We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

[bebejones]

Old thread here

Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride!

bebe hope you FEEL better (please dont fall)

Nannyl four?! There's me thinking "maybe one"!

evening all

another quick one gettin so fed up without a laptop now just going to buy anythin tomoro i think

just want to wave to everybody

love all the engagement stories i really hope to get engeaged one day seems a long way off tho :(

BEBE- hope your ok and feel better soon, we have a full house of colds to (hate winter)

NANNYL-wow 4 i used to think i wanted a big family that was until DD didnt sleep for 13 months i now think i will be quite happy with 2 lol

speak to u all more tomoro

Oh dear they mean us!

"The whole ttc, making big decisions about exactly when to do it, joining a thread about "waiting" to do it. It's all a bit loopy."

Hi Amanda (it's HP, by the way, just namechanged to avoid a work person tracking me down). How are things?

I think they meant us as well, we may have been included in the "making big decisions" sweeping statement!!

Don't worry about it, it must be nice to be in a position where you know exactly what you want and are in the right circumstances to go for it. Not so nice to judge others who aren't in that position!

(guess what - YTD had a real life actual baby!!)

HP I left the ditherers thread because I thought I had offended you!

I started reading that thread and then left because is was scared it would start giving me ideas!!!

How rude!!!

Like Autumn said, must be so nice to be in a position to just do what you want!

Excuse us all for being responsible enough to know we need to wait! It's called family planning! (I know that probably sounds really rude & arrogant but you guys know what I mean!)

I'm grumpy today anyway so that probably didn't come out right! feel so rough, have lost my voice & can barely walk without feeling dizzy! This is a really nasty cold, no wonder poor DD has been suffering! :( Will come back later when I'm feeling happier & less argumentative!

Huh? You didn't offend me, dafty! I dont think anyone has ever offended me on any thread (although I'm slightly offended by the AIBU one ). Perchance it was a 'came across weirdly in typing' scenario? Anyway, no offense taken or given, hopefully! We are all in the same boat here....

I just saw you were posting here and thought I would drop by and see how you were. Assumed you had moved on from the 'should I/shouldnt I' to the 'I really want to but have to wait'.

YTD has had a girl, so beautiful. We are now awaiting the birth story, as it was a 46 hour labour followed by EMCS, bless her.

Anyway, enough hijacking of your thread...good luck ladies, all the best....

In that case HP I am sorry for the misunderstanding and shall come sheepishly back for a visit!

Some news everyone: the shark just texted me to say I have an interview!!!

Woo hoo! AC, fab news! See, this is a lucky train!:o

I'm starting to feel a little bit more human! Food helps, although I am dreading weigh day 2moro!

How can I explain to DH that I need (yes, I think that is the right word) another baby?! He just thinks we should be pleased that we have DD. I am, really and truly so happy & grateful to have her, I just don't feel 'complete'! (I realise that is such a cliche) Need to go & write my 'pro baby list' so I can try & convince him to TTC. Will probably help clear my head a bit too

Hurrah AC - that is fantastic news :)

bebe I think a pros and cons list is a good idea. If you put some cons on there (make sure that they are ones that are really not an issue) then it will show your DH that you have throught about everything and not just the pros!!!

Ok, so have written a list!

Con: I might possibly relapse.
Pro: I have discussed ways to reduce the possibility of relapse & have established a 'plan' with the professionals!
Con: Things are financially 'rocky'
Pro: There might never be a 'right time' but there will never be a worse time. The only way is up!
Pro: I will never resent/regret another baby but will regret not having one & possibly resent DH for it if we don't have one! :(
Pro: The more time DD has as an only child the harder it could be for her to adjust/accept a sibling.
Pro: A baby is still (roughly) a year away by which time DD will be at playgroup 3 mornings a week.
Pro: The expense will be minimal as we already have all the 'big' stuff. We can't keep storing it indefinitely, there just isn't room!
Pro: By the time potential DC2 arrives DD won't be in nappies anymore!
Pro: I have stopped meds & lost weight & health wise I am in a 'good place'. The longer I leave it the harder it will be.
Con: It'll be harder to spend quality time with DD.
Pro: It would be nice to spend some time with DD and a baby at home before DD starts school.
Pro: I don't want to get out of 'baby mode' & then have to start again
Pro: I don't want to stop/start meds for years. I want to have children & then do everything medically possible to stay on top of things!
Pro: DD likes babies at the moment & is open to the idea as her friend has a new 'baby sister'.
Con: DD might find it difficult to accept a 'baby brother'!
Pro: Being PG & bf are both potentially good for my MS.
Con: I could have hyperemesis again, but at least I know how to help myself feel better!
Pro: I had a clear smear & B12 levels are fine (I don't know that for sure yet but see no reason why they won't be) these are both good pre TTC things
Pro: I know my mum is supportive of me having another baby now & doesn't think I am being irresponsible.
Pro: I think it could be beneficial for DDs behaviour & emotional development.
Pro: I would like to have the same doctor & MW throughout pregnancy as I did last time, the onger we leave it the less likely this will be.
Pro: I am better prepared/ more capable/ less selfish than I was the 1st time!

