still scheduled for EPRC on monday and nothing has started to come away naturally. You will hopefully get a bit more closure when its done xxxx

Glad we sorted out the Kerfuffle.... i felt a bit awkward last night. :)

Ok - so 2 weeks ago i had a swab down below to check for infection. Get a NHS text on friday to say all clear....? Then this morning open the post to a prescription for antibiotics due to results of the swab! I assume there is an infection.... of course you can imagine what is now going round in my head..... :(

Abs is general, treats lots of things.... Be glad to be all clear for TTC but of course now i am torturing myself further :( did i have this during pg, did i have this after MC....?

Will never know........i suppose!

Happy birthday to Izzy DS xxx

nickster - big slice coming over to you although sadly at 7 he's no longer into Thomas etc, the request was "batman or chocolate" so it's a M&S extremely chocolatey party cake. >

I had swabs, wee samples etc done to check for infection after ERPC and they all came back clear, but dr had put me in abs while we were waiting because her attitude was that you couldn't be too careful after any op. I have to admit after obsessive googling I wondered if I has bv or other infection that can cause mc, the thought that there might have been something avoidable was driving me mad. Llike I said, it came back clear but I was glad of the abs "just to be sure". Hopefully your dr is just being careful too

Hello all

I'm really busy with work ATM which is why I haven't posted much. I defo want to keep the stats if my opinion counts :)

Hello to the newbies - sorry you find yourselves here but at least we know how you feel and won't offer any cliches.

Have a good weekend all

Thanks Izz - no i remembered that the all clear text was to do with the Chlamydia clinic they were doing... text was a trial! (very uptodate for NHS)

Spent half an hour in the shower sobbing - silly i know. Feel better now. Best to know so we can clear it before the little eggy gets released in 2 weeks! That way i wont have that on my mind when TTC, clear cervix, clear mind :)

Thanks for the cake Izz hope you have had a lovely day. 7 huh? Wow :) Dont fret about age gap xx My DS is 3 in 3 weeks so we will be having toystory or thomas cake (as he is obsessed..just like his mother)

mamap i have been doing the same. (not walking clearly) its been gorgeous weather up here today, so have been trying to clear up the crap in the garden.... i now have bowls full of tomatoes that i need to make into yet more pasta sauce!!

LOOng talk with dh.
he is almost desperate for another baby.
After finally accepting that i would not have another baby i was forced to reconsider.

I have agreed to give it 6 months. If after that time nothing happens then that will be it.

Feel some what excited and happy, strangely calm inside.
there is no reason for this not to happen for us, even if i do get pregnant and have another mc, i will know that it is meant to be this way, if i dont get pregnant, then the same.

We started to try earlier this month, bding every other day from day 5ish i think.
Last few days, sore boobs, a bit of nausea, funny feeling in my tummy.
But then ive been here before, and always got bfn, so it doesnt mean anything does it.

Just need some hand holding as this was a huge decision and i am so SO anxious about another mc. 5 are enough for any one i think.

im dieting, lost almost a stone, on folic acid, no alcohol, no crap, lots of water etc so im preparing myself then i know i have doen everything right.

fingers crossed eh, any one in the same boat?

Hi all
tunnocks (hello) I really wish that sonographers had to read some of these posts regularly, the number of times I've heard someone saying that they said something that then gets remembered and repeated. I'm really sorry that happened to you, I've heard of a technique where you mentally say the word "delete" when that phrase gets remembered. It might help?

wiggle wasn't it lovely! We went out for walk in the afternoon and came back ruddy faced and wind blown. Hopefully it'll help DS sleep tonight after all the excitement of MIL's arrival.

Izzy happy birthday to your DS, I hope you're enjoying a restful evening now. My childminders daughter turned 7 yesterday and my dh has a 7 year gap between each of his two brothers. He thinks it was great, and is consequently much more chilled about age gaps than I am.

nickster sorry that text provoked tears, but crying in the shower I always find quite cathartic - I don't think you are silly, and it sounds like taking the course now will be ultimately reassuring.

laloony that's a big decision but it sounds like putting a time limit is helping you have the courage to take the risk again. Well done lady, and fingers crossed it works out. For what it's worth, a friend of mine was successful with her first after 5 mc. Very determined lady - with good medical and family support - but I know that after 4th & 5th she did find it hard as the treatments didn't seem to be working. Thankfully they got there in the end I hope you have the same outcome.

We're off to softplay tomorrow morning, sigh, then pizza and hopefully a good run around Greenwich park. Am tempted to suggest DH and MIL do the softplay together and I'll just meet them for the pizza - is that very bad daughterinlaw behaviour?

nickster ((hugs)) hope you're feeling better now - why is the shower the best place for crying when you're a grown up? I retreated there lots after the MC, partly I think because it's the one place the DCs can't barge into, but there is something strangely therapeutic about it. And as you say, better to get everything sorted out so you restart ttc with a clean slate as it were

laloony - welcome. Sounds like you've had a really tough time, and it must have been a huge decision to try again. Fingers crossed this will be your time, and that you won't need to be here too long x

ladybee - I'm not too bothered about the age gaps per se, as I've posted before, I kind of got my head around that when I realised how excited they were about DC3 (and I have DD aged 4 in between so it's not even like it would be 7 years between the youngest and the next iyswim). I think the thing that bothers me most is the risk that i keep focussing on TTC and wanting another baby and ruin my enjoyment at what I've got. If we were trying for #1 then it wouldn't be such an issue, but I think at some point we will need to move on, and we've tentatively said a year from the MC we will need to stop ttc and accept that there will be no more children. DS and DD will be 5 and 8 by then. I really really hope it doesn't come to that but I think it would be the right thing (for us, not necessarily anyone else out there!).

