Planning ahead!

[decafgirl]

Is it just me who's planning ahead before she's even ttc? I've decided to come off the pill at the end of December and have started to drink decaf (v. difficult!), eat more fruit and veg, cut down on the vino etc. Am I mad to plan this far ahead?

Wahey - welcome to TTC jersey! That's great news, and let's cross fingers etc for good news soon

I so hope your body responds to coming off the pill like mine did, decafgirl. It was, well, a new lease of life. A lot of life I had to give dh the night off yesterday as he was exhausted.

Jersey - Just thought I'd lend my hand to this. I cam off the pill 3 weeks ago and when I was on the pill I couldnt keep up with DF, now I'm off he cant keep up with me!

hiya girls, so glad thread has picked back up! was feelin a little lonesome, no response for a few days.... but now we all back on track1 Good luck in your new home decaf, bet its all boxes and paint charts plus "christening" every room regarding sex life with the pill, ive never been on it before, but wondered if anyone has low sdrive with prozac? also any info on prozac and ttc? thought it was one of the better anti-dep to be on during ttc but read in zitawest book last night that it not good at all...after all she is Queen of all knowledge...any info?? btw muppet, dont you go wasting dh energy!! only if its day 8,10,12,14 though, that would be ok!

Thanks PCM, we're extraordinarily busy with knocking down walls and buying a kitchen etc at the mo - can everyone keep their fingers crossed for me so that I can move in before Christmas please? At the mo I'm living with the dreaded MIL. Aaagghhh!

Mumswish, I don't know if it's still relevent or not but my friend took 11 weeks to have her first proper bleed after stopping the pill - that's another reason I'm stopping a little earlier than I'd originally intended.

Speak to you all again soon xxx

Fingers very crossed for you moving in before Christmas! We last moved coming up to 3 years ago, and completed 7 days before Christmas. Probably wasn't the best time to move, to be honest. I sat and cried on Xmas eve coz everything was still in boxes, and there were no floors down - just dusty chipboard that was staining everything white. At which point DH rang MIL and we fled to their home for the whole Xmas holiday. Have to admit that MIL was very kind on that occasion Those brownie points haven't expired yet ...

Hey pussycatmomma - I see your point about not wearing poor DH out too much. It's so annoying when you don't know where you are in your cycle though - or if you're having one at all! I kind of feel I daren't miss a day. Hope it doesn't take 11 weeks from coming off the pill for my body to start functioning fertility-wise again. I'm not sure DH will be able to walk by then

i know there is no one around just now...but just needed to post and "talk" about whats just happened you may rememeber when i first posted i told you about my sister who had just tested positive with her first go at ivf...things gone sadly wrong...she went into hospital yesterday with strange pains, docs couldnt work out what was wrong, after worrying 24 hrs, just found out she had to have an operation as she was bleeding internally, foetus had ruptured? dont really understand, too upset...lost the pregnancy her dh been to see her tonight, she doesnt want to see me or mum...dont know what to do, feel completly devastated for her, just want to make it better. never experienced miscarriage/loss before.....to feel such elation at ivf "working" and all being ok....she was so happy...how will she recover?? what on earth can i do?

That's heartbreaking - lots of sympathy to you, your sister and the whole family. Dealing with this won't be easy, but somehow you will all pull through this. Sooner or later she'll want to talk to you and your mum, but all you can do in the meantime is let her know that you want to see her as soon as she's ready. She's likely to need some time to hide away and cry in private first though. I recommend this site if you want a starting point with advice or comfort - I found them helpful when I had to deal with the issue for the first time. In the meantime, thinking of you pussycatmomma - big hugs.

thankyou so very much muppet, thankyou for your kindness. had a bit of a cry-fest on the phone tonight, my bro-in-law called, also my mum...sis is ready to see my mum, but not me, my dh thinks they realise how sensitive i am, told my mum how hard it is as i understand how devastated i would be in same situation apparently my sis been up and about today, had wash, got dressed etc but they still keeping her in hosp to keep eye on her. they chcked her hormone levels hcg, sis is now wondering if still one embryo in there. cant bring myself to think about it, clutching at staws. bro-in-law going to phone ivf clinic tomorrow. would be a miricle if anything survived. just feel wretched for my sis

hugs PCM, that's a horrible thing for your family to be going through

I have a friend who had one unsuccessful IVF (miscarried), following by a successful one, she's now the proud mother of 9-month old twins. Her sister has just had her second unsuccessful IVF. She will say the best thing you could do would be supportive, and there for your sister when she needs you.

Has your sister got more fertilised eggs " in the bank"? Or will she have to go through the harvest again?

Hugs,
Artoo.

thankyou artoo...my sister has 10 fetilised embryos which were frozen from her first "go".
my bro-in-law clld the clinic, they said it was unlikely that the other embryo had survived, but didnt want to get her hopes up. They called her at the hospital and assured her that she still had 8 grade 1 embryos and 2 grade 2's left for when she is ready to try again. Do you know how long it is physically between trying again? i spose it is much dependant on individual...you never know though, miricles do happen sometimes. thankyou for sharing your good news stories, it does give me hope to think other people have had success after such harrowing situations.

pussycatmomma

Just wanted to pass on my thoughts and prayers to you and your family at this time. I know only too well the elation of finding out IVF has worked first time and then the devestation when things go wrong. I m/c at 10 weeks back in August and am now on the road to trying again. I was advised that we should wait for 3 to 4 months before having another go so all being well we will start with my December af. We have to go through a fresh cycle as no frosties in the bank but going to have a higher drugh rate this time to hopefully get a few more eggs. I hope all works out for your sister in the future.