That's all I have for now...any suggestions?

wow bebe

thats a pretty huge list and weighing it up it is more than obviouse that trying for a baby is the right decidion and you need to be trying asap...
now is the best time

Congrats AC for your interview

No news here... just been a normal day at school, although we had 2 mins silence (interesting with 3year olds but they did well) we had so much rain the ceiling came in and we started practising our nativity play, and they were all fab

last night i was looking at baby clothes, and spent all night on mother care, boots / M&S / next etc looking at baby stuff and getting even more broody... if thats posible?

am not allowed to buy anything until im PG now says OH

although next weekend he is starting his 'dad to be tablets' for a month before we TTC so the time is coming soon (he has been taking zinc since september anyway!)

hey everyone finally got myself a netbook weird trying to type and read of this little thing after being used to a big laptop

well i am 12 weeks today wohoo and pleased to say that this week the nausea has finally ended however this cold is getting worse and its rubbish not being able to take anything for itso ordered some chicken and sweetcorn soup from the chinese hopefully that will help

AC- thats great news about your interview, do u know when it is yet?

bebe-sorry your feeling ill hope the cold shifts for u soon, i have read thru your list and umakesome very validpoints there is nothing that i think u can add to it at the mo but if i think of anythin i will let u know

nannyl- lol at your dad to be tablets didnt even know they existed

Bebe, sorry you've been feeling ill, I think that's a great list. You could maybe add that the closer together you have the children, the sooner you can start concentrating on your career again/start a PGCE if that's what you are going to do...

AC that's brilliant news on the job front, well done you.

Hurrah for YTD!

Love the idea of you practising for your nativity play Nannyl! I'm working on a project in a primary school next term (my first one, I've done lots of secondary) and am really looking forward to it, the kids were great when I met them last week.

I've just ordered a book someone recommended to me called Babyhunger, anyone read it?

...waving to everyone else....

WhyWait - Valid 'Pros', thanks! I do have time on my side on the age front (I've only just turned 28) but I do need to hurry up because of the MS, even though it doesn't pose a threat to pregnancy.
How did you arrange to go and do 'work experience' at the school? Did you just write/ring them and ask? This is something I really need to organise. I keep putting it off because I'm hoping I'll be pregnant soon...

Nannyl - How cute practising the nativity play! :) I have 8 days of folic acid left, so really seems all real now that I need to think about getting some prenatal vitamins! Ought Need to talk to DH first though :(

Quod - what's the book about? Sounds interesting!

The other Pro I thought of for my list is:
It would be good for us to have something positive to look forward to!

Am going to arrange it in columns so he can see that the Pros outweigh the cons (Not that I engineered it that way! )

Good Morning! and very happy Friday to you all.

So pleased that it is the weekend and the head of the team sent an email round this morning to say that because we won a massive pitch last week he is buying a few drinks for lunch.

Last time he bought lunch one of the other PAs and I fell back into the office at 6pm smashed and I almost missed my train to Bath because I got lost on the tube . Really muct make sure that I don't drink too much today as I am guessing DH won't find it so funny if I miss the train!!!

Definitely no problems with overcrowding on this train this morning!! Where is everyone?

Did my 'list' scare everyone off!

WW - Yes that is a definite 'con', but I know deep down he does want another one, just maybe not at the moment . 'At the moment' is what is best for me, & while I am aware that that is totally selfish, it is me who does the majority of the childcare anyway & it is me who will ultimately have to cope physically health wise through a pregnancy & afterwards.

Re: school, I will look up email for the school nearby. It's the one we want DD to go to anyway, so would be good to 'make contact'! :o

Hope everyone is having a lovely Friday?!

Took me s long to write the post I xposted! Have fun at lunch! :o

Good morning folks, I have read back and caught up, please excuse me for not posting individual messages back to people, I just finished my nights.

I think we have picked a necklace that we like, it's a 0.5carat solitaire on an 18K white gold chain. There are also earrings to match, which I am considering (more than likely will) buy for myself to go with said necklace! But we are going to go round some jewellers tomorrow and have a look and see if not we will order off line.

Congrats on the interview AC :o

Yay for 12 weeks jbells

I'm not sure where I'm at in relation to ovulating, but we are obviously DTD with it all in mind. Am on day 14 today, given last month was a 35 day cycle I have possibly a week before ovulation. My temp is too up and down at the moment to get an accurate reading I think and the thermometer seems to read slightly different depending on where I put it under my tongue, and my tongue aches underneath now, I've even swapped sides etc.

Blood tests came back fine! Woo Hoo! So come Dec 24th I will have the medical green light to TTC! Just need to drag DH on board

I'm hoping that he might get swept up with all the Christmas excitement & have a change of heart. When he isn't stressed & working all the time he's bound to be a bit more open to the idea!

100 - I found it difficult to get the hang of the charting temp thing, I never seemed to get a relaible reading! Plus coz my cycle has been so all over the place it made it even trickier. Hence why I bought the OPKs!
Very exciting that you have picked the necklace! Bet you can't wait to get it & show it off?! :)