There is a fabulous quote from Dumbledore in the Philosopher's Stone where he says "it does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live". That's kind of what I'm wary about.

Oops, sorry about mammoth post. And by the way I think it's perfectly acceptable to skip the soft play on the pretence of giving MIL some quality grandma time without you getting in the way, and chill out a bit instead

Morning everyone. Hope your weekends are going well. teacake so sorry you had such an insensitive sonographer. Even told in the kindest of words it is truely traumatic. I still get all teary when I think of my first scan when we found out. :( good luck on monday. Take time to rest, I too was drained of all energy afterwards.
izzy belated happy birthday to your ds. Hope you managed to enjoy the celebrations and not just organise them.
Oh nicks sorry you had a rubbish day. At least now you know you'll be in perfect health before ov like you said. :)
So, just for fun I did another opk yesterday early evening which was definitely positive, and another late last night (we were out all day) which was negative. So does that mean i'm now on the 2ww when do I guess ov actually happened to start counting dpo's from? I'm a little clueless with all this!
I got all scared yesterday about the thought of being pregnant again...think i'm going to be a nervous wreck until I get a positive 12 week scan....but that's jumping the gun a bit. Does anyone else get scared at the thought of pregnancy again?
I'm also waiting for a gynae appointment. Had some bleeding post sex the last few months, and all swabs etc have come back clear. Doctor tried to make me an appointment but his referral was refused so got to start again. think that's adding to my anxiousness, even though he said it was fine to ttc in the meantime. Sorry for the long post.
Hugs, cup of fresh coffee (decaff available) and some yummy muffins for everyone

Good morning everyone...Just a quick post off work tomorrow so will catch up proper, thankyou all for the warm welcome... Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
On my phone as broadband down pain in ass.....
Tunnocks so sorry big big hugs to you both, I will be thinking of you in the morning...just take each moment as it comes get lots of rest and do only what you feel comfortable...xxx

laloony what can I possibly say.... You are so so BRAVE I really hope this is your time xxx

thanks again everyone talk tomorrow

Just re-read post... +opk was friday early evening, -opk late saturday night.
And forgot to say welcome to newbies. Sorry you're here, but really is a nice cosy corner to recouperate and share the ups and downs of ttc again!

Hi apple that coffee smells fab, mind if I grab a mug while I get ready for work...so don't want to go!!!! Just the kick start I need cheers x

Having a rubbish day. No longer any point me testing on Wednesday, my 'official test day'. AF showed up.

I've had a go at doing the list, as I needed to move myself to the bottom. Apologies if I've messed it up!

Sunday's List:

StarflowerGirl TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD53 BFP
Pinkie08 TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD48
Lottiecrump UCL 27/28 CD41
getawiggleon TTC#2, MC#1 1st Aug CD39 WTF
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 2 (round 4) UCL28 CD39
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC#2) UCL 28 CD 37
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 1 UCL 31 CD31
digitalgirl TTC#2 Cycle 3 UCL41 CD30
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 4(round 7)UCL 28-30 CD29
sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 3, UCL 26-28, CD25
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 4 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD25
kat2504 TTC#1 cycle 1 (post mc) CD24
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 17 UCL24-9 CD21
pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 2, UCL 30 CD20
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 1 (post MC) UCL 33 CD20
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 2 UCL31-38 CD20
velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 2 UCL 30, CD20
Appleblossoms TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL 34 CD 19
BrownB TTC#1 Cycle 15 (post MC#1) UCL 24-26 CD 19
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 3 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD18
choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 2 UCL 28 CD18
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 2 UCL28-29 CD17
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 2 (post nmc#1) ucl??? (PCOS) CD13
Jamface TTC#2 cycle 3 (post MC#2), UCL 27 - 40 CD9
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 3 UCL28 CD8
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 2 (round 3) UCL27 CD6
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, (round 3) cycle 2 UCL 30 CD3
achshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL28 CD1

WTTC

Sillyness TTC#1 post MC1 WTF cycle
Jollster TTC #2, MC3 conf 16th Aug
Nickstermum TTC #2 MC August
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, MC 17th Aug
Shitforbrains TTC#3, MC 1st Sep
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
MummyAbroad TTC #2,(MMC#1 31 Mar, ERPC 7 Jul)
Tunnocksteacake
Urbanlolly

MIA
pippaandpolly
Honeywitch TTC#1
Curlylox TTC#3
delilahbelle TTC#1

RECENT GRADUATES
hairytriangle BFP 21 Sep
CaribouMoo BFP
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
batteryhen BFP 18 August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August

Dachs so sorry the old bitch turned up :(
sending hugs, chocolate and as many little cupcakes (fresh out the oven) as you can muster xxxx

oh dacsh that's rotten news. So sorry, sending you loads of hugs.

dachs - sorry she showed up .