(((((((big hugs)))))))to you Wendy...Thankyou for posting, and sharing your experience. The support from people like yourself posting on mn has really helped me look a little more objectively at my sister situation even though i still feel desperatly sad. I now realise she is not on her own and that unfortunatly however bad the situation, someone on mn has been there before I wish you all the baby-luck in the world for your next attempt wendy, I hope very much you are successful and the road ahead for you is not too fraught. I will ask the angels for you , just as i always ask them for my sis. You never know whats out there do you? This trauma puts my own attempts at baby-making on a bit of a low ebb. Although me and dh have been ttc a few months, the way i see it, with everything she has been through, she deserves it to happen so much more than me. I think i would feel guilty if it happened for us, (we were ttc before my sister shared her fertility problem with us), and that it would make her even more unhappy. I sometimes feel split in 2, wanting a bambino of my own, but do not want to add to her pain...Tough times ahead i think. Meanwhile I wish you all the luck in the world Wendy, my prayers are with you x x x

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Pussycatmomma

Things will work themselves out for both you and your sister I am sure. Have you talked to her about your own ttc efforts and how she would feel if you were to fall pg before her. I know now is not the time to talk to her about this. She will need time to grieve for the baby she has lost but when she is stronger both in body and mind she may appreciate you being honest with her. I don't have any sisters and it is one thing I can honestly say I miss dreadfully as it sometimes possible to say things to family that you can't or wouldn't say to others although I am very lucky in that I have a great SIL (DH's sister) who is going through fertility tests at the moment and it has taken so much of the stress out of it by being able to talk to her and knowing that she understands. Be kind to yourself at this time as well as you seem to have so many things buzzing around in your mind that life can't be easy at the moment. I really hope everything works out right for you in the end and if your sister wants to talk to me about how we have coped with our loses (natural pg lost at 23 weeks and IVF pg lost at 10 weeks) please feel free to CAT me.

I hope that things are going ok with you PCM - and that your sister is able to talk to you soon. Still thinking of you ...

Decafgirl, jersey - haven't heard from you on here for a while! How's it going with the TTC? I'm stuck wondering what to think - no idea of cycles as no AF since stopping pill nearly 6 weeks ago ... But 1.5 weeks ago, think I may have ovulated. Now feeling heavy, dizzy and tired, but no real symptoms (and I'm sure they'd just be my head wanting it too much IYKWIM). So I'm trying to hang on til the weekend to do a test. Aaargh the waiting.

Hope the luteal phase situation has improved Artoo - hoping for good news for you soon

hugs muppet3, thanks for your kind thoughts My luteal phase seems to have extended to 10 days last cycle, which is approaching respectable I had my day-21 blood taken about a week and a half, and will be seeing my doctor to talk about the results next Tuesday morning. This should confirm whether I am ovulating, and also highlight if I have low progesterone (which can cause short luteal phases).

CD8 today, so the mad BD-ing is about to begin all over again

Hang on in there muppet3, good luck with the testing!

Hugs,
Artoo.

Hi muppet thanks for asking. On cd10 and temp still low BUT was up most of last night with a screaming child who refused to sleep!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Knackered at work now!!

Started BDing but in caravan with inlaws this weekend and suspect this is my fertile time which is just typical for my bad timing!

Good luck Artoo getting closer.

Hows everyone else doing, losing track of everyone on this thread now?

Hi everyone! Just found this thread. Dh and I have been discussing ttc number 2 but he doesn't feel ready yet and I still have to get the go ahead from neurology consult (Bell's Palsy with 1st pregnancy, chance of reoccurrence )

Anyway, with ds I started to plan ahead at least 6 to 9 months. Got off the pill, went decaf, stopped taking any over the counter meds unless really, really had to, drinking black tea and switched to all natural deoderant! Got pregnant on 2nd try at age 37.

Now I'm 40 (and a half!) and thinking time is really, really running out. Going for initial consult with Ob on nov. 17 and will get neuro referral after that.

Have already started tracking CM...

Good luck Jabberwitchy that you can start soon.

Hi guys - so glad to hear that there's progress on two fronts, Artoo! It would be so typical if the problem starts settling down as soon as you begin to get somewhere with tests Seriously - good luck for Tuesday though.

That's rotten luck with the caravan jersey. I can't think of many more awkward places to be with in-laws at that point Maybe the weather will be nice enough to, erm, have some outdoor walks together somewhere deserted.

Still waiting and wondering if tomorrow is to soon to test. I've had what feels like PMT for 4 days now, but no sign of AF. This morning all my veins on my chest were blue and risen - heck, I'm convincing myself again aren't I?! Have to stop doing this and keep telling myself it's only first cycle.

Well, erm, I did a first response test and ... BFP!!!

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
CONGRATULATIONS muppet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
just happened to have a quick look on mn, and there you are, with your bfp!!!!!!! i am delighted for you, congratulations darling . hope all goes well for you x x x x x x

Thank you so much pussycatmomma I was going to join the TTC thread as well as this one, but I may have missed the boat on that!

I'm sat at home watching Strictly Come Dancing (dh is on a stag do...) and worrying lots about whether I did the test right - did I hold the stick in the sample for 5 seconds or was it more like 7?! Since it only took about 4 seconds for the result to come up, I guess it doesn't matter too much though. Aaargh. It's kind of terrifying (this will be our first). I now have this nightmare where I go to the doctors and she laughs at me and tells me I've got it completely wrong. Mind you, I'm so queasy, I'd probably vomit on her if she did that

Oooooh muppet, congratulations hun! This was a really nice piece of news to wake up to

I really hope you have a happy and healthly 9 months.

What does this make your due date? Sometime July next year?

I'm really really pleased for you, this is our first BFP! Let's hope for many more

Hugs,
Artoo.

Congratulations from me too! It's so exciting when someone gets a BFP and gives us all hope...!

Artoo, what are you doing up so early on a Sunday? Surely Sundays are for sleeping